pisces in panic

I am a pisces female dating a cancer man he is so wonderful and treats me so good he is 7 years older than me but it really isn't a problem for the most part. Here is my problem I was in a relationship for 10 years, it ended at the end of April, I started seeing mr.cancer may 28th, so we have been dating since then, he said he loved me after 1 month, he's now really pushing for me & my kids to move in with him. I told him i would in November now I wish I hadn't because I feel it may be way too soon for me. He feels I am his soulmate and he has never felt like this in his life, he said he swears I put some trance like spell on him, I told it's just the pisces way. I could ask for no more in a man, he's great. But he said it hurts him when I change my mind so much, I'm kind of scared of moving, plus I am getting a lot of crap from my family they think it's too soon to be in a relationship, and moving in with someone is really bad. I don't know what I feel right now sometimes I feel like it's a wonderful idea then the next I think I must be nuts I just got my freedom, but I don't want to lose him. I have panic feeling about moving, but it's just my pisces craziness making me find every reason that could be negative if I move. My EX keeps calling me begging me to take him back, then he can change and not be abusive, saying i need time alone and he can't believe I'm with someone else already. I'm so confused and I can't make a choice. Any advice from anyone—?

Hi waterbaby...yikes - choices! They sure can bring us to confusion how well I know that! Sorry for the confusion that you are experiencing BUT....maybe this is a good thing. When we KNOW what we want and what feels good to us - there is NO doubt and we take the appropriate action. When we don't know and we are confused....there is a reason - we may not know right now what that reason is but it is there. I was given great advice one time when I was in that same situation and I still hold true to it.

When in doubt - do NOTHING! The right moment will come Waterbaby when you will know what you need to do. Give yourself some time.

I gotta scoot for now - the Cancer man situation - a whole other story! Will get back to you later sweetie.

Hope this helps

Again don't let all the chaos get to you and take it at it's own pace regardless of the source whether it's hurry up and make a decision or don't do it because blah,blah,blah.Stop letting people put fears and doubts in you and figure it yourself.I keep posting the don't let the cancer guy dictate you too because if you let all the other stuff get to you and rush it with him it still could be bad if he doesn't learn to be patient and understand that sometimes you will need to think things out.It's your life and your daughters not anyone elses.

tiamat~ you are so right about me letting the Cancer man being too pushy, you know how pisces can be we Aim to please everyone and when I tell him I don't think the move should happen he always says he feels crushed or Our future is in my hands then I feel bad and tell him what he wants to hear which is wrong of me...because of my doubts and fears. Moving is huge project for me I have 2 kids who are now both in school, daycare, and I work m-f it's not easy, he wants me to come home every nite and go through stuff and throw out items I don't want, it's just so much I feel overwhelmed by it at times. He will help me in anyway, it's just hard he hates seeing me struggle with bills I never get my child support on time it's been 3 & 4 weeks late it just makes me so stressed out. My life would 100 times easier if I lived with him but I want to make sure it's for the right reasons and not just the easy way out.

If you tell him you don't want to move in right away, be sure to be convincing about your love and your feelings though, or else he might just go away. Don't let us be pushy, BTW, it's never good for anyone.

Thanks Mr. Crabby ~ I do not want to push him away, I don't know if you have been with a pisces yet but we can be very confusing people to date at times. We want it all then we don't. Thanks again for the advice.

Waterbaby

I've had close pisces, but my intensity can be scary. At other times, we were both forward/backwards each on our side, so it was really difficult to connect and it didn't work out.
I can be jealous too, you chicks are so sociable and close to everyone, i want it all, in a way. I don't feel like sharing. I'm a bit better now, though, growing up and stuff.

Hey WaterBaby...what's shakin!

I say you should completely take your time and make sure that this is the right decision, but SOMETIMES people need a little pushing (especially the indecisive Pisces & Libra's of the world) so don't discount that either.

Just make sure if you do, it's what you really want so you don't begin to resent him in the future. Believe me, like somebody said up there...if he REALLY cares and he KNOWS you really care, he isn't going anywhere. I'm willing to bet $ $ $ on that!

I am in a similar situation with my P-man...He told me he was split right down the middle between wanting to be with me & have a family and not wanting anything to do with me or the babies. I told him that I could not help in that decision at all...That he had to make it for himself because I REFUSE to have him saying I trapped or forced him into something he didn't want to do. I haven't heard from him since which I take as a sign but my feelings for him have depleted over time b/c of his wishy washy attitude so watch out for that. We Cancers will only take so much before we are outta there...then there is no getting him back!

Hope this helps!
Cancerlady/CancerMamaDeuce

Yeah das true Mamadeuce, although teh psices i was talking about some posts before who wnated me to add her to the friend network after the nonsense she put me through, i said u know i not even bothering to try cause i can't take the drama and the lieing despite her talking about honesty,so she definitely out my life. Geminis yo hoo, dem lovely like whoooaaaa.Love u geminis.

MR.CRABBY~
I no i do have the social butterfly problem it's almost an Art, my cancer man doesn't like it too much he says way too touchy feely with people. I really don't even realize I'm doing it until he says something...he can be a little jealous at times and he said he hates when we are out and guys come up and talk to me, I know a lot of people and I can't always help it. But I am not pushing him away I sometimes just feel like he wants me there at his house because he fears he'll lose me, and he wants to take care of me. I can tell he hasn't wasted much time in any relationship he has been in before. I have asked him about this and he swears it's not the same thing and his love for me is so different than ever before either he's telling the truth or he can really talk some great B.S. know what I mean—??

Cancerlady~ How are u?? well I think u are right about ur pisces man he is or has run away from his problems. It is his loss and a really great one too. my cancer guy isn't going any where and I know he really loves me but I see his past he has rushed in relationships, I just do not want to be like the rest of them. My Ex is driving me crazy with his bullcrap. I'm very stressed our lately due to many things going on in my life. So I told my cancer man he's going to push me away if he doesn't stop being so aggressive about the moving he said he'll stop but he hasn't really.
Thanks again for the advice
love & light Waterbaby 🙂