
ninalove
@ninalove
13 Years
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Posted by LouLore
Just be honest.
Completely transparent with him about your feelings.
That will be most respected I'm sure, and when you are 100% honest, the only result is that of an honest result in the highest order. Nothing less can be produced when the heart is completely open.

Posted by tbird
Just be honest but tactful. Tell him how you're feeling and that's pretty much it. Delivery is the key.


Posted by ninalove
... it appears he is trying to avoid seeing me ....



Posted by winterwrought
Pisces Suns w/ Cancerian Moons = Misunderstood? (Eventually) to the point of being given up on? (Too) moody? So easily offended? Unable to forgive, forget and move on and way from what/who-ever wronged them?
Seems that way...

Posted by ninalove
I don't think I can handle his behavior anymore...this can't be normal. So my question to you is how can I do this and keep it peaceful and respectful?
He has never had a relationship that lasted more than a year. We have been involved for 7 months.
He has a string of ex's that are now enemies. I really don't want to go there with this dude.
Suggestions?
Pisces Sun & Rising
Cancer Moon
Venus in Aries

Posted by shellshockerPosted by ninalove
I don't think I can handle his behavior anymore...this can't be normal. So my question to you is how can I do this and keep it peaceful and respectful?
He has never had a relationship that lasted more than a year. We have been involved for 7 months.
He has a string of ex's that are now enemies. I really don't want to go there with this dude.
Suggestions?
Pisces Sun & Rising
Cancer Moon
Venus in Aries
I'm interested to know what happened? The behaviour is normal.. I think you are weighing the scales too much, over thinking and comparing.
Too bad.. I was rooting for success with these placements.
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Posted by P-AngelPosted by ninalove
... it appears he is trying to avoid seeing me ....
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Posted by piranhaparadiise
Maybe simply ask him straight up if anything is wrong ?
A Pisces only avoids or ignores if they are slighted hurt or you said or did something...to them it may have offended them... to you it will not seem something to be offended by...
Water moon = easily offended over the most minute thing...something someone can easily brush off but a Pisces sun and water moon MAN...is very very sensitive...easily tempered...easily hurt...
Yes maybe to some it's too much *moods*...but if you are good at *sensing* them ...that is have some real connection you will know what is wrong...use you're intuition/instinct...
Please realise even if sensitive they like to be in control of everything...If you try to take the lead...they will feel *controlled* closed in...losing their freedom...combination of Pisces sun...moon water and venus aries...but it's the venus aries that needs to take the lead...I think...
Are you really truly wanting out ?! Because I can say he may be revengeful after the fact...maybe you have a change of heart and he may just may ignore you even more until he feels it's the right time...
I know sucks but that's what you can get with a water sun/moon combo...very quick to take offense...I know because I'm with one LOL...

Posted by Nemesis
i was thinking more along the lines of catharsis...🙂

Posted by ninalove
I am taking it as a sign of uncertainty and instability. I know he loves me but this kind of behavior makes me afraid to remain close to him. He seems like a ticking time bomb. I feel really bad as many of his relationships seem to have ended in a tumultuous fashion. He is a very wounded guy and I HATE being the next one to jump ship.
When he is sweet it's a love like no other, when he's sour I want to take the kids and run for cover.

Posted by MeMyselfAndIntrigued
I couldn't quote your last post because it was too long but all of this is alarming to me. Especially the part about loosing his cool around the kids. That is something not to tolerate. If he is that comfortable acting that way then he's done it many times. It could only get worse.
The part about the parent seems very suspicious at least in her behavior.
I'm so sorry to hear you are madly in love with him, yet you have fear of him not keeping himself collected around your kids. That is a deal breaker for me.

Posted by MeMyselfAndIntriguedPosted by ninalove
I am taking it as a sign of uncertainty and instability. I know he loves me but this kind of behavior makes me afraid to remain close to him. He seems like a ticking time bomb. I feel really bad as many of his relationships seem to have ended in a tumultuous fashion. He is a very wounded guy and I HATE being the next one to jump ship.
When he is sweet it's a love like no other, when he's sour I want to take the kids and run for cover.
They likely didn't want to deal with the aggression. If it's like you say it is, they as women picture having babies with him and likely ran scared. If he frightened your kids then they will always feel uneasy if they have to live with him. Don't get me wrong, I am pro Pisces guys as everyone knows but everyone has their own make up at the end of the day.
Once I heard my ex (that I was still in love with at the time) drop repeated F bombs in front of his little kid, it was a no brainer for me. Maybe I'm going overboard, but kids look up to us to protect them from certain things. You want yours to feel safe in your hands.click to expand

Posted by ninalovePosted by MeMyselfAndIntrigued
I couldn't quote your last post because it was too long but all of this is alarming to me. Especially the part about loosing his cool around the kids. That is something not to tolerate. If he is that comfortable acting that way then he's done it many times. It could only get worse.
The part about the parent seems very suspicious at least in her behavior.
I'm so sorry to hear you are madly in love with him, yet you have fear of him not keeping himself collected around your kids. That is a deal breaker for me.
You read me well on this one...I don't know how deep the rabbit hole goes with the temper and acting out.click to expand

Posted by ninalovePosted by MeMyselfAndIntriguedPosted by ninalove
I am taking it as a sign of uncertainty and instability. I know he loves me but this kind of behavior makes me afraid to remain close to him. He seems like a ticking time bomb. I feel really bad as many of his relationships seem to have ended in a tumultuous fashion. He is a very wounded guy and I HATE being the next one to jump ship.
When he is sweet it's a love like no other, when he's sour I want to take the kids and run for cover.
They likely didn't want to deal with the aggression. If it's like you say it is, they as women picture having babies with him and likely ran scared. If he frightened your kids then they will always feel uneasy if they have to live with him. Don't get me wrong, I am pro Pisces guys as everyone knows but everyone has their own make up at the end of the day.
Once I heard my ex (that I was still in love with at the time) drop repeated F bombs in front of his little kid, it was a no brainer for me. Maybe I'm going overboard, but kids look up to us to protect them from certain things. You want yours to feel safe in your hands.
No swearing just a tone and pitch I can't describe but harsh as hell for a seven year old. There were other adults around and we all sat silently...quite surprised.
I would like to speak to him about this anyway...just a bit nervous about the response.click to expand


Posted by piranhaparadiisePosted by ninalove
No swearing just a tone and pitch I can't describe but harsh as hell for a seven year old. There were other adults around and we all sat silently...quite surprised.
I would like to speak to him about this anyway...just a bit nervous about the response.
Kids are quite resilient with their parents...I really don't see this as a major problem...I myself am quite strict with my kids and I tend to have a tone and authority in my voice...
I think he has his way of parenting and you have your way...leave it at that...One thing I will say blended families are very hard to blend especially when the other tries to put their own views on parenting...not gonna happen with a Pisces I can tell you...speaking from experience here...click to expand

Posted by MeMyselfAndIntrigued
I agree with PP but you were there so you know if it was a stressed parent using discipline or if he has a temper that is questionable. Talking about it with him is not a good idea, but if you don't feel you want your kids around it then that is your right.

Posted by ninalovePosted by MeMyselfAndIntrigued
I agree with PP but you were there so you know if it was a stressed parent using discipline or if he has a temper that is questionable. Talking about it with him is not a good idea, but if you don't feel you want your kids around it then that is your right.
I did not think about it before..,. his child was NOT alarmed. Just us...
I ahve not addressed my children yet about it...not sure what to say at this point as I don't want to exacerbate their impression.click to expand

Posted by MeMyselfAndIntriguedPosted by ninalovePosted by MeMyselfAndIntrigued
I agree with PP but you were there so you know if it was a stressed parent using discipline or if he has a temper that is questionable. Talking about it with him is not a good idea, but if you don't feel you want your kids around it then that is your right.
I did not think about it before..,. his child was NOT alarmed. Just us...
I ahve not addressed my children yet about it...not sure what to say at this point as I don't want to exacerbate their impression.
That's smart not to put an idea in your kids head. As for his not being alarmed, good or bad, if it's all they know then it's the norm. You may in fact be soft but you said the other parents were shocked too. Maybe talk to some of them about it and get their perspective of it. How would they feel if it were their kids, was he too forceful etc. This is where instincts talked about so much in here comes into play. You are an adult and you know what you can handle but if you two end up say, getting married, he will have to be the disciplinarian at one point or another. Can you see him being that way to your kids? I don't know what he was like or what might have triggered it that day. I know my kids dad and I are very unhappy in our arrangement and we both show our stress a little too much toward our kids because of it. I hate putting them through it, that's why I want out as soon as I am able. There are emotions we lash out when we are not really this kind of person and then there are people who are just this way. You can cut him slack if it was a one time thing but if he easily angers, it's another. I'm speaking from experience because I live with someone who is "just this way" I don't want my kids walking on eggshells all the time but they do and I do. The atmosphere here is always heavy. I don't wish that on you and your kids. If he gets upset more than he is loving then that's not a good sign, that's my point.click to expand



Posted by SizzurpPosted by MeMyselfAndIntrigued
He has a Pisces rising. That must be a mistake. He's cold, rude, controlling, manipulative, racist....well he doesn't like anyone. Just a complete drag to be around!
Ouch! I'll have you know, I have a Pisces rising there Missy!click to expand

Posted by MeMyselfAndIntrigued
He has a Pisces rising. That must be a mistake. He's cold, rude, controlling, manipulative, racist....well he doesn't like anyone. Just a complete drag to be around!


Posted by extempjunkPosted by MeMyselfAndIntrigued
Omg. Shut up already p-angel.
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Posted by ninalove
I was a quite taken aback by him stating thoughts to end our relationship and thinking could our relationship mean so little that he was willing to end it based on a concern I raised. Since he obviously decided against it, why on earth would he say that to me? It almost sounded like a threat not to bring up a discussion on his behavior.




Posted by ninalove
I was a quite taken aback by him stating thoughts to end our relationship and thinking could our relationship mean so little that he was willing to end it based on a concern I raised.

Posted by piranhaparadiisePosted by ninalove
OMG! How are managing him? My dear friend who is a third decan Pisces reminds me not to take it personally...soooo hard to do sometimes.
I let him live as he likes to live and I have my place and most times I am nonchalant naturally because his negatives don't phase me nor his moods...since I can tell instantly what is wrong...I already know how he will react to any situation/thoughts/words/ ...it's why he feels safe to tell me or bombard me with his moods knowing I don't stray..I am there through thick and thin...
..be supportive understanding tolerant and ALLOW room for errors...nobody is perfect...
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Posted by P-AngelPosted by ninalove
I was a quite taken aback by him stating thoughts to end our relationship and thinking could our relationship mean so little that he was willing to end it based on a concern I raised.
I see right through you ... and so does he, obviously.
Your forked tongue in here attempts to make people think that you've made a decision to break up ... when in reality, he won't even talk to you and you want to mend issues, why else would you be taken aback that he wants to end it, and that he would think the relatinoship meant so little that he would end it.
That means you don't want to break up ... but he does. So, you lie and come in here to say you've made a decision to break up with him and want to know the best way to do it.
The reality is ... I told this several times, and because you can't handle my tone of voice you chose to ignore it .. which means you chose ignorance.
Reap what you sow ..... you choose ignorance = he ignores you
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Posted by extempjunk
Yeah, there are plenty of good examples of Pisces who are like this, but it's definitely still worth saying, if only to strengthen her position and give her confidence in what she's saying (since she says she not great with confrontations). And honestly, it really sounds like this guy's ego needs some checking.

No one else shares your beliefs on this, so again that shows how ignorant you are. You can't fathom that someone might actually want to leave a Pisces? You are living proof that not all of them are worth wanting. Your opinions used to entertain me and I saw some truth to them, but now I just find you exhausting and rediculous.



Posted by extempjunk
Ok, but in all fairness to MMI wasn't really "following P-Angel" when she was on the thread first talking with the OP about the actual topic. Furthermore, the OP DID state she was gonna ignore P-Angel, yet P-Angel continues to harass her with "advice" (read: mostly insults). She even acknowledges the OP is not listening to her and continues to talk. I guess if P-Angel is allowed free rein to talk to someone who's ignoring her, why shouldn't MMI?


Posted by MeMyselfAndIntriguedPosted by MeMyselfAndIntrigued
He has a Pisces rising. That must be a mistake. He's cold, rude, controlling, manipulative, racist....well he doesn't like anyone. Just a complete drag to be around!
I knew something was off. Virgo rising. N. Node in Pisces whatever that means.click to expand

Posted by SilentSentinelPosted by MeMyselfAndIntriguedPosted by MeMyselfAndIntrigued
He has a Pisces rising. That must be a mistake. He's cold, rude, controlling, manipulative, racist....well he doesn't like anyone. Just a complete drag to be around!
I knew something was off. Virgo rising. N. Node in Pisces whatever that means.
Oh man, I'm not surprised... Some of my best friends are Virgos, but their dark side is extremely cruel. On the other hand, two of them (both females) are the biggest sweethearts I know and they would be amazing wives.click to expand
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He has never had a relationship that lasted more than a year. We have been involved for 7 months.
He has a string of ex's that are now enemies. I really don't want to go there with this dude.
Suggestions?
Pisces Sun & Rising
Cancer Moon
Venus in Aries