Views on Oral Sex?

Curious if you guys/gals would rather be the receiver, giver or neither?! And how exactly do you feel about it?

I know it sounds like a no brainer question but some people feel that they have to reciprocate when they REALLY don't want to and actually hate doing so but do so anyway cuz it was done to them(it's a guilt thing I think?). Please keep views as "clean" as possible.

That's getting kind of personal, don't ya think?? But since this is anoymous LOL, my opinion, I like to give more than receive!!!!!!

Just one more thing in common BG? LOL! Hey that why dxp created this board! It's for MISC ANYTHING?!

I like it to be 100% 50/50. If the guy likes "giving", then I like "giving" to him all the more. : )

Most guys are selfish so tell THEM THAT! But I agree with you 100 PERCENT!

I disagree. Sorry! In my experience the guys were VERY generous and I never had to ask for it. I just had other plans for them! LOL! I never cut them short though on their favorite thing!!! Why do guys love that so much?? It's a power thing isn't it—

Yeah I'd have to say that I've been lucky enough to end up in relatioships with fairly selfless guys, no asking or coaxing from me either (and if I ever feel like I have to, that fella's BUH-BYE)--but I have heard that some men don't like *that*. Of course, some women don't like *that*, either, but...what can I say? I think it's great!

that would be "relationships"...

and holy crap, my cover is blown...LOL...hmm, okay, we're all adults here, right?! I guess it serves me right for forgetting to log out before posting. lol.

I think men like it because it make them feel totally excepted! Like you love the entire man! MO

Yes, that, and I think it's (meaning the mouth, lips and tongue) is physically reminiscent to them of...other places! (my opinion also, I'm not a guy so I can't say for sure)

"It", not "it's"...

How's about a grammar checker in addition to the spell checker we so desperately need, dxp?! lol)

OK we've heard from the ladies, but....GUYS WHERE ARE YOU AT— Do any of you guys read these boards? If so would love your views on this topic! I'm sure at least SOME guy (1) would have SOMETHING to say on this? C'mon shyness is NOT ALLOWED!!!

I really enjoy orally pleasing a woman, it's my favorite thing to do. Receiving is great too and it is a great feeling of acceptance when someone goes down on you without a nudge. I went out with a woman who liked receiving but didn't want to give, at the time of the relationship I didn't think much of it but out of it I felt I got hosed.

New Capricorn Guy

i'm a female, i like to give, it makes me feel powerful to make a man moan and writhe ~grins and wiggles her brows~ i do not however, enjoy receiving, it only makes me want more (you know what i mean, not more tongue, more......um.....well, completely filled) 😄

I don't think I should be reading these messages. I have been without along time and it is just making me horny!!!

For NCG, Hi there. I like your answer and I'm curious as to what you mean when you said "a great feeling of acceptance"? Why did this make you feel "accepted" I guess would be my question and in "what way" did you feel accepted?

I feel acceptance because the other person is taking a part of my body into theirs. Oral sex is a precursor to intercourse, and that is the ultimate acception. At least in my mind, I feel that two people joining together in that way is special. Making love, having sex, banging etc. etc. is to me, two individuals accepting each others hearts, minds, and bodies.

I understand that my opinion is slightly off the norm, but normal is boring. I hope I wasn't to ambiguous in answering your questions 12.89.

err 12.94 not 12.89, a 1000 apologies for the mistake.

Hi NCG, I can totally relate to what you are saying for some reason. I always felt more in tuned when performing oral sex to a man than making love with him? Perhaps it's because of what you said...total acceptance? I always have looked at it as "more special" than love making. I wonder why some of us feel this way?

I wonder if it's because oral sex has been thought of as so taboo thru the ages? I know plenty of women today who would never EVER perform such an act on a man and all I can tell them is ..."Oh well YOUR LOSS!" And it is their loss IMO.

But I can truly understand the closeness part of it or acceptance as you put it. It's pretty strange that some men would rather have oral sex than regular sex but given the "acceptance factor" I can understand why that is with them.

BTW your opinion is far from "off the norm". Is seems to be an opinion "right on the norm"? But few men are willing to admit it. Take a bow NCG, you're a guy who knows WHAT'S GOING ON! Geez why can't the rest of the male popluation GET A CLUE?

Hey NCG I seem to be both 12.94 and 12.89? Usually my posts appear as 12.89 (I think! Never really paid attention cuz it wasn't important"). I'll have to e-mail Duncan on this one huh?

I always felt that it made the man feel accepted (I think I spelled it right this time) because it is symbolic of being fully taken completely by the women. The penis represents you and the women's mouth being the entrance to the woman's entire body. Whatever is taken in through this passage would be a final merge of body and soul! Like becoming one entitiy! Kind of heavy?

I too think it is a beautiful expression of love and is just as significant as the act itself!

ANY FORM OF SEX between two individuals is a something that each person should want. If your partner does not want to do it, or receive it, then dont force it.

But one thing everyone should remember is that dont expect to get, if you are not willing to give.

I LOVE to recive oral but would much rather GIVE IT. I dont think that some one should expect to get it or expect if someone does it to them then they immediatly have to return the favor. I think this is another one of those spontaneous non planning things that in the end both are just at one with each other and it doesnt seem like anything in the world could tear that wall down.

I dont mind discussing ORAL with anyone. I think all of the people that find it repulsive are not at one with thier self there fore they are not comfortable. I love it, I love the reaction and it gives me much pleasure to satisfy my man in ways that no one else has ever been able to.

-Scorpio Woman-

Well said SW, you spoke for me too!!!

THANKS 😛

For SW..I agree w/U 100% in all that you said!

For NCG, I'm wondering if all Cappy males feels the same way you do about "feeling totally accepted"? I loved your representation and I couldn't agree with you more BTW. For me I can actually "feel" the man's vulnerabilities while having oral sex with him. Although my cappy man doesn't say ANYTHING boy can I FEEL what he can't say! It's very empowering for me just "knowing" what he can't say.

Heavy? You bet! Beautiful? BET BIG NCG! Cuz it is!

I totally agree with scorpio woman! I love to give it and receive it. It's great and total and complete love making. Scorpio woman you know who am.

I know who you are and I know that you and I have a very good understanding about eachother and the way that we feel since we are friends lol 🙂.

See but the best thing is I know you both. Scorpio Woman, I KNOW VERY WELL, and well 208, you seem to be dear friend to us both. HEHE

That's ok! I am not into threesomes though, but to each their own!

If I can't please my partner myself, then I won't bother with it!

Ok first of all no one said anything about three somes. WE are all frineds are wk togeather and marinesag and I scorpio woman are engaged. We were just wanting to know who liked what.

Not to be graphic, but I like a man who combines violent tongue action with gentle, shall we say, "manual" stimulation. All men should do this. lol. It's all about the combo. Also, I'd take fast and furious over slow and passive any day. Not all women require hours. lol.

I just had to see who re-awakened this post! LOL Phoenix!! I suspected as much!! LOL!

I love to give and to receive! I think it is a wonderful expression of desire! I agree with Scorpio Woman that just because I give, doesn't mean I have to receive. It should be spontaneous and fun...not a duty!
I used to prefer not to receive, but, I have learned that some don't know how to do it!

Star, I hear ya! lol, people look at is as, "well, I've pleased YOU, so now give me mine"...some people, that is. I disagree with that, I agree it should be spontaneous and not a game where each person keeps score. I do think that there should be an equal amount of giving as well as recieving, but I don't think it should be this strict thing where if "the favor" isn't immediately returned, someone feels jilted.