Don't You Just Hate It When. . .

Hey Ya'll,
I have a question. Don't you just hate it when people call you, but then let you do all the talking, but while you're talking you feel as if the person on the other end is seemingly un-interested in what you're saying? Yeah, I experienced that yesterday when I returned Jesse's phone call for the voicemail he left me. He said that he was calling to see what I was up to, but as I was talking he just seemed to quiet on the other end. (I'm talking dead silence.) I had to stop in mid sentence and say to him, "You know, if you have something else that you need to do. I'l just get off and talk to you another time." He said, "Oh no, I'm not busy." So, I continue, but then I couldn't continue comfortably because I began to feel as if I was boring him. So I came up with an reasonable excuse to get off of the phone with him. When I got off of the phone, I was down right frustrated. We're really good friends and I want to be able to have meaningful/good conversation with him, but I'm starting to have my doubts that it'll ever get to that. I'm worrying because alot of my negative relationships are because of not being able to communicate smoothly or at all. I just don't want to have a friend go bad on me. I just hate how he's so damn nice to me! I mean he makes it to where it feels like it's all about me, but I want it to be that way. You know those types, the folks who does things they really don't want to do but they do it because they think it pleases you.(That's the sense that I get from Jesse and I really don't like it because I think it's kinda insincere.)I really don't know what to do with that guy, but I know one thing. . . I need a break and I'm going to adjust my schedule to where I'm off on the days he's working. I'm not mad at him, he's my dearest friend, but I'm just frustrated. Someone, let me know what you think.

Wait a minute, I had a mis-typo on the part when I said that, "It's like he makes it all about me and that I want it to be that way." I actually meant that I don't want it to be that way.

Dreamy Dreamy Dreamy.........everyone experiences these type of phonecalls from time to time.....even the best of friends and lovers can one day have great "on the same page" laugh your head off silly moo conversations and on the other hand, serious, heart stuff conversations and you come off the phone and think, boy did we connect there...and then again, it appears that things become stinted, boring or uninteresting and you think to yoruself, gotta end this phone coversation dam quick or it will end me:-) Perhaps he was tired when you called, his mind was preoccupied......but just because your "two worlds didn't collide in phoneland":-) - doesn't signal a "good friend going bad on" you......give it a few days, have a few new things to chat about when you next connect:-) - if the silence comes....a good way (for me anyway to have a laugh with other person - is to start singing....Ricky Martin's - "Talk to me, tell me your name!!!" down the phone....it breaks the silence mode!!:-).....now off with you Dreamy and have some adventures:-) - adn if all else fails, you can always ring me:-) - I won't do a silencer:-) on you.....

Alana x

Agreed Depthincharge.....nothing more...nothing less.

A x

Sorry Depthcharge....don't know why I stuck an "in" in!!!

Alana x and Depth Charge,
You know,in the background of his voicemail, it did sounded like as if he was on the road driving. When I returned his phone call, he told me that he had just gotten home from school. He sounded exhausted but didn't want to admit it because he knew that I was going to tell him to get some rest. He has alot on his plate by going to college and for him to make time in calling to see how I'm doing. (Now that I think of it, that's pretty damn thoughful.) I didn't give him any credit for that. (Wow, I ashamed of myself.) You know, all of my worrying fuels negative actions. I became blind to what was kind. Thank you for giving my a new perception.

u are reading too much into it.....but i understand what your talking about. i dont like one sided communications and i do get frustrated when they are like that. its more of a give and take.