Just want some advice on a Pisces man's actions

Hi, new here. I recently met a pisces man through match. we emailed back and forth for a week. we talked and texted for over a week. he asked me out. we went out for dinner and drinks. the date went very good. I was just a little reserved (Cancer here) but explained to him that I was just super nervous. I ended up going to his house and we stayed up talking late into the night and then basically cuddled and went to sleep. I was clear before I went to his house that I wasn't looking for a one night stand, he said he wasn't either. All through out the night we spooned and anytime he moved, he would kiss me on my head/neck/arm etc. quite a lovely night. the next morning, I wasn't 20 minutes down the road and he called me. for no reason, just to talk before he went into work. we texted later that evening. the next day we talked in the evening. I asked him two questions before we hung up. I asked him was he good with the level of communication we were having because I didn't want to be stalkerish or annoying. he said, yeah everything was great. then I asked him did he have a good time on the date. he said yes, I had a wonderful time with a wonderful person and we'll get together again soon (he was going out of town, I was going on vacation for a week and we live 40 minutes from each other). he said call/text me later. I said jokingly and he laughed, how bout you text/call me too so I know I'm not annoying you, he said okay. then......nothing. I mean nothing. no calls, will not respond to my text. I didn't blow his sh*t up either because I knew he was hanging with friends for the 4th and working and I didn't want to be that new stalker girl from match blowing his shit up. I sent two hey how was your night/weekend with no response. then I sent one that basically said, i'm wondering whats up I haven't heard from you. if you're not interested anymore just let me know. nothing. i sent another text a week later asking if he was just going to leave me hanging and listed some funny reasons and serious reasons for him not contacting me. trying to give him a chance to respond b/c in truth you never know what's going on in someones life. i called him last week and left a voice mail and basically said hey i don't want to live life with regrets/missed opportunities, if you are still interested or just want to chat give me a call. wth, why can't he just say what the deal is?

on the date, it was super funny b/c he looked up our sign compatibility, which is extremely high for pisces/cancer. we had so much in common. I'm a cancer, he knows this, I will understand anything reason he gives me, even if he thinks I'm incredibly ugly. I get it. it just seemed so promising and then nothing. I'm having a bit of a hard time with it and I feel like it's b/c I don't know the reason why. Like a tiny part of me deep down inside keeps hoping he's just scared or something and will call. If I knew what was up, I could finally quit thinking about it and move on. Its just so d*mn frustrating. side note, he also hasn't been on match in over two weeks. anyone have any advice/thoughts? I actually have to head to the town he lives in tomorrow evening and thought about calling and seeing if he would like to go out and get a drink. you know, something causal. but a part of me just feels like he will ignore it. I thought pisces men were supposed to be super caring and respectful of the other persons feelings but this just doesn't seem to be the case here. I know, not all pisces are created equal. maybe he's just an *sshole, but d*amn he really didn't seem like one. I just feel like we are both missing out on a chance to see where things go. I feel like today, people don't take the chances they should b/c everyones so worried about getting hurt. I don't want to live life that way. anyways, I've rambled enough. just wanted to see if any pisces men had any advice/thoughts. thanks in advance.

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Posted by LittleStar
You came across as insecure, wanting to know his reaction over every little action. Have more confidence in yourself and don't ask for so much feedback. His feedback will be in his actions.

Yes was going to say this. Build more confidence n I'll be fine. U don't need to ask a man every second if he's alright the way ur being or plan to act.

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how can i build more confidence i dont have much

Thanks, I get that. I'm just a straightforward person and have a hard time reading people. I asked b/c it was our first date/first time we were seeing each other and I just genuinely wanted to know if he had a good time. is it so bad to want to know if someone still likes you after the first date? but I can see how it would come across that way. live and learn right?

well what do you guys think about trying to see if he'd like to meet for drinks tomorrow while I'm town? try it or nah?

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that's how people do these day fro what I've read, when they don't want to go on with the date, they just cut communication.
just assume he's not interested, it doesn't matter how good the date was or you perceived it, people are like that they'll just cut you off.

Admittedly, Pisces people can be fickle/flakey when things are brand new. More than likely, it's not that he didn't or doesn't like you, but likes someone else more than he likes you. My advice is to not get re-involved if he comes back to you. We're so bad for people in that if they accept us back, we'll do the same shit to them over and over and over again. It's better for you and the Pi if you put your foot down, cut him loose, and never take him back. People who refuse to put up with our back/forth/flakey BS make us better people without even realizing it.

And..so sorry that happened to you. It happens to everyone though.

Sounds very unlike Pisces...i dont get it...and I am one. I always respond in some courteous fashion even if not interested...maybe you said something he took the wrong way and he lost interest is all I cam think of...lame he sounds like a prick..def dont talk to him again.

I think your quest for reassurance and the little game play with telling him to call you first, was off putting. My girlfriend does this to every guy she talks to, and all but one has left without a response. The one who did explain why he went silent, said that he wanted to let things progress naturally, and has a more "if you're feeling it, go with it" type flow. And that my girlfriend was really dissecting the relationship, and planning it out too much. Her need to evaluate their dates on the phone was too much for him.
The guy on your date probably asks himself if you were on the same page with him, because if you have to ask a lot of questions, youre either oblivious to the vibe you shared, you werent vibing with him, or you're asking just to be sure. Any way, yeah its nice to hear your man verbalize his "like" or "feelings" for you but it takes away from the power of that moment and that secret shared feeling/bond in my opinion, if you have to discuss it over the most basic things. It can be like a chore to a man.