Pisces sun with Aqua Venus and Aries Mars.....

Why is a Pisces sun with an Aqua Venus and an Aries Mars so confusing? It seems that he doesn't know what he wants, he is alternatively aggressive and passive, shy and confident, dotting and distant. What type of a partner would this guy be attracted to?

I'm Pisces Sun with Mars and Venus conjunct in Aries. I alternate a LOT between passive and aggressive, like you described. Trying to find that sweet, mild spot in between. Trying to be more of a "straight-talker" and just say what I mean. Hard to do when your emotions are fiery and watery, though. Takes a lot of personal work.

Jack557, do you feel conflicted emotionally? What kind of woman are you attracted to? One who can balance you out? Or one who needs you?

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Jack557, do you feel conflicted emotionally? What kind of woman are you attracted to? One who can balance you out? Or one who needs you?

Like the stereotypical Pisces, I was in a relationship with a woman who was the worst possible fit for me. I let myself be totally absorbed into her and I fooled myself into thinking it was love. I long for total absorption with someone. Though I also know the dangers of that. I've dated a Leo, Libra, and Aquarius. None were right for me, but each time I fell into the same pattern. I'm finally learning.
I'd LOVE to find a Pisces woman who I connect with. I'd love to be needed, yes. I could go on about how I imagine the perfect relationship would be...but I have to stay realistic and aware of idealising things 🙂
My emotions are a mix of Pisces, Capricorn, and Aries, it seems...it's like balancing the ocean, and control issues, and impulsiveness. I'm getting better at surfing the waves, though. It takes so much life experience and willingness to confront oneself, but it's so worth it. You have to love yourself and others equally.
I feel I'm ready for the perfect partner, honestly. I've been through a lot and have emerged wiser and am open to finding my soul mate. I feel I'm ready for her now. It's amazing to be able to say that.

Jack557, please go on about how your perfect relationship would be. Should be interesting to see the romantic mind of a Pisces in writing.

@Jack - That was terribly endearing! And rife with a whole lot of truth. I think I fully understand where you're coming from with the fire/water stuff. It's quite the paradox, of most of the time needing to do what you feel, even though you can probably see with blurry vision where the potholes are.

@Lotus - I told a taurus girl this recently... and for the most part I think it stands pretty true for most pisces (although - I can't say it for sure - so don't hold me to it). Natural evolution of the connection is necessary for us. Anything forced/contrived/aggressive is bound to push us back 19 strokes into the opposite current. So it's possible that in times of feeling pressured or forced to feel something - you get his "less attractive to you" qualities. And in times where you hang back and just go with our flow - you get the things from him you like. So naturally.... it should be obvious what needs to happen?

I don't know...

Hey Lotus,

Is he the same person as your "close relationship/friend with benefits" from "double pisces and mimicking"?

If so, you've found my male counterpart 🙂! I'm a double Pisces with Venus in Aqua and Mars in Aries.

Just red one of your old threads: he's got an Aqua Mercury as well! So do I.

I understand you are a Libra.....Good news for you: I only married once and he was a Libra!

A perfect/ideal relationship...to me the big thing is willingness to struggle. Struggle and polarity are inevitable in a truly close relationship. Stuff comes up, of course. Personal stuff, cosmic stuff. Hangups, irritation, habits, patterns, etc. The perfect woman to me is aware of this and is all too willing to work through these, rather than run scared. She knows that by struggling together we find the gold, the sweet stuff, buried in the subconscious, just waiting to be found. This treasure makes the struggle more than worth it. Many couples have no idea of the potential a relationship holds - that is, to become a true marriage of opposites, an eternal polarity between the sexes. It's so easy to settle for less, for comfort, for an easy life, soothing the ego, telling oneself that adventure is for someone else. But every couple can become mythical and great together, if they become metaphorical swimming partners in the deep end of the pool.
The more you put into it, the more you get out.

This is why how couples handle even the tiniest of issues is very telling about the relationship. Not a whole lot out there willing to deal with the seedy underbelly of being'one' theoretically speaking.

Pirhana how you doin miss?