Honesty & Pisces (men)

I'm no stranger to the Pisces/ Scorp relationship ... so this fish I found recently doesn't need much analyzing. However, I'm older now and have found that being honest with people and keeping things upfront is the best way for me to live. I'd like the same in return in any sort of personal relationship; romantic or otherwise. My question is, when it comes to Pisces (being a dreamer, and all) - how does someone else's truth hit them? Do they want to know - or would they prefer to stay in their dream world and conjure up what they want it to be?

Back story: dating long distance for 3 months (half time home/ half time away) This man has done a number on me ... I cannot think straight when he's in front of me. Totally smitten .... For someone to have this abiltiy makes me 100% uncomfortable. I like to have control over myself and my emotions ... but he swims up and I'm a puddle of myself.

Thoughts? Thanx ...

Clearly I'm not a man...

But I will say personally - even though the truth might not fit into what I want/have been thinking, I'd MUCH rather know the truth and be forced to deal with reality and move on (assuming the truth is something he isn't going to want to hear.) When I'm left to my own devices, it gives me too much room to set myself up to be hurt even more.

Is there something you need to tell this man?

Depends, I tend to go hot and cold at intervals it seems when it comes to people's personal lives. But generally its better off if they told the truth. Otherwise our dream will become a nightmare for everyone in the end.

I find it quite curious that the majority of people associate truth with pain.


Why is the truth suppose to hurt?


Doesn't that seem odd?

Shouldn't it be the other way around?

Shouldn't it be the truth sets free and feels good ... while the lie is the one that hurts?

@ deezie - Not something pertinant ... more like - I'd like to be honest with him and admit that he makes me nervous and feeling like a 3rd grader with a wicked crush. It's been a light 3 months - not much heavy discussion, laden with feelings and such. Wanted to test the water (pun intended!) to see how this might float ...

@ Bram/ Shattered - agreed. Truth is usually the best route to take ... even if the truth is admiting that someone has a (positive) effect on you.

@ P Angel - 100% agreed that the truth leads to freedom and should (in theory) feel good. Lies hurt much much worse ... In this case, the truth isn't something hurtful or unpleasant - more like; can he handle the truth? Can he handle my admission of vulnerability without feeling as though I'm asking for more?

*** Additionally, I met him for dinner last night. During conversation, the topic came up. He didn't seem bothered ... and the tone of the evening stayed where it usually stays - full of flirting, insane attraction and long pauses with a dash of staring. C'est la vie ... we shall wait and see.

blue-eyed....

I think what you need to figure out is what you hope to accomplish by telling him this?
Are you asking for more? If you aren't, then why the urgent need to spit out your feelings.

I've said this before on another post a long time ago: disclosure is a process and if you jump it too quickly the other person is put into a rock/hard place predicament where they aren't comfortable enough to "match" your level of sharing, and feel like they have to. It leads to all sorts of problems. So while you have all these strange feelings you have to figure out if it's the "right" time to disclose it to HIM.

Posted by deezie
blue-eyed....

So while you have all these strange feelings you have to figure out if it's the "right" time to disclose it to HIM.

I'm pretty sure I was TRYING to type "strong feelings" not "strange feelings". Sorry! I read over that and I was like.... that doesn't really make any sense!