Dating a Pisces woman

Hi Guys,

I needs some help. I have been dating a Pisces young lady for sometime now. We had a bit of a break for about a year and a half. We decided to get back together over the summer,had a lot of fun. Then one day in August I happen to drop her off at work. Since that day in August she has disappeared. I have tried calling her she will not answer her phone. I tried different times of the day and night showing up at her house as well not home or wouldn"t answer the door. I then decided to send her a letter stating to her how much I need her and love her. I had also asked her to come to a surprise party for my cousin whom she met and liked. 5 months have sinced passed no call nothing. I then decided to text message her on her cell phone. I stated to her the following message that I love you""

She finally text me back and says WHO ARE YOU" I know she knew it was me, She was playing games I think? I then text message her back stating to her it was me. She tells me to stop calling her, And that she is getting married. Now I know damm well this can"t be true because it took us a long time to get close and for her to trust me.

My question to you fellow Pisces is what do you think is going on? Keep in mind when she diappeared on me back in August everthing seemed Great. I feel the way she is treating me is as if I am being punished for something I didn"t do. I realize Pisces are very emotional. I think she may be just testing me to see if What I have said and stated to her is real, that I want to be with her the rest of my life. I am angry with her and yet a part of me understands her. My question to you guys is what should I do next.

I KNOW ROMANCE IS A BIG WORD IN YOUR HOUSE DOES WHAT I AM GOING THRU BE CONSIDER HER WAY OF SPICING THINGS UP""

What should I do choices below

(a) Call her back yell and scream to show how hurt I am?
(b) Show up at her house demanding to see her
(c) Don"t do anything let her realize what she did to me was wrong.

Please help Any woman Pisces Please respond

thanks

bob7965

do nothing is my advice pisces or not apparently she does not want you i knoe it hurts but speaking from experience when someone doesn't want me the pursuing and agonizing just eats away rapidly at my self respect and self esteem, and from the other side, if i don't want somone and they keep haunting me it quickly turns any feelings i mighthave had into total disrespect for them and makes me label them stalkers and phychos you don't want to feel that way i'd think, i'm sure it's nothing you've done,or not done it's just her and she obviously just wants you to leave her alone. i'm sorry i know it hurts

I think this guy is too late to do anything.

haffo i agree, but he's going to end up with a restraining order if he keeps up with the calls, messages etc. she obviously does not want to have contact with him i don't care what her sign is. it's sad, cause he seems very desperate.
But Bob as hard as it can be, just leave her alone, maybe she is getting married, and I'm sorry but you're going to get yourself into a lot of trouble if you keep uo with the pursuit. It doesn't sound like she's "playing games" if she were playing games she would respond once in awhile just to keep you on the hook. I think she's serious

Yup.

Time has come to respect her mental freedom and leave her alone as she asking him to do.

You know, staying and bugging her is another way of psychological torture.

I just wrote a whole long thing and lost it, darn! but i guess it was meant to be. Haffo, Bob hasn't written anymore, hope he's ok, but maybe just didn't get the responses he wanted to hear.such as Pisces woman are all, what's the word they use on here? cookie monsters? Bob, we're not, we're usually very nice and way too sensitive.
but if it's any help at all i know how much it hurts but sometimes we just need to give up. I've driven myself crazy with the "I don't understand what happened" thing to the point where I don't end up hating the other person, but end up hating myself. Very self-destructive, (as IS one of our more negative traits" at least for me, I can't speak for all. Haffo are you male or female? I haven't been on this thing for too long so not up on a lot, but it's interesting to hear the male point of view. but I totally agree with the psychological torture, unfortunately and ultimately the pyschological torture will turn back on oneself.
actually i keep logging on and off this thing to see if Desert Fox has continued his tale, I'm very intrigued.

Yeah maybe he was expecting a someone to show him a support and help him to boost his emotional roller coaster situation which at the end would end up restoring his smashed ego again.

And I am male.

" actually i keep logging on and off this thing to see if Desert Fox has continued his tale, I'm very intrigued."

Well if he has gone again as he did last time (was couple of month ago), then it might take some time before he shows up again.lol.

haffo, i thought so. when's your birthday? mine's march 3rd, very easy i tell all my friends, 3 3 so easy to remember. my name is Diane and a lot of my friends, so cliche, call me Lady Di and last year got me a tiara to wear when they took me out to dinner. They said they were REAL diamonds and emeralds, I'm SURE they wouldn't lie to me now would they?? lol
and yeah, i think we lost Bob, he's too busy trying to figure out what message, flowers, stalker note he can send her now "just to be sure" cause she just might be totally in love with him but just "testing" his fidelity.
Oh that was soooooooooo sarcastic, sorry Bob but I re-read the message you wrote and please,please,please give up, for your sake, you're just torturing yourself. Yes, you have to go through the pain and yes it hurts like hell, but you'll get over it. I had a friend years ago who blew his brains out because his girlfriend broke up with him and it's many years later and I keep thinking "he would've gotten over it" and damn, it breaks my heart. I think I'm probably older(I prefer to use the word wiser) than a lot of you who write on these, mid 40, but after getting married really young, having three kids really young, having my husband leave me really young, and going through numberous, a couple very serious, relationships that sometimes broke my heart into a million pieces, i've still got to believe that even though the pain is sometimes unbearable and you think you can't possibly live through that kind of pain you sometimes do and then, you never know what's around the corner. I always think of my friend and what he might have missed out on, i know that if i had totally given up on my life and hope that there would have been so many joyful wonderful experiences that have far outweighed the pain
So please Bob, get some people to talk to, vent scream rant rave cry but know that there's many things ahead, maybe wonderful things and better people than this girl that might bring you more happiness than you ever could have dreamed of

Although im a scorp I agree with APW,but decided to let pisceseans say because it'd be nicer and im "offensive" apparently.

Umm... August was like 5 months ago Bob. A game may be played over 5 hours or even 5 days, 5 weeks would really be pushing it but 5 MONTHS?

"We had a bit of a break for about a year and a half."

A bit of a break?

Surely this is a joke but if it's not, I think it's time to walk away Bob. It's over Dude.

Sorry if you found me to be... offensive

Although im a scorp I agree with APW,but decided to let pisceseans say because it'd be nicer and im "offensive" apparently.

Aww TIA! We love you for your honesty...even if it hurts sometimes.

This topic reminds me of this song by Mary J. Blige..."Be Without You Baby"

Now, everytime I hear this song...I am ready to puke! I just don't understand the concept of "not being able to be without someone." It could be because I was a military brat and never stayed in any place for too long so forming life long connections is hard for me or it could be because I haven't found the "right" person who makes me feel this way...I really don't know. BUT the phrase itself seems so co-dependent and lame lame lame.

I may think from time to time about people I really cared about but I don't feel like my life would be over if any one person (especially a mate) left me. I would just cry and get over it. For instance, my baby's father...I miss him alot. I have dreams about him, think about him almost daily, etc. but if he doesn't want me in the same way I want him...I really don't want him.

As far as this guy goes...I really don't have anything to say that others here haven't already, so I won't beat a dead horse. But I will send you a BIG HUG! And I hope the pain goes quickly Bob...🙂

Oh yeah, APW...do you think your friend had some major issues besides the girlfriend leaving?

Cancerlady, to answer your question....yes absolutely..he was heavy into drugs and drinking...and combine that with low self esteem and not thinking rationally and bam! blow your brains out. but that's the scary part, so many of us to fight the feelings of rejection pain etc will look to escape it, at least that's what the pisces thing always says, but i think it's human nature also. who the hell wants to feel pain? so yeah he was messed up for sure, but speaking frankly, Bob doesn't sound like he's got it all together here, with his rationality, he thinks she's playing games when it's been 5 months and she tx's "who are you" he's living in quite a delusional world in my opinion and i know that sounds so cruel and unsympathetic, but he really needs to talk to someone i think other than these boards to ask "if she's playing games and testing his love", it's scary, someone like that could truly hurt themselves or someone else

Mine is March 16th. Nice to meet you Diane.🙂

Unfortunately I can't reveal my true name, because there are some people here who would use that in their bad ways. Hope you will understand.

Yeah, I definetly agree that not just this guy causes psychological torture to that girl but he also causes the same torture to himself! Didn't thought it that way, but that's true.

"but after getting married really young, having three kids really young, having my husband leave me really young, and going through numberous, a couple very serious, relationships that sometimes broke my heart into a million pieces, i've still got to believe that even though the pain is sometimes unbearable and you think you can't possibly live through that kind of pain you sometimes do and then, you never know what's around the corner."

That's the same smell that I always feel in my noise yes. I perfectly understand that if a person is not self sufficient and self contanied, there is very big probability that this person will get hurt bad because this person will always look for happines in the outside rather than inside. Inside happines mechanism is very important. That is what keeps us alive. I find it pretty tactless to initiate some relationship when you seek happiness in someone else.

"I find it pretty tactless to initiate some relationship when you seek happiness in someone else."

Altought not everyone has the power of "choice".

haffo, nice to meet you also, understand about the real name thing, but as far as i know there's no one I know that would go on this thing or even know about it. I found it totally by chance, and oh well, even if they do, i feel like "so what?" if i happen to say anything that they think is them, well...what's the saying? if the shoe fits lol
and yes sometimes the choice is misconstrued i suppose. I've had guys pursue pursue pursue who act and speak and do everything else to show me that they are "princes" and then...once they reel in the fish so to speak, that's truly all they wanted, and i'm not just talking about sex, i mean they for whatever reasons, need their egos completed i suppose by "snagging another one" and then they move on. Which has left me with that Bob question" i don't understand, everything was so great" and i've gone through the pain and torture that i spoke of in my own mind. oh god, just thought of something, just tell me that your name is not gary and i can rest easily. if it is this guy then i am off of here so fast your head would spin. after one date with this guy he decided to do some "testing" of his own called me once and then waited a few days to see if i would call. meanwhile i had a hell week at work working till 7-7:30 every night from 7 in the morning, a good friend dropped dead at 42 years old, and my daughter was going through some stuff. so he wrote me this unbelievably nasty email about how inconsiderate i was etc and one line i won't forget "I dont care WHAT your week was like" you could have called me. This was after 1 date i'll remind you. and i just remembered his birthday was 3/16, so if this is him, aaahhhhhhhhhhhh

my best friend is a pisces and i can tell you she would never do something like this. pretending she's not home and not responding to phone calls and so on.
she's really straight and forward, much more than i am (which is funny, because i'm an aries and supposed to be up front).😉

Unless your from turkey I don't think you have to worry about haffo.

ok good no i'm not from turkey, although i like turkey, ok it's early and i'm in a rush to get to work and the brain's not working yet
it just suddenly struck me, one of those, "Oh crap, it would really be a horrible coincidence if this was that guy" how's everyone today? No word back from Bob, oh well hope he's ok and honestly i think he should seek professional help and i'm not being cruel, but he needs some sane guidance other than these boards, i mean we're great and everything lol, but he needs someone to really tell him realistically that she, the pisces girl, is totally over him

So Bob where'd you go? Did you finally give up on the girl who obviously has moved on? I hope so,for your sake, but you never wrote back, wondering how you're feeling about all this, i think u didn't get the answers you wanted. Don't give up on yourself, she's not worth it, no one is worth self destructing)and maybe ending up in jail) over.
Hope to hear back, there's other fish in the sea (no pun intended) and actually some of us fish people are really nice and caring esp when we find the right person.

Hi Guys,

Thanks for you feedback. I am fine. I realize if it was meant to be we wouldn't be having this conversation. I have realized this now.

Thanks again""

bob