My ex and I broke up almost 2 months ago. And i cant lie i took it hard doing things such as, blowing up her phone, coming to the job just to talk(i was intoxicated),and even showed up at her house. But it seems like im running around in circles. Shes playing the hot and cold game to the max. Contacting me everyday but if i try to contact her first i get no response. We work together so sometimes we have no choice but to see each other. Sometimes at work shes all flirty/touchy the next shes avoiding me. Flirting with a guy at work and theres been rumors they mess around and talk. Of course it hurts but shes not my girl so i cant do nothing about it. I ask if they talk and time after time she tells me no. I dont even care anymore. to fall back and trust me i have. I still have love for her but its slowly fading day by day. I haven't unfollowed her from snapchat or instgram because ive done it before and now it just seems petty. And honestly she plays the hot cold game on snapchat. One second throwing shots to hurt my feelings the next posting sweet things that we've done in the past then deletes them. But lastnight she sent a supershot involving the guy from work. I called and let her know how i felt but honestly that was my limits. She called me this morning saying shes in the area and wants to let her daughter see me(not the first time shes used this excuse). Honestly when she came i couldn't even look at her back i wanted to honestly punch her in her shit. So i just focused on the daughter. She tried to make conversation i was there physically but emotionally not at all. Im fed up at this point i will not contact her first anymore. I will not view her snaps or like pictures on instgram. Is doing this the best way to show he im not with the games anymore ?
Im fed up

jfc
The new 12 yo is now 25

I understand working together and having her in your face all the time will make it much harder to move on. But she wants to let her daughter see you... did you guys have the child together?
No, but her daughter loves me to death calls me dad sometimes it doesn't bother me

Dang that is really tough, what do really want to accomplish? It kinda sorta sounds like you're done with the games, but how do you plan on separating yourself while still being in her daughter's life? Your situation's very complicated and super messy, sir.
@femme Yea i know this was my first time seeing her in a while and im damn sure tired of her games cause i know she stil have feelings for me but these games are getting outta hand. Ill probably just try to establish the no contact rule i wont text or call her unless she does and definitely wont watch her snaps
@blackphase Shes very childish. And i cant even lie i wanna be with her, but im fed tf up honestly and my friend told me to say no next time she tries to use her daughter

Posted by terian01Yes, something has got to give. If she still had genuine feelings she wouldn't be playing these type of games, enjoy rubbing it in your face, or use her daughter to keep you hanging on.
@femme Yea i know this was my first time seeing her in a while and im damn sure tired of her games cause i know she stil have feelings for me but these games are getting outta hand. Ill probably just try to establish the no contact rule i wont text or call her unless she does and definitely wont watch her snaps
No contact definitely works, you just have to be disciplined.

Oh, now who is a player?

terian01 - I agree with blackphase and a few others - it sounds like she is sooo not good for you anyway and she should not be confusing her daughter - sounds like she's just playing games with you and your feelings as well as her own child. You know, the hardest thing about walking away is not looking back. Distance yourself, jump into some new activities and just stay away from the drama and games. It's not a nice feeling to be "played" with. You deserve so much more. We all deserve a true and real relationship with a loving and compassionate person.
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