Gemini (Pisces moon) and a Scorpio

I am a Gemini with Pisces moon rising who met this Scorpio awhile back. We known each other, we first started texting and stuff and we always had plans to meet up but he would usually cancelled because he was working. It was a Friday and we were both off of work and school and agreed to meet up. And god was he treetrunking hot and older too! And sparks flew, we hit off pretty well. I could tell from the fist time meeting that he was an intense, passionate person. I had never met anyone like him before and it intrigued me; he was a magnet that I couldn't help get drawn in. Of course we had sex, and it was amazing; he was always the dominate and in control. I can be very submissive, but I am not weak at all; I just like it when people take control over me. But whatever. This went on for about a couple of weeks and then he went out of town. While he was gone, I had realized how much I really liked this guy a lot more than I anticipated. He was like nobody that I have ever met. I wanted it to go to the next level and date and hopefully lead into a long-term relationship despite our age difference. And I did, and he agreed. So we were dating.
I saw him a couple of times a week because he was working a lot and within the government programs and stuff; he took me to his apartment, he took me to go eat and we went hiking once. It was the most wonderful experience for me, and I realized how hard I had fallen for this guy.
The first problem started when I saw his FB page and I saw his profile pic was of him and his ex. I didn't make a big deal about and stuff and didn't mention to him about it because I thought it was silly. But one day, he took me to this house he said watching over while his brother was out of town. We ended up having sex in the bedroom but afterwards I realized all this pictures of him and his ex; and then I realized he took me to his ex-boyfriend place. I asked him about but he kept denying it and saying that his ex was a big marker; so I just let it go. But I kept my guard up. I wanted to give him the benefit of the doubt because there was something about this guy.
Of course being both a Gemini (dual-minded twins) and Pisces (dual-hearted fishes) I was really conflicted and torn about the situation I was. I'm usually really intuitive and physic when it came to knowing people; like being around them long enough I would know alot about them more than they let on. But with him, it was really difficult because he was so private

So the only person I could talked to was with my friend because he was alot older and had more experience in the whole dating thing. He completely understood everything and told me to just to wait it out. And that's what exactly I did, I didn't want to jump into any conclusions and make a fool out of myself and possibly ruin a potential relationship which was something I was looking for. Unfortunately my friend and I kinda had falling out that turned sorta nasty but of course I apologized and tried to make things right. He wouldn't have it and I havent heard from him in a while.
About a week later, my Scorpio picked me up and took me to this little lake and parked the car. And he then he began telling me about how him and his ex are broken up and that they havent told anybody about it including one of his closes friend. He then told me that somebody was talking to his friend about me and my Scorpio. I already knew who it was and I tried to play it off like I didn't know anything about it. Of course I could tell he saw right through that but he didnt say anything. I needed to to deal with my friend. We argued, said so more horrible stuff and I just threatened him to mind his own business and stop snooping around.It wasnt till the next week when my Scorpio emailed me to stop contacting him and stuff like that. I knew deep down that my friend somehow got in touch with the ex, he is just the type of person to do that. I explained to my Scorpio about everything and he said he just needed some time to let things cool down. Two months past, and I met him and things were sorta normal. He said he had alot on his plate and things were alot easier if he was single and not dealing with the responsibilities of a relationship; and said to give him time. (I understood because we talked about this before.) But we still see each other, and still having sex and stuff but I just want more than that. What do I do? I want to stick around to show him that I really do care.
Do Scorps usually keep in touch with their exes? And I am just afraid that he hasn't gotten over it and just waiting to "sting" back even though we still close and things got back to normal. I just need to know what I have to do to make things right?

The gist:

You're (much?) younger and inexperienced and fallen head over heels for this older "hot" guy. But you're also playing games.. "playing it off" is never a good idea with a Water sign.. as you can see, they'll see right through it -- but when you do it to a Scorpio, you break their trust, which is a HARD thing to earn in the first place, and almost IMPOSSIBLE to earn BACK. You have "friends" who bring drama into your relationships.. something YOU need to keep in check, even if it means losing those friends. Also, telling a Scorp to not "snoop around" is like telling them not to breathe. They are detectives by nature, to protect themselves from being hurt.

He's "private" and "secretive" and clearly not fully moved on from his ex. He and the ex haven't told people they're broken up?! The FB photos still show them together? WTF? Then it's NOT fully OVER, period. Pretty it up anyway you want, but that's the truth. He "needs time" and can't handle a relationship.. but still wants to have you for sex, as long as YOU don't rock the boat with his difficult so-called EX situation? And you're OKAY with being used like that, like a sex toy? Whatever floats your boat, I guess. But just know that people who allow themselves to be used/mistreated NEVER earn the user/mistreater's respect, and it NEVER becomes LOVE. You can't make him fall in love through sex -- love is love, and sex is sex.

P.S. What's "normal" for your relationship with the Scorp? You being the "secret lover" on the side, you accepting ANY crumbs he throws your way just to have SOME part of him, and you being careful to not rock the boat with his ex and his friends? :/