Why people take me for granted just becuase of being nice to them?

I have been very generous to people and did a lot of things with no favor in return. I was just following the famous quotes from the greatest personalities like "Be Good and Do Good" and "Live for others". but the things is people took me for granted. The major thing i have observed is, I give such freedom to people to be free as they are and whenever I act according to the situation or due to circumstance, they feel like I am changed and blame on me. I didn't hurt anyone intentionally and did nothing which cause them pain. I have observed that in my case people think that they are the main priority over me and treat me less. Whenever I try to explain them and try to realize them they are feeling like I have been acting all these time and now I am showing my true colors. This happened with all of my closest relations and even my colleagues. Being nice to people is my internal trait. Due to this I am suffering a lot and thinks of leaving everyone and get isolated. But in reality I must face each and every person though out my lifetime.

Could anyone please tell me how to be(treat) with people and not to let them take me for granted?

How to make people realize my value? How to make people give priority to me?

What are the traits needed to be changed in me to not get people treat me bad?

Regards,
Anand

Are you a Pisces?

I am a Virgo!

@asbondili- Where are you from if I may ask, and how old are you?

Btw it happens to very best people in the world. Don't change...you really can't changed that..

Posted by asbondili
I have been very generous to people and did a lot of things with no favor in return. I was just following the famous quotes from the greatest personalities like "Be Good and Do Good" and "Live for others". but the things is people took me for granted. The major thing i have observed is, I give such freedom to people to be free as they are and whenever I act according to the situation or due to circumstance, they feel like I am changed and blame on me. I didn't hurt anyone intentionally and did nothing which cause them pain. I have observed that in my case people think that they are the main priority over me and treat me less. Whenever I try to explain them and try to realize them they are feeling like I have been acting all these time and now I am showing my true colors. This happened with all of my closest relations and even my colleagues. Being nice to people is my internal trait. Due to this I am suffering a lot and thinks of leaving everyone and get isolated. But in reality I must face each and every person though out my lifetime.

Could anyone please tell me how to be(treat) with people and not to let them take me for granted?

How to make people realize my value? How to make people give priority to me?

What are the traits needed to be changed in me to not get people treat me bad?

Regards,
Anand

When you kind to people you are doing it for YOU.
It is wrong to expect anything in return when acting kind.
No one owes you anything for your kindness.

Don't do people favors unless they ask for them. Bring out your other personality traits and save that kindness for when it's absolutely necessary. People want a friend, not a savior. People don't always feel the need to be kind to others unless they have close bonds with them and really know them. Not everyone deserves your kindness, either. If you show it to the wrong people, then of course they'll walk all over you. Trust is important to avoid this and to avoid crossing other boundaries. And not one-sided trust. They have to trust you, too. Which once again goes back to the close bonds. If you think you had close bonds with the people who treat you like this, then maybe you need to re-evaluate things and realize that your perspective may not be lining up with the actual truth of the situation. Think over what you offered them and what they offered you in the relationship. Is it that you chose the wrong people to let in? Or is it that it was something you offered or did not offer that led to them treating you this way? Do you have any healthy relationships? If yes, then think over what it different with your relationship to them. If the answer is no, then it's clear where you need to start - you.

Because they can. Some people are just like that. If they don't respect you, they will walk all over you and won't feel even the slighest bit guilty about it.

First of all, jump out of the victim suit. If you see yourself as a victim - others will too, and that will not help your cause, I promise.

Secondly, determine which boundaries are okay with you in realation with other people.

Imo.