Advise the situation

I see around here from other threads that Pisces men take their time and aren't in any rush to initiate contact, even when they are attracted to someone.

Can I get some feedback on a couple questions... now I know you are going to take your time answering.... but I'll wait as long as I need to hear from you boys and keep checking back 😛



Do you like to be chased and have the lady contact you in the beginning?

How often is ok and how often is stalkerish and off-putting?

How do you know when they aren't actually interested?



These maybe basic easily identifiable answers with other star signs but piscerians have me confused!

This is difficult just because it's so subjective, but I'll take a shot below.

Chase or to do the chasing? I prefer a relationship to be organic which means to me that there isn't really any party doing the chasing, it's more just a natural occurrence between two people.

How often is contact ok? Whenever the other person feels like it. Whenever I feel like it. It becomes off-putting when it becomes disrespectful or cloying.

How do you know they aren't interested? I need clarity here, by 'they' do you mean pisces??

he's probably not interested, otherwise he'd make contact.

I mean don't try to make him chase you, because pisces hate that, but after a whie if he doesn't contact that means he's not thinking about you

Posted by sweethearts
I see around here from other threads that Pisces men take their time and aren't in any rush to initiate contact, even when they are attracted to someone.

Can I get some feedback on a couple questions... now I know you are going to take your time answering.... but I'll wait as long as I need to hear from you boys and keep checking back 😛



Do you like to be chased and have the lady contact you in the beginning?

How often is ok and how often is stalkerish and off-putting?

How do you know when they aren't actually interested?



These maybe basic easily identifiable answers with other star signs but piscerians have me confused!

My cap husband has a pisces mars - and I noticed the passive chasing in the beginning. We were both on a dating app and I could see who visited my profile. That sexy fucker was "stalking" my profile for around 2 months almost everyday! But never texted me. So I texted him and asked if he actually wants to start talkin or keep looking?!

After that everything went pretty fast it was just the initial breaking the ice which took very long. I asked him why he didnt text me first. He said it was because he thought he didnt have a chance and if I was interested enough I would text him first.

Very passive 😂 But after that he took every first step!

There was never a time I had to doubt his interest - it was just that I had to initiate the very first contact.

Awesome thanks guys!

@Halycon more initiate by texting first and sparking up a conversation. First time we met, I went over and introduced myself and gave him my number and told him to call me. Not something I would usually do but it worked...then I thought he would take the lead and he did on two occasions only. If I do text he puts out the big smile and is responses quickly never leaving any doubt that he likes me.

I can't text too much, almost has to be one for one or if I loose their interest then I'll let the convo go too.

Yes Pisces.

@hydorah....I feel that sometimes as I sit and ponder if he is going to call or text, the scales sits there and weighs everything up but I haven't got a definite "not interested"nor a "def interested"

@Aquanextdoor That was my next thought, do I have to be more direct as in the first time and ask/tell him what I want because the general, how's your day convo doesn't really amount to much.

@Jayc3on Brilliant and direct TY!!

I've always waited for the man to make the moves with a little encouragement and generally they do. But this guy has me perplexed, and I think he's worth me stepping out of my comfort zone because I'd like to get to know him a little more, just needed tips on the best way to go forward.

Posted by sweethearts
Awesome thanks guys!

@Halycon more initiate by texting first and sparking up a conversation. First time we met, I went over and introduced myself and gave him my number and told him to call me. Not something I would usually do but it worked...then I thought he would take the lead and he did on two occasions only. If I do text he puts out the big smile and is responses quickly never leaving any doubt that he likes me.

I can't text too much, almost has to be one for one or if I loose their interest then I'll let the convo go too.

Yes Pisces.

@hydorah....I feel that sometimes as I sit and ponder if he is going to call or text, the scales sits there and weighs everything up but I haven't got a definite "not interested"nor a "def interested"

@Aquanextdoor That was my next thought, do I have to be more direct as in the first time and ask/tell him what I want because the general, how's your day convo doesn't really amount to much.

@Jayc3on Brilliant and direct TY!!

I've always waited for the man to make the moves with a little encouragement and generally they do. But this guy has me perplexed, and I think he's worth me stepping out of my comfort zone because I'd like to get to know him a little more, just needed tips on the best way to go forward.

Well you both are already in contact... all I had to do was to initiate contact the first time and after that he was consistent.

A guy who wants to be around you will be there regardless of sun/mars etc signs. They just have different approaches depending on their signs imo.

Do you know his other placements?

No, don't know much about his placements.

I was thinking of asking him out tomorrow and just now the friend that introduced us, group texted the NYE plans...(she doesn't know we went out a couple times) he may possibly show up to where me and my friends are going.

Not sure what I should do? Ask him out tomorrow or wait and see if they all show up on NYE?

I'm a Pisces guy and this much I can tell you, I don't like or need to be chased... but I do need to know you're interested. Otherwise, I'll be hesitant to contact simply for the fact that I feel like I'm bothering you. Try and balance it out and feel free to initiate a text sometimes and let him initiate other times. As a guy I'm used to doing a little more of the pursuing so I'm comfortable in like a 60/40 to 70/30 ratio where contacting her in the early stages.

For me when I'm not interested I will be pretty passive in my responses and if they don't get the hint I may say something (nicely) to show I'm not feeling it

There's that fine line between what is uncomfortable for me and for him on who is initiating...I'm kinda feeling now after reading here that he is being passive and like myself there's no need to be rude and hurt someone. I'm going to give it one more shot today and if he doesn't take me up on it then I will drop it as "No interest" We last texted Christmas day. His only excuse for no contact is work resuming and being busy.

@ Mugen, would prefer to be told directly too!

@ YeplmaPisces can you see that I'm interested in this guy and wanting him to contact me more, so much so that I am willing to make the moves and similarly I can see that you want action from your Libra. I think we both need to give it a final shot and the outcome/response will highlight the end result.

He's already had the invite from the other friend, not sure they are going to that one though it was a multiple choice, plus, I am going with a different group of friends that he doesn't know and feel that it would be awkward to invite him to that on a 3rd date, don't you think?

However if we happen to bump into each other that's would be different. The thought of just bumping into him at the same party appeals but I think I need to know one way or another...it's agonizing for me this uncertainty.

So, I bit the bullet and dropped a text asking him if he had plans for tonight. He rang about half an hour later 🙂 (he’s a ringer not a texter) I was in the changing room at a shop 😂 but wasn’t going to miss the call. (Talking fir about 15 mins) 🤣🤣He said he’s been in bed watching a tv series for 2 days straight bored with Christmas and even though he has plans for tonight said he wanted to catch up with me and we should go get some seafood locally this afternoon.

Nice 🙂

Might still need you guys... got to learn to relax an learn his pace is different from mine

Yes it is confusing especially considering a lot of woman, me included, like the guy to show us they are interested.

We had a nice date, just went to the local very popular fish shop/market, picked our seafood and had it cooked for us. Sat outside in the sun, very casual and comfortable and we just talked and got to know each other a little more.

So these next few days will be agonising if he goes into his quiet zone, but I’ll busy myself and brave it out!