my gf (Pisces Sun, Taurus Moon) wants me to spend less time with her friends

She basically told me that she doesn't like it that I'm always invited when one group of her friends invite her to things and doesn't want me to always go and to give her "alone time" with these friends.

I keep going back and forth in if this is fair. I've hung out with her friends a lot before and I like their company but now she wants me to be with them less. I also think it's a fair request from her because she mentioned she can't give her friends as much time as she wants when I'm there.

What do you guys think?

I'm a Cancer so of course this upset me a lot but I am obviously going to respect what she wants.



Update: I am actually a girl and I have a gf so half of the comments don't eally relate to my situation haha.

It just feels like she's now going out of her way to show me she doesn't want me around.

Just a few mins ago I found out she had gone out with her friends and a few months ago I would have been invited straight away but instead she doesn't even bother telling me her plans anymore. It's getting really hurtful now and I'm getting pretty sad over it but everytime I try to talk to her about how I feel she gets extremely defensive so I don't know what to do.

Posted by cancersaurus
She basically told me that she doesn't like it that I'm always invited when one group of her friends invite her to things and doesn't want me to always go and to give her "alone time" with these friends.

I keep going back and forth in if this is fair. I've hung out with her friends a lot before and I like their company but now she wants me to be with them less. I also think it's a fair request from her because she mentioned she can't give her friends as much time as she wants when I'm there.

What do you guys think?

I'm a Cancer so of course this upset me a lot but I am obviously going to respect what she wants.

I'm Piscean; she doesn't want testosterone around her and her friends. Don't get me wrong. We (Pisceans) want to do "girly things", talk about girly things, etc. She sees you 24/7; and needs her "alone" time with her friends. You're probably getting in the way of "woman" topics that you embarrass her and her friends, etc. Again, don't get me wrong. Just be perceptive (that means "watch" without saying a word). Do they start talking about something and they shy away, or maybe look at her and give her signs with their eyes as to, "X-nay on that subject; x-nay, your bf is here", etc? They don't want a man around and they've informed her, "Why is your boyfriend always hanging around here?" Don't be so possessive and allow her time to herself (even w/her friends). She will love you more for it! When I am in a solid relationship with a guy I will "miss" my friends and will have my SO drop me off at the club and come pick me up, or I will go to the club on my own and come back to him. If he wants to be with me all the "freaking" time then we will talk about this. I met an Aries (we talked on the phone) and he told me, "My wife and I (he's a widower) would ALWAYS do things together, where ever she went, I went and vice versa". I told him about the club thing and he didn't like it. Needless to say I didn't want a relationship with a man like this.

🤗 cyber hugs!

Love,

Eva

I agree with Eva.

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She basically told me that she doesn't like it that I'm always invited when one group of her friends invite her to things and doesn't want me to always go and to give her "alone time" with these friends.

I keep going back and forth in if this is fair. I've hung out with her friends a lot before and I like their company but now she wants me to be with them less. I also think it's a fair request from her because she mentioned she can't give her friends as much time as she wants when I'm there.

What do you guys think?

I'm a Cancer so of course this upset me a lot but I am obviously going to respect what she wants.

I'm Piscean; she doesn't want testosterone around her and her friends. Don't get me wrong. We (Pisceans) want to do "girly things", talk about girly things, etc. She sees you 24/7; and needs her "alone" time with her friends. You're probably getting in the way of "woman" topics that you embarrass her and her friends, etc. Again, don't get me wrong. Just be perceptive (that means "watch" without saying a word). Do they start talking about something and they shy away, or maybe look at her and give her signs with their eyes as to, "X-nay on that subject; x-nay, your bf is here", etc? They don't want a man around and they've informed her, "Why is your boyfriend always hanging around here?" Don't be so possessive and allow her time to herself (even w/her friends). She will love you more for it! When I am in a solid relationship with a guy I will "miss" my friends and have my SO drop me off at the club and come pick me up. If he wants to be with me all the "freaking" time then we will talk about this. I met an Aries (we talked on the phone) and he told me, "My wife and I (he's a widower) would ALWAYS do things together, where ever she went, I went and vice versa". I told him about the club thing and he didn't like it. Needless to say I didn't want a relationship with a man like this.

🤗 cyber hugs!

Love,

Eva

Her friends are the ones that always invite him?

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Nein (German for no), No...read it again.

🤗 cyber hugs!

Love,

Eva

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She basically told me that she doesn't like it that I'm always invited when one group of her friends invite her to things and doesn't want me to always go and to give her "alone time" with these friends.

I keep going back and forth in if this is fair. I've hung out with her friends a lot before and I like their company but now she wants me to be with them less. I also think it's a fair request from her because she mentioned she can't give her friends as much time as she wants when I'm there.

What do you guys think?

I'm a Cancer so of course this upset me a lot but I am obviously going to respect what she wants.

I'm Piscean; she doesn't want testosterone around her and her friends. Don't get me wrong. We (Pisceans) want to do "girly things", talk about girly things, etc. She sees you 24/7; and needs her "alone" time with her friends. You're probably getting in the way of "woman" topics that you embarrass her and her friends, etc. Again, don't get me wrong. Just be perceptive (that means "watch" without saying a word). Do they start talking about something and they shy away, or maybe look at her and give her signs with their eyes as to, "X-nay on that subject; x-nay, your bf is here", etc? They don't want a man around and they've informed her, "Why is your boyfriend always hanging around here?" Don't be so possessive and allow her time to herself (even w/her friends). She will love you more for it! When I am in a solid relationship with a guy I will "miss" my friends and have my SO drop me off at the club and come pick me up. If he wants to be with me all the "freaking" time then we will talk about this. I met an Aries (we talked on the phone) and he told me, "My wife and I (he's a widower) would ALWAYS do things together, where ever she went, I went and vice versa". I told him about the club thing and he didn't like it. Needless to say I didn't want a relationship with a man like this.

🤗 cyber hugs!

Love,

Eva

Her friends are the ones that always invite him?

Nein (German for no), No...read it again.

🤗 cyber hugs!

Love,

Eva

“She basically told me that she doesn't like it that I'm always invited.”

“I've hung out with her friends a lot before and I like their company but now she wants me to be with them less.”

Sounds like OPs Taurus moon gf is getting a case of the possessive little green monster.

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Are you Piscean? Pisceans don't believe in the, "Little green monster". I would sit down with her and ask her directly, "Why do I offend you when I'm always invited? Do you want me to turn down an invitation every now and then?", etc.

🤗 cyber hugs!

Love,

Eva

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Posted by cancersaurus
She basically told me that she doesn't like it that I'm always invited when one group of her friends invite her to things and doesn't want me to always go and to give her "alone time" with these friends.

I keep going back and forth in if this is fair. I've hung out with her friends a lot before and I like their company but now she wants me to be with them less. I also think it's a fair request from her because she mentioned she can't give her friends as much time as she wants when I'm there.

What do you guys think?

I'm a Cancer so of course this upset me a lot but I am obviously going to respect what she wants.

I'm Piscean; she doesn't want testosterone around her and her friends. Don't get me wrong. We (Pisceans) want to do "girly things", talk about girly things, etc. She sees you 24/7; and needs her "alone" time with her friends. You're probably getting in the way of "woman" topics that you embarrass her and her friends, etc. Again, don't get me wrong. Just be perceptive (that means "watch" without saying a word). Do they start talking about something and they shy away, or maybe look at her and give her signs with their eyes as to, "X-nay on that subject; x-nay, your bf is here", etc? They don't want a man around and they've informed her, "Why is your boyfriend always hanging around here?" Don't be so possessive and allow her time to herself (even w/her friends). She will love you more for it! When I am in a solid relationship with a guy I will "miss" my friends and have my SO drop me off at the club and come pick me up. If he wants to be with me all the "freaking" time then we will talk about this. I met an Aries (we talked on the phone) and he told me, "My wife and I (he's a widower) would ALWAYS do things together, where ever she went, I went and vice versa". I told him about the club thing and he didn't like it. Needless to say I didn't want a relationship with a man like this.

🤗 cyber hugs!

Love,

Eva

Her friends are the ones that always invite him?

Nein (German for no), No...read it again.

🤗 cyber hugs!

Love,

Eva

“She basically told me that she doesn't like it that I'm always invited.”

“I've hung out with her friends a lot before and I like their company but now she wants me to be with them less.”

Sounds like OPs Taurus moon gf is getting a case of the possessive little green monster.

Are you Piscean? Pisceans don't believe in the, "Little green monster". I would sit down with her and ask her directly, "Why do I offend you when I'm always invited? Do you want me to turn down an invitation every now and then?", etc.

🤗 cyber hugs!

Love,

Eva

No but I’m a Taurus moon like his gf.

Yeah I’d hate for my bf to always be around my friends!! That would probably drive me nuts.

I feel like he gets it though. If he loves her he will respect her space as needed.

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I still think he should talk to her. Communication is a must for a Cancerian; yet, I feel his feelings were hurt. As Piscean we expect the man to "get it" and don't want to hurt anyone; we can be just as "blunt" as a Saggy can be; yet sometimes we don't care who we hurt in the long run (I keep reminding y'all there are two fish swimming in opposite directions, one upstream; one downstream). Which one is she? Only he will find out when he talks to her and gets that "vibe" from her. Yeah, if he loves her he will heed to her wishes 😉

🤗 cyber hugs!

Love,

Eva

Posted by cancersaurus
She basically told me that she doesn't like it that I'm always invited when one group of her friends invite her to things and doesn't want me to always go and to give her "alone time" with these friends.

I keep going back and forth in if this is fair. I've hung out with her friends a lot before and I like their company but now she wants me to be with them less. I also think it's a fair request from her because she mentioned she can't give her friends as much time as she wants when I'm there.

What do you guys think?

I'm a Cancer so of course this upset me a lot but I am obviously going to respect what she wants.



Update: I am actually a girl and I have a gf so half of the comments don't eally relate to my situation haha.

It just feels like she's now going out of her way to show me she doesn't want me around.

Just a few mins ago I found out she had gone out with her friends and a few months ago I would have been invited straight away but instead she doesn't even bother telling me her plans anymore. It's getting really hurtful now and I'm getting pretty sad over it but everytime I try to talk to her about how I feel she gets extremely defensive so I don't know what to do.

I find Pisces to be the type that don’t like sharing and I have a Pisces friend and she liked a guy and she felt like the guy was trying to move to fast and decided she wanted nothing to do with him because she liked her space a lot! I would look at her mars and maybe her ascendant , but I think really it’s not that she doesn’t want you around but I think she just doesn’t want you around so often, not in a bad way but just that alone time and time to maybe talk about you guys relationship with her friends or talking about other things And just being able to keep her friends around because they are also important people who deserve her solo time like you .Pisces can kind of be touchy about anything’s feelings related because they don’t want to seem to sensitive or emotional about things. I wouldn’t be to worried and I think she’d appreciate that you listen to her and that that time she went out without telling you is an act of rebellion against you just to tick you off a little nothing major to worry about! CancerGang🤘🏽

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She basically told me that she doesn't like it that I'm always invited when one group of her friends invite her to things and doesn't want me to always go and to give her "alone time" with these friends.

I keep going back and forth in if this is fair. I've hung out with her friends a lot before and I like their company but now she wants me to be with them less. I also think it's a fair request from her because she mentioned she can't give her friends as much time as she wants when I'm there.

What do you guys think?

I'm a Cancer so of course this upset me a lot but I am obviously going to respect what she wants.



Update: I am actually a girl and I have a gf so half of the comments don't eally relate to my situation haha.

It just feels like she's now going out of her way to show me she doesn't want me around.

Just a few mins ago I found out she had gone out with her friends and a few months ago I would have been invited straight away but instead she doesn't even bother telling me her plans anymore. It's getting really hurtful now and I'm getting pretty sad over it but everytime I try to talk to her about how I feel she gets extremely defensive so I don't know what to do.

I find Pisces to be the type that don’t like sharing and I have a Pisces friend and she liked a guy and she felt like the guy was trying to move to fast and decided she wanted nothing to do with him because she liked her space a lot! I would look at her mars and maybe her ascendant , but I think really it’s not that she doesn’t want you around but I think she just doesn’t want you around so often, not in a bad way but just that alone time and time to maybe talk about you guys relationship with her friends or talking about other things And just being able to keep her friends around because they are also important people who deserve her solo time like you .Pisces can kind of be touchy about anything’s feelings related because they don’t want to seem to sensitive or emotional about things. I wouldn’t be to worried and I think she’d appreciate that you listen to her and that that time she went out without telling you is an act of rebellion against you just to tick you off a little nothing major to worry about! CancerGang🤘🏽

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Thank you so much for your comment, it's definitely made me feel better and I guess I just needed another opinion to put things into perspective for me 🙂

I'm very private in real life and find it difficult to talk about my personal life to friends (and even family) so whenever there are problems I tend to either internalise it or ask strangers on the internet!

But seriously, thanks!

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She basically told me that she doesn't like it that I'm always invited when one group of her friends invite her to things and doesn't want me to always go and to give her "alone time" with these friends.

I keep going back and forth in if this is fair. I've hung out with her friends a lot before and I like their company but now she wants me to be with them less. I also think it's a fair request from her because she mentioned she can't give her friends as much time as she wants when I'm there.

What do you guys think?

I'm a Cancer so of course this upset me a lot but I am obviously going to respect what she wants.



Update: I am actually a girl and I have a gf so half of the comments don't eally relate to my situation haha.

It just feels like she's now going out of her way to show me she doesn't want me around.

Just a few mins ago I found out she had gone out with her friends and a few months ago I would have been invited straight away but instead she doesn't even bother telling me her plans anymore. It's getting really hurtful now and I'm getting pretty sad over it but everytime I try to talk to her about how I feel she gets extremely defensive so I don't know what to do.

I find Pisces to be the type that don’t like sharing and I have a Pisces friend and she liked a guy and she felt like the guy was trying to move to fast and decided she wanted nothing to do with him because she liked her space a lot! I would look at her mars and maybe her ascendant , but I think really it’s not that she doesn’t want you around but I think she just doesn’t want you around so often, not in a bad way but just that alone time and time to maybe talk about you guys relationship with her friends or talking about other things And just being able to keep her friends around because they are also important people who deserve her solo time like you .Pisces can kind of be touchy about anything’s feelings related because they don’t want to seem to sensitive or emotional about things. I wouldn’t be to worried and I think she’d appreciate that you listen to her and that that time she went out without telling you is an act of rebellion against you just to tick you off a little nothing major to worry about! CancerGang🤘🏽

Thank you so much for your comment, it's definitely made me feel better and I guess I just needed another opinion to put things into perspective for me 🙂

I'm very private in real life and find it difficult to talk about my personal life to friends (and even family) so whenever there are problems I tend to either internalise it or ask strangers on the internet!

But seriously, thanks!

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Of course I hope I helped you get like that to an outside opinion is always better to me because I feel like noones going to just tell me what I want to hear. Keep your head up ! By the way the Asc. Is how she acts her the way she is portrayed and I’m a Pisces so I got a little bit of insight and the mars represents the desire for Action and physical energy like their instincts!

She doesn't love you.. she feels trapped by you.. you should let her go......

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She doesn't love you.. she feels trapped by you.. you should let her go......

We don't see each other often because she tends to be busy. In some months I see her once a week and sometimes it's once every 2 or 3 weeks. We aren't constantly together as we do have different lives that cause us to sometimes not be able to be together as much but I am okay with that (surprising for a Cancer, I know haha).

When she's at her parents house for holidays she is very talkative and is always asking me to visit her (and I do) but when she's back in her University City (where I also live) she obviously gets busier and seems like she doesn't really have time for me anymore which makes me a little sad but I understand and get over it.

Advice from a female pisces who also exclusively dates women:

Give your pisces space ( including space to hang with her friends) if you want to keep her.

Update:

She has just broken up with me. Surprisingly I'm not as sad as I thought I would be, in fact, I haven't even cried yet (miracle as a Cancer!) and I think it's because everything I was going through because of her had made me somewhat relieved that it's now over.

I just hope I don't have some kind of mental breakdown in a few days or weeks.

Here's to the future and thank you all for the help, even though I didn't get a chance to use any of the advice haha.

You didn't get a chance to use any advice because everyone's advice was shit....

Like I said.. let her go..

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Where does it say OP is a male?!



Anyhoo...nothing personal of course, but if my SO was constantly spending time with me and my friends, there would come a day where I’d want to punch him in a throat but since violance is unacceptable, I’d cry internally instead!

Some time apart, does a soul good!

trying to soften the blow ...this sing popped into my mind 😂😀😎

cough.cough.

LoL

Story of my life!



But seriously though...vaguely related to the subject matter...I am a huge proponent for having separate sleeping quarters. Ideally seperate wings in the house but in this day and age, such might not be entirely feasible from the financial standpoint!

That is not to say I can/am just as passionate and all up in your “biddness” in a heartbeat!

Relationship mission: finding a partner with whom I could share rest of my life; who’d leave me alone most of the times! 🤓

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That is so CopperDove-y!

In fact, I even recall to have had such conversation with her: separate wings - a reminiscence of Joan Fontaine not wanting to share her sleeping "quarter" with Laurence Olivier in the movie Rebecca - well, she had that fancy for them too!



That apart, my gut feeling is telling me you two may differ quite significantly in the other respects. However enjoyable it might be, being left alone on a daily / weekly / monthly basis by your life partner, I'm also affirmative that in her mind the true meaning of being in a relationship was actually clear, as such contingency would never occur with her most times, but only a few :p

Posted by cancersaurus
She basically told me that she doesn't like it that I'm always invited when one group of her friends invite her to things and doesn't want me to always go and to give her "alone time" with these friends.

I keep going back and forth in if this is fair. I've hung out with her friends a lot before and I like their company but now she wants me to be with them less. I also think it's a fair request from her because she mentioned she can't give her friends as much time as she wants when I'm there.

What do you guys think?

I'm a Cancer so of course this upset me a lot but I am obviously going to respect what she wants.



Update: I am actually a girl and I have a gf so half of the comments don't eally relate to my situation haha.

It just feels like she's now going out of her way to show me she doesn't want me around.

Just a few mins ago I found out she had gone out with her friends and a few months ago I would have been invited straight away but instead she doesn't even bother telling me her plans anymore. It's getting really hurtful now and I'm getting pretty sad over it but everytime I try to talk to her about how I feel she gets extremely defensive so I don't know what to do.

Okay so I think I may be able to help you with this one. Im a Cancer female whos been involved on and off with a pisces female for over a year now, and we are currently in a pseudo romantic friendship. We were lovers first. And than became friends. And now we are romantic friends who are sometimes romantic partners. (sounds complicated and it is. But I love her and this works for us rn.)

SO

I recently started becoming friends with some of my pisces friends. We are all poly. She even was trying to hook me up with her taurus best friend. So needless to say we've all been hanging out in groups more oftent lately. But Even though I get invited a lot. Sometimes I don't and that's okay because sometimes my pisces isn't invited to be with me and my friends. However in turn, Iv noticed she's warm to seeing me more often since we have established boundries and have our own friends and life. Even though on paper we are just friends. This is still a romantic and sometimes sexual relationship and so it needs boundaries and nurturing. For example me, her and two of her friends hung out last sunday for hours. And I (clingy cancer) REALLY felt like I needed a breather after that. So I made it be known to all of them that I'd be busy the entire following week after a libra friend of hers was pushing it trying to hang YET AGAIN the next day.

Ill tell you a part of the reason why. Now I don't know if you are a "dominant partner" but I am. And I noticed that hanging out with her "girls" too often doesn't make me comfortable. I don't feel like Im intruding. But just imagine a heterosexual relationship where the husband is ALWAYS there with her wife and her girl friends. Femmes will be femmes and want to talk about cute people and being domestic together. Im not those things. So I NEED to do me, and be with my more masculine alpha friends a lot, and also work on my music and other obligations.

My point? Your pisces may be seeing you differently now. She wants Adonis. She wants boundaries. She wants passion. And she wants to miss you. I don't think it's about her friends. I think you need to reevaluate how much time you are spending with them vs. your own. Im sure she doesn't feel comfortable knowing you are dumping your main crew and life to be around her crew and life. Thats just not sexy. And Im not judging or accusing. I just USED to be like that. Iv learned my lesson tho. Self preservation feel me? That shit sexy

just seen the that you broke up. But hopefully my advice helps you with future en devours. Good luck (from a growing queer cancer to another)