Ok, so can someone give me some pisces man insight

Hi all,

I just recently got back into dating after a very confusing with a relationship with an Aries man who really messed with my head and heart.

Anyway, due to my past experience, my thinking is not always quite clear so I was wondering if you all could help me out in regards to a pisces guy I met.

I was on a dating site. I was getting fed up and just about to close my acct. I get a message from a cute Pisces guy whos 5 years younger than I (I'm 34). I almost didn't answer him because I have a thing about not dating younger guys but I felt totally compelled to check him out so I read his profile. It was pretty simple but yet seemed humble so I wrote him back.

Anyway, we started talking and exchanged cell numbers after a couple of days. He called me after work for the first week and texted me often. He added me to his facebook account. We were going to meet at a restaurant but ended up just meeting and watching a movie at my house (which I also never do... 1st real date at my house). He was very cute and sweet and we did some kissing but that was it.

A few days later we had another date. We got a bit overly affectionate (no I did not sleep with him - matter of fact I stressed that I would NOT). He also gave me his necklace to wear and said I could borrow it and maybe he'd get it next time he comes over. Afterwards he went home and we texted a few times and then he just dropped off (it was very late like 3am) so at first I thought maybe he fell asleep. So I went to go on FB just so I could look at his pics cuz I find him so dang cute and his FB page was totally blocked off. All I could see was his little avatar. So I texted him and asked if he deleted me from fb 😢.

The next day I didn't hear from him during the morning (and he had told me he had to get up early) so I started to feel bad like he was blowing me off and all of the affection I did share with him was just him using me to have a female to make out with so I jumped the gun and texted him and said something like I dont know what happened-I really liked you and I don't know why you deleted me off FB- I thought you were a nice guy and you fooled me- I guess you play a good game. 😢

A while later I get a text and he said he had a problem with FB and someone got in his acct so he had to remove it until he had time to see if anything was messed with and that he just fell asleep the night before. So I felt bad for over reacting and appologized several times...

To continue...

I told him it just SEEMED that way and I am really very sorry. I asked if he was still upset. He said no.

After that when I texted him, he answered the first few times but then just stopped. So I waited a couple of days to see if there was anything. Nothing. So then I made one more attempt to say hey look I am really sorry I over reacted and I really do like you and I hope I hear from you soon. A couple of more days and nothing so I texted and said ok well I hoped to hear from you and I am really a nice person and dont want to stalk you in any way so I guess good luck with your search for a relationship.

I then left him alone. Nothing from him.

A few days later my daughter and I were fighting over my phone and I accidentally hit the send button under his contact info and it sent him an empty text. I said nothing. I figured oh well oops too late now.

THEN he replied with a text saying his car was in the shop. —? I was like ok... act casual. So we ended up chatting a little bit.

Fast forward, we mad a lunch date and he gave me his address to pick him up since he had no car. During lunch, I appologized one final time. He busted my chops about being a little crazy and I told him I am not. It was just a bad coincidence and hit a sore spot for me because of how my ex treated me in the past. During lunch he said several times. "next time we hang out..." and when I dropped him off (since his car was in the shop) I went to give him his necklace back and he said no you keep it for now. He gave me a few nice but simple kisses and said hed talk to me later and got out of the car.

Since then, we text. 99% of the time I text first but he does reply. And I told him via text the other night that I like him but honestly I am having trouble reading him so would he mind telling me what he thinks of me. His answer was "I like spending time with you". To me that was vague but hey I know the relationship (if its even considered that yet) is new so I said ok well I just was wondering if I should hide my online profiles so when you decide if you are really into me, please tell me so I know to do that. I left it at that.

Past few days been texting here and there. He got his car back so I said so do you want to come visit me one of these days? He said yep probably after Xmas (which is in a few days). I teased him and said you sure like to keep a girl waiting dont ya? lol. But I accepted the answer and said I look forward to seeing him..

Almost done... SORRY people. thanks for reading!

So that night he was supposed to send me a pic of himself and he didnt. A couple of days later I said so how bout that pic and he said he forgot. So like an hour later I started dozing off and said Im getting sleepy so I hope you send that pic. 🙂 He ended up sending me a short video on his phone and said something like hey baby ummm I love you and I will send you another video when I go downstairs.

I started laughing because I knew for whatever reason that slipped out and sure enough a minute later he sent me a text and said -LOL sorry I didnt mean I love you like that- I realized that was a poor choice of words. So anyway, I acted cool and said it was ok that my guy friends tell me they love me all the time and I know what they mean but that once he gets to know me maybe he will think its not such a bad choice of words after all cuz I have been told I am a very good g/f. And then I ended the text will but in the meantime, drooling over your pics is always nice. 🙂


SO... I like him. I'm just trying to figure out if he likes me. I'm not planning our wedding lol. Just want to know if this guy is playing a game or probably really likes me and maybe is just slowing things up to see if it becomes more.

Can any male pisces help me out here... He's kind of confusing me and I just don't know if I should be dating other people or giving this guy a little time.

Thanks ALL! SORRY for the book... Lol

Me being a pisces, he def. likes you, when he said he loved you, he meant it, he just doesnt want to scare you off... Pisces are all about the chase... Let me tell you, im "dating" one now.... & The ball is & will always sbe in my court =)

Wait a second. Hold up! What are you attacking me for?! That was rude and uncalled for.

First of all, I am not a weak person by any stretch. Let me clarify that. I am, however very honest and straight forward and don't like to waste my time playing immature relationship games. I've been married and divorced and really don't need to play the whole he likes me/he likes me not game with anyone. If I have a question I will ask it. Period.

Secondly, he is also divorced and stated originally that he is not looking for booty calls and is hoping he finds an actual relationship. And therefore, I am assuming he doesn't want to waste time on nonsense either. So by asking, I hope to make the decision easier for us both.

Let me also clarify that HE drove an hour to see me a couple of times. I drove 10 minutes out of my way to see him since I was going to be in his area anyway. He also texted me and called me a lot the first week and a half or so and I have been texting him the past 5 or 6 days. He has texted me SOME in that time, just not as much as I have initiated. Also, I am not sitting around in a robe waiting... he knows darn well I am out and about doing things.

Now, to those who care to give an honest and polite opinion, I value it greatly and WILL consider it. However, to those who want to be an insulting snot, please don't bother commenting.

Thanks to all those with respectful replies. 🙂

OH and I should add that on our second date, he told ME that he closed his profile and if things didn't work with me, he was done with that site for good...

thus why I asked about my other profiles and if he ever wants me to close them to let me know.

Thank you

We are fickle, We want you and we dont. If you tease us and push us we want you more. But that push and pull has to be almost an exact amount. He gave you something that he holds dear. Which means in some way you are dear. Everything is infused and with purpose. I feel he likes you a lot but isnt quite sure if you are totally in or not. Your being tested. We test on a constant. The beggining of a relationship with one of us is constant change. We begin to take you in and meld our fantasy into reality. All pisces men are crazy and that madness is our strength and weakness. His indirect approach to everything will be frustrating and alluring. He will not always come through on things he says. Because in his mind your relationship is much further ahead than it is in your reality.

We have great ability but it takes a strong female to keep the fish on the hook. Cancer girls are such a good match and the potential you two have is amazing. Theres a post on here where i gave my opinion on this union by experience. I think its still in one of the last two pages on the pisces forum. But when youve caught the fish completely youll know. I hate to say this but when you push us away its a serious rejection. Nothing will be solid until you physically unify with him. I dont post much anymore however i was compelled to post here just because this union makes me weak at the knees a little.

Well thank you for that post. Whether positive or negative, I like to hear what people have to say. I just do not like being attacked so thanks very much for taking the time to post even after my rant. 🙂 I would love to read the post you mentioned. Would you happen to know the name of the post you wrote?

When I hung out with him there was definite chemistry. He's just confusing. I don't know how else to explain it.

And I backed off today and he did text me, so he's not blowing me off... just acting a bit cool and that is what is confusing me.

Cancers can be clingy yes but cancers can also be very understanding of feelings and if he only needs some space I respect that. My only objective is to figure out if he likes me enough to keep making the effort to see him and contact him. I am very direct and honest. I don't know if that will be a positive or negative to him but I hope for the best because I do like him.

Again, thanks to anyone who takes the time to give a polite response. 🙂

https://www.dxpnet.com/opinion/pisces/pisces-male-cancer-female-1134485/ theres the link copy it into your browser

Your clingy part becomes attractive as time rolls along. We desire that kind of devotion.

Thanks so much! I will do that right now! 🙂

Believe me, I am super dovoted. I have never cheated on anyone in my life. EVER. Not many people can say that nowadays. Sadly.

The catch is, I need to know someone really cares for me... then they have me at their side anytime they need me. 🙂

Oh and if it helps anyone...

I have Cancer Sun - Virgo moon - Cancer Venus.

He has Pisces Sun - Taurus Moon - and Cappy Venus.

My ascendent is pisces but I don't know his yet, unfortunately. 😢

Ohhh man Taurus and virgo moon with water signs are a good match. However he is gonna be one stubborn dude.

LOL I already noticed that about him. Doesn't phase me though. My ex aries was a mule. After him I can take it. LOL Good call on that though.

I read your other post thefish... Wow! You explained that so beautifully. I think I sighed about 10 times. Thanks for sharing that with me. I could only hope I experience something like that... though the ending is sad and I would hope not to experience that part. lol 🙂

Thanks!

Posted by thefish
We are fickle, We want you and we dont. If you tease us and push us we want you more. But that push and pull has to be almost an exact amount. He gave you something that he holds dear. Which means in some way you are dear. Everything is infused and with purpose. I feel he likes you a lot but isnt quite sure if you are totally in or not. Your being tested. We test on a constant. The beggining of a relationship with one of us is constant change. We begin to take you in and meld our fantasy into reality. All pisces men are crazy and that madness is our strength and weakness. His indirect approach to everything will be frustrating and alluring. He will not always come through on things he says. Because in his mind your relationship is much further ahead than it is in your reality.

We have great ability but it takes a strong female to keep the fish on the hook. Cancer girls are such a good match and the potential you two have is amazing. Theres a post on here where i gave my opinion on this union by experience. I think its still in one of the last two pages on the pisces forum. But when youve caught the fish completely youll know. I hate to say this but when you push us away its a serious rejection. Nothing will be solid until you physically unify with him. I dont post much anymore however i was compelled to post here just because this union makes me weak at the knees a little.

ahh...

just when i'm about to throw in the towel... it all makes sense

said and timed perfectly 🙂

Posted by cancergirl76
Oh and if it helps anyone...

I have Cancer Sun - Virgo moon - Cancer Venus.

He has Pisces Sun - Taurus Moon - and Cappy Venus.

My ascendent is pisces but I don't know his yet, unfortunately. 😢

hey cancergirl,

I'm a Cancer Sun - Aries Moon - Cancer Venus (pisces ascendent)

I've been hanging with a Pisces Sun - Taurus Moon - Aries Venus guy

it's been quite the ride..

After that long reading,...I was 99% thinking like kstarks2. She is right and cancergirl76 it wasn't meant to attack it appears to me. That was an honest opinion/advice. You showed too much clinging on introductory stage. This guys is confused but enjoying all attention you are showering him. Slow down girl. It sounds you are too desperate for him. I have known nothing but Pisces men in my life. I let them chase me until they can't take it any longer lol. At the end they get rewarded. I know Pisces very well. You have to relax and once in a while give him the attention when he calls for it. You are doing way too much to get his attention. Pisces men are sweet but the start is challenging. You have to allow him time to fantasize about you a little.Pisces love the unknown but you are too open so early. I also can feel you're too sensitive unnecessarily. Try to relax , don't take matters too serious and go with the flow.
Pretty much "absence makes the heart grow fonder". Let him chase you and avoid clinging!
All the best!

Shellshocker, good luck with your pisces dude. I would love to hear more about the 'ride'. Maybe it would give me something to think about. lol 🙂

Smiley cap, thank you for your honesty. I really do appreciate it. It is not the honesty that bothers me... it's the presentation of said honesty. I am a very polite person and the rudeness in the previous post - calling me weak and desperate and what not was just not necessary. It is quite possible to communicate without being insulting. 🙂

Now to explain my behavior... since I overreacted, I made some extra effort to show him I like him and was sincerely sorry. Now that I have made that clear, I have actually backed off some. The past couple of days I have texted much less and kept it simple while still saying something nice like hey ur cute and have a nice day. Then I back off. He in turn has been texting me later HIMSELF. So I am definitely trying not to seem desperate as I really am not. I DO like him though and won't lie and act like I don't. However now that I feel I have shown my sincerity I am backing off and hoping he continues to persue.

Any further tips or opinions will always be appreciated. 🙂

The thing with a Cappy is they are black and white. What you see is basically what you get, it's just sometimes they are A and sometimes they are B. They like to win and their mystery is all about game playing. Listen to thefish and don't worry about kstarks. She's just looking for a reaction.

You make me miss my Cappy bestie, kstarks! 🙂

A Cancer can be very emotional but it is only one side of a multilayered personality. The push pull isn't a game, it comes natural. If we have given too much emotionally and too soon and recognize it, best believe it will not happen again. The behavior is not predictable.

Ya, a Cappy can draw a Pisces, but I have yet to see one seal the deal. My Cappy bestie was with a Pisces off and on for 10 years and most of it was long distance. They would go weeks and months without seeing each other. One of her main complaints was that he was selfish in bed and she had to do all the work. When she stopped trying... the sex stopped.
I'm sorry but that don't sound like a happy fish to me 😉

Pull back cancergirl and let him lead. Give the affection and attention when you genuinely feel it, not in order to get a response from him. You don't have to prove yourself because he will use different methods to test you that you probably won't be expecting. Just stay alert and use your intuition more than emotional reaction.

Good luck!

Cancergirl76 ... Pisces people recognize the feelings behind the motives, and rarely care about how you choose to act. Acting is calculated, reacting is a feeling and not thought about.

Several things you said which he (as a Pisces) would assess as you being a player, which would make him still hang around because interest is there, but, he wouldn't invest any real feelings with you.

Just to name a few ...

1. you never date men younger than you ... then you do

2. you never bring men home ... then you do

3. you say you've been told you're a good girlfriend ... you are single



He is picking up on your contridictions and wondering what the hell is up with you, why are you playing him like that? Why not just be real with him?

When a Pisces finds themselves in this sort of relationship with people, they will ride along ... giving just enough interest to keep you at arms length, so they can try to figure out what game is being played.

But, that's not to say that his feelings for you couldn't become real, if you stop trying to play for him, and actually had a sincere desire for his companionship.

If you have to be real here, if you plan on interacting with a Pisces.


You start this off cementing into your psyche how badly you got burnt previously.

That ^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^ is your feelings. Before you even think about talking about Pisces, what comes to the forfront of your mind are your negative emotions to relish.

That is strike number one .... there's no way in hell a Pisces is going to put any of their emotions into a person who desires to recognize what hurts them.




Also, I'm sure it concerns him when you bombard him with messages everytime he gives you an inch. And I'm also sure that he is only giving you inches because you appear to cling to it.


If you really want to try and have a relationship with this man .. then you are going to have to shed your manipulations because a Pisces can see right through it. For example you said:

"I acted cool and said it was ok that my guy friends tell me they love me all the time and I know what they mean ...."

And then the rest of the sentence goes on to tell him how good you are, which of course, this good is based around your guy friends since since they are the ones you use in this sentence to try and get Pisces man to think you have men.

Yeah, that will turn Pisces man off ... you can't use the idea that you have men with the FishMan to make him feel like he wants you more ... Pisces people don't work that way.

The only reason for you to even mention your other men is to try and get a reaction out of him, and that kind of manipulation won't work with a Pisces person.


Another thing I get when reading this is that you are trying to make him feel guilty about how he might feel for you ... why are you doing that? You say you are mature and experienced, so why would you want a man to feel you out of guilt? Wouldn't you want a man to feel you for real?

"I said ok well I just was wondering if I should hide my online profiles so when you decide if you are really into me, please tell me so I know to do that."

That ^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^ was said to make him feel guilty for not expressing his feelings towards you, according to your expectations.

If a guy is really into a woman, and as females should know (especially ones mature and experienced, as yourself), men have a harder time expressing how they feel, and a woman should allow him to come to terms with his feelings .... in this case, you attempt to force it out of him.