can you help, please

Maybe you people can help me. I am totally in love with a pisces(female) 3/2/64.She keeps pulling back. We go great with each other but I really think she has a problem with commitment. Nothing has been mentioned about marriage which I know she doesn't want to hear. I respect that and neither do I. I am a sag 12/14. It's good when we are together but it seems like she runs on a 2 month cycle and then starts being distant.

The reason why she's afraid of commitment is because maybe she had a past relationship that didn't go well and she's afraid to have her heart broken again.So with that in mind, go slow with the relationship you have with her.Don't go fast.I know how much you love her,but don't bore her with lectures when you think it's time to push the relationship on another level like marriage.Because maybe she's not ready for it !!And another thing , if u don't take this advice, then most likely , ure relationship with her will be SMASHED TO HELL !!

To reiterate- SMASHED TO HELL! lol- yes.

No I am not pushing it, matter of fact I am leaving it alone. I thought if I left it alone that I would show that I really don't give a s***. I am giving all the space she needs.I haven't loved anyone this much in years and just don't want to lose her that's all

You didnt say how old you are? She is the same age is I am and maybe she has been hurt before, but even still most Pisces need to be reassured constantly that they are loved and trusted and understood. I dont understand the twomonth cycle though. That tells me that for some reason she feels secure with you and then doesnt. And depending on how long you have waited, if she is afraid of commitment, she may never agree to marry you unless you give her an ultamatimum and she realizes that she may lose you. I wish you good luck.

well I hope this doesn't cloud anything but yes I am older,49 12/14/52. But I don't see that as a deterant. She was once married and has a 13 year old daughter who I love and know's sort of that something is up but we havent spilled the beans yet. This has been going on since Oct of 2001.

I know people say a lot of things but she has told me age is no problem so I have to believe her.And she says that of the three people she has been involved with in the last 10 year I am the only one that can satisy her,could be a line butshe is not in the habit of lying to me. Yes I can tell you I am a young 49 and I could be lying bit take my word I have nothing but love and respect for her even when she gets fickled. The two months I can understand either but it is driving me nuts.

Hello... I've just read your message and I guess my reply might be a bit out of date ... anyway I am a pisces girl, and I'm afraid I don't know anything about sags but I know us female fishes. I've read a couple of the replies on the board which seemed a bit rough on you! I have been with my boyfriend for 3 years now and I myself followed the same pattern as your lady. I think what happens is our previous experience of life makes us extra careful which you will obviously now know, and whilst our instinct is to throw ourselves wholly into a relationship that is just too f**ing scary (excuse my French!) If this has been going on since October last year that is not a very long time ago. I'd say don't pressurise her (I know, easier said than done when you need to show your feelings). Basically it comes down to if you enjoy being with her then what else is there? If you want her to marry you and she's not ready then giving an ultimatum will just make her think, "Right then, if that's what you want, off you go, you obviously can't accept me as I am."
If you feel a desperate need to marry her at the moment, do you feel insecure and want her to be "yours"? Relax, it doesn't sound like she's going anywhere, just enjoy her company. Honestly this is no judgment on either of you because I don't know you, this is just how me and other piscean friends would think. We make excellent martyrs as well. Also if we are used to drama/crises in our lives, you know, highs and lows, when things are going well, ie on a level, it can feel as if something's not quite right. I call my boyfriend my "rock" because he's there for me no matter what, when I'm being myself and when I kid myself that's not good enough. Rock's don't impede our flow, but we know they are there. If you love someone, then if they are happy, you are happy. If you truly love her, you will hang in there and enjoy your time. Try giving yourself say, three months to give yourself a rest from all these emotions and relax, with the promise to yourself of a good chat with her about how things are going. Does she love you and need you?

To end, I think she is lucky to have found someone who is not afraid to ask for help - a problem shared etc etc.
GOOD LUCK!

#1 thanks for the support

Yes I truly love her,I guess I feel that if I leave her alone I will lose her. That is how much I care for her. I can wait I am the most patient person alive. I am not pushing marriage, I have even told her that is way off. I think what scares me are the mood changes. Like any other guy/girl you always think it is you and there getting tired of you! It all comes down to one thing "I love her and don't want to lose her"

Have you been with her a while? Are these mood changes since October? Sometimes when you start to develop true feelings for someone old issues that have been pushed to one side can decide it's time they were dealt with. I hope she feels that she can confide in you and discuss her feelings with you soon. She may be trying to deal with stuff herself because one can get so used to doing that. From a horoscope point of view (I forgot the site I was on then!) pisces are very good at caring for other people but cannot always understand that other people want to and do care for them, and so try and deal with things themselves; but how you feel is just as important so if you carry on not happy with the situation you have to tell her. Hey, but you know all this...! I think Pisces respond well to strong, firm and steady.

Jo.

Frankly, I'm tired of being strong for a Pisces. I'm not willing to carry the load. My Fourth relationship with the fish? I'm tired. I think next time I'll find a more compatible mate. I'm done. any other sign can feel free to contact me.

I guess I should say that -I'm a Virgo.

I'm a virgo too !! You know what they say about us, we are right for each other.I mean, we know what needs to be done,we hide out feelings when all the chips are down.When someone is too strong for us which is in this case , a pisces, we tend to push them away.So maybe this could be a virgo-virgo hookup ?

I have been with her since 6/29/1998. So I have been hanging in for a while. That is how much I care for her. I will wait and have never put on any demands. I even told her her I would never bring it up unless we both mutually are ready to talk about it.But some times I feel like a chump because am I being played. I just rightly love this woman and dont know where to go next. I am afraid to put any ultimatum, which is not me.Because sadly I dont want to lose her.

I was the one who gave you advice a few weeks and my number was 204.211.Anyway i knew you'd give in to my advice !! And by the way, good luck !!

I need help also - I have completely lost directin in my life - I have no clue where I am going. I went to university and basically sailed through that putting in very little effort. Now I am at a loss and my dreams are flying away on a wisp - I want to be an actress/writer- but I'm stuck in a rut - what do I do——?

I am far from an expert. But it sounds like there is something else in your life that is taking up you mental time.Boy friend, lost or current love. I am an expert at that, we get so involved in something else and it consumes our time (misdirection). Try making a change for you, if it is a guy put it on the back burner until you get back in sync. If it is just you, try some summer stock theatre, doesn't pay much but it will help you with your ambition.

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