delusion or intuition?

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goutte
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Well, I've had an incredibly beautiful friendship with my fellow water baby and astrological soulmate Pisces ^-^ Our relationship seemed fated from jump. We just meshed; linked up on a whole nother level that was/is beyond physical. Psychic and unspoken. Any who.. we developed this sexual tension. We've been very empathic and affectionate towards each other ever since i could remember. After about 4 years of friendship, one night it just happened and we ended up having sex... and it kept going up until now. In the beginning everything was fine.. I wanted us to keep things the way they were.. I loved our friendship too much to even think of risking it by getting feelings involved. Sure, at times I'd be a little confused "maybe i do like him tho...?" But i'd always brush it off... It was never a big enough deal. Never big enough that it beckoned me to contemplate my feelings on a more serious level. I loved him as a friend and I was having fun. That's all I knew.

But my feelings would bubble in waves... causing me to briefly question myself but only to brush it off again. Back in December he told me he had decided to get out of our city and was planning to leave in January to go to New Jersey. I didn't blame him. I was sad but okay with it. I guess he decided against it cos he stayed for 3 more months. In those 3 months it seemed our relationship slightly shifted.. It widened.. Expanded.. deepened.. I thought. We kissed more.. Held hands.. cuddled, talked about anything; had a lot of quality time together. He would play that song permission by ro james, acquainted by the weekend and oui by jeremih when we'd hang out. I mean maybe i was reading into things but i do know people who may not want to verbally say something try to passively get the message across with music.



The rest of the story is continued below! I ran out of room!
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Playing devil's advocate here, oui by Jeremiah is pretty popular right now, it's on the radio every half hour....

But hell, intuition is only something you can sniff out. What helps me is that I usually ask myself if "am I only envisioning and feeling what I want? Within a few seconds of asking myself I tend to know the answer deep down, even if it is not something I want to admit to myself.

As for the point of the question, what is it that you want? You said you just wanted to keep it a sex, now you want a relationship?
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Piscis_Hominis
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Good for you for telling him how you felt. The ball is in his court.

You can't control how he feels but you did something about what you could control and that is admirable, otherwise you would have always wondered.

So now...either he loves you or he loves you not...

1. He likes you but doesn't realize how much
2. He likes you but it's scaring him to confront it (he might be scared to lose you as a friend...and a FWB too...you obviously have a great connection)
3. He doesn't like you more than a friend and you will only and always just be friends
4. He doesn't like your more than a friend, but this might change when he realizes what his life could be with you (while realizing what life is without you)

A lot can happen...stay in touch with him...live your life...date...find another man...if it's meant to be it's meant to be...the ball is in his court...though the court is far away...it's up to him to bring the game closer together if things change on his end.

No regrets!
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goutte
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Posted by Piscis_Hominis
Good for you for telling him how you felt. The ball is in his court.

You can't control how he feels but you did something about what you could control and that is admirable, otherwise you would have always wondered.

So now...either he loves you or he loves you not...

1. He likes you but doesn't realize how much
2. He likes you but it's scaring him to confront it (he might be scared to lose you as a friend...and a FWB too...you obviously have a great connection)
3. He doesn't like you more than a friend and you will only and always just be friends
4. He doesn't like your more than a friend, but this might change when he realizes what his life could be with you (while realizing what life is without you)

A lot can happen...stay in touch with him...live your life...date...find another man...if it's meant to be it's meant to be...the ball is in his court...though the court is far away...it's up to him to bring the game closer together if things change on his end.

No regrets!
Beautiful, thank you 🙂