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Pisces men and mixed signals
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First, sorry that you're going through this. I can only speak for myself, obviously, but yes I can genuinely be interested in someone's well-being and not have it go beyond just that. We do sense when someone is holding back and I guess he cared enough to want to see why that was.
You didn't say tho what type of relationship you both had or have up until the point that he became distant. And how long has he been distant?
You didn't say tho what type of relationship you both had or have up until the point that he became distant. And how long has he been distant?
Posted by PurplePiscesHi PurplePisces, and thank you for empathizing with my situation.
First, sorry that you're going through this. I can only speak for myself, obviously, but yes I can genuinely be interested in someone's well-being and not have it go beyond just that. We do sense when someone is holding back and I guess he cared enough to want to see why that was.
You didn't say tho what type of relationship you both had or have up until the point that he became distant. And how long has he been distant?
He is traveling around and came to my country, second time this year. We met, got along great and planned to spent together the weeks he had left doing some trips and adventures around (hiking, back packing etc) almost 4 weeks in total. As we both knew he was going soon and he has plans to keep up the traveling for one more year before he settles back home, i was clear about what it all was. traveling companions with benefits lets call it (yet he treated me like his GF) and i was ok and comfortable about it, never attaching myself to him to avoid the heartbreaks.
That detachment and myself holding back was what he complained about... once he asked openly for my attention. He always noticed when someone was flirting and mentioned something if he though i was i was the one flirting. jealousy maybe?
After the first week he changed... he became 'attached' (or how i described before).... and that was when all the emotionally connection i mentioned started, to the point that people we met along the way always asked for how long were we married. To that add all the photo taking and the selfies, etc. He even met my family and i met one friend from his country who lives here. He planned on spend the last few days at the beach before leaving, instead he stayed until the last bus he could take, that same night he said something like: its starting to feel strange the time without you 😢 (yeah with the sad face).... that was last (Wednesday) week and that was his last sign of affection towards me.... :/
People who got the chance to hang out with us can not believe he hasnt reach, as they saw how he was. Me, i wasnt really expecting much, but still.... like i said: ive never had such mixed signals before 😢
I agree, that despite whatever it is that could be happening back at home with him, it doesn't take much for someone to say "Hey, just to let you know I'm taking care of things and I'll get back to you soon."
Though it's easier said than done for me, as I tend to over analyze the white on rice, it's much healthier to focus on what you can change than stressing over things you cannot. And you are right, if he truly is into you he would find a way to communicate. (He may still be into you, but we don't know for sure and can only go on by facts and the fact is he's being distant).
For now, I suggest try to get back on track emotionally. Don't contact him unless he contacts you and if and when that happens, depending on what he says, you can decide what you do next. But until then, distract yourself. Do things that make you happy and don't spend too much time worrying over this.
If those weeks were all that came out of it, then enjoy those weeks and experiences for what they were and consider it a lesson learned.
Though it's easier said than done for me, as I tend to over analyze the white on rice, it's much healthier to focus on what you can change than stressing over things you cannot. And you are right, if he truly is into you he would find a way to communicate. (He may still be into you, but we don't know for sure and can only go on by facts and the fact is he's being distant).
For now, I suggest try to get back on track emotionally. Don't contact him unless he contacts you and if and when that happens, depending on what he says, you can decide what you do next. But until then, distract yourself. Do things that make you happy and don't spend too much time worrying over this.
If those weeks were all that came out of it, then enjoy those weeks and experiences for what they were and consider it a lesson learned.
I totally agree with you, if those weeks are all that will came out im happy to accept it as it is, it was what i signed for in the first place.
It is hard for me to not think about things, i dare say overthink (gem sun/virgo moon) what a mix uh? because why would someone want to get connected that way to then just be like this?
Cruel game that is, attached - want me to attach as well - to then detach like nothing?
It is hard for me to not think about things, i dare say overthink (gem sun/virgo moon) what a mix uh? because why would someone want to get connected that way to then just be like this?
Cruel game that is, attached - want me to attach as well - to then detach like nothing?
Yeah that was not mature of him to do if his intention was not to keep it going, and then just becoming distant without explanation is rather cowardly. We should all try to treat others in the way we'd like to be treated, but unfortunately not everyone feels that way.
And, although I keep hearing (and reading on here as I go back on old threads) that fishes tend to swim away without notice, do know that not all of us are like that.
And, although I keep hearing (and reading on here as I go back on old threads) that fishes tend to swim away without notice, do know that not all of us are like that.
cowardly, excellent word to describe it.... and to described me, as i should tell him all im feeling and thinking about now but i cant find the words or the way to do so 😢
You can't blame yourself for this. Obviously, I'm only hearing one side of the story, but it does seem the ball is in his court and he's choosing to remain distant for whatever reason. I'd advise you to not message him, especially not right now when all these emotions are high. But if you'd rather message him, you could approach the issue with stating that he seems a bit distant and you'd like to know if everything is okay on his end and see how he responds to that.
Thank You again PurplePisces, you are right I should not blame myself for this. I protected my feelings best I could and opened them up and got my walls down upon his requests.
I had a long chat with our friend in common last night and turns out that the Pisces heart belongs to someone else, apparently someone he is hoping to be with.
I would like to ask for advise here on what to do. I normally left things like this, yet somehow I feel like I should at least tell the Pisces how wicked this game was. Do you think is a good idea? Or should I just leave things like this. At this point I don't even know if I would hear from him again, and I will not text unless if it is to speak my mind. Our friend told me that his feelings weren't as deep as mine but that he did show himself into me and crushed big time. I'm not quiet sure about my feelings toward him, I'm dueling between disappointment, anger, hurt, sadness....
I had a long chat with our friend in common last night and turns out that the Pisces heart belongs to someone else, apparently someone he is hoping to be with.
I would like to ask for advise here on what to do. I normally left things like this, yet somehow I feel like I should at least tell the Pisces how wicked this game was. Do you think is a good idea? Or should I just leave things like this. At this point I don't even know if I would hear from him again, and I will not text unless if it is to speak my mind. Our friend told me that his feelings weren't as deep as mine but that he did show himself into me and crushed big time. I'm not quiet sure about my feelings toward him, I'm dueling between disappointment, anger, hurt, sadness....
That was such an a-hole thing for him to do, I'm sorry. If it will make you feel better, I guess you can at least make him aware that you know what he did and that it was cowardly and cruel not only to you but his other partner as well. Though, I wouldn't expect a response from him. As to how you feel, time will change that but until then he isn't worth being too hard on yourself.
@PurplePisces, yes very low, cruel and evil move of him. He is not with this other girl. He is hoping to get with her or get with her again. I'm sure I'll move on and will be ok. It's very hard for me to not be hard on myself tho, as a proper gem the feeling of being played just make me want to act and crush the other end and it brings me down as I should've have stayed close up as I was. with him I don't think is going to be worth it as I also think he will not reply.
@MizLeo, at least I have on my favor the fact that I didn't chase him and I have no intention on doing so now. About him swimming further, well he already have swam away and I don't think/feel he will swim back my way.
I hope someday he reach out and I get my chance to speak my mind to him. That's all I hope 😢
@MizLeo, at least I have on my favor the fact that I didn't chase him and I have no intention on doing so now. About him swimming further, well he already have swam away and I don't think/feel he will swim back my way.
I hope someday he reach out and I get my chance to speak my mind to him. That's all I hope 😢
Posted by FyzaGemsOh my kindred spirit, saw you are a gem right?Posted by TeteBeen there, done that. I agree with PurplePisces that not all Pisces are like that but most likely majority. I feel ya coz thats how literally I am feeling right now with the Pisces man I used to be with. It's best to stay NC and cut him off totally. U deserves better than that. As for me, I ain't gonna date anymore Pisces, I rather date myself...LOL.
Thank You again PurplePisces, you are right I should not blame myself for this. I protected my feelings best I could and opened them up and got my walls down upon his requests.
I had a long chat with our friend in common last night and turns out that the Pisces heart belongs to someone else, apparently someone he is hoping to be with.
I would like to ask for advise here on what to do. I normally left things like this, yet somehow I feel like I should at least tell the Pisces how wicked this game was. Do you think is a good idea? Or should I just leave things like this. At this point I don't even know if I would hear from him again, and I will not text unless if it is to speak my mind. Our friend told me that his feelings weren't as deep as mine but that he did show himself into me and crushed big time. I'm not quiet sure about my feelings toward him, I'm dueling between disappointment, anger, hurt, sadness....
Good luck OP..be happy and stay positive. Šclick to expand
So I'm guessing you also feel angry at getting your walls down to be charmed and played like this?
Most wicked game I've ever seem. Cruel and evil it is to the max, and I know I was not reading between the lines or looking at things the way I wanted to, you better than anyone know that the twins will not allow that to happen, as soon as one is falling, the other one snap out hit it on the forehead and ask it to focus. What happened with your ex Pisces?
As bad as it feels and as disappointed as you are in yourself, I'm glad that the other person gave you some closure by letting you know what was happening. So now the healing process begins. Make today all about you.
For someone who is telling us how "detached" you kept yourself while you were with this guy, you sure sound attached. Just revert back to detached and you'll be fine. 🙂
@PurplePisces, yes I'm glad I got the chance to talk to our friend and get closure 🙂 and the healing process just started. I cut him of, just letting the gruop chat up.
@BrightLight, that's my point. I was detached to find myself pretty much attached now.... Reversing back to detach mode atm. I'm just so angry!!! ¡¡¡
@BrightLight, that's my point. I was detached to find myself pretty much attached now.... Reversing back to detach mode atm. I'm just so angry!!! ¡¡¡
I'm not a Fish but I have Pisces Ascendant and a lot of Neptune. There are two ways to look at this. You can be angry and feel deceived etc. because you thought this experience would extend itself. Or you can treasure the fun time you had because it sounds like a sweet little rendezvous. You said yourself you knew to keep it light but this guy trigged your feels getting involved.
Well, that's what water signs do. You had a great time traveling, meeting people and you got to feel good. It couldn't continue because it wasn't meant to last. But why not appreciate the time spent and embrace the fact you are capable of having feelings that you cant control. It shouldn't be scary. You don't have to make it a negative.
I think you'll be able to get to this perspective after you detach your bruised ego.
It may be a good idea to tell the Pisces you misunderstood his intentions. Not in a harsh way and maybe when you've sorted yourself out a bit because I bet he thinks you, like everyone else, would see it the same way as him and wouldn't understand your anger after having such a nice time.
Some people keep in touch and try to relive, prolong or recreate a past experiences when many water signs let it go and just live off the memories.
Well, that's what water signs do. You had a great time traveling, meeting people and you got to feel good. It couldn't continue because it wasn't meant to last. But why not appreciate the time spent and embrace the fact you are capable of having feelings that you cant control. It shouldn't be scary. You don't have to make it a negative.
I think you'll be able to get to this perspective after you detach your bruised ego.
It may be a good idea to tell the Pisces you misunderstood his intentions. Not in a harsh way and maybe when you've sorted yourself out a bit because I bet he thinks you, like everyone else, would see it the same way as him and wouldn't understand your anger after having such a nice time.
Some people keep in touch and try to relive, prolong or recreate a past experiences when many water signs let it go and just live off the memories.
Posted by TeteI'm just going to venture that you aren't really that attached. Your ego might just be feeling rejected. Its okay. We all feel that. My point is that if it was so easy for you to separate the moments you spent with this fish from day to day reality *while* you were with him, then that's your real state of mind. Not how you are feeling now. Try to remember why you felt the need not to attach in the first place and then may you will be able to see thing objectively. Don't be angry.
@PurplePisces, yes I'm glad I got the chance to talk to our friend and get closure 🙂 and the healing process just started. I cut him of, just letting the gruop chat up.
@BrightLight, that's my point. I was detached to find myself pretty much attached now.... Reversing back to detach mode atm. I'm just so angry!!! ¡¡¡
@ Shellshocker, I really like the perspective you point out and i hope that after my ego has healed i will remember the great time we had together and maybe agree on staying 'in touch'. Yet still, i dont agree on how he handled things. It doesnt matter how much of a great time you are having, you can not be that selfish or irresponsible and careless about the consequences of your actions, special when you are a grown up and you are dealing with others emotions. what was the point of demanding emotional connection and depth when you know you will disregard what you have triggered later? i keep saying it, it is a wicked game. And yes, i will let him know how it made me feel when the time comes if it ever do.
@FyzaGems, im sorry you are going through that situation, i know how frustrated we get to feel when we want to fix things as you said. lets be strong and move on, im sure we will be fine 🙂
@MarchP, i get what you mean, but he was not mirroring me. i was not rude or mean to him, all the contrary. but i sure was keeping my emotions aside, then please help me understand, why did he started to demand that i gave back what he was giving. That is the point i dont get, and i know im going round and round and round over it as i havent found an explanation to his behavior. Why acting like you are in love, and asking to be treated that way in return? For example, on one of our trips he hurt his nose and started bleeding, i immediately gave him attention and care and pampered him, then he said: looks like i will have to bleed from my nose several times a day to get your care and attention..... i will never do that o say that to someone im just having a nice time with just because.... could it be that he felt like it was a challenge to get my walls down? seriously i dont get it.
@ Brightlight, im feeling that way more and more and the anger is starting to fade, as im typing he is texting in the group, first he sent a vid of a party at his village, i opened it but didnt reply, now he sent something else but i havent checked.... still not sure about how to proceed as my emotions are still unbalanced.... any advice?
@FyzaGems, im sorry you are going through that situation, i know how frustrated we get to feel when we want to fix things as you said. lets be strong and move on, im sure we will be fine 🙂
@MarchP, i get what you mean, but he was not mirroring me. i was not rude or mean to him, all the contrary. but i sure was keeping my emotions aside, then please help me understand, why did he started to demand that i gave back what he was giving. That is the point i dont get, and i know im going round and round and round over it as i havent found an explanation to his behavior. Why acting like you are in love, and asking to be treated that way in return? For example, on one of our trips he hurt his nose and started bleeding, i immediately gave him attention and care and pampered him, then he said: looks like i will have to bleed from my nose several times a day to get your care and attention..... i will never do that o say that to someone im just having a nice time with just because.... could it be that he felt like it was a challenge to get my walls down? seriously i dont get it.
@ Brightlight, im feeling that way more and more and the anger is starting to fade, as im typing he is texting in the group, first he sent a vid of a party at his village, i opened it but didnt reply, now he sent something else but i havent checked.... still not sure about how to proceed as my emotions are still unbalanced.... any advice?
Posted by MarchPisc3sPosted by TeteYou think he is? Cause I can be very patient 😉
He could testing your patienceclick to expand
He talked on the group today, he posted a vid of a party at his village and after our friend reply he sent a pic of him with the friends he were with.... Also comment that he managed to go home safe (internal joke as our friend got really wasted last time we hung out), and I didn't reply till now, and I just said something about what our friend posted.
What should I do? Treat him normally on the group or keep my distance? Seriously I'm lost 😢
Posted by MarchPisc3sPosted by TeteWell it kind of make sense, whenever he felt i was distant or withdrawing my emotions he came at me asking if i still like him? or if i could at least show him that i did still like him? or asked if i like when he was sweet to me, when i said yes he said that he wanted to get that from me in return me cause it was a two way thing.... lost again and again....Posted by MarchPisc3sPosted by TeteYou think he is? Cause I can be very patient 😉
He could testing your patience
He talked on the group today, he posted a vid of a party at his village and after our friend reply he sent a pic of him with the friends he were with.... Also comment that he managed to go home safe (internal joke as our friend got really wasted last time we hung out), and I didn't reply till now, and I just said something about what our friend posted.
What should I do? Treat him normally on the group or keep my distance? Seriously I'm lost 😢
We hate being smothering but as you keep distance then he'll chase youclick to expand
How do i know if he is testing me or just being distant as i was only a girl from his trip? or the girl he used to try to forget about the other?
@MizLeo, thank you, ill read all he has to say very carefully 😄
Can I ask something, Tete? What is it that you would want with him? From what I gather, he doesn't live in your country, so would being in a relationship with him be ideal? I honestly think the best thing would be to try to move on.
Posted by PurplePiscesI just want to try understanding why he acted like he did with me.
Can I ask something, Tete? What is it that you would want with him? From what I gather, he doesn't live in your country, so would being in a relationship with him be ideal? I honestly think the best thing would be to try to move on.
I know i can be such a stubborn girl when i dont get things, and it is so hard to understand why he charmed me like that when there was no need. Everyone around us tells me how much into me and having feelings he was and as i have said, i have never ever had so much misx signals from anyone before.
Yet be clear about one thing, im not sitting around waiting and dueling, im hurt and i would love to understand, but the show must go on and im continuing with my life and doing my own thing.
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Well that's the spirit to have! I get the wanting to know part, and that can be so frustrating.
Posted by MiZLeo
I waited 2 years for an apology from the first pisces I ever had a relationship with. Closure can be a wonderful thing. I was able to forgive him after that.
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Oh 2 years!? What happened.
I don't think this think he needs to apologized to me :/
@PurplePisces, yes very frustrating indeed 😢
I think he is ignoring me know, he don't reply to the little I've said in the group, like he is cutting me off completely. 😢
Well I guess I’ve been lucky because I’ve never met a Pisces male that was a player. Maybe when they are younger, but even then Pisces men seem to be a bit more in tune with their feelings and need for connection when they like someone. I honestly don’t think it’s wise to build with a water sign when the relationship is long distance. Things will just get messy because the water sign would be far too emotional to handle the distance in my opinion. They really need that deep connection with their partner to feel secure in the relationship.
I have a Pisces moon, and I connected with a Gemini while on vacation with my family. He was great! Absolutely fantastic. He kept saying not to go back to my hometown and forget about him. He texted me the whole time I was on the road back home. We kept in touch for about 3 weeks next thing I knew POOF! He was gone. At first I was just like you. I was thinking “What the hell happened?” lol. Because honestly things were so perfect, I couldn’t understand why he would up and disappear. We were even making plans for me to visit for my birthday which was right around the corner at the time. I’d say after 2 months of no contact, I messaged him on Facebook, basically saying hey I’m not sure what happen, but I hope all is well, and it was really nice meeting you.
He messaged back immediately saying how sorry he was that he disappeared, and it was because he wound up making things official with a girl in his state and he didn’t know how to tell me because he didn’t want me to think he was with her the whole time because they were just like me and him and he knew he had to make a decision. He said he knew our thing would be a lot harder considering I live 10 hours away, so he moved forward with her. I told him we could be friends, and once I got my closure I was fine with the outcome. A year ago they broke up, and now he’s the one calling me a stranger .lol.
I have a Pisces moon, and I connected with a Gemini while on vacation with my family. He was great! Absolutely fantastic. He kept saying not to go back to my hometown and forget about him. He texted me the whole time I was on the road back home. We kept in touch for about 3 weeks next thing I knew POOF! He was gone. At first I was just like you. I was thinking “What the hell happened?” lol. Because honestly things were so perfect, I couldn’t understand why he would up and disappear. We were even making plans for me to visit for my birthday which was right around the corner at the time. I’d say after 2 months of no contact, I messaged him on Facebook, basically saying hey I’m not sure what happen, but I hope all is well, and it was really nice meeting you.
He messaged back immediately saying how sorry he was that he disappeared, and it was because he wound up making things official with a girl in his state and he didn’t know how to tell me because he didn’t want me to think he was with her the whole time because they were just like me and him and he knew he had to make a decision. He said he knew our thing would be a lot harder considering I live 10 hours away, so he moved forward with her. I told him we could be friends, and once I got my closure I was fine with the outcome. A year ago they broke up, and now he’s the one calling me a stranger .lol.
Posted by MiZLeoIm glad that you got your closure, im sorry you had to go though that experience. Uffffff im sure it was very hard for you specially as it was like he abandoned you while sick.. Looks like pisces men can be selfish at times 😢Posted by TeteWe were on and off again for 2-3 years....broke up 3 times total. 3rd time he knew it was final cause I told him "3 strikes your out buddy". Anyway, I had gotten really sick and our relationship had moved to a long distance one (we were both in college and we ended up moving back to our home towns which were 4 hours away, with the intention of him moving to me and us moving in together) so I got real sick and the medication I was on made it impossible for me to drive so I couldn't go see him. He dumped me via email/over the phone after that. This was a man who claimed to love me and all that. He could never fully explain to me why he was breaking up with me. Anyway, about a year and 1/2 later or 2 years I got an email from him out of the blue and he eventually told me what he did was fucked up and he was sorry. The experience still messed me up for life, but I was able to move on after the apology.....then he told me about his new girlfriend who he did end up moving in with who eventually dumped his ass, so I felt even better after that. haha.Posted by MiZLeo
I waited 2 years for an apology from the first pisces I ever had a relationship with. Closure can be a wonderful thing. I was able to forgive him after that.
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Oh 2 years!? What happened.
I don't think this think he needs to apologized to me :/
@PurplePisces, yes very frustrating indeed 😢
I think he is ignoring me know, he don't reply to the little I've said in the group, like he is cutting me off completely. 😢click to expand
Posted by LyseI dont have any issues with LDR, sometimes i feel as they are perfect for me as they give me the space i needed. But i can understand what you mean about the deep connection, maybe thats why this pisces wanted/needed it from me while he was around.
Well I guess I’ve been lucky because I’ve never met a Pisces male that was a player. Maybe when they are younger, but even then Pisces men seem to be a bit more in tune with their feelings and need for connection when they like someone. I honestly don’t think it’s wise to build with a water sign when the relationship is long distance. Things will just get messy because the water sign would be far too emotional to handle the distance in my opinion. They really need that deep connection with their partner to feel secure in the relationship.
Posted by LyseOh so is he back? Is he wanting to get back together?
I have a Pisces moon, and I connected with a Gemini while on vacation with my family. He was great! Absolutely fantastic. He kept saying not to go back to my hometown and forget about him. He texted me the whole time I was on the road back home. We kept in touch for about 3 weeks next thing I knew POOF! He was gone. At first I was just like you. I was thinking “What the hell happened?” lol. Because honestly things were so perfect, I couldn’t understand why he would up and disappear. We were even making plans for me to visit for my birthday which was right around the corner at the time. I’d say after 2 months of no contact, I messaged him on Facebook, basically saying hey I’m not sure what happen, but I hope all is well, and it was really nice meeting you.
He messaged back immediately saying how sorry he was that he disappeared, and it was because he wound up making things official with a girl in his state and he didn’t know how to tell me because he didn’t want me to think he was with her the whole time because they were just like me and him and he knew he had to make a decision. He said he knew our thing would be a lot harder considering I live 10 hours away, so he moved forward with her. I told him we could be friends, and once I got my closure I was fine with the outcome. A year ago they broke up, and now he’s the one calling me a stranger .lol.click to expand
Ah little update.... last night i sent a pic to the group about something that happened next door.
This morning the pisces finally talked directly to me via the group, first he made a joke about the issue next door being because girls were fighting over who was sexier, him or our friend, then he was telling me that i had enough signs already to make the decision to move out and get a new apartment. But that was it. The three of us has been joking around a bit, but nothing else.
Wow i still can not believe that deep down i meant nothing to him.... pffffffff.... very hard to accept.
This morning the pisces finally talked directly to me via the group, first he made a joke about the issue next door being because girls were fighting over who was sexier, him or our friend, then he was telling me that i had enough signs already to make the decision to move out and get a new apartment. But that was it. The three of us has been joking around a bit, but nothing else.
Wow i still can not believe that deep down i meant nothing to him.... pffffffff.... very hard to accept.
Posted by MiZLeoIm very curious, what test do you make them go through?
Thanks. Now I am very careful who I let in especially with health issues. One of the reasons I married my ex husband was cause he took care of me while I was sick it was his best quality. The guy I'm seeing now, he doesn't know all my issues but he knows some and is always very caring and nurturing with it. My ex is a Cancer and guy now is pisces with cancer moon so maybe it's the cancer thing. But they have to pass that test with me now because of that first pisces when I was younger. It's like one of my top things I look for.
I agree with the LDR thing. With my pisces moon I can't handle it. But the Leo likes it cause I have space.......BUT.....that gets me in trouble.
I normally am very emotionally closed up, or at least i feel im being like that, i need to feel that the other end reciprocated for me to open and give a little of my emotions away.
What gets me in trouble is my Venus in gem.... you have no idea!! puffffffffffff.... but i can handle distance, time, space and even tho im a gem i can be very patient 🙂
I still feel there is so much for me to learn, before the pisces i had another situation with a cancer, the difference was that the cancer was crystal clear about the way things were gonna be, this is this and now, nothing else after im gone, i got a bit hooked up but i moved on fast cause i was ready about what was up next. With this one is hard as im finding it hard to accept things and as we are still 'in touch'.... i really hope i get to move on soon even tho i dont get explanations :/
^^ True. The continued interaction really boils down to how you feel about it. Like I've been saying for some time now, I don't believe you should keep contacting him or expect him to be mature enough to explain himself. If constantly seeing his messages in the group chat (even if they aren't directed at you) keeps bringing back these feelings, then maybe you should leave the group chat.
I really want to thank you all for your wise words, advises and insights about my situation with this Pisces. You are wonderful, Pisces and non Pisces 🙂
@Arrius, you have spoke for a million years! thank you for that perspective.
@PurplePisces, special thanks to you for focusing on me in the whole situation, for making me see that it is me and my well being that matters, you are such a mature guy for a 21y/o boy. In time ill gather the strength to delete the group, i still feel im not ready.
@LittleStar, What you said got me thinking big time, i think i need to look deeper within me and find out why am i choosing this sort o guys and situations, in the end they are not healthy and seems to me now after reading you that i might be sabotaging my love life big time.
I shall stop trying to understand his behavior and focus on understanding mine now. Big lesson this is for sure, and i thank you all for your help. Pisces forum rocks!
@Arrius, you have spoke for a million years! thank you for that perspective.
@PurplePisces, special thanks to you for focusing on me in the whole situation, for making me see that it is me and my well being that matters, you are such a mature guy for a 21y/o boy. In time ill gather the strength to delete the group, i still feel im not ready.
@LittleStar, What you said got me thinking big time, i think i need to look deeper within me and find out why am i choosing this sort o guys and situations, in the end they are not healthy and seems to me now after reading you that i might be sabotaging my love life big time.
I shall stop trying to understand his behavior and focus on understanding mine now. Big lesson this is for sure, and i thank you all for your help. Pisces forum rocks!
You're welcome! You'll bounce back soon.
Posted by PurplePiscesHe just texted..... He installed the game I teach him to play and is asking my tag name so we can play.... He is joking about going to destroy me....
You're welcome! You'll bounce back soon.
Oh boy, I don't get him arghhhhhhhg
Like, seriously, don't!
@Metanoia, after watching this vid all i can feel is sorry for the pisces he is talking about. I know few and i have a good GF who is a Pisces and i refuse to believe they are all like that. I went then i looked this guy up and turns out he hate every single sign, i wonder which one is his lol.... but i could see what he meant about the manipulation, give me a better insight. thank you for sharing.
@MizLeo and @PurplePisces, against your advise i did add him, cause is there where i will find my change to tell him all i need to. What i will not do is see this as him trying to reach me romantically (even tho my heart still hopes for it) or trying to stay close me, and as soon as i see he is starting to behave confusing again i will talk and make my point of view clear and let him know how his confusing ways hurt me. Im a gem after all and i do need to speak up my mind 😢
@MizLeo and @PurplePisces, against your advise i did add him, cause is there where i will find my change to tell him all i need to. What i will not do is see this as him trying to reach me romantically (even tho my heart still hopes for it) or trying to stay close me, and as soon as i see he is starting to behave confusing again i will talk and make my point of view clear and let him know how his confusing ways hurt me. Im a gem after all and i do need to speak up my mind 😢
Posted by METANOIAYeah, i can see what you mean and thanks to this threat and all the opinions and advises i feel ready to not let him drag me under. He is confusing but in the end im sure he is not into me the way he showed to. I want to tell him that, that it was not necessary to play games with me and make me feel things he wasn't going to care about later. Call me stupid and stubborn, but i need it. i need to let him know and speak my mind to keep on moving on. I still do like him, i can not lie, yet i can see how his confusing ways are not fit for me 😢Posted by TeteI love pisces. Just to not get it confused. Because of the heavy pisces energy in my chart, and neptune being my dominant planet I actually relate to a lot of what he's saying. Not so much anymore, but in my younger years. I do believe a lot of the emotional manipulation is unconsious. Also, pisces usually really do care about others.
@Metanoia, after watching this vid all i can feel is sorry for the pisces he is talking about. I know few and i have a good GF who is a Pisces and i refuse to believe they are all like that. I went then i looked this guy up and turns out he hate every single sign, i wonder which one is his lol.... but i could see what he meant about the manipulation, give me a better insight. thank you for sharing.
@MizLeo and @PurplePisces, against your advise i did add him, cause is there where i will find my change to tell him all i need to. What i will not do is see this as him trying to reach me romantically (even tho my heart still hopes for it) or trying to stay close me, and as soon as i see he is starting to behave confusing again i will talk and make my point of view clear and let him know how his confusing ways hurt me. Im a gem after all and i do need to speak up my mind 😢
always remember (and that regards all signs and placements) there are high/good vibrations, and low/bad. its up to the native. (-:
But my advice. be careful. I have experience with a pisces who just kept pulling me in, then disappearing, then pulling me in, then "puff" gone again. this went on for almost a year. very painful for me. like that alicia keys song "I keep on falling, in and out of love with you"
not a big fan, but it seemed fitting.click to expand
Just guard your heart. Hope you get your moment to let it out, if it will give you peace.
Posted by Tete
.... you enjoy to give love, care and attention ....
... if you dont get it you will act hurt ....
... i was very closed down ....
... im not needy, nor clingy, and was always clear about things being light and fun....
How can you be INTO someone, say such nice things all the time and act accordingly .... and always attentive to my needs.
.... he has not texted me privately and the last we chat he was plain and cold.
.... that sudden change really hurt me and pissed me and im backing off.
.... im smart enough to understand that regardless of the sign, when a man is interested will do what he has to.
Actually, you're not smart at all ... quite stupid, actually.
He has been chasing you, pampering you, filling you to the brim with nice things and being attentive to your needs .... according to your words here, I didn't read any description where you reciprocated in any way. In fact, you made sure to tell us that you remained closed off, and just wanting things to remain light and fun.
the reality here is ... you were playing games with the attention you got from him. And he finally realized that you're not sincere and was just using him for attention.
All of this is actually good for him. Now he can ditch a person like you who gives mixed signals, so he can find a person who is genuine.
Posted by piranhaparadiiseYes, as days go by and my emotions are getting calmed down i can see things more clear, Last night i was thinking that yes, i can not keep seeing/thinking that he gave me mixed signals, he was just nice and sweet and living the moment we had together best way he knows and enjoy it.Posted by Tete. i was clear about what it all was. traveling companions with benefits lets call it (yet he treated me like his GF) and i was ok and comfortable about it, never attaching myself to him to avoid the heartbreaks.You were ok with being traveling companions with benefits,
what you are doing is looking into it more then what it is, it is you that is creating false hope.
There are Pisces or rather man and women out there that like the companionship without wanting much more.
He is not confusing nor giving mixed signals, it is you that is placing expectations on him because you feel with some of his interactions with you,it would make you think he wants more than what was said at the beginning, travel companions with benefits.
Unless he comes out saying he wants a relationship {doubtful for long distance - Pisces don't do well for long)click to expand
Posted by P-AngelI have to admit that i was looking forward to hear your opinion in this matter. Ive read almost all your replies to different threats and i rather enjoy how you point out what one needs to see within ourselves.Posted by Tete
.... you enjoy to give love, care and attention ....
... if you dont get it you will act hurt ....
... i was very closed down ....
... im not needy, nor clingy, and was always clear about things being light and fun....
How can you be INTO someone, say such nice things all the time and act accordingly .... and always attentive to my needs.
.... he has not texted me privately and the last we chat he was plain and cold.
.... that sudden change really hurt me and pissed me and im backing off.
.... im smart enough to understand that regardless of the sign, when a man is interested will do what he has to.
Actually, you're not smart at all ... quite stupid, actually.
He has been chasing you, pampering you, filling you to the brim with nice things and being attentive to your needs .... according to your words here, I didn't read any description where you reciprocated in any way. In fact, you made sure to tell us that you remained closed off, and just wanting things to remain light and fun.
the reality here is ... you were playing games with the attention you got from him. And he finally realized that you're not sincere and was just using him for attention.
All of this is actually good for him. Now he can ditch a person like you who gives mixed signals, so he can find a person who is genuine.click to expand
Even tho i didnt mention how i reciprocated, i did. Not with the same amount of intensity than he did, and scared, scared of opening myself up as i did in the end to avoid the heartbreak that followed.
About not being genuine.... hmmmmmm no, i was genuine. Actually as soon as he complained about not getting my attention i explained why i was being distant/close off, he said i did not need to be like that with him, so i brought down my walls right and showed him i care, pampered him and gave him all my attention.
So now that you've pointed out what you think i did wrong, how would you have me fixed it? assuming you are right, how can i showed him i didnt play any games with him?
Yes, he came back and at first he didn’t want a relationship, but then once I got used to just being friends he wanted more, but I don’t. We speak every once blue moon just to say hi, but that’s it and I’m cool with that. Don’t know about him.
As for your situation, this may be a bit personal for me to ask, but do you become intimate with this man? You seem very attached for it to only have been a couple weeks.
Nonetheless, you’re a woman, and our emotions tend to jump the gun a bit. But honestly I see a man that has pulled back. He has the right to do so if the two of you are not official. As hard as it may be, you risk running into people like him when you’re single and mingling. Some people stick like glue, others are flighty ,then there are others that come and go like the wind.
It’s your personal job to decide on who you let get close to you, when there is not solid commitment on the table. If I were you, I wouldn’t be fake and smile in his face knowing I’m not okay with his sudden change in behavior. Knowing me I’d probably be very short with him, or I might even ignore him altogether, shoot it’s not like you can see him or have to run into him. Then when he starts asking whats wrong, or saying my favorite line, “You’ve been being real fake lately” I’d let him have it. After all he walked right into it.
As for your situation, this may be a bit personal for me to ask, but do you become intimate with this man? You seem very attached for it to only have been a couple weeks.
Nonetheless, you’re a woman, and our emotions tend to jump the gun a bit. But honestly I see a man that has pulled back. He has the right to do so if the two of you are not official. As hard as it may be, you risk running into people like him when you’re single and mingling. Some people stick like glue, others are flighty ,then there are others that come and go like the wind.
It’s your personal job to decide on who you let get close to you, when there is not solid commitment on the table. If I were you, I wouldn’t be fake and smile in his face knowing I’m not okay with his sudden change in behavior. Knowing me I’d probably be very short with him, or I might even ignore him altogether, shoot it’s not like you can see him or have to run into him. Then when he starts asking whats wrong, or saying my favorite line, “You’ve been being real fake lately” I’d let him have it. After all he walked right into it.
So, in other words .... you're immature nature would set bait out to trap him, so you could attack him for having a right to decide what is best for him.
So, there you go Op .... if your game doesn't work (and it didn't) ... then this person's counsel is telling you to try her game.
Posted by P-AngelYour*
So, in other words .... you're immature nature would set bait out to trap him, so you could attack him for having a right to decide what is best for him.
Posted by LyseYes my emotions were all over the place. But everything is kinda going back to normal.
Yes, he came back and at first he didn’t want a relationship, but then once I got used to just being friends he wanted more, but I don’t. We speak every once blue moon just to say hi, but that’s it and I’m cool with that. Don’t know about him.
As for your situation, this may be a bit personal for me to ask, but do you become intimate with this man? You seem very attached for it to only have been a couple weeks.
Nonetheless, you’re a woman, and our emotions tend to jump the gun a bit. But honestly I see a man that has pulled back. He has the right to do so if the two of you are not official. As hard as it may be, you risk running into people like him when you’re single and mingling. Some people stick like glue, others are flighty ,then there are others that come and go like the wind.
It’s your personal job to decide on who you let get close to you, when there is not solid commitment on the table. If I were you, I wouldn’t be fake and smile in his face knowing I’m not okay with his sudden change in behavior. Knowing me I’d probably be very short with him, or I might even ignore him altogether, shoot it’s not like you can see him or have to run into him. Then when he starts asking whats wrong, or saying my favorite line, “You’ve been being real fake lately” I’d let him have it. After all he walked right into it.
I did get intimate with him, all the emotional connection came after our first week together. And yes, I got very attached to him, already starting to detach regardless of the fact that I still like him.
I'm not going to do anything at the moment, I'll let things flow and soon everything will go back to normal, back to the days he wasn't not around, only that this time I'll hear from him every now and then I think. Today he was training in the game so we will probably game soon.
But the less we interact the better as my emotions get in place.
Yea, youll be okay. These things happen until Mr.Right shows his pretty face unfortunately you have to knock out a few butt heads before you get to him. lol. No sweat baby girl.
@Lyse, no sweet at all.
So the last two days he has texted me.
Yesterday it was via game chat. He said: Hola Nerd. I didn't reply cause I saw the text super late.
Today he texted again via phone: How are you? How did your exams go?
I replied nice, he hasn't replied back :/
I'm happy that he is texting tho 😄
So the last two days he has texted me.
Yesterday it was via game chat. He said: Hola Nerd. I didn't reply cause I saw the text super late.
Today he texted again via phone: How are you? How did your exams go?
I replied nice, he hasn't replied back :/
I'm happy that he is texting tho 😄
Posted by Tete
@Lyse, no sweet at all.
sweat*
Posted by TeteCool. Remember to create a new thread every time he texts or stops texting, so that we keep updated on the situation
@Lyse, no sweet at all.
So the last two days he has texted me.
Yesterday it was via game chat. He said: Hola Nerd. I didn't reply cause I saw the text super late.
Today he texted again via phone: How are you? How did your exams go?
I replied nice, he hasn't replied back :/
I'm happy that he is texting tho 😄
Posted by hydorahA new thread? Really? Thought it would be easier to keep it on only one..... Hmmmm or are you being sacastic? :SPosted by TeteCool. Remember to create a new thread every time he texts or stops texting, so that we keep updated on the situation
@Lyse, no sweet at all.
So the last two days he has texted me.
Yesterday it was via game chat. He said: Hola Nerd. I didn't reply cause I saw the text super late.
Today he texted again via phone: How are you? How did your exams go?
I replied nice, he hasn't replied back :/
I'm happy that he is texting tho 😄click to expand
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He said that we would keep in touch (even said that he will download a game i play so we can play against each other) and im supposed to visit in few months, but that sudden change really hurt me and pissed me and im backing off.... im smart enough to understand that regardless of the sign, when a man is interested will do what he has to. And not reaching out directly is just a big sign. But still i would love to understand this behavior.
Please insights. and thanks for reading my rant!