Questions about Pisces females

I will be the first to admit that I don't know much about Pisces people. I've never dated one but I had co workers and they always seem to be cool but SUPER EMOTIONAL!!!! Pisces girl I am "friends" with and I use that loosely because I don't know what to call her. I used to work with her a few years ago and we used to hang out and we were close enough I guess. I really liked her, HOWEVER i find her flaky at times and I don't understand her/ I try not to ever judge people when they want me to give my advice and she would tell me stories about her and other guys and i always felt like she could do better or could handle it differently. I would give her my opinion and leave it be since it's her situation.

I left the job and i guess naturally we stopped speaking as much. We occasionally hang out. like 6 months could go past and we don't communicate. I used to reach out to her more but I felt it was one sided so I fell back. So we had this heart to heart a month ago and we're both going through something with both of our BF's. She made the comment that i could always call her talk and hang out.... BUT I always tried and it was always something with her. I told her this and she said I know I need to do better and then she always makes promises that she never keeps. After this call a couple of days later we were suppose to hang out once she got back in town. She never called or said anything. That was over a month ago and i decided to leave her be but then she just randomly text me today about some news of hers and Idk i feel some kind of way about it.

Are Pisces females this flaky or is it just her?

Posted by PV&Jellay
She likes talking to you, but I don''t think she really want to hangout. She wants to be close acquaintences, not close friends. Don't over invest in the friendship.

Then again, maybe she's just a lazy friend. I dunno.

Yeah people tell her this ALL THE TIME!! I'm just trying to figure her out and I can't but her only contacting me as a emotional crutch could be very true

Posted by MlleFisk
I'll cop to being like this in my late teens and early 20s. The flakyness is self-serving and selfish behavior- she only contacts you when she needs an emotional crutch.

It's an easy way to lose friends.

I knew a pisces girl in her 40s who was the same. There is no escape.

Jha I have pisces friend whose like that, I don't mind her being flacky or distant, cause I get bored easily or get tired when a friend is always on my face an Aqua sun and pisces moon by the way.

Posted by MlleFisk
I'll cop to being like this in my late teens and early 20s. The flakyness is self-serving and selfish behavior- she only contacts you when she needs an emotional crutch.

It's an easy way to lose friends.

. Take MlleFisk's advice , do not invest too much into the friendship. She probably does'nt find your advices helpful or she's jst lazy like u mentioned. I don't think she's using u though.

This is a normal behavior for Pisces people.

We are much different than other people in the aspect that we don't need, or seek emotional attachments to people on the same level as others.

for example, it's quite common for Pisces to not phone, text or message their friends and family members. A Fish could literally go months, even years, without talking to a very close person in their life ... and then when they get together, it's like the last time they spoke was yesterday.

That's normal. I'm unclear why people are telling you otherwise.

From the way you verbalized your testimony, it sounds like you have expectations on how she is to reciprocate in a friendship. The Pisces person in this scenario isn't emotionally injuring you, your expectations of her is what has hurt you.

Pisces people are natural wall-flowers in situations; can and often do remain out of sight, out of radar .... unless we choose to be visible. This is instinctual to Fish. They don't even like answering the door, or phone ... they choose to remain incognito in situations where they are uncertain.


You must be forceful, or controlling ..... she is choosing to remain a blur. Probably waiting for you to tire and move along

Her being flaky has nothing to do with me being controlling as well as me having some type of expectations of waiting ppl to do what they say they're gonna do.

SHE suggest the plans. SHE backs out of them. I don't contact her trying to force anything. Friendship is more than one person and even if she doesn't consider me to be a friend to her she treats everyone like this. I'm only staying how frustrating it is and is this normal behavior.

Posted by Leogirl27

...... is this normal behavior.

Again ... "yes" it is normal behavior.

Everyone can be like that, not just fish.. the behavior may be explained well, so it seems like the behavior can be excused...doesn't mean it's a good excuse though.

You just.don't wamt to be bothered, bother or care enough to bother.... it's cool

People should just stop expecting too much from Aquas and Fish. we just like space and distance. And believe me you , we love you no matter how far you can be. It's normal for us! just don't nag enjoy us while we still there.

Posted by Greentea
Everyone can be like that, not just fish.. the behavior may be explained well, so it seems like the behavior can be excused...doesn't mean it's a good excuse though.

You just.don't wamt to be bothered, bother or care enough to bother.... it's cool

A Pisces is the a fish and that means if you push the waters the fish will swim away and you will never see her again.

Posted by P-Angel

This is a normal behavior for Pisces people.

We are much different than other people in the aspect that we don't need, or seek emotional attachments to people on the same level as others.

for example, it's quite common for Pisces to not phone, text or message their friends and family members. A Fish could literally go months, even years, without talking to a very close person in their life ... and then when they get together, it's like the last time they spoke was yesterday.

That's normal. I'm unclear why people are telling you otherwise.

From the way you verbalized your testimony, it sounds like you have expectations on how she is to reciprocate in a friendship. The Pisces person in this scenario isn't emotionally injuring you, your expectations of her is what has hurt you.

Pisces people are natural wall-flowers in situations; can and often do remain out of sight, out of radar .... unless we choose to be visible. This is instinctual to Fish. They don't even like answering the door, or phone ... they choose to remain incognito in situations where they are uncertain.


You must be forceful, or controlling ..... she is choosing to remain a blur. Probably waiting for you to tire and move along

Wow, this is absolutely me.

Although, as a friend, when I need someone for emotional support, I am usually there for the other person as well. I only have a few people that I am like that with, but if they have something important or stressful going on, I make sure to check in.

Posted by MlleFisk
I'll cop to being like this in my late teens and early 20s. The flakyness is self-serving and selfish behavior- she only contacts you when she needs an emotional crutch.

It's an easy way to lose friends.

^5 (high five) response.

Eva

She's not your friend. She is an EX co-worker. I don't see how is she using you if you keep contacting her with your BF issues. She mentioned hers as a polite way to to say "cut the drama short, you haven't invented it".

Stop contacting her. How many hints to you need that this is what she wants?