He didn't show up for my celebration.....—

So the Pisces I've been seeing for ten months was supposed to show up to my birthday party but sent a message at the start of the party saying that he couldn't make it because he had a very important problem to deal with. I sent him a message back telling him that he is an idiot and a liar. He called for the next three days and I didn't pick up. He saw me on the street a few days ago and tried to speak to me but I gave him and angry look and walked right past him.

Was his no-show at my birthday party a subtle way for him to end the relationship? Will he try to contact me again after I've repeatedly refused out of anger? If he does, I will answer and tell him to talk with me face to face.

Why do you want him to call again? Why give him a chance this time when you wouldn't talk other times.

I understand you're upset but you didn't give him a chance to explain.

I have a pretty clear idea re: why he didn't show up. However, I am almost certain that he is going to make up a story. Because we work together, I am bound to see him again soon, but I'm just not sure how to handle it. I'm still angry.

Posted by lotus
I have a pretty clear idea re: why he didn't show up. However, I am almost certain that he is going to make up a story.

was he with the wife?

He doesn't have a wife. He has an on again/off again girlfriend who knows about my relationship with him and probably threatened to tell our co-workers. Not showing up for a party he said he'd be in is quite unusual for him.
Which is why I asked.....was this his subtle way of trying to end things with me and since I lashed out at him, he felt bad?

Can I ask... what is with you and men that are only.... pseudo available? And then you get angry when they behave as such?

Oh... and just so you don't get all crusty and ignore the relevant questions you are asked... I will answer your question: I don't think it's a subtle way to end things... I think it's him having difficulty juggling his balls (or having them juggled by various women at once).

Posted by deezie
I don't think it's a subtle way to end things... I think it's him having difficulty juggling his balls (or having them juggled by various women at once).

haha! you ladies 😄

a Pisces man at the center of a love triangle. he must be in heaven...

>I think it's him having difficulty juggling his balls (or having them juggled by various women at >once).

Well, if he was a good player, you'd expect him not to care about explaining himself, right. This guy seems terrified of me now.

He didn't show up because you are not that important to him. He doesn't want to be seen at something where people will think you are an item. Truth.

... he does... work with you....
complete extrication is not much of an option...

>He didn't show up because you are not that important to him. He doesn't want to be seen at something >where people will think you are an item. Truth.

And why would people think that we are an item if they all know about the on/off gf? They don't know anything and we haven't told anyone. They are also our co-workers for the most part.

OK, so you seem to have all the answers.

why would you... the sidepiece... be so upset when you are treated like... the sidepiece.

you are trying to find hidden meaning to being blown off, when sidepieces get blown off... because men don't really have any obligation to the sidepiece. The obligations usually go to the gf/wifey.

You have classic "mistress wanting wifey treatment" syndrome.

keep us posted!

pisces can also just be flakey. we are emotionally based so if we are feeling not right about going somewhere, we won't. it's totally selfish, yes. but, it may not have anything to do with your value to this person, and have more to do with his current internal bearings. i also have a lot of aqua in my chart so i personally will detach myself when i start to feel too vulnerable. i am a walking contradiction. i crave yet also fear emotional intimacy.

>you are trying to find hidden meaning to being blown off, when sidepieces get blown off... because men >don't really have any obligation to the sidepiece. The obligations usually go to the gf/wifey.

Right. I am not disagreeing with that. But since he blew me off, why is he trying everything he can to win me back? I called him an idiot after all and refused to answer his calls!

Posted by lotus
>you are trying to find hidden meaning to being blown off, when sidepieces get blown off... because men >don't really have any obligation to the sidepiece. The obligations usually go to the gf/wifey.

Right. I am not disagreeing with that. But since he blew me off, why is he trying everything he can to win me back? I called him an idiot after all and refused to answer his calls!

He's having cake and eating it, too. why would he not want to continue doing that if he can get away with it? Both you and the gf are letting it happen... he's just enjoying the ride.

Are you looking to see if you might get promoted to wifey? Or trying to see how much you can get away with, being a sidepiece?

he wants to win you back, because he likes the situation of having a side piece... seriously... why is this so difficult? He doesn't wanna give it up... he knows you are ok with being the side piece, the work has already been done. It's so much easier for him to grovel to you, than to go about finding a new girl and convincing her that this is all she's worth.

aries moon high five!

Well, this is the first time I've actually given up on him and am not pursuing (I was the pursuer until recently). So it seems that the tables have shifted and he doesn't know what to do.
Plus, I am dating other men.

Posted by deezie
aries moon high five!

*does a backwards flip✨

Posted by lotus
So it seems that the tables have shifted and he doesn't know what to do.

Is this your strategy?

>pisces can also just be flakey. we are emotionally based so if we are feeling not right about going >somewhere, we won't. it's totally selfish, yes. but, it may not have anything to do with your value to >this person, and have more to do with his current internal bearings. i also have a lot of aqua in my >chart so i personally will detach myself when i start to feel too vulnerable. i am a walking >contradiction. i crave yet also fear emotional intimacy.

He has Aqua Mercury and Venus. I've noticed that he is afraid of emotional vulnerability and simultaneously craves intimacy and distance.

That's why he's got 2 or 3 women? ^

>Until somebody gets hurt and the guilt kicks in.

And how does a Pisces deal with that?

Smokes a joint

Posted by starlover
i had a pisces friend for over 10yrs ~~ bit of a drama queen and a real space cadet. i was always there for her throughout her dramas and breakdowns, god bless her

every time i hit a rough patch .... wooosh, she was gone

after my r/ship broke up, she avoided me for weeks and weeks, then asked for fb friendship (she only lives minutes away)

she has moon in aqua

she is all over the place

i have stood right back

she told me she didn't know how to have relationships

wow starlover, that is sad about your pisces friend. i think i excel when it comes to friendship. and when my friends go through hardships, that is when i truly shine as a friend. typically, i am one of the only people there for the people i care about in their times of need. one friend said i literally saved her life, and another said i was the only person she felt like stood by her 100% - not even her own family was there for her like i was. that is why i have multiple 20 year friendships. i do like freedom and space in my relationships, but not when i am needed.
i also have an aqua moon. so your friend's ways have nothing to do with her placements, in my opinion. after all, pisces is the sign of unconditional love.

So should I wait for him to call again in order to explain or wait a bit longer and call him.

Posted by lotusBut since he blew me off, why is he trying everything he can to win me back? I called him an idiot after all and refused to answer his calls!

This is very simple. It's probably the first time you stood up for yourself and showed self respect. Instead of playing the insignificant sloppy seconds role for a change, you commanded respect. Believe it or not, it may have turned him on a smidgen. Why are you allowing this jerk near you? He sees you as a convenience, that's it.

Posted by lotus
So should I wait for him to call again in order to explain or wait a bit longer and call him.

Who waits for someone to call who thinks you are insignificant——?? Take a long hard look at yourself and ask yourself why you feel you deserve to be treated this way.

OK, just as I thought. He explained to me what happened and apparently the on/off girlfriend accused him of seeing me.
We talked for a while today (I was angry with him for two weeks and not on speaking terms) and later I invited him to dinner, to which he showed up. However, his tone with me seemed a bit formal, he looked shy and had a hard time keeping eye contact.
What is going on?

Posted by tiziani
Yeah no offence but I really find it hard to vibe with people in my own personal life who find their top gear when you're down. I know people who naturally operate like that with the best of intentions and caring but it doesn't vibe with me. Sooner or later it becomes a habitual thing where you have to be down for them to be up.

not offended. i can understand why someone would assume that. i certainly don't feel that someone else i care about needs to be down for me to be up. i think while others aren't sure what to say, or are scared that talking to a person about rough things going on in their lives will be hard for them - i just reach out to let them know someone is there if they need them. trust me, my life has plenty of up and downs dependent on no one else besides my own ridiculous skewed internal conflicts. i just try to be the person i would want in my life if i was going through tough times, and only if requested. i don't force myself/mother anyone who doesn't want me there. i get wanting space too, i do have aqua in my chart after all.

Posted by starlover


i am not sure whether it is connected to her astro placements, but i do know she is a recovering alcoholic and was also abused as a child

she is quite disconnected from herself, sadly, having said that, there has to be balance in all relationship, so i am standing back

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i am also not sure how old you both are, but hopefully your friend just has a lot of growth still to do. as i got older, i def made my friendships more of a priority. i wasn't always a great friend, but later realized how important they were to me. 🙂 but yeah could totally be her placements, and/or her past. it's so hard to say, i love looking to astrology for answers though! sounds like she's got a lot going on internally though :\ anyway, a mature pisces can be a wonderful friend is all i'm saying 😄

Posted by lotus
his tone with me seemed a bit formal, he looked shy and had a hard time keeping eye contact.
What is going on?

The illusion has been shattered and given way to the unpleasant reality

Now he's been contacting me and is trying to win me back by buying me gifts and being all shy. Pisces! Seriously, many of you guys are messed up.....he will be rejected.

Posted by lotus
Now he's been contacting me and is trying to win me back by buying me gifts and being all shy. Pisces! Seriously, many of you guys are messed up.....he will be rejected.

It's not messed up, but calculated minimal investment.

that is rich.... coming from the one who is knowingly a participant in the whole thing.

so no more threads about this guy then— seeing as he will be rejected.

finally.

Nah, it's more like someone watering a flower only when it's about to dry out and die.

He didn't fall in love with you, even after such a long time. He would have treated you like his queen if he did.

Yeah, no more threads about him, please. Goodbye, my "astro twin".