DILEMA..... OH MY

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Ok I am a Scorpio gal who is very confused at the moment. I was starting to become involved with a Pisces male and things were going fine, quite passionate texts and emails and major flirting. We had kissed a few times and it was clear that we were heading for something sexual. One night things got quite passionate and he got v excited v quickly shall we say (we didn't have sex or anything like that it was just as a result of me kissing him).Well for me too it was EARTHQUAKE WITHOUT THE ACTUAL DEE😱-)Pretty weird b/c actually I never had that happen to me b4 (that intensity it's like I could not breathe:-)
Perhaps that frightened him because suddenly I could feel him distant. He backed off. I wondered if there was an element of embarrassment about the incident even though I took it as a compliment that I turned him on so much.
But still he was v vague with me .I tried to explain that being myself with him involved the usual flirty and touchy feely stuff we were used to and I wasn't sure if that would make him feel uncomfortable. He went out of state for 3 weeks, when he came back he asked me flat out to do it with me. ANOTHER NIGHT he slept at my house NOTHING HAPPEN 😢.he went to sleep, now for a Scorpio girl THAT'S PRETTY CONFUSING: 0(Also I know he still likes me else he wouldn't have commented that he couldn't believe what I do to him physically.
I'm quite impatient and sometimes he would call/text and some day nothing. I am scare to pursue him because I want to give him space. I try to be distant stay very busy with my life so sometime so he could miss me 😢. I don't want to show as desperate. I constantly think about him. I notice lately when I text him about something flirty or sexual he would not reply. And I tend to take that as a rejection. I am beginning to feel as maybe he is not feeling the same anymore. Actually he goes Hot and cold it's pretty confusing. Because when I think about him sometimes I cry because I am thinking I should just stop talking to him but then I go back and forth with my decisions 🙂Now he won't even see me literally he won't come near me. we talked some day on the phone like 5/10min about nothing. I am thinking it just a matter of time b4 we stop talking completly
Any advice? I MAY sound confusing but i am so feeling this man and it's scarry.
I want to win back his interest and affections but would like advice as to the best way to be with a Pisces that gets him keen without scaring him off.
Thanks.
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well the dilema being with my guy is I think we could make but I have to be patient which i am trying . I know Ego and control the power strugles between us . I really have to work on those. But I don't really know what to do . I know we should talk but I think at the begining I was more like a fantasy romance . And just so it's CLEAR I clearly do want him.The thing is wearing emotions on my sleeves can be for me very uncomfortable . I don't like being so transparent, espacially if an atraction is so obvious that you don't even have to tell the person you are feeling him. He does not want to "label our relationship". What i don't know if it worth pursing knowing that he does sent mixed messages sometimes. I am sure that i am not the only one feeling this. We do understand each other and get along well .It really the emotioanal part😢. But if it's going to be like i rather we part before we even began. I may have to let him go.Correction WE MAY HAVE TO LET EACH OTHER GO> We haven't had sex yet BUT I think we've been connected intimatly in ways that we don't have to do it. i think our relationship will be transformative once it's form. And deep down He's not so ready for it. And I am a little scare myself.🙂 I don't know if that make sense but THAT THE WAY I KINd OF SEE IT,.... ANY OTHER INPUTS/OPINIONS WILL BE MORE THAN WELCOME
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Well my heart is torn...😢 between try to reach a way or give up and move on.
my guts says we are not ready for this, i can't speak for him but i torn. I understand you beyond words. I feel weak sometimes in away because I am very strong I usually very good at making decision, specially cutting stuff,peoples not worth my Precious time. But with him I constantly fighting with my self.... . I tend to cry a lot because i am not able to evaluate for feeling inside that are runing so high I can't seem to rationalize.
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At the same time , we communicate WITHOUT Communicate. I like it because he don't have to verbalize what he feels . I feel it,one look at each other and we know.It a weird , pretty intense connection... But we respect each's other emotions. I have a great deal of repect for his freedon and individual rights.I don't want to disturb the way it should be. I want to be careful no to work on the feelings too much, I tend to constantly analyze what it should be. If it meant to be it will and if not i will be ok. The crying is mental way to get ready for whatever may come (whether is parting 😢 or else)🙂........
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Here's the deal ..


The first paragraph was describing attraction based off of sexual interest ..

Second paragraph explains that you are fliry touchy/feely and this is your normal ways (which I find weird that you would explain this to him as though this needs to be justified) ... at this point, nowhere in the description so far does it sound like he is getting weirded out because of your flirty/touchy/feely-ness .. yet, for some reason, after his 3 week absence, you feel compelled to explain this to him .... he responds by saying, "Let's do it" ... he didn't, and this has left you confused.

What really stands out in my mind when I read all the above is this quote .."when I text him about something flirty or sexual he would not reply. And I tend to take that as a rejection."


Something you're not understanding here about Pisces people .. we aren't going to connect with a person based on sexual attraction ALONE. When you talk to him (email/texts) .... you communicate to him using these flirty/sexual induendos ... and while you recognize that this is when he pulls away, at the same time, you keep doing it and saying that it's confusing.

I should imagine that he's mentioned something like this to you before, because you were compelled to explain to him that this is how you are ... so, for what reason are you confused?

He wants to connect with you for real ... not on the superficial ego-based level of using sexual promisciuty as some sort of weapon to trap him emotionally.

You want him to take you seriously? Then cut all the sexual and flirty comments you give him and be real. Other signs often respond to emotional manipulation through "playing" with sexual "Chase and Catch" games .. however, Pisces is not one of them.


And this seems very apparant in this situation .... for you are laying in his bed, after giving him sexual signals .. and he's not taking your "bait".
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"I want to win back his interest and affections but would like advice as to the best way to be with a Pisces that gets him keen without scaring him off."


First of all ... Pisces can't be won over, so you'll have to put this out of your head, for if it's present then your approach will be the "Chase and Catch" game.

What frightened him was the .. use sex as a weapon .. mind-set. Pisces people have no interest in connecting with a person for this reason, unless it's to just get laid ....


You want him to talk to you? Then don't game him either physically, or verbally that is based around trying to secure him emotionally through your sexuality.

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Yet for some reason after 3 week absence, he respond let's do it. Well I thought him asking was his way of saying that he had missed I could be so far off ? thinking stuffs that does not exit...😢?_ maybe he asked me to see what I would say, where my head was??.

Something you are not understood here about Pisces people... we aren?_t going to connect with a person based on sexual attraction Alone.... Well heck I don?_t do that either.
P. Angel do you think he is only think I am a piece of meat?? That he is only attraction toward me is SEXUAL..... I thing we are more than that. I have a special bond with him.

I should imagine that he?_s mentioned something like this to you, because you were compelled to explained to him that this is how you are... well because one time we were talking about something and he said ??I don?_t do teasing games ? and that the reason ??I do no go to strip club ??; he claimed that he does not see the point of it, he would not put himself on that state....he would go with his friend just for the sake. Then I said, well teasing is good because it?_s a way of building up?: and he said he does not need that his imagination is enough?

So for what reason are you confused? My confusing if he asked and he came at the house but did not deliver WTF??/ If this is not confusion I don?_t know what is—??

At this point I am expecting much.... If I ever get the opportunity to talk to him again I will NOT use any way form or shape. Will act as a good old friend. No pressure, no advances which should be real FUN. You said to be real— What is that I was doing—
So you think I am the only way playing here? These Pisces man do not go with the flow
I do want to think everyone for they imput. Will apply. thanks
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UPDATE🙂 My Pisces called me 3 xs yesterday after a week of silence. I did not pick up , it?_s not that I did not want to?_ , it?_s because I had no idea what to say without being all emotional ?_( (screaming , dead silence on the line, crying ect.....). Then he called again last night. I guess he could not go to sleep without talking to me Aww (wishful thinking?), yah right more like to see if I am still hanging around. I don?_t get when you think you done with them, Suddenly they re-appear out of nowhere :{.Anyway I finally had the guts to talk him , I did not want to be rude? it?_s really not a game it?_s more like a battle with myself that I can?_t help at the moment. OMG this man acts like nothing happen, like no clue :}. he kept probing on what?_s going on, what I did for Easter basically how life in general on my absence WTF> the nerve of him ? and me I was just so happy to talk to him my heart was beating so fast ? I have it bad for this man? I couldn?_t even get or stay angry at him ?_he kills me with his charm, kindness: 0. he said ?? I was calling you all day what?_s up with not answering your phone— and I told him I had left my phone at home .And then I go I kept text you all this time, what?_s up with you not replying?. He goes well when you texted, my phone was dead because my battery had died ? hear yeah right. /? Like who says that—?
Well then I go well I did text you but for some Unknown reason I did not sent it to you. 🙂 ? He goes ??Was that a trick question because I cannot be trick??. Mummm
I was like honey like I don?_t trick people and with you there?_s really no need to ?
He proceeds to tell me how he is going to be busy for the next 3 months traveling around.
What?_s up with Pisces and their travels—My Pisces always on the go, a very adventurous man. He is constantly traveling all over the place driving me nuts. It?_s crazy how all my madness just went away by me just talking to him about stupid stuffs. ? 🙂Gwad Oh Lord helps ME 🙂?
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"eventually he will do something very stupid and I will have to hate him forever and will have no choice but to cut him OFF from ever existing....."


Gawd .. you're such a fucking Scorpio 🙂


"P. Angel do you think he is only think I am a piece of meat?? That he is only attraction toward me is SEXUAL..... I thing we are more than that."

No, I don't think that .. I think that he is thinking that maybe you are thinking along those lines. A Pisces person will look for hidden agendas and motives .. and when he becomes silent when your talk is driven by sexuality, he is analyzing your intentions with him.

However, he is still there, trying to connect with you ... so, this in an indication that he is interested in pursuing his connection with you.

Something you have to understand about Pisces people ... we have to be connected on an emotional level .. HAVE TO. Sex means nothing to us except a lay where we can get anywhere without this connection.

So, for the fact that he's still attempting to relate with you outside of the bedroom is a clear sign that he wants this, and feels this with you ... however, because we don't base relationships around sexuality, then everytime to make these references, he's going to question how deep you are for him.

Women tend to use thier powers of seduction to obtain men .. and this simply doesn't work with a Fish. To reel him in, you'll have to refrain from making sexual induendos with intentions of getting his interest in you.
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n intimate with him yet? If not, please read my reply.

Depth, you said:
"We haven't had sex yet BUT I think we've been connected intimatly in ways that we don't have to do it."

Then you posted that he said:
"... well because one time we were talking about something and he said ??I don?_t do teasing games ? and that the reason ??I do no go to strip club ??; he claimed that he does not see the point of it, he would not put himself on that state....he would go with his friend just for the sake. Then I said, well teasing is good because it?_s a way of building up?: and he said he does not need that his imagination is enough?"

It sounds to me that he doesn't want to get all worked up if he is not going to be intimate with you. I don't doubt that he wants to get to know you (not just in the "biblical" sense), but if he can't control himself when he is with you -- and you amplify his sexual desire for you by saying certain things meant to turn him on -- then that could be why he stays away. He knows full well what the outcome will be and he doesn't want to continue to make a fool of himself. You, on the other hand, appear to him to be in total control and he is not -- you can see and feel literally that he is "ready" so what defense does he have? On the other hand, he doesn't know what's going on with you because you come on like you want to make love, yet you pull back seemingly without a problem.

To him, you are playing a game and if you keep it up, you will lose his respect. And "respect" covers alot of ground with a Piscean. My advice to you is this: If there will be no sex, then you need to stop hinting that there might be just to get his attention. You have to be interesting on other levels. This man is extremely intelligent and intuitive. If all you talk about is sex, then "sex" is all he thinks you are capable of.

Remember, Depth, he told you this in no uncertain terms:
"I do no go to strip club ??; he claimed that he does not see the point of it, he would not put himself on that state".
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"Teasing" to him is just what you are doing if you keep sending him sexual messages and don't deliver when he arrives to pick up the mail. If you want your relationship based on more than him looking at you as if you were a "piece of meat", then stop coming off that way.

🙂
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Depth, there's no mystery here for either of you concerning your physical/sexual attraction to each other.
🙂

I would suggest that you talk about other aspects of his personality and yours. For example: Since he will be away for three months, ask him how he will feel to be away from his home for that long, what's it like to travel so much, what does he do in the new surroundings when he is not working? Maybe you could give him a little disposable camera so that he can take pictures of his trip and when you are together again, you both could talk about the pictures, why he took them, or if he's in any of the pictures, who took those pictures, etc. You'd be surprised how many other topics of conversation could surface just by this one. Talks of yours and his dreams, challenges, accomplishments, etc.

Again, Depth, you know that whenever you and him come together intimately it will be a blast, but it will be better if the intimacy is coupled with connections you and he share in several areas of your relationship. Then, the anticipation of seeing each other again and again will span a broader spectrum and keep the intimacy in more ways than one.
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DepthScorp,

Perhaps God sent him into your life to stop being afraid of your vulnerability, and also to let go of control.

And God sends a Scorp into a Pisces life to help them stop drifting, and to give them compliments.

Fear is an illusion -- ask your Pisces to reassure you, and be real with him. I have been, with my most recent Pisces guy, and he was never mean to me when I showed I felt vulnerable, but gave me good advice.

And the Pisces man needs real compliments, which the Scorp femme knows how to give. It's as strong as literally giving him the will to go on -- at least, that's what happened with my Pisces guy. I know I give him strength!
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P-Angel: "A Pisces person will look for hidden agendas and motives .. and when he becomes silent when your talk is driven by sexuality, he is analyzing your intentions with him"

Oh my god I so agree..my pisces said last week during a text banter.."you should want me for more than just my body..lol"....and there it was...I thought..well hang on a minute here..you were the one badgering on about sex..now that the tables have turned...your getting all like..well I want more..which is great...I love it..so I told him of course I want more..I want all of him to gobble up..
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mm, bijou .... it's so difficult to explain, one would have to live it to fully know ..

It's like .. we all know the two different influences of what comes from your heart/soul and what is coming from your ego.

You see a puppy = heart melts
You see a sexy dress = ego wants it

With Pisces, these two are soooooooooo seperated from each other that they aren't just passing thoughts like with most people. A normal (lol) person can just have these two different thoughts (puppy/dress) flow through their brains without any notice or concern about from whence it came ..... and we can't do that.

We have to stop and analyze what motivated/influenced us to "feel" from these two different areas within our psyche ... so what happens, is what you said, mm ...

Your P-man will participate with the sex talk, however, once he stops to analyze from what part of him this is coming from, and what part of you it's coming from .... he'll have to take a step backwards because it will cause him to be leary if ... YOU ARE AWARE ... of these two differences. You know what I mean?

It's like .. he KNOWS from where this comes from (ego-based), for all sexual seduction comes from ego .... but, a Pisces will question whether the other person is aware of this, or whether they only believe that the ego/soul conscious is the same condition. So, he'll question you on your participation in the sex-talk, eventhough he was a participant in it. Hope that made sense 🙂


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Wow .. you never let us down, bijou. That testimony of your torment, and healing process cuts right to the soul. You are so meant to be the partner of a Pisces, your understanding of us is incredibly mind-blowing. And you always search within your soul .. wow, I might be falling in love with you, lol ... ahem !!!

"It was a revelation for me to have had a such a solid foundation of being connected that sex was merely another way to get to know him"

For most people, sex is an 'act' .. and people will even measure their partner according to this performance. To us, this is one of the biggest insults a person could do to another human being who's real existence isn't physical at all, rather, spiritual.

We are very AWARE of our souls, and from there is where every human beings' love comes from .... there is where we have to be connected if we, as people, are going to truly love another.

And expressing this love through sex changes with every wave of renewed glory that fills us with our hearts desire to be one. Bijou, we know not how to have intercourse, or forplay, or sodomy, or any kind of physical routine in the sexual nature of humans .... if a person asked me about screwing, my mind cannot see a penis or how to copulate in any way ... my mind can only "sense" how the soul feels to bond with another, and then I'd actually HAVE to put thought to draw up a memory where this was expressed sexually.

Everytime we express to our soulmate love through sexuality .. it's like the first time all over again .. because we don't retain the memory of the sensations with the physical pleasure .. we retain what our souls felt like when they merged with another.

For the life of me .. I cannot understand why this man of yours has been unable to recognize that your soul is one with his.