Do you get like this too?

I will sit there and listen to people's dumb shit over and over again. Listen to their pain that they keep bringing onto themselves, and sympathize with them, and tell them how sorry I am this is happening and blah blah blah....but then, finally I just straight up say how it is. I tell them it's their faults and they need to grow up, move on, get a life, and do something better with it. About as harsh too. It's different in each situation, but I mean really....I do care about people and can only put up with listening to their stupid shit so long without ACTUALLY helping. Do u do this too?

I do sometimes after looking at the situations as a whole. You can't just say that it's their fault, but I understand how you feel.

No, I never listen to boo-hooing, and will talk straight up to them immediately.

There's no point in enabling a person, for any period of time, when you recognize from the start that the person isn't holding themselves accountable and are just whining because they can't handle their own feelings.

It's simple to tell the difference between sincerity and attention-whoring ... so, I see no point in feeding into it.

Posted by Noreallynow

You can't just say that it's their fault .....

Of course, it's their fault.

Every thing you do, say, or expose yourself to is your responsibility.

It's people like you that this thread is about ... you're a person who will willingly put themselves into a situation of your choosing, and then whine because you don't like the outcome and say it's someone else's fault that you made that decision.

I actually do the same thing... straight no chaser. Folks do not like the truth. They want to be babied and coddled. So they can run off and do it again and come back the victim.

I have one friend. She is a Pisces as well...so she understands and she goes in on me as well when I'm being Petty Patty. I remove myself from folks who complain but not change. I have screwed up with the same stuff over and over myself. But I only complain to me...or paper..and I try to change. Progress no matter how slow is progress none the less.

@Darkfire..been down that dark crap hole as well..no one gave two cents. I had to care about me enough to say my life was not worth the bullbutter...Sometimes you cannot help another no matter how understanding you are with them. I have helped with depression in others..not by coddling but by distracting them with positive energy. By the time a few hours past things had dissipated and could be talked about and worked on. We truly need more caring though in this world..something I am sure won't happen anytime soon.

Posted by KVZZMIR11
Wait til you get acquainted with the "sad drunks..."

+1


But sympathy that reinforces what they're doing to themselves is just a nail in their coffin.

Don't entertain them.*


:/



* for the op