Always back and forth, no then yes and no again...

Why me~ How can fishes function when we're like this:

1. I liked this Saggis
2. Realized that he's bad news for me
3. Left him and told him I've moved on
4. Tried dating others but couldn't
5. Still misses him
6. Still trying to date others but still can't

When will we learn to really really move on!!!
I'm so anxious to move on and constantly looking for things to keep myself busy.
As soon as I get less busy, I started missing him again.

perhaps I'm not looking for the right type of guy?
that's why I still can't find a target to move on to?

Fish needs another fish's advice

more often than not... if I try to force myself to move on before I actually have let the whole disaster play out... all I get is failure and then guilt for failing.

the only way you will truly move on is through genuine behaviour. as nem said... no bullshitting. although she may have meant it in a different context.

I have found the process has become easier than it used to be... because I have let go of the notion that I know best, and must have what I 'want'... when quite obviously what I want is likely not working out because it isn't what I need.

also... drop the 'why me' stuff. you aren't a victim. except to your own thoughts and actions.

i knowwwwww..
it helps to talk about it.

lol, talk about it. Don't drown yourself in self defeat though....


a thought though... replacement rarely works for me. the feelings have to fade on their own.
Adding others into the equation usually only makes the equation more complicated.

Deezie, I beat myself up a lot. Acknowledging my mistake is my first step and I was like whaaaaaat when I see "bullshitting" well that's what I didn't want~~~ so I just face all my emotions right away.
Maybe I should filter my emotions before I let it out!

feelings hasn't faded completely.
and already my friends and family tried to hook me up with guys.
that got me feeling a bit stressed and want to do something about my slow progress~~

I understand. sort of. lol
kbow one thing though.... what you are fighting with is your intuition. you know this dude isn't worth the effort you are putting out there for him.

stop fighting that. accept that all connections aren't long term or serious. some are just there to build your resume of figuring out what does and does not work. and what you do and do not like.

timing is a wonderful bitch of a thing and when it finally lines up you can fo two things
1. look back and see how it all comes together, and
2 wonder why the fuck you were so stupid and stubborn in the mean time lol

learning to let go and move on is the most freeing experience. and the ones worth having around will never have you in that predicament to begin with.

I'm starting to believe i dun wanna move on.
I know intuitively I want to move on.
but emotionally I'm not ready yet.
the feeling is still there...

it takes time i guess

Posted by LittlePisces
I'm starting to believe i dun wanna move on.
I know intuitively I want to move on.
but emotionally I'm not ready yet.
the feeling is still there...

it takes time i guess

Hmmmm. Why do you believe this guy is so bad for you? How old are you? Him? If you can, give me 10 reasons why this guy isn't right for you. Then give me 10 reasons why you love him so much and don't want to let him go. Answer honestly and look deep in your soul for the answers and once you have both list of reasons, read each list carefully. Then I think you will have more clarity.

ohhh good idea....
let's see

He isn't right:
1. He called me a b**ch and told me to eff off
2. He's only serious about having sex with me
3. He makes love with me and hardly talks to me till a month later
4. He only talks about sex with me and nothing else
5. He talks down at me
6. He makes me cry and I'm hardly laughing or smiling when I'm with him
7. While he was absent from our "relationship" he went out fishing for other girls. I saw him on my friend's FB friend list. According to her, he added her while she was on online dating.
8. He doesn't say a word after we do it while I pack my things and left his aptmt myself.
9. He doesn't communicate with me unless he's horny
10. My friends and family saw his photo and said he's bad news. The friends who know our history all hate him. My family begged me to leave him.

Why I don't want to let him go
1. I don't know... just feelings
2. I can see myself carrying his child
3. We're compatible in bed
4. When he talks to me, I get so happy
5. When we're in bed, we connected so well like no other guy can
6. He's attractive. I want to have his kids
7. He's great with his friends and parents and that melts my heart
8. He's intelligent. Book smart and street smart with character
9. He's got a great voice that melts my heart
10. He works hard for the things he own

same conclusion as before..
he's not worth it
but it's not clear what i'm doing hanging about.
I love how Deezie says it
hope i'm interpreting this correctly.. don't fight it? just accept it

btw, lol.. nice username 3......2......1..0

Posted by LittlePisces
ohhh good idea....
let's see

He isn't right:
1. He called me a b**ch and told me to eff off
2. He's only serious about having sex with me
3. He makes love with me and hardly talks to me till a month later
4. He only talks about sex with me and nothing else
5. He talks down at me
6. He makes me cry and I'm hardly laughing or smiling when I'm with him
7. While he was absent from our "relationship" he went out fishing for other girls. I saw him on my friend's FB friend list. According to her, he added her while she was on online dating.
8. He doesn't say a word after we do it while I pack my things and left his aptmt myself.
9. He doesn't communicate with me unless he's horny
10. My friends and family saw his photo and said he's bad news. The friends who know our history all hate him. My family begged me to leave him.

Why I don't want to let him go
1. I don't know... just feelings
2. I can see myself carrying his child
3. We're compatible in bed
4. When he talks to me, I get so happy
5. When we're in bed, we connected so well like no other guy can
6. He's attractive. I want to have his kids
7. He's great with his friends and parents and that melts my heart
8. He's intelligent. Book smart and street smart with character
9. He's got a great voice that melts my heart
10. He works hard for the things he own

same conclusion as before..
he's not worth it
but it's not clear what i'm doing hanging about.
I love how Deezie says it
hope i'm interpreting this correctly.. don't fight it? just accept it

btw, lol.. nice username 3......2......1..0

From what you typed, it should be obvious that it would be best to move on.

it's very obvious..

Posted by tiziani
You sound like he is a drug to you rather than a person.

I said that before...
exactly the same thing.
the context was... He's an addiction I have to get rid of

I am a Pisces and I can relate on the part of having a hard time letting go. We get used to being with that one person then we get comfortable. But with the 10 reasons you've given why he isn't right for you; I don't even think you should be on here asking for advice. I myself would have dropped him a long time ago and moved on coz it's clear that he considers you a booty call and only talks to you when he wants sex. He doesn't care nor does he respect you at all coz he's going around adding your friends on Facebook. You should never let any man treat you this way. Never settle for less!!!

yeahhh
i've been accommodating to him for a year now.
i'm getting a bit bitter :/
to a point that i don't really care...
save the tears just go with it.. maybe that way we'd be happier