Pisces / Virgo strange relationship

So for the first time I'm sort of seeing a Virgo, the most Virgo possible person ever, and it's great sometimes but also hard. I've rarely hit it off with people of this sign unless they're the chill kind, but they almost never are. I've only had friendships. But near a Virgo in a work environment? No thanks, my anxiety skyrockets. And now chance led me here in the closest thing to a relationship.

This case is the most wonderful, talented, smart, hard working and focused and intense person, but also very reserved. Communication is not the best.

And I'm... lagging. All those traits above, I lack.

All my insecurities are coming to the surface and I'm beginning to shut off.

Insecurities based on inabilities, bad habits, you name it.

I'm too uncomfortable to talk about it and yesterday I was wondering if I should call this off before my super randomness becomes too apparent and bothersome to this very Virgo, perfect, perfectionist subject of my interest.

Only two parts of me work in a positive way and I cash on them to appear somewhat interesting. It worked here but I don't think it's sustainable and especially, enough. I don't think I'm enough and I'm too embarrassed to confront it. It's painful, you know...

Now that I think about it.. Pisces do sabotage themselves.. You need someone direct with a high EQ, someone who will call you out on that shit.

Aren't Virgos the ones who love to fix people?

Girl spill the beans so he can have a project to work on!

You're perfect the way you are!

where do all these virgos that make people anxious at work come from?

i go to work to nap for 4 hours then the other 4 we spend on having a meeting that i don't really understand the point of 🤷🤷

but anyway, i don't think i've ever known any virgo to be into someone whose got everything in place. coz why bother people who are doing so well on their own? surely, i won't get in the way of that. terrible thing to admit but that's just how it is.

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Posted by virgoOPPP
where do all these virgos that make people anxious at work come from?


i go to work to nap for 4 hours then the other 4 we spend on having a meeting that i don't really understand the point of 🤷🤷


but anyway, i don't think i've ever known any virgo to be into someone whose got everything in place. coz why bother people who are doing so well on their own? surely, i won't get in the way of that. terrible thing to admit but that's just how it is.

While I can agree with you that Virgos can be overbearing at work if their position demands it, I disagree that a Virgo needs their partner to be a project to be in a relationship.

I mean frankly, I don't look down on myself like that, I bring much to the table through my effort, I see no reason to downplay my quality or the quality of my chosen partners lol.

Besides if they are human they are flawed...so the entire chase for perfection is a non-starter says this practical-ish Virgo.

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i'm not downplaying anything. it's just that, what will i bring when everything's in place? seems redundant to me. it's not even that i find it unattractive, it's just that i wanna bring something. don't know why i think this way, just that i do.

Posted by Saturn_Returns
So, you want to run away from yourself

Not from myself, from the Virgo. And it's more like I have to, not want to.

Posted by LuckyLibra7
someone who will call you out on that shit.

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But I AM aware of my shit, it's clear in my message.

If he is talented, smart and hard working, there is a good chance that he did well in life. He should be a positive and confident person. He doesn’t look like someone who would get berserk or run off at the first relationship hiccup, and you shouldn’t do that either.

Just be yourself, as original, imperfect and delightful as you are. If he treats your human flaws with contempt, refuse to accept them, try to take control over you or criticises you for petty reasons, then leave. Behind such sort of behaviour are real, dangerous flaws and they often ruin relationships and people, unlike your randomness and humanly mistakes.

Interesting how you guys assume genders here... 🤔

Anyway. The Virgo got a MASSIVE promotion, so this r/s just got even more difficult. Frequent travels, public persona, huge responsibility...

I'm just a free style person, no schedule, freelancing since I've never been able to fit into strict work/family structures, have a boss, respond to people unless I want to, in my own terms. I don't know how to make it work. I'm willing, but now this update. I feel like I'm dating the president. Did I mention I have A LOT of competition? Frankly I'm just waiting for the moment of "thank you for your service, goodbye and good luck" 😂.

I attract a ton of virgos, I don't know what it is, its uncanny. That said, even if there is a mutual attraction, it never works. There's always some massive gaps in compatibility and interests that crop up.

I'm vulnerable with the Virgo. In a very self-deprecating way that makes the Virgo laugh a lot, one of the reasons we're dating, I've been told. I'm not sabotaging, but being realistic and building protective walls. Our lives are very different and now we're increasingly apart for some of the reasons posted.

You know, sometimes stuff doesn't go your way. It almost never does. What you want doesn't always equal what you get. This doesn't make you a loser, a wreck, a whatever. It doesn't make you anything. There's no moral, no instructions. So far I'm lucky it's worked and I'll be ok and happy as long as it lasts. I hadn't dated in a long while so it caught me by surprise. What I get from writing about it is a bit of clarity.

Posted by blobfish
Interesting how you guys assume genders here... 🤔

Anyway. The Virgo got a MASSIVE promotion, so this r/s just got even more difficult. Frequent travels, public persona, huge responsibility...

I'm just a free style person, no schedule, freelancing since I've never been able to fit into strict work/family structures, have a boss, respond to people unless I want to, in my own terms. I don't know how to make it work. I'm willing, but now this update. I feel like I'm dating the president. Did I mention I have A LOT of competition? Frankly I'm just waiting for the moment of "thank you for your service, goodbye and good luck" 😂.

Learn from each other. That's what I did with a pisces. This kind of opposites, cover each other's weakness and learn from thier strengths.

I can tell you as someone with a lot of Virgo placements and traits, deciding that it's not going to work or that I will leave you will color your attitude and actions towards me creating the very conditions for that to happen. It's like you are imposing that outcome on the relationship. If you want him then work for it with him.

Relationships are about both people. You can't control him or him you. Both parties choose the other.

IF IF IF things don't work out between you guys or end up not being the kind of relationship you want with him or he with you, that's ok.

You make the best of it and enjoy each other.

Being curious and sharing yourselves with each other is how you learn from each other, as well as find your dynamic and tempo.