A Pisces Scorned

Hi Elsa,

It all started when my boyfriend broke up with me over a month ago because he claimed that I was too emotional and he was stressed (I may be very emotional at times but with him I made sure to not be!).

Two weeks after that, he asked to get back together saying "I love you, I don't want you to move on, I love you and my love is all I can offer you." Based on this, I agreed to get back with him and we had the best 1 month ever.

This was a man who cringes at public display of affection and was holding my hand, kissing me when we were out, wanted to spend days on end with me. He even got upset one day when I made plans to see a girlfriend and he couldn't spend time with me.

Now, 2 weeks ago, he became distant and after almost of week of avoiding me, I approached him and asked him what was wrong. He told me he was stressed, work, moving (he is leaving in a week to another posting, a position he was sort of forced to take). And then he said it - "I am not in love with you, I felt pressured to say it."

I am not sure what he meant as no one pressured him to say it, and after we got back together he said it more than a handful of times in that month.

I know he's leaving for good and I should forget it but it hurts as now I feel he said all this to have someone to keep him company and his bed warm until he was sure what day he had to leave.

I tried to confront him about it but to no avail. He's closed up, become this cold wall and will not talk about it. Even when I said I do not want him as a boyfriend anymore, he shrugged and did not respond! Help me please...

And, yes, he's a virgo 😢

I would tend to believe him when he said he was pressured, assumingly by you .. for it's evident from what you've posted here that you do indeed play head games with him to attempt to "get" him to do somethingm = pressure.


For example ....

"Even when I said I do not want him as a boyfriend anymore ....... "

That ^^^^^^^ was a manipulation of yours to try and "get" him to do something. An attempt at a guilt-trip with intentions of trying to pressure him into talking to you, since every other tactic you used was to no avail.


A Virgo won't put up with such bullshit, and they especially won't tolerate it if you tell them it's raining while you are pissing on them.

My suggestion to you would be to find a person who will fall for your bullshit .. because a Virgo is too real for your apparant deception.

DyTryin

Everybody plays the fool at least once in their life -- try not to repeat this mistake.

loved that line Dy.