Need your help guys about a Pisces coworker

Hey guys... I need your opinion on this Pisces coworker. So we've been working together for about two and a half year, but because of the distance between our offices we rarely met in person. We communicated a lot through IM and phone though, as we worked very closely together. From the first day I could tell that we really 'clicked' as coworker, he was basically my favorite person in the company. I thought he really liked working with me too, as he kept gushing on how good I was in front of other people (my manager, etc). And during our conversations sometimes we talked about non work related stuff, like his family, vacation, etc. He was a really good coworker and friend, and I was almost sure that he really liked to talk to me too as some of our conversations were in borderline flirting.

About couple months ago he started getting a bit distant (not answering my phone call, etc), and I always had to email him whenever I needed something from him. Then a month ago he submitted his resignation. Things became a bit weird after he submitted his resignation, as we were sort of avoiding each other. I was dreading to talk to him because I didn't know how to react to his resignation, and he didn't even bother to talk to me in person either. Couple days before his last day, we finally spoke and I was trying to stay away from his resignation topic as I didn't want us to have an awkward conversation. All of a sudden he told me that he was going to miss working with me. Being a Cancer with late response time, I answered almost unemotionally that I would miss working with him too. And when I asked him why he told me about who his replacement was when it was supposed to be confidential, he said it was because it's me.

The day before his last day, we spoke for a bit and he told me that he would try to get online tomorrow on his last day. I am not sure why he was telling me that, but I said sure. I was thinking that he might want to say goodbye. Then tomorrow came, he was really preoccupied with a lot of stuff and we ended up not talking at all. I've never heard from him again ever since, even though we have each other's number and are connected in one of the networking site. I sent him a friendly email about couple weeks ago, but never got a response from him.

So... why would you think he's being distant with me? I do not want to initiate any relationship with him, I just want to keep in touch because I enjoy talking to him and would like to be friends.

For myself - I find it hard to divide my interpersonal attention outside of my current physical environment.

So when I'm no longer present at a specific place - it's harder for me to maintain contact physically/spiritually/mentally/emotionally. It takes a dedicated effort to do so, and if something else has taken my attention that is closer to my physical world - that is where my energy is focused.

I agree Nem. I was trying not to go there lol - but I agree

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