The Last Tango

Some of you know I've been with a Cancer man for nearly two years as of July.

Well, I'm about ready to call it quits.

The reason: He lives in the past

Lately, I've done a little pushing for a committment. But last Sunday night we got in an argument and I got enough truth from him to see where I stood which is in the same place where his opinion of other women is. He thinks I will only use him. He thinks he's done nothing wrong. He says it could be tomorrow, it could be fifty years from now, and I should accept that. He doesn't believe I love him, and he thinks I'm too demanding. He says he doesn't want any pressure to do anything he's not ready for. He thinks I'm only after his money. He says he can find somebody else.

What I said:

I told him that he's a lot more demanding than I am. He requires more proof than is humanly possible. I said that if he had to question whether or not he could make me happy, he probably couldn't. I said that he would never think of this as anything but a control issue. I told him that I do not see love in terms of control but in terms of surrender, no bullsh!it, no issues, and if we don't give in to this, we will blow it.

My cards are on the table; he's still holding his.
I will leave him to his conscience.

I intend to be working a second job by the end of the week.

damn... sorry to hear that...😢

LMFAO! I cant believe that. These Cancer men are soo alike!!!

Sometimes we have to step away from a relationship when someone starts to take for granted that we will always be there regardless of the circumstances.....I would cut him off for ahwhile...he has gotten beside hisself...SERIOUSLY.He doesn't realize what he has.

Wow. I admire your strength.. sorry this guy didn't see this quality and realize you for the gem that you are.

Sorry to hear that.That sucks.

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Sorry to hear that!

Cancerlady

Thanks so much for the support; in all honesty, I feel a little better now that I finally got it out to him.

The challenge is his now; right now he's at his sister's, again. Been spending a lot of time there. She feeds his ego. She tells him what he wants to hear.

Filled out applications today, prospects are promising.

Now I get to stand on my own...again. I figure if I flaunt my work ethic, maybe someone will notice.
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He and his sister seem to share a weird almost too close relationship...Hmmmm

Mr. Aries (yes.. him again) was strangely close to his sister. They shared a one-bedroom apartment, and neither one of them slept on the couch.

I just don't get that...then again I never had any brothers so.