Ahhhhhhhh this is KILLING ME!!!

Ok, I have barely recovered from my Aquarius, which I am over, but still - trust is delicate now. So this cancer man sweeps me off my feet. Treats me like a sweetheart. It is all very soothing & he wants me to meet his mom & people important in his life. Then he calls one day asking if I am mad at him. I assumed it was b/c I was tired on the phone & I told him of course not! So he comes down & things are good & I send him home with a note saying how I have totally loved getting to know him & look forward to more, along with a pic he had once begged me for.
Ok, here's problem. He hasn't called me in 3 days now. This is someone that has to see me everyday for last 3 weeks, or at least call to see how my day was going.
I am freakin' out. I am way to vulnerable right now, & I tried to leave enough space that I wouldn't get hurt. Must I prepare for the worst? I am so bad with serious communication. What do I dooooooooooo??!!!!!

You scared him....he probably realy likes you...sometimes when we really like somebody and when they do...well what you did.....we get scared...

He might just be thinking let him think....don't call though...for a minute anyway.

TaurusGoddess,

I'm not Cancer, so I can only say from my experience of being on the recieving end of a Cancer - but the ones I know - they like space. Some people, such as yourself since your Taurus, need counsil from other people. Not necessarily advice, but just to talk things out and see different perspectives. I know, I'm the same way. But, Cancer's aren't like that. I don't know what happened between the two of you, maybe nothing really serious - he probably just needs to do some thinking and he will need to do it alone. I know, it would be driving me nuts, too!!!!!

Cancer's have a need to be appreciated and have attention focued on them. It's just part of their make-up, and usually, they can be hasty in relationships. It's possible that he moved way toooooooooooo quickly and now that he's slowed down a little, he realizes this and is wondering how to approach from here.

Maybe what you should do (and this is perfect for you because Taurus will go to any extreme to avoid confrontation) - ring him, only don't talk directly to him, make sure he isn't home, so you can leave a message. Tell him that maybe the two of you are moving too fast and need to slow down a tad. Reinforce your interest in him, don't make him think that you don't want him. Maybe if he hears this, then he'll realize that it's ok to proceed with developing this relationship and that he didn't scare you away by mentioning meeting his family.

Do you ever call him? Or is it him always calling you?

I am not sure about this situation but I do know me tend to get scared anyway when you reveal deep emotions about yourself. I agree with the approach that P-Angel explained.

Cancerlady

It's usually him calling me. He seems to be the old-fashioned romantic, so I haven't called him yet. I thought he would have called by now. Now I have to wonder what he wants, where to go from here. I guess I just got to wait? Should I send him an email, leave a message on his phone. He was the one saying this is too good to be true, & now I wonder too. Maybe he rushes from one thing to another for the rush. Who knows. 😢

It's like a roller coaster for Cancer's sometimes. I guess for all of us sometimes. The 'this is too good to be true' rush will hit a Cancer like a frieght train. But, that doesn't mean that he is falling out and rushing somewhere else. Cancer's are quite loyal companions and are generally sincere in their feelings. They are very emotional creatures and live everyday by what they FEEL. Don't worry yet. If he says that he feels this way for you, he most likely does because Cancer's are in touch with how they feel, unlike some of the other signs.

Email him, that's best. That way you don't have to have direct communication and then slow down your pace with him. But, keep in mind that if you close the door completely, if you make him think you're not interested in him any longer, then you've lost him. Just back off a tad in the email so he knows he didn't frighten you with his intense loving emotions.

"The 'this is too good to be true' rush will hit a Cancer like a frieght train."

DUH! I don't know why I didn't think of this...That's what it is!!! I had the SAME problem with my current Pisces...Although now it seems like it really was too good to be true but I digress.

I say CALL HIM! He might be testing you to see if really care...I do that all the time.

C-lady

Call him & say what?!! Ask him if something's wrong? Or say we should slow things down? I'm still confused. This is a circus ride, dammit!!! Although love you guys for the advise. Thanks.

No, just email and say something like:

I really enjoyed blah, blah (whatever it was you two did last)
I would feel really nervous about meeting your family right now. Maybe we could talk about it for a while first. Can you meet me tonight at _ _ _ _ ?
Can't wait to see you

Then he will see that you still want to explore this, but just not ready to move so fast.

E-mails to me are impersonal out UNLESS that is the only mode of communication you have available...I don't see the problem in calling him and having a normal conversation.

We are people...why does there always have to be a game or strategy? Call him, if he wants to talk, he'll talk...If he doesn't he won't. Why play games? If you want to talk to him just say I hadn't heard from you in a couple of days and I just wanted to see how you were doing. JUST THAT SIMPLE!

I think you are making a mountain out of a molehill, SERIOUSLY!

Just my opinion
Cancerlady

The problem here C-Lady is that Tauruses (at least the female ones I know) are so scard of confrontation that they will stress like this. It's a fear that is terrifying to them. Personally, I would call, or better yet, show up in person. I am fearless when it comes to communication, in any form. But, she probably can't.

Show up...LOL...I love you P-Angel....You are fearless gotta love you...SHOW UP!! Boy you are something else. Your Virgo man must have his hands Show up in person— Unannounced?? If it was me...I'd probably be peaking out my window...and never answer

I meant to to say your Vurgo man must have his hands full....but I'm sure he loves it

Yeah, but Can't never COULD do anything.

I am terrified of rejection, confrontation, and sometimes even of success...I mean so much so that I have missed out on many things in my life. I wouldn't want her to be the same way...If he means that much to you and it is obviously stressing you out...I still say go for it!

Nothing Ventured, Nothing Gained!

P-Angel...LOL We KNOW you are fearless...You go girl! But then again you have been married for like 20 years so if you don't know him by nooooowwww!

You will never never ever know him oooooohhhhhh!

Now we all got, our funny moooods! I got mine, WOMAN you got yours too...
Just trust in meee, like I trust in yooouuuu....


Oh Sorry...I got off. GOOD LUCK! I know how you feel but you must overcome the fear!

CL

Me too Cancer Lady...sometimes I feel like I am "ABNORMALLY" afraid of rejection....

I think its a cancer thing. I so want peopel to just guess what I feel and know exactly what to say and if they don't then they don't undeerstand me like I thought they did.

Wouldn't that make thngs so easy for CK.....sometimes I get so pissed because they don't.

You guys are funny! I feel like a loser here now. Ok, YES I do make a mountain out of a molehill! I am a pansy when it comes to these things. That's why I came here for advise. It was very helpful for the record. Oh & he just emailed me, wants to get together tonight. Maybe he needed space, we'll see how he acts today.

I tend to do the opposite of those around me. If everyone else is telling me that its cool a guy hasn't called I'm like "No he hates me I'll never see him again" and if people say "why hasn't he called yet" I just go "Oh I'm sure he has a reason"

Like theres only enough room for one person to freak out at a time.lol.

Hahaha! CK......like Calvin Klein!

CL - I just can't stop laughing when you are in the room.

Sh!t - I'd be standing there with my hands on my hips and my head just a swinging back and forth, staring him down like wild cat getting ready to pounce on it's prey.

He said he wanted me to meet his parents, I have our plane tickets in my hands, let's get the lead out of our arse and go avisiting.

See, what she's not telling us is that she probably gave up the goods too early in the relationship and he took what he wanted and strutted away.

Did I ever tell anyone about the guy who totally screwed up my night one night and then I crucified him? Anyone wanna hear?

P-Angel

Are you talking about the guy who you stole his woman? If so, that was some funny sh*t! If not, tell me more tell me more! LMAO...I bet you would regulate!!!!

Softy & CK

The whole reason things are going so well with Mr. Pisces is that he DOES read my mind. Like I'll be sitting there (usually I am touching him in some kind of way except when it's hot...then he hates to be touched) and I'll be thinking
"Gosh I sure wish he would rub my back" and the next thing you know he is! Its weird!

CL

Oh TaurusGoddess

I just read that you guys are going out...Good Luck and try to keep the conversation light. Then move on from there

CL

Thats beautiful CL...the back rubbing thingy.....Crucified P-Lady....somehow I know your not joking...I'm getting to know u pretty well....Now do tell...

I hope my pisces guy is like that too but its early days still. Right now hes a complete sweetie though.

P.Angel I agree. You shouldn't give in too easy. Just let them know that you want to. Pisces guy ain't getting anything yet and I'm certain of that.

CancerLady, it's amazing how Pisces just knows these things - your back rub.

I told you about the wig thing and stealing his babe. But, this is different and much, much better.

I was at a bar with two friends (a couple) and all night, this man kept hitting on me. I kept telling him to back off and leave me alone, I wasn't interested. He wouldn't stop, he tried to buy me drinks, which I refused, wanted me to dance with him and just hung all over me. Well, there were a couple people at the bar that I thought I might be interested in, but I had this leech trying to suck all the blood out of me.

My night was a disaster. While everyone else was having a good time, I was miserable because no matter what I said or did - he wouldn't leave me alone and because he was all over me, nobody else would give me a second look. I would go home alone, he made sure of that. So . . .

He dissapeared right around last call and I didn't see him again, until we were walking out to our car. Then I saw him, he had picked up on some dog-ugly, sleezy looking thing who had to be in a bar to get someone, 'cause no sober person would wanna touch that thing.

No way . . . there's no way I was gonna let him ruin my night and then he gets to go home with p.s.y I think not!

I jumped in my car, sped over to his just before they got in and then laid into him about leaving me home all night with the kids, I cursed him so bad about being a terrible father to our children and a horrible husband and how much money did he spend getting drunk - what about food for our children, you low life SOB. The poor woman was shaking in her shoes. He couldn't get a word in edgewise. Everytime she tried to back away, I took a step closer to her and screamed in her face about trying to take my man. Finally, when I thought she was going to pee herself, I let her slap him across the face, say some foul things to him and run away.

I just stood there laughing my arse off. All these people in the parking lot watching, wondering if I was going to kill him or what. What could he say, his snatch was gone, everyone was pointing their fingers at him and mumbling about the five children he left at home so he could go drinking their groceries away.

It was hilarious. He went home alone - by GOD!

I solemly swear to never ever get on the wrong side of a pisces

for as long as I shall live, Amen

Of course, that was a long time ago. I don't go to bars any longer and back then I was a wild thing.

Oh the comfort from you guys! Stroke my back, 🙂 I love it! And I haven't given up the goods yet. I told him I wasn't interested in just a fling. He seemed to really like that. He had said he only wants to do things when I want to. That was a week ago. That is hard to resist for a sexy cancer man! Anyways, I like taking my time to avoid regrets until the initial weirdo confusion is figured out. I guess we'll see how things go tonight. I'll keep things light hearted and let him talk and then I'll be ready to talk without paranoia kicking in! lol

Sometimes its hard to say no. Like when things are going pretty far and suddenly you realise "Wait no" and then they get pissed at you suddenly changing your mind. Sorry if it takes a while for my morals to kick in.

TaurusGoddess,

That's wonderful that he contacted you. So, I guess the initial thought of him just needing time alone to think was the whole thing, afterall. I'm happy for you and I really hope it works out for you. Gosh, I feel like a heel, I'm here saying all these terrible things about treating men and you are trying to come to terms with your C-man. He probably really is wonderful, they are very sensitive and sweet people. Hope everything goes great tonight.

The thing is CancerKitten, I told him to leave me alone from the very beginning. I never once gave him any indication that I wanted to pursue anything. Even the male friend of mine that was there tried to tell the guy to dip. But, some people are hard-headed and back then I was merciless. You f... with me, I'll throttle ya. I'm not like that now. I'm a little harsh, but can easily be tamed.

Like, maybe one of those back rubs that C-Lady is hogging all to herself. Don't boggart, pass some over to me.

Wanton Blount?

Oh I totally agree with what you did to that guy. I would have loved front row seats with popcorn (And I don't even like popcorn)for that one.

I just meant, in reply to what you said about someone giving it up to easy, that its good to make them wait.

Oh, I feel bad about that. She had an issue and I was being a smartarse. The guy really irked me. He just wanted to get laid, and I couldn't allow that to happen. I'm really harmless, I just have this edge to me that if I rubbed the wrong way - I explode with full force. Thankfully, I have a very patient Virgo who has taught me to calm down some (or, at least, he is trying to continue to teach me patience). Isn't it funny, most people think that Virgo's are impatient - but, really they're not.

LMFAO!

YEAH! That's CLASSIC!!!!!

I'm calling P-Angel to help me exact revenge if I am not satisfied tonight...Ha Ha Ha

THE BEST!

Cancerlady

My friend still talks about it to this day. When we have a gathering and everyone starts to get a little sloshed, she brings it up, so everyone can laugh. I was pissed, there was a really hot looking dude, who looked lonely and sweet. I was ready to wrap myself around him, but I couldn't shake that dang pest.

HEY Hey hey

NEVER APOLOGIZE!!! He got what he deserved harassing you like that. Let me tell you my secret of knocking those flies off your goodies...I have a tatoo (TW) which are my initials on my stomach which I usually bare in some way when going out. So if some guys won't leave me alone I point to the tatoo and say

"You see that? That's my baby daddy...He crazy!" Then I look over his shoulder and say "Is that him? Oh no he's coming!" 90% of the time they are like "Really, then have some lame excuse for leaving" Works everytime!

BTW P-Angel are you asking me if I want a blunt? Because yes I do...LOL

Hey I gave up the goodies within hours of meeting Mr. Pisces...I'm such a SLUT, but it was GOOOOD!

My goodies, my goodies, my goodies, not my goodies, OH!

Someone finally decoded my message!

Like my mother used to say, "If you can't be good, then be good at it."

Well actually I decoded it the first time...I just was still raw from that beat-down by Brahn0913 that I didn't want to reveal that I speak 420...

I'm REAL good at it!

I've been asking people

Wanton Blount?

And everyone ignores me, thinking phew, those Pisces are nuts.

Hah, meantime . . . . stoned again, I am. So, who's nuts, not me! Got the munchies, though.

I don't know about where you are, but here, the time is off by an hour.

When I asked that question it was 420, however, it says 320 on the post time

Hey, Puff Puff Pass!

Stop being greedy...you aren't the only one who likes to escape!

So are you a Stay at Home Wife? That is my dream...Not my goal, my dream...

I would be the best but I have yet to have a man who can support me...

My kind of lady!

Trying to figure out how to spell the sssssuuuuu word of sucking in, is that close?

Yeah, I don't work. I'm an accountant by trade, but I'm retired now.