How to help my Pisces male friend in dark times

Hello just thought I'd come in here for some suggestions. I know Pisces men pretty well however I'm not a Pisces (cancer) so don't know exactly how they process stuff. My neighbour is going through a really dark period his dad dying and he has hit the 90 day reality check grief period of his long term girlfriend leaving him so is dealing with a lot. He is typical Pisces lots of booze and women drugs not such a problem but he is starting to go off the deep end too much staying awake for days drinking not turning up to work (own business) ...more women than in the queue for toilets at a festival. He came home at 5am drunk after being in a fight and called me and woke me up and just let it all out especially with his dad.

He has opened up to me and cried about both problems and knows he can come to me like a brother and has asked me to help him get his act together but only when intoxicated. I am not sure what to do as I'm torn between letting him get away with his behaviour to cope and knowing I need to help him tone it down even just a bit. Problem is most Pisces will live their life Their own way and you can't really stop them from my past experience.

What can I do to help him but let him deal with things how he needs to but also as he has asked me for help. I feel the fight was sort of the amber light as could have been a lot more serious but Pisces always have 9 lives and rarely need to use more than one for some reason.

Thanks in advance

Seriously? His dad is dying and he is making it all about himself?

That's sad but his behavior is simply selfish! I understand he is hurt but it has nothing to do with him bein Pisces to behave like that! Does he ever talks about how his dad feeling?

I don't think you can do anything at this point. He will brake down eventually and if God is willing - he will be back but it might take time and rude awakening.

Sorry you are caught on the middle of this.

I would never abandon him now we are both only children and I have lost both my parents so I can relate to everything he his going through. The guilt you have when someone is dying and some days you just don't want to watch it is really intense and we have talked about it and cried together even. He is not being selfish with his dad he talks about him a lot I think it's tough as a man to see the male idol all guy really life a shadow of their former self ... it's really about preservation issues when you are an only child also.

As a Pisces as I know they internalise things and as man when you have no one to talk to it isn't easy. That stereo typical Pisces going to the dark side is just so hard to watch as an onlooker and I feel like I'm living an abnormal life watching it all go on and being involved in it so I'm not sure what to do for myself as well as him.

I've nicely suggested he should tone it down for a week as I have a very big work commitment but I don't think that will kill the destructive phase in general. It's that weird line between not wanting to enable someone in any way and also letting them cope in the way they need to. I also don't know on what level I'm supposed to step in and help as really I am just a neighbor and it hasn't even been that long although there is something very fated about us like soul brother and sister or something.

Thanks again