How to catch a Scorpion

Because I want one. I really, really do. 😉 I posted this over on the Pisces board cause I'm a Pisces lady. But I wanted to get the opinions of the Scorps themselves.

Several years ago I was terribly hurt by a Scorp and he has come back into my life. Back then I wasn't really looking for anything serious, but now I am. Our relationship was very volatile and intense, so the good times were beyond compare and the bad times were incredibly awful. Right now we are just talking, but I don't know whether to tell him that I'm looking for a serious relationship and get it over with (so he can run away) or see if we can just be friends. If he is looking for something serious too, hey great...but I have a feeling that he isn't. He's never been big on monogamy.

There is a strong sexual attraction between the two of us, and it would be difficult to ignore it which would mess up the friendship. GAH! So, yeah anyway, I'm confused.

When we were together before it was so rough on me emotionally because he was so damn undependable, and I can't deal with that again. Oh yeah, and the lying didn't help. But, I don't know...there's just a strange bond there. We complete each other's sentences and can pick up on each other's feelings.

And, of course, the sex is FANTASTIC. 😉

So thoughts? Opinions?

funny...my relationship with a scorp (i'm a cap) was very intense starting on volatile. we just broke up. we also have a VERY strong sexual attraction and can pickup on each others feelings. even though he came on to me in the beginning like no other man has ever come on to me and made me believe that he was the one, he now has turned completely around and wants no more of us. and i also have to say the sex was beyond fantastic. what i trying to say is that i think this is the effect scorpio has on others. i wish i could say you were special to this man, but i beginning to understand the dynamics of a relationship with a scorpio. i would say tell him what it is you want, but still keep your eyes open to the truths of what you know about him already. people rarely change even though we wish they would. good luck. but just to let you know, i miss my scorpio so much. i truly thought he was my soulmate. my heart is broken, but if he would come back to me tomorrow, i would have a hard time overlooking what he has done to me. one who lies, will always lie.

Sirengirl, after reading your post, I completely understand what you're going through. I feel the biggest thing Water signs have to learn is when to let go. When feel that powerful connection with another person, we tend to make excuses for them, still holding on to the joy we felt from the strong feelings.

Ask yourself, do you really want to experience the stress you get from your Scorpio being undependable? Lying in a relationship is not healthy at all, how can you trust him?

I've learned that you're going to encounter people that you experience a strong bond, but if they aren't good for you, it's best to move on. They're just going to drag you down.

Pato - I tend to think once a liar always a liar too. I guess because it's been several years now, I had hoped maybe he had grown up. But, I don't know.

Sarcastic Scorpio - Yes it is tough for us Water Signs to let go. I guess I never had closure with this guy and I think part of me was thinking maybe I could at least get that from him, it's the least he can do! =P

Actually I had moved on, but then he popped back up. I hate it when people do that. GRR! 😉

Cancer Buddy - Yes Scorpio and Cancer can be a good relationship. It sounds like yours wants to keep you on a string though, until he's ready for something more serious, and that's not fair to you. Trust me. I've been there. I think you are right to not have sex with him until you are sure of his feelings. You would regret it. My advice would be to stay friends with him, but pursue other relationships. If he really wants you, seeing you with someone else will drive him crrrrazy. 😉

Sirengirl,

Scorp's tend to 'POP UP' from out of nowhere sometimes

I dated my Scorp 1 time and didn't care for his opinions,
actions the whole bit. Anyway a year later, he came back in my life and things were different between us.

We got married and things are great. I think it is a matter of timing.

I wouldn't put up with lies one moment, All relastionships need to be built upon respect.

Take care,

c-girl

To Cancerbuddy,

My daughter is married to a Cancer. She is July 2, he is July 1.

Both parties in any relationship need to be in the same place mentally to have a good time together. If your Cancer is having past relationship problems, maybe he needs space and you could be a good friend and it could grow from there.

Take care

c-girl

ah...getting sucked back in by words. how long will it take before you're in the sack again. how long will it take for your relationship to get back to where it was. when will the real scorp come out. (not to put all scorpios in one bunch) i just mean this relationship. let us know where this goes. i do wish you luck. i'm bitter right now. my scorp (rumor has it) has gone back to someone he knew before me. this thread really reflected what's going on in my life right now. spooky. ha...what's your scorps name?

I am not giving my scorp the very cool birthday card that I bought him over 3 months ago with a Harley on it. He has not so much as given me a used kleenex but has given me plenty of heartache to fill a clean one. I am attracted to him but I am getting this extreme resentment when we are together because of his lack of communication and caring. It might be part of his "sign" but, it is what I allow him to do. I am getting really tired of the whole situation. I don't think he is being responsible with his sex either. 😢 Maybe he wants to die.....the regeneration thing is strong with them so there you have it. This relationship has taken a 90 degree turn and we ended up in the shallow end of the pool. Don't like it, don't like it at all. It could have been so much more. This goes against my scorpio moon...big time.

Sorry to hear about your Scorp, Tink.

That's just it with them, they turn on you, or turn you on!!. Fortunately, my Scorp has a Taurus rising so I think it gentle's him down a bit. Of course I wouldn't put up with games one minute from anyone at this point of my life.

I bought my Scorp the real romantic card, (It really makes him melt, even though he HATES to show it) but also a Sponge Bob Square Pants card to keep the humor we share.

You will find someone special don't you worry on little bit!

Hey did you get my e-mail—

Candlegirl

yes...thanks a bunch. His birthday is this Tuesday. I am tempted; have the stamps on the card and it is in my briefcase but I am trying to be strong. I found a Shakespere quote that fits us oh so well: "When I saw you, I fell in love, and you smiled because you knew". He has the most beutiful smile. It reaches down and touches my soul and he knows it! (the baztard!)

t-girl,

When I went out with my Scorp the first time, it didn't work out. I did not 'like' him. About a year later we met again and went out for a couple beers. I thought he had changed and he was easier to talk to and get along with. Later he told me that he was 'SHY'. I know that would not be the word you would probably associate with your Scorp, but maybe the reason they are so shall we say stand offish, it just that, maybe they feel they don't have the skills to live up to us. I to am a professional and my Scorp although well employed was more laid back and I think my travel for business, and 'suits' made him somehow insecure.

I don't have an answer for you, but we worked out. Although you did say yours was a mite irresponsible about the arbitrary sex. That would turn me off completely.

My Scorps birthday is the 13th. What better number huh!

C-girl

CG, It sounds like your scorp has evolved. I don't think this one has. He has a long row to hoe if you know what I mean. He is very immature in many ways. I thought it was cute at first but it is becoming very annoying. Even though he drives me insane, I still love the man or boy, or whatever he is mentally. November 11th....11/11. If you look under birthday astrology at the site horoscopes4u.com it says that the person born on this date demands unconditional love. I believe this to be true. Can anyone live up to that standard? Is it healthy? I believe in tough love!! 🙂

Tikerbell - I hated that about my Scorpio too. I bought him presents all the time for x-mas and his birthday and all I ever got was a bunch of E-Cards AFTER I griped at him for not giving me anything for my birthday. What is the DEAL with this ungenerous streak in Scorpio men? Are they really so self-involved that they just don't think about anyone but themselves?

-Sirengirl

I've said it before and I'll say it again, most scorpio men are trouble. They give as little as possible and then sit back and laugh at you for being such a fool for making the effort when they don't even bother. Call them at their own bluff and move on. Who wants to be content with nothing? For goodness sakes ladies, have some self-respect.

Aprilbaby, there are some people that just have to be right. I will let you know what happens.

Aprilbaby, some people just have to be right. I will let you know what happens. In the mean time, the universe is unfolding as we speak.

i concur with the opinion of the ungenerous scorp, libragirl and sirengirl. the only thing my ex wasn't ungenerous with was his sex, and sometimes that made up for it, but then he got ungenerous with that too. talk about anti-climax.

Yeah they do seem to be very generous with sex. With you and everyone else. LOL A little *too* generous.

I will say that whenever we went out, he would never let me pay. He always paid for dinner, movies, drinks, etc.

There are jerks in every sign....I've had the most horrible experiences with a few Leo and a Taurus. The thing is, though....I've known jerks of literally every sign. And then I've known amazing guys belonging to signs I'm not supposed to be compatible with. There's just too much to each person's horoscope, too many variables...A jerk is a jerk is a jerk...and some of these men sound like jerks, plain and simple, scorpio or aries or gemini or sagittarius, the list goes on.

I've known two very good and kindhearted Scorpio men. Don't worry...they're really, really, really not all like this.

wtf, why can't I spell tonight.....——

"...with a few Leos". Plural...

Well, it's amazing, my scorpion did the same to me...pop back into my life, after all the betrayal he's done...I don't think all are like that just the one's that are not evolved

Well, it's amazing, my scorpion did the same to me...pop back into my life, after all the betrayal he's done...I don't think all are like that just the one's that are not evolved

Wow, it's sounds like you've wrote my history with the scorpion I was with. Scary.

There are jerks in every sign, but i think it's rude to 'betray' you and then expect you to 'go back'.

Scorpian men are a mess...but a cute mess. Hang on baby cuz the ride is rough. get off if you can't handle it. Very emotional ride I must say from experience.

You go c-bud,

Scorp's are a disaster waiting to happen to someone.

BUT, Love brings them around, that is a lot of work though, you must be strong, if you really want this partner.
He must be damaged as we all are in some way. Scorp's think they are the only one's that have been betrayed.

But like I say, Love them if you really want them. But once they are yours do not give up your own independance. Not because they will take the breath out of you, but you will give too much wanting them.

c-girl the LEEBRA!!!

Get a life. Literally...if you stay busy he will pursue you. Who knows you may meet someone and shake him up a bit. Life is more than one person.

Cancerbuddy,

I think you're doing the absolute right thing by not catering to his act, whether he's doing it on purpose or not. Scorpio or not, you can only be expected to take so much from a person. I hope that in the end he somehow rewards you for the work you're putting into the friendship-which-may-become-relationship.

I understand about sudden distance and how off-putting it is. It can be very painful. You're suddenly left wondering, "have I imagined things here? Why the sudden change?" etc. Yep. I know. 😢 People suck sometimes.