Would you date someone

With the EXACT same birthday as your biggest heartbreak? Same day, same year, not sure about hour.

You guys get along great, lots in common, similar personalities.. but when you find out their birthday, are you running? or is it nurture over nature? Even if you see a lot of similarities, in hindsight? You giving a fair shot? You throwing holy water on them? Do you jyst go ahead and schedule your next therapy session and YOLO?

i see birth charts as indicating tendencies and capacities. nurture-nature can swing that differently.

i might.

Maybe.

My dad knows a Libra who's his birthday twin, down to the year. He says they couldn't be more different.

my biggest heartbreak is a great person, so definitely (march 4th)

there are lots of exes whose birthday twins I would reject though, bc their behavior was off-puttingly ridiculous

including march 1st & anyone born in July (maybe even august)

Posted by victoria-sakura
Maybe.

My dad knows a Libra who's his birthday twin, down to the year. He says they couldn't be more different.

My step dad and my former Virgo co worker are birthday twins but the only similarity I see between them is they were both fat. My step dad not fat anymore, sickness down came in his life and since I haven't seen my Virgo co worker in so long I don't know if he still fat or not. The Virgo co worker was hilarious as hell but my Virgo step dad was not. I don't get that. I thought all Virgo men suppose to be hilarious.

We really need to define heartbreak simply because I'm not so sure if I've ever been so heart broken in my life. I'm the one more capable of breaking hearts because I'm cold and distant.

Definitely scary lol

Posted by Uwa
i see birth charts as indicating tendencies and capacities. nurture-nature can swing that differently.

i might.

Same. Like I want to be fair (im really wrestling with this because my own thoughts parallel racist ideas, and that way of thinking just is not me), but also want to avoid any patterns that either i may have, or the tendencies of a birth chart may imply. From my experience the nasty stuff doesnt present itself until later, when youre already in. So I guess my personal conundrum is - do i throw the baby out with the bathwater out of fear? Or put my neck on the line, again? If I go in overly cautious and guarded, am creating a self fulfilling prophecy that leads to the same outcome I want to avoid.

Maybe i just overthink things? 😆

Posted by MidAtBest
my biggest heartbreak is a great person, so definitely (march 4th)

there are lots of exes whose birthday twins I would reject though, bc their behavior was off-puttingly ridiculous

including march 1st & anyone born in July (maybe even august)

Two things can be true - 1) they can be a good person. 2) they can be terrible with relationships, or just toxic for you.

Those 2 are not mutually exclusive. You have to want or at least be okay with the entire package. But you need to know what youre getting, IMO.

Posted by Jumpin_Jupiter
We really need to define heartbreak simply because I'm not so sure if I've ever been so heart broken in my life. I'm the one more capable of breaking hearts because I'm cold and distant.

First I want to clarify that in any heartbreak 💔 it takes 2. When I say that a lot of people recoil to absolve themselves of any responsibility, and be a victim.. thats not how I define heartbreak. Ive been heartbroken over people passing away, Ive been heartbroken when I knew, I myself, was internally changing and things were never going to be the same. Ive been heartbroken due to the breakup of a relationship. Its not always romantic. In all cases, for me at least, its the severance of an aspect of my identity. My grandpa, my dad, mom, whatever - part of your identity, your own transformation- deeply personal, shapes your identity, sheds the old. Your relationships - do you identify as a brother, a husband, a grandson, a partner, a son, a boyfriend, a friend, these are all relationships we invest part of ourselves in, and pull a sense of identity from. Not an acquaintance, a friend. Its the severance of a deep attachment. All humans are wired for attachment. How they handle it is where you get into the differing attachment style s.

I’ve dated 2 people who were born less than a week apart and had pretty much the exact same chart. They were different probably in part by the way they were raised. Both still had mom and dad married for their entire lives, but one grew up in a more progressive city and had wealthy grandparents who paid for their college. The other went to the military and was injured in combat. One suppressed their emotions and one was very comfortable expressing their emotions-wrote me poems and drew me artwork.

I guess my answer is yes, I prob would. Some I might be more cautious than others though.

Posted by Hatter1111

Posted by Jumpin_Jupiter
We really need to define heartbreak simply because I'm not so sure if I've ever been so heart broken in my life. I'm the one more capable of breaking hearts because I'm cold and distant.

First I want to clarify that in any heartbreak 💔 it takes 2. When I say that a lot of people recoil to absolve themselves of any responsibility, and be a victim.. thats not how I define heartbreak. Ive been heartbroken over people passing away, Ive been heartbroken when I knew, I myself, was internally changing and things were never going to be the same. Ive been heartbroken due to the breakup of a relationship. Its not always romantic. In all cases, for me at least, its the severance of an aspect of my identity. My grandpa, my dad, mom, whatever - part of your identity, your own transformation- deeply personal, shapes your identity, sheds the old. Your relationships - do you identify as a brother, a husband, a grandson, a partner, a son, a boyfriend, a friend, these are all relationships we invest part of ourselves in, and pull a sense of identity from. Not an acquaintance, a friend. Its the severance of a deep attachment. All humans are wired for attachment. How they handle it is where you get into the differing attachment style s.

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Why thanks for that explanation. I was thinking in terms of relationships. Yeah I'm heartbroken now because I'm low on cash. And if you know me you know I aint with being broke. Being an entrepreneur will literally make you wanna rob somebody at gunpoint if you broke.

I don’t see attachment style s. I see people as either interested or not. Avoidant attachment just looks like they’re not into me, and I don’t think about them. My advice would be to go for someone who is a green flag who lays out what they’re looking for etc. and if it clicks with what you’re looking for, especially if you have a history of being heartbroken from relationships. Just have to play it cool and not go all in too quickly.

@zonedout, why did you delete your post? There was nothing wrong with it.

You like them Leo moons, do ya?

The fucked up part is i dont even put a whole.lot of weight on astrology, yet this still really bothers lol.

Yes, they have very very similar charts.

Im not doing shit until after my birthday, im pretty firm on that. Ive been staying at my land in Southern Indiana just to get away from everything and isolate. All my life I had a tradition that bookended my birthday - thunder over Louisville was roughly a week and a half prior, then the Kentucky Derby was a week and a half after. My family used to breed racehorses, so every year I used to have massive blowouts.. havent in a while. Haven't even drank so much as a beer in probably 15 years. Im looking forward to a good Mint Julep, sitting infield at Churchill. So yeah, i got the horse and the palm tree 😉.

But, whats driving the train behind all these thoughts are im going to take someone with me. Her and I have talked about it. But, it sets a stage. Its going to set a precedent that I may not want set, of that makes sense? Especially for the wrong person. She's a tattoo artists where ive gotten my new work done. She sees me spending money. She sees all my vehicles. We have a great time when we're un the tattoo shop. Its kinda like a party. Im always open and talk about vulnerable shit, thats just what interests me the most.. its like being a human software engineer, I like the human code. Surface level shit bores the fuck out of me.

I did eventually talk to someone, BTW. Im glad I did. I appreciate you a ton for that. Ive learned a ton. Once you see things, you cant ever unsee things, ya know? I told you about the Gemini I dated for a short period who tried to destroy me, right.. I learned that wasnt just "some crazy bitch" like I brushed it off as.. like, that was a textbook smear campaign. Its a pattern of behavior in people with NPD, not just her.. my reaction to that smear campaign was throwing the baby out with the bathwater.. thats the kind of shit I want to not do. The patterns ive built, or am trying to build as a response to being hurt. So, yeah, 100% thank you for telling me what I really already knew but still wouldnt have done 😅.

Because I read the first sentence to your question and made a comment. Then I read the rest of your post and saw you answered the question I asked 😅

Is it just me or does it seem like a lot of handsome Leo moon men are gay though? Like I’m down for a metrosexual guy, but not down to be a cover.

This is the tattoo artist? That’s wild that she has the same bday and everything. Maybe you manifested it. The tattoo I’m getting is different. It might seem off the wall, but it makes perfect sense to me.

Now that you finished all your tatts, you should laser them off and start over jk.

I say give it a go if it makes you happy.

I’m still trying to decide on tattoo placement. I’m thinking somewhere on the leg. But maybe somewhere I can hide it easily so I don’t get turned away at the golf course.

Posted by zonedout
Because I read the first sentence to your question and made a comment. Then I read the rest of your post and saw you answered the question I asked 😅

Is it just me or does it seem like a lot of handsome Leo moon men are gay though? Like I’m down for a metrosexual guy, but not down to be a cover.

This is the tattoo artist? That’s wild that she has the same bday and everything. Maybe you manifested it. The tattoo I’m getting is different. It might seem off the wall, but it makes perfect sense to me.

Now that you finished all your tatts, you should laser them off and start over jk.

Ah, makes sense.

I mean, i didn't know they were lol. No offense to any gay folks, but I dont really pay attention. Flamboyant people pretty much put me off.. im not into extra and drama.. but, I can see how a Leo moon would fit 😆

And thats only person it has to mean something to - you..

Ill be 100% honest, the sleeve im finishing i started because my cousin killed himself and she was on a disappearing act at the time.. its a living memorial. As family and friends die off, the roses get colored and their initials go on.. ironically the guy who started it was from California. His dad passed away midway through, and so he went to California for the funeral. He called me and said he wasnt coming back.. I get it. In his shoes, id have done the same. Most people dont want to work on someone else's work though... so I was kinda in limbo on getting it finished. And it never really bothered me.. it was a living piece, so the purpose is it wont ever be finished until I am, or my people stop dying. But I found a fucking awesome artist near where im at that was like, yeah, I'll make that my shit.

Im trying to finish a lot of things. Lot cool shit im super proud of thats going to be starting. 😄 im going to have some influence on school curriculum in Marion County Indiana. 😆 me. Theyre fucked!! Believe it or not, part of it will involve attachment theory with kids. In true fashion of Pisces season - some Mr. Rodgers type shit.. The combination of homelife and school performance is something we know has an affect, but tearchers cant directly change. Kuds cant focus if their homelife is traumatic, then they start actingbout. Thesn they get pigeonholed, then in the great words of Eminem "I am whatever you say I am, if i wasnt, then why would i say i am".. kids dont ysually talk about their homelife. They dont understand trauma. They dont know how their futures are being shaped without their concent or knowledge. I think theres a good way we came up with that isnt intrusive, and provides enough contrast to make it worth trying. Something that has always driven me crazy as a person with ADHD, how people learn., and at what pace. We try to fit square pegs into round holes and wonder why they dont fit in. The crazy shit is it all happened with a chance encounter where I talked about shit people feel uncomfortable with, to the right person at the right time. And it started because my son was learning to multiply and divide fractions, and was struggling.. so i raised hell.. he loves music, and music is math.. in a week, he got it. Full step, half step, major and minor scale, all fractions, all ralatable for him. Thats a whole new direction for me 😆. Im not a teacher.

That ended as a ramble, but I think its to fuggin cool! I truly believe most of societies issues starts at home. And it ratchets, always worse, never better.. we live what we've learned. We teach what we were taught. And we dont know any better. Until we see a contrast between our experience and a better way. Show these kids a better way early. In elementary school. Shape that contrast. When they go home, they understand things better. Like actual brainwashing.. wash away the barinrot thats probably gonna fuck them up because they just didnt know any better.

Sorry.. I gotta go burn off some energy 😆

Posted by zonedout
Because I read the first sentence to your question and made a comment. Then I read the rest of your post and saw you answered the question I asked 😅

Is it just me or does it seem like a lot of handsome Leo moon men are gay though? Like I’m down for a metrosexual guy, but not down to be a cover.

This is the tattoo artist? That’s wild that she has the same bday and everything. Maybe you manifested it. The tattoo I’m getting is different. It might seem off the wall, but it makes perfect sense to me.

Now that you finished all your tatts, you should laser them off and start over jk.

Ah, makes sense.

I mean, i didn't know they were lol. No offense to any gay folks, but I dont really pay attention. Flamboyant people pretty much put me off.. im not into extra and drama.. but, I can see how a Leo moon would fit 😆

And thats only person it has to mean something to - you..

Ill be 100% honest, the sleeve im finishing i started because my cousin killed himself and she was on a disappearing act at the time.. its a living memorial. As family and friends die off, the roses get colored and their initials go on.. ironically the guy who started it was from California. His dad passed away midway through, and so he went to California for the funeral. He called me and said he wasnt coming back.. I get it. In his shoes, id have done the same. Most people dont want to work on someone else's work though... so I was kinda in limbo on getting it finished. And it never really bothered me.. it was a living piece, so the purpose is it wont ever be finished until I am, or my people stop dying. But I found a fucking awesome artist near where im at that was like, yeah, I'll make that my shit.

Im trying to finish a lot of things. Lot cool shit im super proud of thats going to be starting. 😄 im going to have some influence on school curriculum in Marion County Indiana. 😆 me. Theyre fucked!! Believe it or not, part of it will involve attachment theory with kids. In true fashion of Pisces season - some Mr. Rodgers type shit.. The combination of homelife and school performance is something we know has an affect, but tearchers cant directly change. Kuds cant focus if their homelife is traumatic, then they start actingbout. Thesn they get pigeonholed, then in the great words of Eminem "I am whatever you say I am, if i wasnt, then why would i say i am".. kids dont ysually talk about their homelife. They dont understand trauma. They dont know how their futures are being shaped without their concent or knowledge. I think theres a good way we came up with that isnt intrusive, and provides enough contrast to make it worth trying. Something that has always driven me crazy as a person with ADHD, how people learn., and at what pace. We try to fit square pegs into round holes and wonder why they dont fit in. The crazy shit is it all happened with a chance encounter where I talked about shit people feel uncomfortable with, to the right person at the right time. And it started because my son was learning to multiply and divide fractions, and was struggling.. so i raised hell.. he loves music, and music is math.. in a week, he got it. Full step, half step, major and minor scale, all fractions, all ralatable for him. Thats a whole new direction for me 😆. Im not a teacher.

That ended as a ramble, but I think its to fuggin cool! I truly believe most of societies issues starts at home. And it ratchets, always worse, never better.. we live what we've learned. We teach what we were taught. And we dont know any better. Until we see a contrast between our experience and a better way. Show these kids a better way early. In elementary school. Shape that contrast. When they go home, they understand things better. Like actual brainwashing.. wash away the barinrot thats probably gonna fuck them up because they just didnt know any better.

Sorry.. I gotta go burn off some energy 😆

The rising sign would matter a lot here

But I probably still would if I really liked him