How to get rid of an annoying pesk.

So, I'm currently in the midst of dealing with an extremely annoying pesk. I like the advice given on the pisces board, so thought I'd ask for insight here.
I don't feel like making this a super long thread, so I'll give you the main details.
My s/o and I were broken up for a week. During this week, I met said pesk, online. We had a lot in common, but a day or two in he started talking about having feelings for me. I stupidly ignored it. He was nice, though, which made me slightly open to the idea of this going somewhere. However, he continued to talk about feelings and even dropped the L word which made me put off. He asked to be in a relationship but I said I'm not sure and I'd prefer to wait. What we did in that (less than a)week: Skyped a few times and texted. I realized I missed my ex and asked him for another chance. I told pesk that I don't want anymore contact with him. He knew it was my ex, though, and I had brought up missing him, before. I went to bed. Woke up with 300+ text messaged and a few missed calls. I was pissed and began to explain to him in every way possible that I want no contact from him ever again. At first, I was foolish in thinking maybe we could end up as friends after he dealt with his emotions, but after sending me that many texts I was completely done. I was mean, too, in those texts, but he refused to listen. He would send me texts like 'Wanna watch a movie? How about at 5? : )', even after all of this and 'You're mine! I'm not letting you date around like a bum!', also after everything I said. He talked like nothing happened and that we were in a relationship, even though as I mentioned previously, I never agreed to that and he KNEW it. I found a way to block him, so I did, along with the two other numbers he tried to contact me from. Then, he decided to message my s/o on facebook (I have no idea how he found him because my relationship status was hidden and I had no pictures of him up, I also only posted one thing about my s/o on there ever, but my wall is private on there....Anyway, threatened him, then proceeded to send me messages on another site I used. Blocked him there. Still sent messages from multiple other accounts. Latest he said: "I'm gonna shoot that cheater unless you talk to me my love .. ~you've been warned." To give you a timeframe, it's been about 2 weeks since I told him to stop contacting me. Soooo, what would you do? He literally won't stop contacting me and now he's threatening me.

My s/o is out of state, currently, and lives closer to this kid, too, and I wouldn't put it past him to go out and try to find him. I don't know if I should consider something legal? This is the first threat he's sent to me and the one's he's sent to my s/o I'm sure and null and void since I have no doubt that he responded back with a threat. He doesn't contact me every day like he used to, either. I am just not sure how far this guy will go or how to get him off my back.
Ughhhh, so, I know I put myself into this whole, but do you guys have any ideas?

Legal action— Treetrunk yes!

After this:

"Anyway, threatened him, then proceeded to send me messages on another site I used."

And this:

"I'm gonna shoot that cheater unless you talk to me my love .. "

And this2:

"~you've been warned"

Yes, you led this guy on but you also were very clear with him about your feelings and the status of "this" relationship.
Stalkers thrive on these things, rejection is not rejection to them, on the contrary they see it as an invitation and a challenge.
You need to take action.

I've come across guys like this online (thinking there are feelings there in such a short period of time). Not to this degree - but shades of it. All it takes is coming across ONE that has 1337 hacking skillz (or not, possibly a very attentive listener), and just that little bit extra crazy/lonely... voila - problems...

I don't think Scenic is telling the whole truth...

Thanks for the input. I'll start documenting things in case this continues. I informed my s/o, though I'm sure right about now he's ready to go bury the guy behind a shed. I'm more worried for my s/o since he's threatened him and threatened me about him.

@Elusive, yeah, I led him on, but not in any kind of way that should elicit his quick feelings. I made sure not to say anything besides the average niceties (I do this with everyone. I never state anything relating to what I'm feeling until I know for sure what actions I want to take and where I want things to go). It started off with, after him realizing we had so much in common, saying "You're the greatest!", and then led up to him calling me 'Sweetie'. While by not telling him to stop doing those things, I led him on, I never said anything myself that would suggest feelings from me, just stuff like "Thanks!" or "Aww, that's nice". Basically, I led him on by failing to address the things he said. But if my actions accelerated and pushed his feelings forward, then I suppose I ought to pay more attention to what I say to people. : (

@Shellshocker, if you want more information, you're free to ask me anything. I don't know what else I can say. : 0

It's okay to call me cold person. I understand where you're coming from, but just know it's as confusing to me as it is you. As I've mentioned a few times, I think he was enamored with how much we had in common. He had high moral standards, so he liked that I didn't drink, etc, and we had the same taste in music and same views on everything, pretty much. We both stated a few times that we are literally the same person with how much we had in common. Maybe that was enough for him to feel something? I'm a lot nicer to people I have private conversations with, too. If it deals with talking to a group, like on these message boards, I like to keep things formal, or cold, depending on how you look at it. Haha. I don't know what was or is going on in his head, but maybe we can both agreed that whatever it is, isn't anything stable. Honestly, I wouldn't mind thinking it's my fault except that he is just so far out there and acting so delusional, that I can't see much of what I did in his actions. He's just crazy.

Oh! He mentioned he felt a deep connection with me, too. Haha! But once again, I'm attributing that to the fact that we were pretty much like the same person as far as what we liked and did. Though, just know I'm not crazy like he is! We're definitely different in that aspect. Anyway, he's really annoying and I just hope this stops, soon. My s/o is having a hard time trusting me because I guess when the pesk messaged him, he probably said stuff like 'Stay away from my girlfriend!', etc, that made it seem like we were together. He's been cheated on before, soo....I just want this guy out of my life. He has no respect for my wishes and is now threatening me so I even talk to him. What a loser.

Oh well, I got the answers that I wanted: I'll start documenting and take legal action if this continues. I now know that's appropriate. I would delete this now, but sadly after all these months of being on here, I don't know how to do that. But, thanks for your input, everyone! : )

Posted by shellshocker
I don't think Scenic is telling the whole truth...

Of course she isn't ... anyone besides me remember the total lie regarding the child abuse that never happened?

Yeah, it went something like: Mom physically abuses her as a child (child being a smartass 15-year-old), while dad sits in living room reading news paper and never notices, not seeing nor hearing, that she gets her ass whopped in the next room by mother.

When bullshit is called, Scenic then becomes very verbally abusive.


It was established, she was telling a complete fib ... because that's what drama whores do to get attention.

looks like she strikes again here

Ahhh, p-angel, never thought I'd see you around again. How have you been? Still the same, I see.

*claps*

Finally some entertainment on the Pisces board!

Bravo ......

Its been quite redundant and hell of boring........ 😢

Thanks. I was thinking of the options I have. I have what I believe to be his father's number, since he's tried contacting me on a few different numbers. Calling him is always an option, but, he's in pretty bad condition, trying to recover from cancer. I'd feel bad. But, having the police show up wouldn't be any less stressful for him, I suppose. : ( I'm starting to become paranoid, too, worrying a bit about my safety, since he knows where I go to school. I'll probably go to the police soon if my s/o doesn't. Luckily, I'm home for over a month, so I can relax and see what happens. I'm going to try talking to the people who run the other site I'm on and see if they can block his IP address, since he keeps making accounts after I block him. Wish me luck!

Only thing I don't like about it is you jumped into something rigt after you break if off with your original s/o.......
I suppose IT does matter how long you were the original one... If it was just brief thing not lasting more than a month than I suppose your actions make more sense... I'd probably do the same thing ^.^

^^^Well, it's not like we started talking to date. We met as friends. He developed feelings for me super quick and then everything went downhill from there. While, I did say I was considering something briefly, it's still not the purpose of why I started talking to him. I guess that doesn't matter much, though.

@Thanks, 88! I blocked him from fb, but my other site is something I visit quite often and would be sad to have to take a break from. But, it's something to consider if the developers can't block him permanently. Since I go to a university with tons of people, I feel a little comforted knowing that it may be harder to find me if he tries. I think he has more beef with my s/o, though, and I feel he's pretty safe since he only knows the state he's in, not the area.

Mmm, I feel that it would just be too unreal for anything more serious to happen. I'm well aware that I should be taking more actions, etc, I just like to ignore my problems, which is bad. Either way, my s/o just called me and said he's heading to the police. He got another fb message, apparently. Which, makes me almost a little mad, since he refused to block that guy's account in the first place and apparently didn't block his second. Oh well, it's not his fault. I'm hoping good results come of this and the police actually do something. I promised him that once I get back to campus, I'll contact the local police, myself. So, this is slowly being taken care of. Thank you all for your concern. This isn't over yet, but at least you guys provided me with good advice on what to do + support.