Am i messing up with Pisces

So I have been trying to take advice from most of u here in this forum and not be so available or do predictable. These last 2 days I have been letting girl I am seeing call me. Last nite I didn't answer her phone call cause was trying not to be available. Well tonite she calls me and asks y I have not been calling her. She tells me she is tired of being the one calling
me and that she wont b calling me anymore...then she said ill talk to u tomorrow and we hung up...am I pushing her away? Or the fact that I am a little distant bothering her?

looks like you two are insecure. Try to be the one thaty is not insecure then and be reassuring and patient.
IMHO you shouldn't play mind games.

Posted by tiziani
She sounds very impatient. And you sound stressed.

guess worried would correct

Posted by hydorah
looks like you two are insecure. Try to be the one thaty is not insecure then and be reassuring and patient.
IMHO you shouldn't play mind games.

I don't want to play mind games at all trust me. But trying approach from advice I have received here.

Posted by tiziani
Do you know what you're worried about or is it just general stress relationship?

worried that I have lost her interest and have lost her

Posted by tiziani
I see. Well, she's calling you. That's no small thing. She also said she'll talk to you tomorrow.

I'd be wary about micro managing your relationship by taking on aboard advice everyday from outsiders, me and all. I'd calm down and remember what you're about. And maybe be honest with her about how you're feeling in due time. Seems like lame advice but it might surprise you. I wouldn't play games or deliberately ignore her. If you "win" someone by playing games, they never committed to who you are. Just to the tug of war game between you. Being "less available" in my book just means being more focused on other things in your life so that you have more to share when you speak with or see her.

well thanks for great advice. I love this woman so much but having hard time figuring her out

Posted by freddy42
well thanks for great advice. I love this woman so much but having hard time figuring her out

This is exactly part of the problem. Pisces usually don't want to be figured out. You have to put down the magnifying glass if you want to love this lady.

There is a difference between giving her space and ignoring her. To give her space means to let her come to you(contact you first) rather than you going after her. By ignoring her calls you are probably just upsetting her and sending her mixed signals. Honestly Freddy, my advice to you is to just be yourself. Rather than following the advice of people who don't know you or her and changing who you are (your behavior) because some stranger suggested it to you. You're a Scorpio, each of us water signs have heightened intuitions, so if your gut is telling you to answer her call, but you're purposefully choosing not to because of the advice you're getting here, don't. If she can't accept you for you then she doesn't deserve you. It's as simple as that. You shouldn't have to change yourself for anyone. If you being you isn't good enough then move on to the next one. There are plenty of fish in the sea 🙂.

I only read a few posts on your other thread, but, I read enough to find out that you are overbearing in how much you give to her. dude, stop giving so much, stop being so subservient ... and that's to any woman, regardless of sun sign.

Now, it seems like you have done the complete opposite and are now ignoring her.


what the hell is going on?

Posted by P-Angel
I only read a few posts on your other thread, but, I read enough to find out that you are overbearing in how much you give to her. dude, stop giving so much, stop being so subservient ... and that's to any woman, regardless of sun sign.

Now, it seems like you have done the complete opposite and are now ignoring her.


what the hell is going on?

Honestly I don't know what I am doing. I am so torn right now. I just want to be and not have to play games

Then just be, what's stopping you? No one controls you but you, or at least that is how it should be. May be you should figure yourself out first before trying to enter into a relationship. There a few things more dangerous than entering into a relationship not fully aware of you who are, what you are looking for, and what you deserve. It can lead you down a very painful and dangerous path. Just my $ 0.02.

Posted by Poisson
Do you feel like you're playing games if you just ease up a bit?

I don't know anymore.

Posted by Daydreamer35
Then just be, what's stopping you? No one controls you but you, or at least that is how it should be. May be you should figure yourself out first before trying to enter into a relationship. There a few things more dangerous than entering into a relationship not fully aware of you who are, what you are looking for, and what you deserve. It can lead you down a very painful and dangerous path. Just my $ 0.02.

All I know is I opened up to this woman and left myself vulnerable for her to hurt me.

Posted by Poisson
Why are you so worried about losing her? I mean other than the jealousy and insecurity you addressed before, are there any other issues?

well besides both things u mentioned I was hurt bad by my x wife. She cheated on me and I guess feel like keli is going to do same thing to me...or just leave me because she doesn't feel it with me. She is the first woman I have loved besides my x wife in almost 7 years

Posted by Piscescorp

Therefore she has lost respect.

Food for thought, Freddy ... the above poster has stated an opinion and is trying to tell you it's fact.

Posted by Piscescorp
freddy,

you have lost control of yourself and she is doing what she wants with you and you are allowing it. Therefore she has lost respect.

You have got to step it up and be the man in this relationship - to lead.

Do not give in to her as soon as she snaps her fingers at you and you get all paranoid because she will run off with another man. If she does, it will be her loss. But you need to take the lead and be the man.

You have to show her you are a strong man, for her to be attracted to you. (again)

Back off, do not give into her, stop being around her 24/7 --- yes for me it would feel like you are around me 24/7 and I would probably disappear on you the first week of being around you for that long.

( as I am a March 8 - born in the week of the loner).

stop the weekly flowers, the checking in every single day, and the expected gifts, love notes, and I love yous.

I promise if you go to another gym to work out, she will start to miss you and appreciate all you do for her and all the love you give her.

You are telling him to play games with her, to try and manipulate her.

Freddy, my only advice to you is that you should be very selective as to who you take advice from in dxp. You already stated that you took advice from someone in here and now it's even worse with her .... so heed my words here.

Be careful .... ask around on other threads if you aren't sure who to listen to .... go ask your Scorps

Called her this morng and she tells me she will not be calling me anymore because its always her calling me...told her how I feel..hoping for the best

Posted by freddy42
Called her this morng and she tells me she will not be calling me anymore because its always her calling me...told her how I feel..hoping for the best

I can't believe you both are in your fourties and acting like children

Posted by hydorah

Posted by freddy42
Called her this morng and she tells me she will not be calling me anymore because its always her calling me...told her how I feel..hoping for the best

I can't believe you both are in your fourties and acting like children

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I can't believe you can't spell forties.
Wonders never cease.

not my language/not caring

You should never to that to a pisces girl. I am one myself. You may feel like you are trying not to be "available", but she will feel like she is being ignored and rejected. It will hurt her more deeply than you think.

You are pushing her away. Pisces dont like being lied to or ignored because we are snesitive. We do our best to love and make you feel special. If she reacted the way you said she did, then of course she is hurt.

That is just how I would feel.