Confusedgirl and others ......

This may be difficult to understand and perhaps one would have to be a Pisces to fully grasp it .. but, a Fish can just swim away, at any time, no matter how deeply connected they were at one point .. a Pisces can just severe the cord.

We are experiencers, and that's all .. that's all we want out of life, from anything, or anybody .. to just experience the moment because our moments of joy come in random eruptions, that can change within seconds. Every second that a new thought or awareness pops in our head, or a feeling surfaces (which is often) .. we leave behind what was previous at heart, to feel at heart this new experience. >>> something new is in front of us and we want to embrace it for everything there is to feel with it, for it, for us.

A Pisces doesn't look at things in terms of success, or a gain, or a security .. we don't have a plan, nor want one. To make a plan of our future, or of our lives .. means we are focusing on something that isn't here right now .. and what is here right now we will miss experiencing because we were concerned about something that isn't here to feel yet.

It isn't uncommon for a Pisces to swim away from something right when it's going its very best .. on top of the world, complete happiness, success >>> and swim away. And it's because, like I've said, we only want to experience life .. not hold it, not mold it, not use an achievement for further gain. We don't care about gain in terms of it leading to something else .. we care about how it makes us feel, right here, right now.

That's ^^^ how we can just walk away from a job that is incredible and we are succeeding, that's how we can walk away from a relationship that is loving and beautiful, soulful .. because we don't care about tomorrow, tomorrow isn't here.


We connect, experience, swim .. that's it >> move on to next thing in life to experience.

Don't be sorry that you write in here .... you can come here anytime you feel like you need to express something. It's just that there are hundreds of people here, and every person is going to view your situation according to their perspective .. and not every perspective is going to take a positive/supportive slant. >> enables us to continue being confused.

If you feel like you need to express all the things you have milling around in your head, and heart, to find your right path in life, and in so doing, you need to talk in here .... then I encourage you to do so, because sometimes just getting it out, without any responses in return, can be effective is clearing all the chatter out of your head, so you can begin to sort everything out.


My only purpose in this post to you, confusedgirl, and others .. is so you all realize that you don't have to do anything "wrong" to us, or in a relationship, for us to swim away from you. Sometimes, oftentimes actually, we swim away when it is going perfect, and right .... so we can take these wonderful feelings with us forward, rather than waiting until a relationship has run its course and is dwindling, and taking those "bad" feelings to carry forward with us.

When it has reached its height, it peaks >>> is when we like to swim, before it starts to wither/diminish.

So, I just wanted you to know this ... so you don't think its something you have done to him to make him leave.

I guarantee you, being a Pisces myself, he will cherish what quality you brought to his life .... for the rest of his life, whether you ever see him again, or not

You're welcome, SD 🙂 ... and you are correct, Ian. My post here isn't really about saying the he left her ... only to explain that if he did, while everything seemed to be getting better .. why he would so do, and it's not unusual for us to swim away like that.


Another thing that has to do with the endings of relationships with Pisceans, references the same thing = feelings.

Sometimes, Pisces do get into relationships in which are spiralling downwards before we decide to bail .. sometimes, especially if we have a lot invested, we will stay for a while to see if we can re-invent the experience. And if we can't, if we can't change ourselves or the relationship to become quality again .. then we'll swim.

However, referencing that ^^^ ... we sometimes don't even tell a person that we're ready to swim, because we feel like it's not necessary because the other person should know.

For example: Last year, I asked my husband for a divorce (side note: since then we have found a way to re-invent our relationship, so it's no longer dying) ....... anyway, when I had asked him for one, our relationship had dwindled down so low that we were saying bad things about each other to other people, being unkind and inconsiderate to each other. It was quickly becoming a horrid experience .. but, because I had so much invested (time, grandchildren, property), that I had stayed to this bitter end, despite myself, and him.

Anyway, that ^^^ is the brief history to make my point. When the day came that I finally told him I wanted a divorce, I'll never forget it, we were sitting at a restaurant, waiting for our food .... and he was shocked .... SHOCKED !!!!!!! He didn't recognize why I would say this to him, confused.

He had no awareness of what he was feeling, of what this meant. To me, words don't HAVE to be present to KNOW that a relationship is over, and I am perfectly capable of just leaving a person in the lurch ... that is their lurch of not verbalizing to them .. because from my perspective, a person should just KNOW it's over because the feelings between him and me have dimished.


So, to connect this to the messege of this thread, in referencing the ending of relationships with Pisceans .. if we do stay with you, eventhough it's dying .. when we do decide we've tried enough and it's not going to work out >>> can swim without verbal warning, because to us ... you're feelings should have told you long before we hit the sea that you were unhappy.

P I want to ask you a question connected to this.

I agree with everything you said, just wondered how badly do you think it affects us if the OTHER person bails before we've had a chance to experience all that we wanted. You know if things are good from our end but not theirs.

I only wonder because I it freaks me out if they end it, not because I'm so in love blah blah but because it wasn't me who finished it - as in I wanted to see where it went, and if it didn't go anywhere then I wanted it to be me who swam away.

Just musing I guess, and after what you said wondering if it's because it stops us from experiencing all that we wanted to, and not being able to call time on the relationship/situation whatever it is ourselves - rather having that "choice" taken away from us.

I know it bugs the shit out of me and then some, so much so I have in the past "fought" to get someone or something back, got what I wanted..........and then once I was done with them/it swam anyway.

Just wanted your perspective, you were right on the ball above as always. 🙂

P.S. or is this yet another shitty trait of venus in aries lol. 😛

Confused, we Fish can remain detached from things that are important to us for long periods of time. I know that doesn't help you in any way, but, I just wanted to tell you that.

For example: I can go years and years without talking to family members and dear friends .. and it doesn't change how I feel about them at all. A Pisces can "feel" all the way down to their souls about a person, and still remain de-tached from them in the physical sense.

^^^^^ because we are completely feeling-based, we're totally happy living with just how we feel about a person, and don't HAVE to interact with this person.


I know that doesn't help you right now, and I'm sorry 😢 .. but, I just to let you know that he could very well still be feeling you, and loving you, without even talking to you.


On one hand, I'd say don't chase him down, don't contact him ... while on the other, I'd say do contact him and tell him that you want to see him, and spend time with him

"how badly do you think it affects us if the OTHER person bails before we've had a chance to experience all that we wanted. You know if things are good from our end but not theirs"



I don't really think it affects us in an adverse fashion, really. It may take longer to put it into a perspective than if we end it, but, I don't think it makes us not be able to swim away with experience memories in tact for us to live within how this relationship felt.



"rather having that "choice" taken away from us."
"I have in the past "fought" to get someone or something back, got what I wanted..........and then once I was done with them/it swam anyway."


That ^^^^^ is all ego, and not really having to do with an emotional experience to carry forward for the Fish .. for if you were able to get your ego to get past this rejection, then you'd still be able to have your emotional memory of the true experience.


It's hard to imagine, for me, that a Pisces would have a difficult time with rejection. Take for instance, Sweet-T, your experience with your mate who didn't come to bat for you when you were getting punched ... by her doing that, it was in essence, abandoning you, or forsaking the friendship with you, for her to make a stand for you, for you standing up for her, and the principal of the convictions in which compelled you to even make this stand in the first place.

In that scenerio .. your pride wasn't injured at all about being clocked, and even came in here with no embarassement, or remorse to tell us about it, without effecting your ego at all. What did happen was that your Piscean self, naturally, put this experience in proper perspective for you to carry forward with future friends.


::: sighs :::

As much as we would like to say that we have conquered our egos .. we haven't, and probably nobody can while living in this human existence.

I wrote this for someone else .. but, others have been asking me to clarify of late, so it was easier for me to research, rather than re-write.