@Lorakeen
8 Years
Pisces guy confuses me
Posted by Lorakeen
Pisces guy... what am I supposed to do with this one?I'm cancer with virgo ascendant and moon in Aquarius. He's Pisces with Pisces ascendant and moon in Gemini.
I know because I asked him. He replied by asking for my birth year.
We're supposed to be friends. I'm just recovering from the mindfuckery done by dating his best friend the virgo guy. He's supposed to have a girlfriend.
We met at a festival and been having this weird push me pull you platonic relationship where he told me all of his deepest secrets he wouldn't tell his closest friends. We talk a lot (on fb) then he disappears then comes back apologising.
I had to go to his town for a day on business. He jumped at it "you can crash at my place" .somehow that became "we should see Blade Runner together then go to this concert". Then you should stay the second night.
Perfect gentleman through all that. We also went to a restaurant and a museum because of course we like the same things.
Over dinner he interrogated me over whether me and virgo guy could ever get back together (no).
The next day I was meant to leave early. It became "let's have coffee on the seaside".
Until this point I was happy to have him as a friend.
But something on his behaviour changed.
The next convo we had I asked for his hour of birth. He asked to confirm my birth year. Then told me he trawls my Facebook and reads between the lines.
Then he disappears. I had to go back to his town again last Friday. Texted him but he was out of town.
On Sunday he got offended at one of my fb posts that somehow made him think I might think he's a poser. I messaged him to tell him I never thought of him like that. He responded with a one liner that he was chatting with his girlfriend and we'd talk later.
Last night he foundidn't something else on my fb wall to take issue with.
Still quiet on messenger or whatsapp.
I'm confused.
What the hell is he doing?
(Yeah I'm falling for him hard.despite the mind fucker, he is very smart and we have everything in common)
Does he have a gf?
run.
Does he have a gf?
Allegedly so. Virgo guy, who is his best friend and my ex, and now my roommate- never knew she existed until Fishboy told me. Nobody ever met her- she doesn't go with him to concerts, festivals etc. Me and another common friend were shown a pic of her.
The guy has a girlfriend but makes huge claims on my time and attention- this concert and that and you should come to this one where I'm taking my mother next week what about this and yeah let's go on a hiking trip together. At some point he told me that he had a platonic female friend he used to go everywhee with who eventially got herself a guy and isn't hanging out with him anymore... looks like that's the rol he wants for me.
This morning he sendt me a longass text complaining about how my facebook posts are negative and angry (I'm a veteran, our humour is known to be soemwhat on the dark side)and that if I don't let people see the sweet caring person he knows exists inside of me, how will I ever find real love?
I'd like to ahve him as a friend, he is a great guy. I'd like to have him as my partner but he has a gf and I don't go there.
But he's so weird and convoluted while at the same time being kind and caring that maybe the running part is the best idea.
Goddamn fishes.
so if you want - just keep him as a friend but run from the feels parts - or just run
who needs someone being negative about what you do - ain't nobody got time for that lol
Posted by Jayc3on
Damn Pisces sun & rising plus gemini moon? Definitely wishy washy signals coming lol.
Totaly true...
Pisces sun/gemini moon- two strong mutable signs. If you seek secure, consistent, serious romantic relo, you rather stay at friendship stage.
I’v been in a few month lasting drama with pisces sun/gem moon/aries venus/pisc merc girl.
Changing her behaviour nonstop, push-pull all the time, unstable, restless, emo+mind games artist, evasive as hell, misleading master when needed. This week this dreams, life goals and orientation, next week that, next that....
I projected my wishes for stability she couldn't provide as I did and it's not that she intentionally wanted to hurt me, or be mean to me. It's just that this was the way how her emotions and mind worked, changing like you blink an eye. Lots of inner conflict inside of her and as cancer sun, I'v felt it all.
Loved her pisces charm and soft vulnerable inner core, attraction was amazing, connection insane. But her emotional and behaviour dynamic was way to fast for me and so perceived by me as unstable and not secure for long lasting relationship. Tho i got to go thru hurt, to get to that realization.
Back at friends now, way more fun 🙂
well he's coming over this saturday and we planned a roadtrip to a museum nearby, with me and him and Virgo guy.
He admitted to going through my facebook posts for months to try and figure me out. We also have a concert planned later this month and another museum trip in his town sometimes in december.
And somewhere in between I was complaining that my professional life was the only thing that works. He replied "likewise".
Ambiguous son of a bitch. Brilliant, kind, sweet bastard.
This is going to be a glorious trainwreck. Why couldn't he be a reliable Taurus?
Pisces male WITH that Gem moon is gonna be emotionally fickle. Aggressive, dark, possible depraved disrespectful sex, in fact I’d say for sure. Not interested in monogamous relationship, but won’t come out and ever tell you that. Will go behind your back.
You sure you aren’t dating my very best friend? I live that dude,but I will no date him, no no no no.
weird. This one is a sweetheart. The guy everybody relies on. The guy who helps everybody.even at the risk of compromising his own health.The guy who was 8 years single so he can be a good father to his kids after his divorce. Works like a maniac, is there for all his friends etc. And I know this because Vitgo guy, my roommate, is his best friend. They've known each other for 30 years.
Mars in Leo/ Mercury in Pisces/Jupiter in Aries/ Venus and Saturn in Aquarius.
In their heart, head and dreams pisces are never single. Always in love with someone or something, even if there are not in relationship.
In love, we feel and behave dirferent than in friendships. Its not the same thing.
He came over on Saturday. We had fun, spent some 12 hours together- went out, walked, talked, watched a mocvie( with Virgo guy), I made food for all of us, went out again, had some interesting arguments, talked more in his car then he was on his way at 2 am.
he's OK with me touching him, i think maybe he even enjoys at a bit, but doesn't touch me.
I'm giving up. I can only handle so much mindfuckery.
I'm giving up. I can only handle so much mindfuckery.
Lol
The same. I hate mind games and unspoken double messages. I’m pretty straightforward when it comes to attention and emotions. Transparency and clearity are important. Speak the fuck to me. If you dont tell me, I can only feel and imagine and I may imagine wrong. Most people underestimate the importance of verbal communication in relationships. They play and play with emotions, not expressing themselfs, not listening to the other, bang up a child or two and finaly find themself in couples counseling so they speak to each other for the first time. Awful.
I'm giving up. I can only handle so much mindfuckery.
Lol
The same. I hate mind games and unspoken double messages. I’m pretty straightforward when it comes to attention and emotions. Transparency and clearity are important. Speak the fuck to me. If you dont tell me, I can only feel and imagine and I may imagine wrong. Most people underestimate the importance of verbal communication in relationships. They play and play with emotions, not expressing themselfs, not listening to the other, bang up a child or two and finaly find themself in couples counseling so they speak to each other for the first time. Awful.
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yeah this.
Why are people finding it so hard to be open and prefer to just use backhanded comments and inferences?
Don't we have enough problems in the world without mindfucking each other every time we talk?
Why do you expect me to know what you want? I'm not a mindreader.
Why do you(general you) push and pull at me? If you don't want me why don't you just let me go? Why do you stay close then pull back yet when I pull back you come after me?
Fucking Pisces. Fuck this. I'm done.
turns out I had it all wrong, the tool I used wa sincorrect
So mr Pisces is Pisces with Aries Rising
Moon in Cancer
mercury in Aries
venus in Pisces
saturn in pisces
mars in virgo
jupiter in taurus
uranus nd pluto in virgo
neptune in scorpio
me, Cancer with Libra Rising
Moon Pisces
mercury in gemini
venus in leo
Mars in Aries
Jupiter in Aries
saturn in cancer
uranus nd pluto in libra
neptune in sagittarius
Posted by Lorakeen
turns out I had it all wrong, the tool I used wa sincorrectSo mr Pisces is Pisces with Aries Rising
Moon in Cancer
mercury in Aries
venus in Pisces
saturn in pisces
mars in virgo
jupiter in taurus
uranus nd pluto in virgo
neptune in scorpio
me, Cancer with Libra Rising
Moon Pisces
mercury in gemini
venus in leo
Mars in Aries
Jupiter in Aries
saturn in cancer
uranus nd pluto in libra
neptune in sagittarius
Man you have a killer placements 😂
I’m cancer with libra rising and venus leo and sometimes I think, that only thing that holds me grounded in love is my virgo moon. Without it I presume I would be totaly lost 😂.
Your moon in pisces... I can almost see you floating 😉
Yeah I know.
Fishboy has settled into this pattern where he comes down to see my roommate and spends most of the time with me, takes interest in all I do then goes. Trolls my Facebook and teases me and we get into long convos once or twice a week.
I guess he's doing a slow courtship based on making plans and cues like "it will take a while to fully understand eachother".
I better learn patience
Posted by Merm88d
Sounds like he likes you more as a friend. If he is not making a move towards the boyfriend material, means he is not very interested. I wouldn't lose any more sleep over this - maybe that would get him interested if you are a little indifferent.
yeah maybe.
but on Saturday when he was here , some flowers were delivered for me from this guy I'd been talking to online and he just didn't like it.
First he tried to convince me of the advantages of singlehood ( weird from a guy with a brand new girlfriend). The he spent half an hour tuning my guitar. When we went out we had a small argument- one of those where you know what's being said has little to do with why he's agry about but a common friend was present so e weren't talking openly.
Then on the way back in his car he relaxed only after I told him i was not going to pursue anything with the guy who sent me the flowers.
But maybe the friend this is the right way.
Posted by Merm88d
Sounds like he likes you more as a friend. If he is not making a move towards the boyfriend material, means he is not very interested. I wouldn't lose any more sleep over this - maybe that would get him interested if you are a little indifferent.yeah maybe.
but on Saturday when he was here , some flowers were delivered for me from this guy I'd been talking to online and he just didn't like it.
First he tried to convince me of the advantages of singlehood ( weird from a guy with a brand new girlfriend). The he spent half an hour tuning my guitar. When we went out we had a small argument- one of those where you know what's being said has little to do with why he's agry about but a common friend was present so e weren't talking openly.
Then on the way back in his car he relaxed only after I told him i was not going to pursue anything with the guy who sent me the flowers.
But maybe the friend this is the right way.
don't tell him what you will do or not do. Just in case you did not know men are competitive , should have left him with the doubt if you would respond to this other guy or not- that way he would step it up with you - if he is really interested.
The guy who sent you the flowers is making more effort and investing more in you. It's he who deserves your your time more than the one who just sits back and does nothing and just hears that you will not pursue a man who has taken interest in you and is making effort.
no effort - no you. you need to have this set in your mind as a woman otherwise you will always be given crumbs from men.
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I know you're right.
yeah well , he just deactivated his FB account. Disappearing act.
Posted by Lorakeen
yeah well , he just deactivated his FB account. Disappearing act.he may not be very big on FB, also he needs this space for himself to recover if he feels overwhelmed with anything , is nothing personal don't feel offended.
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he is. even when he is very bus he always manages to leave me a message , answer one of my posts etc.
I guess i'll leave him res, he's not bene well in a while.
Just weird though- he logged in at midnight, which is very unusual for him on a work night and just deactivated his fb.
guess i better wait it out.I'm meant to be seeing him at a concert in about 2 weeks, he'll hopefully be ok by then.
Posted by Lorakeen
We're supposed to be friends. I'm just recovering from the mindfuckery done by dating his best friend the virgo guy. He's supposed to have a girlfriend.Over dinner he interrogated me over whether me and virgo guy could ever get back together (no).
Texted him but he was out of town.
I messaged him..,
He responded with a one liner that he was chatting with his girlfriend and we'd talk later.
Up front with how he had a girlfriend from the start.
Brings her up when you message him to excuse himself from the convo.
Spends time with you in an effort to get you back with his friend.
I don't see anything to be confused about...Your living in delusion if you think this guy is trying to get at you. Just cause you split from your ex doesn't mean you should go after his friend. Plenty of other dudes you can try to fuck.
Kinda gross your actively chasing a dude with a gf.
Posted by Lorakeen
Yeah I know.Fishboy has settled into this pattern where he comes down to see my roommate and spends most of the time with me, takes interest in all I do then goes. Trolls my Facebook and teases me and we get into long convos once or twice a week.
I guess he's doing a slow courtship based on making plans and cues like "it will take a while to fully understand eachother".
I better learn patience
So a guy visiting someone else who chats with you is your definition of a 'slow courtship'. Girl you have problems.
Posted by Lorakeen
This is going to be a glorious trainwreck. Why couldn't he be a reliable Taurus?
Don't you mean why couldn't he be single?
You know I thought about that? It would almost make sense too... except for the part where he spends a lot more time with me than with Virgo guy.
Time will tell.
Posted by Lorakeen
Yeah I know.Fishboy has settled into this pattern where he comes down to see my roommate and spends most of the time with me, takes interest in all I do then goes. Trolls my Facebook and teases me and we get into long convos once or twice a week.
I guess he's doing a slow courtship based on making plans and cues like "it will take a while to fully understand eachother".
I better learn patience
So a guy visiting someone else who chats with you is your definition of a 'slow courtship'. Girl you have problems.
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Yeah you're right.
Probably nothing.
"hey i'm coming down to see my old friend and you again because i do that every 2 weeks now. Before you came along i did it once a year or less. I'll start by taking you out for a walk and dinner and talking for hours and how about you meet my sister?I'll also take you out in the evening again because i'm such a nice guy i'll spend more time with my friend's ex than I spend with my own girlfriend. We'll also spend an hour or so talking in my car in front of the house. Oh there's also this concert I'm planning to take my mother to, do you think you can tag along?"
"I know let's make plans together for concerts and trips and a holiday abroad and i'll even book the time off work now. How best to get you to get back with my friend than going just the two of us hiking for 4 weeks abroad?I'll also go with you to a party with some of your friends in France."
i'm sure you are right. My bad.
Posted by Lorakeen
This is going to be a glorious trainwreck. Why couldn't he be a reliable Taurus?Don't you mean why couldn't he be single?
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it would bug me more if he took her to concerts and movies and walks instead of me tbh
Virgo guy, who is his best friend and my ex, and now my roommate
how has no one addressed this? this whole situation feels a lil.... weird tbh
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Virgo guy has mental health problems. I stayed because he needs help, he is getting therapy but can't function alone.
Posted by Lorakeen
You know I thought about that? It would almost make sense too... except for the part where he spends a lot more time with me than with Virgo guy.Time will tell.
Ummm not according to what you've said here in this thread.
Posted by Lorakeen
He came over on Saturday. We had fun, spent some 12 hours together- went out, walked, talked, watched a mocvie( with Virgo guy), I made food for all of us, went out again, had some interesting arguments, talked more in his car then he was on his way at 2 am.he's OK with me touching him, i think maybe he even enjoys at a bit, but doesn't touch me.
I'm giving up. I can only handle so much mindfuckery.
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He came over to kick it with his friend. YOUR the one who follows him out to his car and touches him. Notice he's not touching you.
Your mindfucking yourself.
Posted by Lorakeen
This is going to be a glorious trainwreck. Why couldn't he be a reliable Taurus?Don't you mean why couldn't he be single?
it would bug me more if he took her to concerts and movies and walks instead of me tbh
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What do you mean? Of course he is taking his girlfriend out!!
Posted by Lorakeen
Yeah I know.Fishboy has settled into this pattern where he comes down to see my roommate and spends most of the time with me, takes interest in all I do then goes. Trolls my Facebook and teases me and we get into long convos once or twice a week.
I guess he's doing a slow courtship based on making plans and cues like "it will take a while to fully understand eachother".
I better learn patience
So a guy visiting someone else who chats with you is your definition of a 'slow courtship'. Girl you have problems.
Yeah you're right.
Probably nothing.
"hey i'm coming down to see my old friend and you again because i do that every 2 weeks now. Before you came along i did it once a year or less. I'll start by taking you out for a walk and dinner and talking for hours and how about you meet my sister?I'll also take you out in the evening again because i'm such a nice guy i'll spend more time with my friend's ex than I spend with my own girlfriend. We'll also spend an hour or so talking in my car in front of the house. Oh there's also this concert I'm planning to take my mother to, do you think you can tag along?"
"I know let's make plans together for concerts and trips and a holiday abroad and i'll even book the time off work now. How best to get you to get back with my friend than going just the two of us hiking for 4 weeks abroad?I'll also go with you to a party with some of your friends in France."
i'm sure you are right. My bad.
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Hmmm inviting you to friend stuff. Yeah, sounds like hes courting you for sure. *rolls eyes.
Posted by AbbyNormal
run.
Agree’d
Posted by Lorakeen
You know I thought about that? It would almost make sense too... except for the part where he spends a lot more time with me than with Virgo guy.Time will tell.
Ummm not according to what you've said here in this thread.
Posted by Lorakeen
He came over on Saturday. We had fun, spent some 12 hours together- went out, walked, talked, watched a mocvie( with Virgo guy), I made food for all of us, went out again, had some interesting arguments, talked more in his car then he was on his way at 2 am.he's OK with me touching him, i think maybe he even enjoys at a bit, but doesn't touch me.
I'm giving up. I can only handle so much mindfuckery.
He came over to kick it with his friend. YOUR the one who follows him out to his car and touches him. Notice he's not touching you.
Your mindfucking yourself.
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nope. Virgo didn't go with us whe we went in town- he was sleeping. he didn't go with us in the evening either.
Posted by Lorakeen
This is going to be a glorious trainwreck. Why couldn't he be a reliable Taurus?Don't you mean why couldn't he be single?
it would bug me more if he took her to concerts and movies and walks instead of me tbh
What do you mean? Of course he is taking his girlfriend out!!
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not to any concerts he had planned for the next few months.Not to the movie he wanted to see so much. Not to walk in the mountains. Not to meet his friends who have no idea who she is.
but i'm sure in your sanctimonius seat, you know better.
Posted by Lorakeen
This is going to be a glorious trainwreck. Why couldn't he be a reliable Taurus?Don't you mean why couldn't he be single?
it would bug me more if he took her to concerts and movies and walks instead of me tbh
What do you mean? Of course he is taking his girlfriend out!!
not to any concerts he had planned for the next few months.Not to the movie he wanted to see so much. Not to walk in the mountains. Not to meet his friends who have no idea who she is.
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Your gonna believe what you want to believe. Your delusion on here is obvious. So good luck with this 'confusing' pisces guy. Just remember, you make your bed you lie in it.
Posted by Lorakeen
but i'm sure in your sanctimonius seat, you know better.
Asks for 'advice', shits on anyone who doesn't fit her rhetoric. Good luck chasing your ex's friends dick.
Posted by Lorakeen
At some point he told me that he had a platonic female friend he used to go everywhee with who eventially got herself a guy and isn't hanging out with him anymore... looks like that's the role he wants for me.
From the horses mouth...
Posted by Lorakeen
This is going to be a glorious trainwreck. Why couldn't he be a reliable Taurus?Don't you mean why couldn't he be single?
it would bug me more if he took her to concerts and movies and walks instead of me tbh
What do you mean? Of course he is taking his girlfriend out!!
not to any concerts he had planned for the next few months.Not to the movie he wanted to see so much. Not to walk in the mountains. Not to meet his friends who have no idea who she is.
Your gonna believe what you want to believe. Your delusion on here is obvious. So good luck with this 'confusing' pisces guy. Just remember, you make your bed you lie in it.
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and i am sure your chrystal ball is even telling you he's coming down here tonight. 🙂
Posted by Lorakeen
This is going to be a glorious trainwreck. Why couldn't he be a reliable Taurus?Don't you mean why couldn't he be single?
it would bug me more if he took her to concerts and movies and walks instead of me tbh
What do you mean? Of course he is taking his girlfriend out!!
not to any concerts he had planned for the next few months.Not to the movie he wanted to see so much. Not to walk in the mountains. Not to meet his friends who have no idea who she is.
Your gonna believe what you want to believe. Your delusion on here is obvious. So good luck with this 'confusing' pisces guy. Just remember, you make your bed you lie in it.
and i am sure your chrystal ball is even telling you he's coming down here tonight. 🙂
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Your focusing on how often he's hanging out with you. You live with his friend!!! Hang out does not = wanting a relationship.
Why not be single for awhile instead of trying to rebound with your ex's friend??
Weird af.
Desperate af.
Does he have a gf?
Allegedly so. Virgo guy, who is his best friend and my ex, and now my roommate- never knew she existed until Fishboy told me. Nobody ever met her- she doesn't go with him to concerts, festivals etc. Me and another common friend were shown a pic of her.
The guy has a girlfriend but makes huge claims on my time and attention- this concert and that and you should come to this one where I'm taking my mother next week what about this and yeah let's go on a hiking trip together. At some point he told me that he had a platonic female friend he used to go everywhee with who eventially got herself a guy and isn't hanging out with him anymore... looks like that's the rol he wants for me.
This morning he sendt me a longass text complaining about how my facebook posts are negative and angry (I'm a veteran, our humour is known to be soemwhat on the dark side)and that if I don't let people see the sweet caring person he knows exists inside of me, how will I ever find real love?
I'd like to ahve him as a friend, he is a great guy. I'd like to have him as my partner but he has a gf and I don't go there.
But he's so weird and convoluted while at the same time being kind and caring that maybe the running part is the best idea.
Goddamn fishes.
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Psh if you are attractive don’t expect to have healthy friendships with men until maybe you are both older in life. Always keep distance even with friends of boyfriends.
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Pisces guy... what am I supposed to do with this one?
I'm cancer with virgo ascendant and moon in Aquarius. He's Pisces with Pisces ascendant and moon in Gemini.
I know because I asked him. He replied by asking for my birth year.
We're supposed to be friends. I'm just recovering from the mindfuckery done by dating his best friend the virgo guy. He's supposed to have a girlfriend.
We met at a festival and been having this weird push me pull you platonic relationship where he told me all of his deepest secrets he wouldn't tell his closest friends. We talk a lot (on fb) then he disappears then comes back apologising.
I had to go to his town for a day on business. He jumped at it "you can crash at my place" .somehow that became "we should see Blade Runner together then go to this concert". Then you should stay the second night.
Perfect gentleman through all that. We also went to a restaurant and a museum because of course we like the same things.
Over dinner he interrogated me over whether me and virgo guy could ever get back together (no).
The next day I was meant to leave early. It became "let's have coffee on the seaside".
Until this point I was happy to have him as a friend.
But something on his behaviour changed.
The next convo we had I asked for his hour of birth. He asked to confirm my birth year. Then told me he trawls my Facebook and reads between the lines.
Then he disappears. I had to go back to his town again last Friday. Texted him but he was out of town.
On Sunday he got offended at one of my fb posts that somehow made him think I might think he's a poser. I messaged him to tell him I never thought of him like that. He responded with a one liner that he was chatting with his girlfriend and we'd talk later.
Last night he foundidn't something else on my fb wall to take issue with.
Still quiet on messenger or whatsapp.
I'm confused.
What the hell is he doing?
(Yeah I'm falling for him hard.despite the mind fucker, he is very smart and we have everything in common)