Would you think you were crazy if ..

... you knew your partner was having an affair and you didn't care?

Listening to people in here, and most of their issues are with thier partners unfaithfulness, or worrying whether they will remain true or not .. so, if you knew your partner is doing "it" with someone else .. a person SHOULD be upset about it, right?

What if you're not? What would you think about yourself if you didn't care?

But, if a person doesn't care, then there isn't any emotional betrayal.

I was listening to a girlfriend, practically hysterical over the possibility that her man might be cheating .. just the chance, not even anything to remotely suggest that he might be doing so. I was like, "who cares" .. that's bad.

A person should care, right?

I know my man has a lover .. I know it, just as well as I know my name .. though, he hasn't said anything, nor have I asked .. and I don't give a shit.

Now, I'm left with facing myself .. why don't I care? What the hell's the matter with me? Any other woman would be outraged .. I'm fucked up, apparantly.

Maybe numb?

There is another reason why you are still there in the relationship?

well i think i wouldnt be as upset with the cheating as much as i would be upset with the lying about the cheating. I think i could get over the cheating... if it wasnt personal ie. he hadnt started a brand new relationship with another woman. if it's just sex, okay might can work on that. but if you lie about, oh my gosh you're the worst because that puts me in danger that i know nothing about.

You are not bothered by it PA because you are not emotionally connected. There is NOTHING wrong with you. Ever think that maybe the experience that you two were to have has been learned? No biggie, Next! I say.

A new experience is just right around the corner for you....time to grow again!

Take a seat in the front row 😉

open relationships are just asking for turmoil. you might as well go your way and let your man go his if the only way you two can be together is through an open relationship.

There is obviously no love there.

I heard they are only allowed to have crushes...not open relationship...well thats what they told Essence magazine.

I also heard Jada is a lesbian :shrug:

What is the point of getting married...

oh, tax purposes 🙂

I thought we were talking about P angel LadyBug??

She doesnt love him...simple.

They tell each other there crushes. I didnt read anything about them actually acting on it.

EWWW!! Grandma too 😢😢

Alot of couple think they can handle it...BUT they CANT.

Did you take pictures...?? 🙂🙂

Road trip??

Hows Amy?

There's so many reasons to love a person you've spent nearly your whole adult life with, things shared, enjoyed together .. most people want to be content, not have worries, financial difficulties, strain .. if everything you could ever imagine was good about the union .. then why not be able to find happiness in that?

You know what .. my husband trusts everything about me .. even in my fishiness, when I'm double-sided, dreamy, unfocused .. he just waits, trusting that though my expression may be different, and I may stand in the middle, rather than on a side .. he trusts completely that what I have to say is valuable, or, I wouldn't be speaking it.

Complete faith in me and everythign I do and say .. so, why then? Why isn't that enough to care?

I think, FB & LadyBug, you're right .. emotionally, we're not connected.

To have faith in someone isn't enough .. if they aren't "feeling" it with you. That's just trusting that I can do it by myself .. by myself .. myself.

I'm not crazy, then .. just alone.

SF .. not happy at all .. that's pretty obvious with the way I bash Virgo's, lol

It's not their fault and I know that .. it's mine.

This morning, after I won a white-water rafting trip from FreeBird .. I went to go look for a job .. don't really have to work, but, out there .. somewhere .. is the person who will make me care because he will be "with" me, rather than standing aside and letting me live alone.

I applied at a hotel, whatcha think?

Maybe the man of my dreams will pass through town and stop for the night, huh?

The fear of living for nothing strangles the will.

Doesn't anybody ever look around and think that "this" is something?
Is it not better than nothing?

I'm drowning .. I can't find my way to the surface .. that's why I have to get out of the house. My husband isn't going to like it that I'm going to work outside our home, but .. I have to.

Two mutable signs who both find joys in life of doing the little things for each other can't make it .. I find satisfaction in doing those, too. It's possible to be too flexable .. someone has to be the reciever .. both can't do it.

The other day, a friend (virgo) came over to bring me his taxes (which I have to get to like ASAP, instead of talking in here, lol) .. anyway, we were talking about relationships and it was said, "We never argue, or let disagreements escalade".

He just looked at us, like we lost our minds, and said, "Everybody argues."

And he's right .. without that, the passion wanes until it's gone.

"At some point one out grows the other and when the one that does the growing is not allowed to spread its wings things become dark."

Very dark .. indeed. I'm past him and remaining in one spot .. becoming stagnant.
This isn't effecting him, he's a Virgo .. he could remain a lifetime in one routine.

If everything stays even and in control .. then there's no forces of passion to draw two people together for that protection and soft caring.

A twist .. he's boinking another man, lol

Asshole ....

Yep .. if I can get that job at the hotel, I should have enough information to spot me a Ram a mile away .. however, it's been a long time since I've had to catch somebody, guess I better lighten up, get rid of my frown and find my sweet-side again, lol

OMG he's gay—

Well now she, P-Angel, can leave...like she always wanted.

lol

Damn, DC .. yessir! Now that's passion!

*eeiighh* .. thanks for the hug

You're right .. it's the fear of living for nothing that holds me here, blames myself and also makes me disparagingly malcontent ..

I'll rise above somehow .. I just have to figure out how to get throw the current. I've been with him for 25 years .. it's scary.

Well since your so free spirited with sex...

Make his lover join you two...

Rekindle the flame.

It is my fault, though .. he hasn't done anything wrong, well ..

.. until now! He's messing with another man .. I just know it. He thinks he's tricking me, but, in his Virgoan self, he has no clue about extra perceptions beyond himself .. I know every little miniscule detail about him .. he lean the wrong way to fart and I'd recognize something was out of place .. they giggle and whisper .. follow each around .. I'm not an idiot .. heeeelllloooo

He's clueless that he's obvious, hehehhehehehe .. fool!!!

He's not gay, Lady_M .. there is no such condition from my perspective .. only alive. They apparanlty are just having moments to share that brings them (something).

Ok, so that was a rant .. maybe I do care, just sunken too deep to find the surface.

Yes he is gay.

Wait you have no proof.

But yes I do think its your fault....you want more than he knows how to offer.
But then again he is in love with another man...
(oh the drama)

Love? Pleeeeaaaaase .. they're just fucking .. er, or something else, lol

"But yes I do think its your fault....you want more than he knows how to offer."

Correction .. I want more than he is WILLING to offer .. he knows how.

I've grown past him .. there isn't anything left for us to do together.

Hey .. the hotel just called ... I have an interview tomarrow morning. Damn, that was quick .. I just applied, like not even 4 hours ago, lol

Nice P...good luck with the interview and new life.

Are you sure there ummm lovers (::gags abit:🙂...

oh minus the smilie, it was a typo

"Maybe you can hook up with Branh0913. "

Fuck you, lol .. you want me to die, don't you?

Thanks for the good luck wishes .. I can't believe it was so fast .. maybe, I'm not so used up, afterall.

Oh, and LadyBug .. I meant that nicely 😉

Thanks, pp .. but, I still have to get the job. I'm sure I will 'cause I'm a city girl, living in the country with all the chucklefucks, who likely didn't get out of the 3rd grade .. so, really just knowing how to spell 6 letter-words makes me a genius, lol

Lady_M .. I'm sure they are doing each other. They'll go out to go look at the garden, which is ok, except it's .. at NIGHT !! Two dummies, leading each other, lol

Then, sometimes, he'll take a shower at an unscheduled time, either shortly before and/or after his "friend"'s company, or his company therein.

I'm not a dummy .. I know they're doing (something). When you walk in a room, suddenly they get quiet and then spend the whole time you're in there giving each other those puppy dogs eyes and twinkles.

It's so obvious .. maybe I'll be a smartass and start giving my husband a new nickname. How about Fudgy? I mean, the man loves fudge .. I'll go buy him some and then after he's eaten the whole thing in one setting (which he will do) I'll come up with the bright idea of calling him that ... he'll never know the difference.

But, I will, lol

ewww gross...

LOL

No, pp .. this is a friend he's had for about a year. It's only been lately that they "hooked" up, literally, hahahahahahaha. Ok .. back!

Everything in him has changed .. his sleep, even. Only, I know he's not feeling anything emotionally because he doesn't want to talk about seperating .. it's just lust. Actually, in a way .. I'm kind of happy for him.

I mean, if this is something that's being lingering in him for a while .. you know, to express something he's been suppressing .. then, I think it's a good thing that he's allowing himself to be free to live .. maybe that's why he's been so reluctant towards intacmy.

Maybe .. in reality, I have it wrong, afterall .. he's grown beyond me. He's on a new adventure and if it brings him satisfaction and joy to experience this, then it was meant to be.

lol .. I haven't slept with him in a very long, long, long time .. years, even.

I cut him off a long time ago .. still, he won't leave and won't talk about seperation. Once, not long ago, I got him to talk about it and we were discussing property. Then, he decided on marriage counseling again .. I'm just hoping that once his little fling is over and he does his Virgo self-evaluation thing, that he realizes what I've been trying to tell him .. I hope he fucks his brains out and loves it !!

If it's his choice to seperate .. then, he'll be fair and NOT critical .. you know what I mean?

I don't know what you're talking about with Al Green and grits .. please enlighten me !!

woah...

Oh, I see .. hot grits girl .. now, I get it, lol

Or, I could do the Lorena Bobbitt trick .. just make him dickless, completely .. no more fudge packing then, eh?

It's not that simple, SF .. we've been together 25 years .. that's some people's whole lifetime .. there is no "mine" .. it's all equal .. one can't just get up and leave, and if one person is going to make it a difficult split, then I cower back. I'm just scard, that's all. Once, I stop being frightened, I'll swim to the top.

All the more reason to find me a strong, determined Ram .. he won't be afraid of anything .. he'll know how to light my fire.

"when we bond with ppl even if its a 3 year relationship our souls are usually tied with that person so tight it takes alot to be free totally even if we are not inlove anymore with them"

I know, and only another Pisces gets this .. we are like ducks, who mate for life. That's not to say this literally, rather, souly. I'm bound, and until he comes to terms with our situation, until he understands, accepts and desires for us to be better apart .. I remain bound to him and will not and cannot just severe it, if the end result is his torment and suffering .. I just don't have it in me to do that to him.

You know what I mean ...