help me understand you, pisces

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so a LOT of pisces i know who r friends and acquaintances i swear ALL act this way. they're always:

1) COMPLAINING.
it seems like they're always in a negative mood w/ a gray cloud over the head 24/7. something's always wrong! n it seems like they feed off it & enjoy being miserable b/c thats the state they're always . i actually only have fun w/ a lot of them if we're partying & their drunk. sober, they're dull.

2) PLAYING THE VICTIM CARD.
i feel like they love being the victim. n when they tell stories they always omit things that show their @ fault so everything looks like their the innocent victim

3) ALL BARK AND NO BITE.
ok yes there r some pisces who can fight, but for the most part the pisces women ive met r all punks. not that i've ever tried starting fights w/ any, but seeing them act all hard and tough and then acting like a scared puppy when getting confronted. Or NEVER following through w/ what they say they're going to do. like saying they're going to tell this person off and they dont.

not that any of that stuff matters, but the important thing is: Y SAY YOU'RE GOING TO DO ANYTHING @ ALL IF YOU'RE REALLY NOT DOING TO DO IT—
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O n another thing that confuses me: y do pisces act different w/ different people? i mean of course you'd act more professional at work -- that's a given. but socializing with diff groups of friends. ive seen a lot of pisces change the way they act and talk (even w/ diff accents!) w/ diff groups of people. and my question is WHY? To me that just seems fake b/c wuts up w/ the diff acts? if you were keepin it real, u'd act the same way w/ everyone else no matter who it is, right? like what's ur guys' take on that?? i kno pisces is a mutable sign but is it b/c of tht? help me understand 😛
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Posted by aquarius21
O n another thing that confuses me: y do pisces act different w/ different people? i mean of course you'd act more professional at work -- that's a given. but socializing with diff groups of friends. ive seen a lot of pisces change the way they act and talk (even w/ diff accents!) w/ diff groups of people. and my question is WHY? To me that just seems fake b/c wuts up w/ the diff acts? if you were keepin it real, u'd act the same way w/ everyone else no matter who it is, right? like what's ur guys' take on that?? i kno pisces is a mutable sign but is it b/c of tht? help me understand 😛



pisces are emotional sponges so we soak up other people's emotions. we elso mirror people, to build a rapport, and make people feel at ease. it's very subconscious behaviour so i wouldn't quite call it fake

i used to do this alot and never noticed it, esp as a kid. its that whole empathy/giving people what they want thing
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Posted by aquarius21
so a LOT of pisces i know who r friends and acquaintances i swear ALL act this way. they're always:


2) PLAYING THE VICTIM CARD.
i feel like they love being the victim. n when they tell stories they always omit things that show their @ fault so everything looks like their the innocent victim




neptune ruled, remember...in some cases it's blatant manipulation, used to gain favour and 'get people on their side'. in another sense, it's a detachment from reality. you've got to remember pisces are ruled by the planet of illusion, secrecy and mysticism. so lying by ommission is done to create a better version of events. one that is more acceptable to the pisces.

victim card-some pisces can't understand why they feel so strongly about some things whilst others don't seem similarly affected, so they will exaggerate to gain sympathy, or to get people to see where they're coming from. its just over dramatic
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"1) COMPLAINING.
it seems like they're always in a negative mood w/ a gray cloud over the head 24/7. something's always wrong! n it seems like they feed off it & enjoy being miserable b/c thats the state they're always ."

Hahaha, I think this has to do with how we idealize X, and since X never lives up to our idealized version of it, we are always complaning about it. The rougher the going goes, the harder we are likely to complain, but I wouldn't say that excludes us from going through it anyway, it's just... we will complain every step of the way. It's just a way of ventilating your discontent with the state of things but it doesn't always equal unwillingness, or inability to go through it. Sometimes the whinning makes it seem that we are more bent out of shape than we really are. In the end it's probably just a way of coping. You could be crawling your way beneath machine gun fire and complaining about the cheap quality of the bullets being fired at you because they are more likely to fragment inside if you??re hit. haha. But you keep on going. It's just a coping mechanism.

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wow. I dunno what to tell ya, I'm none of those things so can't relate. The strongest Pisces trait I possess is I'm overly sensitive!

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O n another thing that confuses me: y do pisces act different w/ different people? i mean of course you'd act more professional at work -- that's a given. but socializing with diff groups of friends. ive seen a lot of pisces change the way they act and talk (even w/ diff accents!) w/ diff groups of people. and my question is WHY? To me that just seems fake b/c wuts up w/ the diff acts? if you were keepin it real, u'd act the same way w/ everyone else no matter who it is, right? like what's ur guys' take on that?? i kno pisces is a mutable sign but is it b/c of tht? help me understand 😛


Ahhh this I do😄 Why?? What other option is there? People have big egos and if you give them what they want they'll be happy. Some people accept me for who I am, they get the real me...warts and all. Then there are those that wont accept you unless you agree with everything they say - they get the fake all-smiles me, as I cant be bothered to confront them or get into a debate. Really if someone is that close-minded and stupid I just don't respect them enough to be honest, so I just humour them by agreeing with everything. No one I truly care for gets the fake me, just a clue for ya ;P

Hope that helps🙂
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aqua's and pisces just aren't meant to figure each other out..

my father is a aqua, and even thou i love'em, he had/has bytch made tendencies unlike any other person i've ever met..i never met a grown man that acted like him..even as a kid, i KNEW he was a punk just from how he use to talk shit to me..as i got older, i actually use to LAUGH in his face when he started talking that tuff shyt,lol..that pissed him off more than anything..but one day (back when i was a teen) he tried to actually tussle wit me..smh..i tossed his weak ass on the couch like a feather pillow..i wasn't gone beat'em up thou, i just had to let'em know that he can talk all he want, but don't put ya hands on me,lol

and aqua female's seem so empty and robotic to me that i wouldn't even imagine being in a relationship with'em..only sex, quickies too, becuz if i gotta look in those soulless eyes and hear that empty voice box longer than 5 minutes it would probably turn me off..

my cousin's baby mother's mother is a aqua also, and she is the definition of a worthless bitch, seriously..she talk big shit too, you'd think she was a boss type lady if you didn't know any better, but one day she woofed to the wrong person and got knocked the fuck out,lol..the shit was just flat out embarrassing..just a horrible mother overall too..she ruined her kids credit before they even had any by putting all the light,gas, and phone bills in their names,lol..i could go on and on but u get it..
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I can't comprehend being "the very same" with everyone.. To me, that would be robotic, insincere and viewing "everyone" else the same. Some people ARE simply more special or approachable to me than others and so i'll naturally give the best or more of myself. Of course you're going to "naturally" show various layers of yourself in varying circumstances and i would expect the same from others. I really don't see it as complex, at all.

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I have to level the "complaining" grievance back at the OP -- this is a BIG trait of the all of the Aquariuses I happen to meet, including my SO. What gives? They'll even do it in front of people they just met to the extent that it's rude and just...odd-seeming. It seems to come from a place of incredible resentment towards the world, the origins of which, well, who can tell. I'll respond to the Pisces stuff in-depth later when I'm not about to go to work 🙂
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O n another thing that confuses me: y do pisces act different w/ different people? i mean of course you'd act more professional at work -- that's a given. but socializing with diff groups of friends. ive seen a lot of pisces change the way they act and talk (even w/ diff accents!) w/ diff groups of people. and my question is WHY? To me that just seems fake b/c wuts up w/ the diff acts? if you were keepin it real, u'd act the same way w/ everyone else no matter who it is, right? like what's ur guys' take on that?? i kno pisces is a mutable sign but is it b/c of tht? help me understand 😛



pisces are emotional sponges so we soak up other people's emotions. we elso mirror people, to build a rapport, and make people feel at ease. it's very subconscious behaviour so i wouldn't quite call it fake

i used to do this alot and never noticed it, esp as a kid. its that whole empathy/giving people what they want thing
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o ok, well the mirroring thing makes sense. thx for explaining that 🙂 another question though, if they're around a bunch of people who are bubbly and positive and they're STILL negative -- is it b/c they have other people's emotions stuck on their mind still?
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so a LOT of pisces i know who r friends and acquaintances i swear ALL act this way. they're always:


2) PLAYING THE VICTIM CARD.
i feel like they love being the victim. n when they tell stories they always omit things that show their @ fault so everything looks like their the innocent victim




neptune ruled, remember...in some cases it's blatant manipulation, used to gain favour and 'get people on their side'. in another sense, it's a detachment from reality. you've got to remember pisces are ruled by the planet of illusion, secrecy and mysticism. so lying by ommission is done to create a better version of events. one that is more acceptable to the pisces.

victim card-some pisces can't understand why they feel so strongly about some things whilst others don't seem similarly affected, so they will exaggerate to gain sympathy, or to get people to see where they're coming from. its just over dramatic
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hmmm that's understandable. i guess that's just a trait i'll always think is unfavorable but at least i can kind of understand y they do it now =P thx agen 🙂
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"1) COMPLAINING.
it seems like they're always in a negative mood w/ a gray cloud over the head 24/7. something's always wrong! n it seems like they feed off it & enjoy being miserable b/c thats the state they're always ."

Hahaha, I think this has to do with how we idealize X, and since X never lives up to our idealized version of it, we are always complaning about it. The rougher the going goes, the harder we are likely to complain, but I wouldn't say that excludes us from going through it anyway, it's just... we will complain every step of the way. It's just a way of ventilating your discontent with the state of things but it doesn't always equal unwillingness, or inability to go through it. Sometimes the whinning makes it seem that we are more bent out of shape than we really are. In the end it's probably just a way of coping. You could be crawling your way beneath machine gun fire and complaining about the cheap quality of the bullets being fired at you because they are more likely to fragment inside if you??re hit. haha. But you keep on going. It's just a coping mechanism.



i c i c. it's a "coping mechanism". that makes a lot of sense & was explained very well btw. esp w/ how it doesn't necessarily mean they're incompetent of accomplishing things it's just their way of going through it -- but cmon lol. no one likes an incessant whiner! but again, kind of an unfavorable trait, but @ LEAST i understand. thx for the response 🙂
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"1) COMPLAINING.
it seems like they're always in a negative mood w/ a gray cloud over the head 24/7. something's always wrong! n it seems like they feed off it & enjoy being miserable b/c thats the state they're always ."

Hahaha, I think this has to do with how we idealize X, and since X never lives up to our idealized version of it, we are always complaning about it. The rougher the going goes, the harder we are likely to complain



forgot to add, this statement helped a lot. i've read that pisces r dreamers so i guess they're just always living up to a certain expectation for everything. the ideal man, the ideal house, etc.
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Posted by piranhaparadiise
We immerse ourselves in a situation so much so it becomes a part of us for that time being and is not even on a conscious level...

It is not about being fake at all...it's not about anything really ...

A simple evaluation is...the atmosphere is what brings change for a Pisces...and most often on a subconscious level...not at all recognized...it just is...

We adapt to the atmosphere...the vibes surrounding us...the moods...everything is taken in subconsciously and we immerse ourselves...

When a Pisces [at least this happens to me] relays a story about a situation we go into a semi trance...ok it's not a trance but we go into a dream state where we are not in focus on the current surroundings...it's like we are looking inside our minds in a type of movie scene...relaying that story...then we snap back into the the current surroundings and refocus our eyes...it's a weird feeling at times because you lose those moments of reality when this happens...


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3) ALL BARK AND NO BITE.


Probably at the time it felt right...then they realise not worth the trouble...why waste breath on shit not in our control...who wants to be confronted by others crap —!!! Call it fake / weak ?! I call it sensible and move pass the bullshit...Usually they don't care about what was with someone anymore...it's moving on time...


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fake's a harsh word but it's just been my perception of the pisces people i've known over the years. maybe "questionable" would've been more appropiate! so even though i understand what you're saying, it's like ok i get they're changeable people and the mirroring others -- but strip them from people to adapt to, and who are THEY? if there were no people to mirror, what would they act like instead of adopting other people's habits? it's just this part i dont understand that's confusing. or is it really just them? an everchanging chameleon?

also, about ur response to the "all bark & no bite thing", i should've provided more examples. b/c i can understand if people r pissed off @ the time and cool off later. but for other things. like for example, i have a pisces grandmother who's always promising to give money and do this -- but never does any of it. not that me or anyone wants it, it's just y bother saying it if ur not goi
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ng to do it? and i have another pisces friend, who on multiple occasions, says she gotten people incredible presents and "forgets" to bring it and we never see it lol. again, not that it matters b/c im not materialistic, but why bother saying anything if ur not going to do it? i just hav a prob w/ people saying things n not following through. it's just a waste of time n wuts the point? its a common trait ive found amongst pisces so yeah.. was just wondering y! still need insight on this!!
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wow. I dunno what to tell ya, I'm none of those things so can't relate. The strongest Pisces trait I possess is I'm overly sensitive!

Posted by aquarius21
O n another thing that confuses me: y do pisces act different w/ different people? i mean of course you'd act more professional at work -- that's a given. but socializing with diff groups of friends. ive seen a lot of pisces change the way they act and talk (even w/ diff accents!) w/ diff groups of people. and my question is WHY? To me that just seems fake b/c wuts up w/ the diff acts? if you were keepin it real, u'd act the same way w/ everyone else no matter who it is, right? like what's ur guys' take on that?? i kno pisces is a mutable sign but is it b/c of tht? help me understand 😛


Ahhh this I do😄 Why?? What other option is there? People have big egos and if you give them what they want they'll be happy. Some people accept me for who I am, they get the real me...warts and all. Then there are those that wont accept you unless you agree with everything they say - they get the fake all-smiles me, as I cant be bothered to confront them or get into a debate. Really if someone is that close-minded and stupid I just don't respect them enough to be honest, so I just humour them by agreeing with everything. No one I truly care for gets the fake me, just a clue for ya ;P

Hope that helps🙂
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i should've mentioned this in the beginning, but all my bad experiences w/ pisces has all been with WOMEN. the men, although also sensitive and a tad whiny (sorry), r way more tolerable. so i hav a q for if u dont mind: for the people who don't accept u, r they a group of friends u hang out w/? n if so, y do u hang out w/ them if they don't accept u?
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but socializing with diff groups of friends. ive seen a lot of pisces change the way they act and talk (even w/ diff accents!) w/ diff groups of people.



lol! 😄 wth
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yes. i have a "friend" who talks in a ghetto accent with particular groups of people. but with others, she talks regular. that's y i kept saying "fake", but i should've just sed "questionable". they just do a lot of questionable things that i don't understand. like you. making comments instead of providing insights lol
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Posted by Nights22
1. I think I have quite the ray of sunshine over my head. But I do tend to complain. I'll blame it on passion. lol. But seriously if I'm complaining its because I feel strongly about the subject and because I want it to be better.

2. I suppose I do this. Not all the time tho.

3. Idk bout pisces females. I never pick physical fights. But If I've promised something threatening Ive gone through with it 99% of the time.

4. Yeah we're good at mimicking people we dont know. If Im with friends or family I am the same person. But with strangers or people I dont know I may act different. I think it more usual to act different with different people when we're younger because We dont quite know ourselves.



yeah, i forgot to mention most of my bad experiences have been w/ only pisces women; not men. the men seem cool, but the women r just questionable to me. but appreciate the insight 🙂 thx
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Speaking about myself...

"1) COMPLAINING"- Only if it helps solve the problem. I believe in doing something about it rather than bitch and moan.

"2) PLAYING THE VICTIM CARD"- Nope. I take personal responsibility for my f-ups. If anything, I'm more self deprecating than victim.

"3) ALL BARK AND NO BITE"- Fighting is immature. Why bother with negative energy? I don't bulk at confrontation. I state my position. Give reasons why I think/ feel the way I do. If the person doesn't agree then I move on. Because I understand that everyone is different and maybe my way is not the best for them. I don't believe in forcing myself/ opinions on anyone. However, I will be clear on my views and say it tactfully to their face.




hmmm ok. u sound a lot diff than the women ive come across. maybe these actions r influenced by other signs in their chart idk. n sorry, is should've provided more examples w/ the "all bark & no bite thing" b/c it doesn't necessarily go for just fights. like promising things and not following through with it...
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4. Yeah we're good at mimicking people we dont know. If Im with friends or family I am the same person. But with strangers or people I dont know I may act different. I think it more usual to act different with different people when we're younger because We dont quite know ourselves.



I was the same way when I was younger. Maybe in some instances even now. I look at it this way. You don't go to a black tie event dressed in cutoffs and flip-flops. You dress accordingly. Most Pisces are uncomfortable sticking out, so they blend in. But when a comfort level is established , then we tend to not edit.
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oOooh ok. that makes A LOT of sense! n yeah mayb it has to do w/ age too. but the point about pisces being uncomfortable to stick out is very understandable. thanks for explaining that. helped a lot 🙂
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Posted by DAMEN VI
aqua's and pisces just aren't meant to figure each other out..



LOL!! yeah that sounds about right haha. i don't think we're meant to understand each other too. n all ur stories about crazy ass aquas that's sum shit lol. i kno sum psycho aquas too. n same story about ur cuzn's whoever, i kno a pisces girl who talks big shit too and ended up getting layed out as well -- it goes both ways. aquas arent perfect, pisces arent perfect, no ones perfect. n i get that! im just trying to understand our differences thats all
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Posted by ~mystic_fish
I can't comprehend being "the very same" with everyone.. To me, that would be robotic, insincere and viewing "everyone" else the same. Some people ARE simply more special or approachable to me than others and so i'll naturally give the best or more of myself. Of course you're going to "naturally" show various layers of yourself in varying circumstances and i would expect the same from others. I really don't see it as complex, at all.






o wow! that was a good explanation! very helpful. i get that part now thx 🙂
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Posted by ArticleL
Weird I've never seen Pisces act this way the only thing I would say about Pisces is their weird as shit. And yeah they do complain alot but there so cute 😛



lol yeah i agree they're cute. esp physically. but then personality-wise is a little questionable after awhile. but agen, this is only what ive experienced so far. im sure not ALL pisces r this way... or @ least that's wut im trying to figure out here lol
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Posted by extempjunk
I have to level the "complaining" grievance back at the OP -- this is a BIG trait of the all of the Aquariuses I happen to meet, including my SO. What gives? They'll even do it in front of people they just met to the extent that it's rude and just...odd-seeming. It seems to come from a place of incredible resentment towards the world, the origins of which, well, who can tell. I'll respond to the Pisces stuff in-depth later when I'm not about to go to work 🙂



Lol! i guess we can just agree to disagree on everything. thx for posting tho
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lol My Aqua ex-bf was a really big complainer too. I don't think he could help it though, he had anger issues, etc. 😢 So he wasn't necessarily the 'typical' Aqua in that way.
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i can c how aquas can b perceived as complainers too. i think we're just overly opinionated and always speak our mind esp wen it comes to things that r unfair. we personally could care less, but we speak for injustice n things tht aren't right so it's reflex to make it known that something's not right jst so that YOU know lol. probably not a desirable trait many signs like likes about us as well but that's wut it is 🙂
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If you're talking about things your Pisces friends do that I don't do, or that I don't understand either, then I won't be able to provide insight. So how is that questionable lol.

The one thing you listed that I do sometimes is 'playing the victim'. We probably do that sometimes to help others understand how we felt in certain situations, like Nimbue said. Since we are sensitive inside, we tend to feel strongly about certain things when we feel hurt or wronged. Even though when I've done that, I also mention my own screw ups so that my side is understood accurately, as well as my own faults in the situation.



the "questionable" comment was a joke. but ur explanation bout how "We probably do that sometimes to help others understand how we felt in certain situations" makes me understand better y u guys do that. to me, it's a weird way of showing it but @ least i UNDERSTAND y pisces might do that. agen, things i dont agree w/ but @ least i can understand y 🙂 thx
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I think the "playing the victim card" habit and "all bark, no bite" thing go hand in hand. Sometimes I know it feels like things just happen to me and I portray myself at the mercy of someone or something. With this outlook on life, it's easy to get furious and blustery about how helpless you feel. I mean, if you didn't feel helpless, would you be so angry? And if you feel helpless, what is there really to do about something that bothers you? And so on. So that may be what's going on with the punk attitude.

As for friends who don't accept me, I can't say I have any of those, but I do have friends who I have "life style " differences with, to put it one way. Basically this means I know that there are things that I do that they find unacceptable (usually vice-versa) and they're not gonna lie to me about it. I don't see what the problem is with being friends with them anyway -- I usually learn a lot more from people who are different from me and part of having self-respect is understanding their right to disagree with me, not just vainly searching for people to validate me. I would hate to think that the only reason my friends are there is because I approve of them; hopefully we learn from each other and our differences in some way. Otherwise why are we different people?