loveless lickle fishy!

hi all,
dont want to depress ye all with my woes (well i do really :+)im just wondering can anyone help or does anyone have any input on my situation!
my dad died 5 yrs ago (this March 31st)
and i dont think i've ever gotten over it - i was 15 at the time, (by the way my d.o.b is 09/03/82 - do the math)
i'll no longer be a teenager this b-day :+( he died of cancer & we were v.close as far as father/daughter relationships go - he was a scorpio and listened to my every word - he always encouraged me to be strong and never change - which really meant a lot (as we all know being a teen aint easy!) since hes gone i feel myself slowly gaining more confidence in myself yet all these years i havent been able to meet anyone and fall in love etc. i've had some boyf's though never serious and for the last year or so i've liked a lad i work with - co-incidence he is also a scorpio and has given me a lot of attention and signals that he might like me yet he has a girlf. i dont know what i feel anymore - but can anyone answer me this - do we all unbeknownst to ourselves look for men who remind us of our dads - or am i just a lost cause!

looking forward to hearing from you!
Wanda

Wanda,
Yes...we do look for similar characteristics that we saw in our fathers...most do this on a subconscious level, as you mentioned...

I have heard the same is true for men and their mothers...

I was truly sorry to hear that fate took your father away from you at such a young age...I am sure you will always cherish his memory.

I Wish You The Best!
Star

thanks Star,
much appreciated!

i reckon its a lost cause anyway, seeing as he's already spoken for!

c'ya
wanda

Wanda,

Spoken for as in married or engaged or dating someone?

Things can change...
But, try not to be the reason they change...it may make his crew have a harder time accepting you...depending on...

Keep in touch!
Star

hiya Star

well hes definitley seeing someone, as in a couple of years - not sure how serious it is - i've always kind of avioded talking about it to him.
its stange coz i've started to have weird dreams about him - nothing ever happens between us but they're very intense!

Wanda

Hi Wanda!

I am no where near to being a dream analyst...but, I have had dreams that later come true!! Odd stuff, it is!
Who knows...maybe your dreams are telling you something...
Be receptive!

You have been a smart girl not to inquire into his love life...but, do let him be your friend...
Even if it turns out to be nothing more than friendship...it will be worth it! Friends always are...
And, if it is to be friendship only...try to accept it for what it is and not expect more...
There is something weird about it...those that want more, usually do not get it...those that accept and appreciate what they have, get more...but, sometimes it is not the 'more' they think they wanted...

Am I talking in circles? Sorry, if I am!

Star

hiya Star,

no your not talking in circles :-)
i get what u mean - it is weird though i have had little daydreams too that have come not exactly but nearly true.
but i think i might have pushed him away now even as friends because of stuff thats happened to me personally. I tend to keep all my problems to myself - like i dont want people to think im weak or something so i kind of went into a bit of a depression there a while ago and the last time i spoke to him i was feeling quite low, and just wasnt in the humor of hiding it - we've kinda not spoken much since then - i cant seem to get back to the way we were without the feeling that im making a fool out of myself! nobody else knows i like him - though i think he might have a fair idea - or at least had a fair idea!
am i goin mad :-)——

wanda

Hi Wanda!

I know it is easy for me to say...but, try to be patient...
Things will come around...maybe not right away or with this particular guy...

Expand your horizons while you wait...take a class...take up a hobby...exercise...do things that make you feel good about you! (This also makes you more interesting to others!)

I know...it is hard to wait...

Star

yeh your right - cheers Star!

And Cheers to You, My Friend!

Star