Pisces woman confusing me

This is my 2nd post here, as I had started a different thread which seems to be dead. So I am starting a new, hoping I can get some feedback.

I have broken up with my girl around 2 weeks ago. To try to get over me she started sleeping with this other guy (she claims its just a need and nothing serious) as she was mad at me. Now 2 weeks later we are talking again and we spoke a lot. She said that she wishes that I am the person to listen to her as I am now. We spent lots of time on the phone up to two hours. We laughed together spoke about both our issues etc. We text all the time but then she disappears when she wants. She looks for me to tell me about her interviews, about other emotional and anxiety issues she is facing etc. I want to be that person don't get me wrong, but I want her totally for me.

To give a background our relationship broke because I was neglecting her and partly because I was suffering myself. I know I did wrong, I explained this to her and wrote an email. She told me instantly (this weekend) how beautiful the email I wrote.

I know the way to convince her to come back is to live together. She is telling me first I need to do that if we ever can think about getting back together. I am moving now to my place in the coming week or two, feeling stressed.

She is telling me to give her space, and to hold on (as I am totally broken hearted), but I cannot take it that she is sleeping with someone else. It is sex at the end, I know, but I don’t want to be the person on the side. She looks for me for everything, to talk about work, emotions, but at the end she is getting in bed with someone else.

She claims that she needs to fix herself first without me. I don’t understand, if I push a bit she will just tell me just move on. But in other instances she just tells me to hold off and that she misses me.

Im confused, I dont want to move on and to lose her, I know we can fix this.

I was going to do a surprise pickup at the airport in 2 weeks, but that is too far away. I am not sure I can hold off till then while she will be sleeping and having fun with someone else in the meantime. I don't know what is fair and what is not and to what extent I should ‘respect’ her decisions without disrespecting myself.

I just feel it that she wants me back but she is afraid I will hurt her or if I will be able to keep my promises or not. Please help me, she is the love of my life. Im afraid that the longer this goes, the longer it will damage me permanently and if we ever get back together it would destroy our relationship.

What does she mean when she says to hold on for now? What else can I do in the meantime?

I am going crazy and I don't want to ignore her or try going out with someone else, just don't have the mind for it. I just want her attention.

I think so too 😢 I don't want to lose her. Any last hopes I can try to get her back?

Ok I guess I need to get my thoughts clear and stop feeling bad 😢

wait what was this "I know the way to convince her to come back is to live together. She is telling me first I need to do that if we ever can think about getting back together. I am moving now to my place in the coming week or two, feeling stressed."

so she tells you that in order to have her she needs to live with you ? wtf is that about ? you are in this over your head and need to stop drop and roll - you are being manipulated and well, along with that comes many heartaches and headaches so you have some growing and learning to do before you do anything else

Ok so after all the comments above, thank you really appreciate, I thought this through.

So this morning I sent her a text message saying:

“I see that you are looking for me as much as I am but leaving me hanging and confusing while you are sleeping with someone else and telling me to hold on.

I am ready to give you more space but I do not accept that you sleep with someone else as an excuse. Please think about what you want and I will leave the door open until I can.

If you want me to just move on please say but then I cannot be your friend and probably you should share your issues now with you new sex buddy.”

She replied to me to give her space and that I should Not worry abt the other person and that she wants to talk and meet soon and that she misses me. I didn’t reply to her and will hold on to not replying.

After that further on in the day she sent me more messages about other things but I ignored too.

Posted by shakedown
What d0s3r said is true. I don't know about other Pisces, but I do not like a submissive mate. You must stand up to me and have the kohones to put me in my place. OP, you must ignore her! If I am remembering correctly, you said you are a Leo. If that is true, please dig deep and find your strong Leo characteristics.

I agree ☝️

The OP needs to be stronger

Hi shakedown thank you for your kind words. Things didn't end yet and not sure where I stand exactly. Last week we were in contact a lot about issues more as friends and there for each other. She told me how much she misses me and went into detail about things we used to do together and things she misses like my smell and hugs and that sort of things.

Tonight I met her for around 40mins mainly her supporting me about some issues I am going through same like when we were together. I did something crazy, I proposed to her. Her reaction was of bursting crying but she didn't say yes or no.

I know she still has doubts about our relationship (to get back together, she is scared), as a proper Pisces she just keeps holding on to the things that hurt her.

She told me I am crazy for proposing, and asked me if I was for real or I am joking. Which of course I said I am for real. Told her I want to get married back at her hometown (its one of my favourite cities in the world) and then settle with her in my apartment and get a schnauzer. I think I panicked her and didn't get much more out of the conversation, she just asked me she needs to go back home.

Now from tomorrow she is going back home for a week. I think I should not text her for a while. Shall I wait for her to send back? I had the other crazy idea to go surprise pick her up from the airport on her return....

Advice please.