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Capricorn girl Pisces guy - do I call it off? Is he even still interested?
Posted by EthereaIThank you for your reply! I guess I would say we are friends with benefits? Though obviously not physically because of the distance but we make do lol. It turns out he was being distant because he had slept with someone recently and felt guilty, didn't know how to tell me and was scared to face me. I asked him why we're just friends and he said "are we"? I said yes and then he kind of called me out and said "sometimes you look at me in this way" and I asked him in what kind of way and he said "like someone who is in love". I didn't say anything but I know he knows my true feelings which is hard. I'm not upset that he slept with someone else, afterall, there is no commitment, and realistically we live an ocean away from each other. Though I am extremely faithful and loyal by nature and am not romantically involved with anyone else so it made me jealous.
When you say you aren't in an exclusive relationship, what exactly do you mean?
It sounds to me like you are. Exclusivity is remaining devoted/faithful to one person. Are you saying that you're in an open relationship with him?
We Pisces love to shower our significant other in attention. Their happiness is our number one priority in a relationship, and we often go out of our way to ensure that happiness. We don't get distant unless something is wrong - or if we feel like equal effort isn't being applied. Don't forget that we're the ultimate escapists. We do, however, tend to enjoy our space every now and then, but not to the point where we're completely ignoring you. You also mentioned that he plays "mind games" with you. Can you give an example?
When we're for you, we're 100% for you. You'll recognize the selfless love Pisces has to offer when we're all about you. Be attentive to the needs/feelings of your Pisces because the little things can upset us, even without you realizing it. We are very sensitive and susceptible to pain, so our first reaction is often to distance ourselves - or disappear. Think about your last conversation with him and really dissect it. You may find your answer there. If not, he may just be enjoying the ride with you without any means of commitment - a "go with the flow" mentality. After all, we are reputable for being hard to pin down.
He is very good at giving me lots of attention when he has the time. His mind games seem like tests, like "how long will it take for her to text me first" or "I'm going to activity like your things on social media and not text you even thought I know you're waiting" sort of things.
His attitude along with mine has been lets just see where this takes us. Though I have to admit its very hard for me, but like I said earlier I don't want my rigidness to get in the way of this great connection I have with someone else. After he confessed to me that he slept with someone else he was back to being himself
Being a Cap male myself very much infactuated with a beautiful Pisces female in a long distance relationship as well whom I met online, I felt your situation resonated very much with my own situation. Have a brother that's a Pisces as well and an ex that was a Pisces (Ironically the same natal chart as the girl I'm currently infactuated with, birth days are two days apart. But in response to your situation, by all means, patience is key here. Pisceans are very emotionally absorbed, they can only take so much emotion on such a consistent basis. Conversing day by day? Same situation here, everything can go amazingly blissful for quite some time, but they need time to themselves, the sweet talk is appreciated day after day, but the emotion of the sweet talk can become so overused it can actually emotionally drain the already emotionally intensive by nature Pisces (Cap too) its almost like being oversexed in a sense, the emotion has passed for the time being, a little rest is needed. Don't wanna overdo it, they'll be back, they just need some alone time to think and reflect, reenergize, etc. Just don't assume anything or push them, they'll come around, hence how you mentioned he came back with 10x the emotion the last time. Although Piscean males may be a little more reserved to come back around - but my girl is the same way. It might be a couple days, they mean well though, but like if emotion doesn't feel genuine, as a result of emotional marathons and seems recycled in expression or strainted - they'll know, its like a sixth sense of sorts. When I was with my ex, it was the same way, she needed some down time. Just support and respect the cycle, they'll appreciate you all the more for it. Love them, don't wanna smother them. I'm lie this too as a male Cap, I might drop her a line, let her know I'm thinking of her, but don't push it though with excessive emotion. When they're back, you'll know. I got what felt like a silent treatment for a couple of days and we've been conversing for months - she's already open to marriage, kids and moving here - sent me hundreds of selfies at her own accord, talk about anything and everything, lil reserved in expressing herself to me but she loves the affection, just a lil shy. But, she has her downtimes, sometimes won't even IG during that time, like an emotional shutdown. My old neighbor is like that as a Pisces, just needs alone time though she loves her boyfriend incredibly despite living in another state. They talk but some days she'll just sleep...and sleep...and sleep. God bless them, I love Pisceans, selfless, generous, mysterious, sensitive, but huge hearts. They really do mean well but can be confusing to those that may not understand. Like how air signs absorb information like a sponge, water signs absorb emotion like a sponge and it can get overwhelming esp. for the Pisces which is sensitive to feeling the emotion of everything around them. It can be physically draining, that has to be kept in mind
Posted by cap23
Thank you for your reply! I guess I would say we are friends with benefits? Though obviously not physically because of the distance but we make do lol. It turns out he was being distant because he had slept with someone recently and felt guilty, didn't know how to tell me and was scared to face me. I asked him why we're just friends and he said "are we"? I said yes and then he kind of called me out and said "sometimes you look at me in this way" and I asked him in what kind of way and he said "like someone who is in love". I didn't say anything but I know he knows my true feelings which is hard. I'm not upset that he slept with someone else, afterall, there is no commitment, and realistically we live an ocean away from each other. Though I am extremely faithful and loyal by nature and am not romantically involved with anyone else so it made me jealous.
He is very good at giving me lots of attention when he has the time. His mind games seem like tests, like "how long will it take for her to text me first" or "I'm going to activity like your things on social media and not text you even thought I know you're waiting" sort of things.
His attitude along with mine has been lets just see where this takes us. Though I have to admit its very hard for me, but like I said earlier I don't want my rigidness to get in the way of this great connection I have with someone else. After he confessed to me that he slept with someone else he was back to being himself
You aren't telling us the most important, are you having sex with other people on the side ?
Posted by hydorahNo I'm not, though if the right person came along I wouldPosted by cap23
Thank you for your reply! I guess I would say we are friends with benefits? Though obviously not physically because of the distance but we make do lol. It turns out he was being distant because he had slept with someone recently and felt guilty, didn't know how to tell me and was scared to face me. I asked him why we're just friends and he said "are we"? I said yes and then he kind of called me out and said "sometimes you look at me in this way" and I asked him in what kind of way and he said "like someone who is in love". I didn't say anything but I know he knows my true feelings which is hard. I'm not upset that he slept with someone else, afterall, there is no commitment, and realistically we live an ocean away from each other. Though I am extremely faithful and loyal by nature and am not romantically involved with anyone else so it made me jealous.
He is very good at giving me lots of attention when he has the time. His mind games seem like tests, like "how long will it take for her to text me first" or "I'm going to activity like your things on social media and not text you even thought I know you're waiting" sort of things.
His attitude along with mine has been lets just see where this takes us. Though I have to admit its very hard for me, but like I said earlier I don't want my rigidness to get in the way of this great connection I have with someone else. After he confessed to me that he slept with someone else he was back to being himself
You aren't telling us the most important, are you having sex with other people on the side ?click to expand
Posted by cap23Posted by hydorahNo I'm not, though if the right person came along I wouldPosted by cap23
Thank you for your reply! I guess I would say we are friends with benefits? Though obviously not physically because of the distance but we make do lol. It turns out he was being distant because he had slept with someone recently and felt guilty, didn't know how to tell me and was scared to face me. I asked him why we're just friends and he said "are we"? I said yes and then he kind of called me out and said "sometimes you look at me in this way" and I asked him in what kind of way and he said "like someone who is in love". I didn't say anything but I know he knows my true feelings which is hard. I'm not upset that he slept with someone else, afterall, there is no commitment, and realistically we live an ocean away from each other. Though I am extremely faithful and loyal by nature and am not romantically involved with anyone else so it made me jealous.
He is very good at giving me lots of attention when he has the time. His mind games seem like tests, like "how long will it take for her to text me first" or "I'm going to activity like your things on social media and not text you even thought I know you're waiting" sort of things.
His attitude along with mine has been lets just see where this takes us. Though I have to admit its very hard for me, but like I said earlier I don't want my rigidness to get in the way of this great connection I have with someone else. After he confessed to me that he slept with someone else he was back to being himself
You aren't telling us the most important, are you having sex with other people on the side ?click to expand
so, in spirit, you ar having sex with other people on the side
smh
I understand better now
Thank you so much for your response. Patience is tricky for me hahahaha I don't have much of it. But he is very emotional, sensitive, and caring. Always asking questions, always listening I try my best to make it about him when he gives me the chance. When he disappears I get a little panicy I start to wonder what I did wrong, as it's something I don't understand. I guess I need to just though it out.
Posted by hydorahdue to the distance I feel like it would unrealistic to ask him to not have any sort of relationship with anyone else. Though neither of us are activity seeking other partners he slept with an old relationship a few days ago which is why he was avoiding me. I told him I was not angery and I believe he geniunly felt bad, we haven't set any rules on anything not sure if we even should?Posted by cap23Posted by hydorahNo I'm not, though if the right person came along I wouldPosted by cap23
Thank you for your reply! I guess I would say we are friends with benefits? Though obviously not physically because of the distance but we make do lol. It turns out he was being distant because he had slept with someone recently and felt guilty, didn't know how to tell me and was scared to face me. I asked him why we're just friends and he said "are we"? I said yes and then he kind of called me out and said "sometimes you look at me in this way" and I asked him in what kind of way and he said "like someone who is in love". I didn't say anything but I know he knows my true feelings which is hard. I'm not upset that he slept with someone else, afterall, there is no commitment, and realistically we live an ocean away from each other. Though I am extremely faithful and loyal by nature and am not romantically involved with anyone else so it made me jealous.
He is very good at giving me lots of attention when he has the time. His mind games seem like tests, like "how long will it take for her to text me first" or "I'm going to activity like your things on social media and not text you even thought I know you're waiting" sort of things.
His attitude along with mine has been lets just see where this takes us. Though I have to admit its very hard for me, but like I said earlier I don't want my rigidness to get in the way of this great connection I have with someone else. After he confessed to me that he slept with someone else he was back to being himself
You aren't telling us the most important, are you having sex with other people on the side ?
so, in spirit, you ar having sex with other people on the side
smh
I understand better nowclick to expand
Posted by cap23@capvirgi
Thank you so much for your response. Patience is tricky for me hahahaha I don't have much of it. But he is very emotional, sensitive, and caring. Always asking questions, always listening I try my best to make it about him when he gives me the chance. When he disappears I get a little panicy I start to wonder what I did wrong, as it's something I don't understand. I guess I need to just though it out.
Posted by KoniuchaaIt's hard to say what it is? What would you describe it as in your opinion?
Until you actually meet in person, it's hard to call it a relationship. Maybe that is just me
Posted by KoniuchaaPosted by cap23Just someone you know I guess. You really need that physical presence for a connection, I think.Posted by KoniuchaaIt's hard to say what it is? What would you describe it as in your opinion?
Until you actually meet in person, it's hard to call it a relationship. Maybe that is just me
I'm being funny now, but what if he has smelly feet?click to expand
LMFAO hahahahaha ?
I guess I'd make him buy some anti fungal spray or something? ?
Posted by cap23listen he feels bad about himself because he had sex ith another person, that means he is kinda invested into this relationship, how do you think he'd feel knowing that the same thing can happen for you.Posted by hydorahdue to the distance I feel like it would unrealistic to ask him to not have any sort of relationship with anyone else. Though neither of us are activity seeking other partners he slept with an old relationship a few days ago which is why he was avoiding me. I told him I was not angery and I believe he geniunly felt bad, we haven't set any rules on anything not sure if we even should?Posted by cap23
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so, in spirit, you ar having sex with other people on the side
smh
I understand better now
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This LDR thing is not good with pisces.
Update: I tried calling things off with him but it didn't really work, I told him I liked him more than I should, and I needed sometime because I was a little depressed and he then tried to cheer me up then I felt guilty for trying to cut him off. To be honest I wasn't expecting him to hold on and try to cheer me up so he caught me off guard. He said he'll text me tomorrow not sure what to do at this point.
Posted by cheekyfaerieThis is another thing I've been worried about in the back of my mind, how could we ever get to know each other really when he's not even a citizen? He could only be here at most for 3 months at a time which since he works isn't realistic. Would you mind telling me more about your experience? How close were you guys when you decided to get married ect. Seems like I'm talking to my future self
American Cappy here who fell in love with an English Pisces.
Run.
Two years of long distance. We had to get married so we could proper date. It's expensive, it's time consuming and imo, ultimately not worth it. It's one thing to have a relationship established and have to go through a period of long distance for work or whatever. It's a whole other story trying to get a relationship off the ground and maintain it.
Posted by cheekyfaerieThank you for sharing your story with me! It sounds exactly like what we are about to be getting into with the visiting and all. Is it something he pushed more? If you don't mind me asking were you guys able to finish the marriage process?
It's weird. We met thru a message board for a director we both liked. We'd known of each other for a few years thru it before we started to get pretty flirty. We began messaging and, a few months later, began talking on the phone. Can't remember how long that went on before we decided to meet, but I went over there for a week to start. Six months later, he came to the US. Six months after that, I went to see him again. As you can imagine, that got really expensive really fast. But it wasn't enough. The only feasible option we could think of was to file for a marriage visa.
In retrospect, it was out of desperation. An online relationship, particularly one with a 6hr time difference, is time consuming. It didn't take long after meeting each other that it started to consume most of our free time. Even still, that only amounts to so much, when you can't physically see one another. It made us strangely codependent. The frustration of the distance and all that entailed was building and it wasn't pretty. It was throw our hands up or do something drastic time and we chose the latter.
I'd like to think I'd be smarter about it now. Even without learning the hard way. We were both pretty young then. Now I have an aversion to any sort of distance and, while I try not to be too much of a killjoy for others, it's hard not to. When you've been there and know the pitfalls, ya know.
Anyway, we were doomed from the start. The courting and the legalities and the moving is only the first bit. Then there's the not being able to leave the country for a year after and the no working for 3mths while your work visa gets sorted... it's a weird, stressful way to start a life together.
Posted by hydorahDo you have any advice on how to talk to him about this? I tried to talk to him about it and he seemed guarded, I asked him how he would feel if I slept with someone else and he said he had no right to be jealous...but what he feels is right and what he feels are two different things. Am I possibly overthinking?Posted by cap23listen he feels bad about himself because he had sex ith another person, that means he is kinda invested into this relationship, how do you think he'd feel knowing that the same thing can happen for you.Posted by hydorahdue to the distance I feel like it would unrealistic to ask him to not have any sort of relationship with anyone else. Though neither of us are activity seeking other partners he slept with an old relationship a few days ago which is why he was avoiding me. I told him I was not angery and I believe he geniunly felt bad, we haven't set any rules on anything not sure if we even should?Posted by cap23
(...)
so, in spirit, you ar having sex with other people on the side
smh
I understand better now
This LDR thing is not good with pisces.click to expand
Posted by cap23Posted by hydorahDo you have any advice on how to talk to him about this? I tried to talk to him about it and he seemed guarded, I asked him how he would feel if I slept with someone else and he said he had no right to be jealous...but what he feels is right and what he feels are two different things. Am I possibly overthinking?Posted by cap23listen he feels bad about himself because he had sex ith another person, that means he is kinda invested into this relationship, how do you think he'd feel knowing that the same thing can happen for you.Posted by hydorahdue to the distance I feel like it would unrealistic to ask him to not have any sort of relationship with anyone else. Though neither of us are activity seeking other partners he slept with an old relationship a few days ago which is why he was avoiding me. I told him I was not angery and I believe he geniunly felt bad, we haven't set any rules on anything not sure if we even should?Posted by cap23
(...)
so, in spirit, you ar having sex with other people on the side
smh
I understand better now
This LDR thing is not good with pisces.
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at one point someone has to make a jump, but if your only perspective is LDR, maybe it's doomed from the start?
How can you say that you have amazing chemistry when you guys haven't met in real life?
Posted by Pisces1803I think it's more about an emotional connection. We enjoy a lot of the same things, have the same beliefs, same sexual interests, he knows exactly how to talk to me and make me feel comfortable. He reads me very well, always knows what I'm feeling and can push through my shyness. I've never met someone who can get to me like he does.
How can you say that you have amazing chemistry when you guys haven't met in real life?
it's very hard to explain as this is the first time I've experienced this.
Posted by SweetSauceThank you for your response I am very much afraid of failure, part of me says its long distance and will never work, but the dreamer in me says maybe we can. I've let my rigidness get in the way of of wonderful relationships before and I've deeply regretted it. Just wondering if I'm making the same mistake by trying to end things with him as well.Posted by cap23you played mind games with him so he played then with you? thats a caps game.
I am Capricorn girl, whose fallen for a Pisces guy, and its complicated.
Its long distance, and we are not in an exclusive relationship or anything, just started talking one day and actually, have yet to meet in person. Let me start off by saying everything about our relationship has been new to me, I constantly find myself breaking my own rules for him. Normally I would never think to be romantic with someone who doesn't live in the same country as me, let alone send him sexy photos, and all that kind of stuff, but he is very charming, super romantic, and knows exactly what I like, and enjoys it too. He helps me be more open, and for some reason he can just get things out of me that no one else can. I adore him, hearing from him makes my day, and I constantly catch myself day dreaming of him, which is all extremely out of character for me.
We have been talking everyday for a little over a month, text messages, phone calls, skype, that sort of thing. Things were going really well I thought, we were even talking about him coming to visit me in the fall. But the last few days he's been very distant, though yesterday he did text me first but it was hardly a conversation and he left me hanging. Today was the first day in a long time that he didn't text me at all, ignored my instagram posts, and didn't try to call (though I know he was activily on IG).
The last time he did this I just let it be and didnt say anything to him (which was super hard), and he came back with 10x the excitement and passion for me. But this time around its really hurting me. He has also played little mind games with me before that I HATE and normally would not tolerate whatsoever, but like i said i always find myself making exceptions for him.
the best thing for you is do what you want to do. dont depend on opinions and others failures off of the internet.
it is what you want. dont fool yourself here. dont be scared of failure.click to expand
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Its long distance, and we are not in an exclusive relationship or anything, just started talking one day and actually, have yet to meet in person. Let me start off by saying everything about our relationship has been new to me, I constantly find myself breaking my own rules for him. Normally I would never think to be romantic with someone who doesn't live in the same country as me, let alone send him sexy photos, and all that kind of stuff, but he is very charming, super romantic, and knows exactly what I like, and enjoys it too. He helps me be more open, and for some reason he can just get things out of me that no one else can. I adore him, hearing from him makes my day, and I constantly catch myself day dreaming of him, which is all extremely out of character for me.
We have been talking everyday for a little over a month, text messages, phone calls, skype, that sort of thing. Things were going really well I thought, we were even talking about him coming to visit me in the fall. But the last few days he's been very distant, though yesterday he did text me first but it was hardly a conversation and he left me hanging. Today was the first day in a long time that he didn't text me at all, ignored my instagram posts, and didn't try to call (though I know he was activily on IG).
The last time he did this I just let it be and didnt say anything to him (which was super hard), and he came back with 10x the excitement and passion for me. But this time around its really hurting me. He has also played little mind games with me before that I HATE and normally would not tolerate whatsoever, but like i said i always find myself making exceptions for him.
I'm wondering if it would be best for my sanity to end things with him. Though we have amazing chemistry a relationship with him would be extremely hard and its probably a bad sign that I'm already getting jealous and butthurt over stupid small things now. Also does it sound like he could possibly be getting over me? Is this my hint to let go? I've been hurt by a Pisces man before, and it hurt so bad, but sometimes I still regret ending things with him. Am I letting my insecurities and rigidness get in the way of something special?
Thank you so much for reading and I would greatly appreciate any advice given!