Negative associations

Negative associations

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So I've had a decent amount of experiences I've been kind of lightly traumatized by. And there's things I connect with those events that make me think of them, so I avoid them. Just out of touch with reality actually.

An example - I've been in a mental hospital, and I don't want to wear the shoes I worn there anymore, and many other things that remind me of that time, just because I don't want to have anything to do with it, or even remember it.
I have a hard time looking at those things in a rational way, and sometimes it's worse. I don't want to have anything to do with those memories, but by avoiding everything that reminds me of them it just seems as if those memories still follow me.

How do you handle this? Has anyone of you here been through this?

tell yourself that you've grown up and that you can watch these things from a distant place or sthg.
Look at them from a ratioal point of view, you don't have to be scared of your past self. Just decide that you have become somebody else and avoid the situations and people that could lead to you getting in the bad places.

Idk.. i think it's completely acceptable to get rid of the items that remind you of traumatizing times. What's important is that you're focusing on healing, how ever works for you, journaling, talk therapy, etc.

Posted by tiziani
Usually if it's trauma it can build up inside your body. So you can actually physically work on letting it go. You will feel it rise up out of your solar plexus and just leave you when it has.

I forgot what the writer's name was but he wrote a series of books on this, one called Healing The Tiger.

Worked for me.

Waking the Tiger by Peter A Levine, is that the one?

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Pressed enter too early. Sorry 🙂

So I've had a decent amount of experiences I've been kind of lightly traumatized by. And there's things I connect with those events that make me think of them, so I avoid them. Just out of touch with reality actually.

An example - I've been in a mental hospital, and I don't want to wear the shoes I worn there anymore, and many other things that remind me of that time, just because I don't want to have anything to do with it, or even remember it.
I have a hard time looking at those things in a rational way, and sometimes it's worse. I don't want to have anything to do with those memories, but by avoiding everything that reminds me of them it just seems as if those memories still follow me.

How do you handle this? Has anyone of you here been through this?

Rises,
Read what I say and try to imagine yourself in my shoes, witnessing the things I saw.
I used to drive a big truck all over the US. One thing that I learned, looking back on my days, driving, was how I'd occasionally watch my rear view
mirrors, though my eyes were most often on the road ahead of me. I could see where I've been. I could see where I was going, except during
those times when it was raining or snowing real hard or when the fog was so thick you could hardly see the road in 5 feet in front of you.

What I just said is a life experience that serves the purpose of a wisdom.
In life, you are always moving forward. Sometimes your life may move at a normal pace, sometimes, the road may go up a mountain and you wonder why things are
taking so long. Sometimes life may get a little icy and you wonder if you'll slide off the road at any moment. - It can get real hairy out there.
But keep it between the lines and pay close attention to where you're going and persist with determination to get there. Remember to have your map there, with you.
Oh yes, before I forget, the horizon where I had been would slowly fade in the distant. At some point, that horizon will change, the further down life's highway you go.

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Posted by tiziani
Usually if it's trauma it can build up inside your body. So you can actually physically work on letting it go. You will feel it rise up out of your solar plexus and just leave you when it has.

I forgot what the writer's name was but he wrote a series of books on this, one called Healing The Tiger.

Worked for me.

Waking the Tiger by Peter A Levine, is that the one?

Yeah that's the one, Waking The Tiger. My mistake. The book I have of his is actually In An Unspoken Voice, which I was told is essentially the same book but updated. And then there's a newer version on top of that one. I half read the book and then I coincidentally met someone who was talking about doing this stuff in her physical sessions in real life so it's half reading his stuff and doing it myself with other people that helped me.

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I'll have a look at this, thanks. I'm wondering, in part, if I might be able to reduce or get rid of a physical symptom that started within 3 days of an emotional trauma last summer.

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Posted by tiziani
Usually if it's trauma it can build up inside your body. So you can actually physically work on letting it go. You will feel it rise up out of your solar plexus and just leave you when it has.

I forgot what the writer's name was but he wrote a series of books on this, one called Healing The Tiger.

Worked for me.

Waking the Tiger by Peter A Levine, is that the one?

Yeah that's the one, Waking The Tiger. My mistake. The book I have of his is actually In An Unspoken Voice, which I was told is essentially the same book but updated. And then there's a newer version on top of that one. I half read the book and then I coincidentally met someone who was talking about doing this stuff in her physical sessions in real life so it's half reading his stuff and doing it myself with other people that helped me.

I'll have a look at this, thanks. I'm wondering, in part, if I might be able to reduce or get rid of a physical symptom that started within 3 days of an emotional trauma last summer.

Good luck 🙂

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Thanks. 🙂 Worth a try!