R there any Pisces M Virgo F success stories?

I have combed this board for a few days now and it appears there are only a few success stories between Pisces/Virgo. Virgo likes to define love and Pisces likes to have unspoken love. Ironically, most of the traits of a Pisces are similar for most and yet one can not generalize Mr. Pisces' charming abilities capable of sweeping "Ms.unassuming Virgo" off her feet to only experience the "Great Whodini".

I have read he "swims away" because he is overwhelmed, hurt, sorting through things, etc. And, if he likes you he will surely return. What I haven't seen as consistent is what is the standard time frame for a "temporary" break, "I have changed my mind" break or "I have given all of me to you, along side of lots of things going on and I need to recharge" break?

Unlike many of the other posters, I saw the "stress" of relocating he and his children locally (near me) was mounting rapidly over the course of 5 days but thought once he got here, I could help him in ways that he would feel better. Things came to a screeching halt with him advising me via text, late one evening that "he needed to get settled and resolve his challenges. No hard feelings towards me. Bless."

I am okay with the space as I previously recommended he take the time necessary to get situated and let me know if I could help with anything and he insisted that was not necessary and they would attend my daughter's birthday party. They came, we had a good time and Bam! He sent the text late that night. I didn't know want to think and simply replied with a text, letting him know I was here if he needed me; he replied "thanks for the gesture, he really appreciated it." It's been 2 days and no contact. I'm just wondering if the dxp experts can share any insight.

We have Halloween plans for our kids and attending a wedding next month (which still may happen) but I am unsure of how to support him at this point and whether this break will extend beyond our plans over the next few weeks based on the "swim away" theory, if you will.

Any thoughts?

For a Fish to swim away, it means he has disconnected all association with you .. certainly, you don't understand what the term means and are using it in the wrong context.

Pisces are loners by nature, and we need to be alone to process life. It has nothing to do with ending a relationship or moving away from another.

I should think a Virgo, of all people would get that ... since they do the same thing.

My sister is a Pisces and her husband is a Virgo, they've been married ten years. Not plain sailing but what marriage is?

I'm a female Pisces .. married to a Virgo.

Ahh P-Angel, it didn't realize there was a difference between "swimming away" and spending time alone "to process life"; that's my mistake I took it as one in the same from the various posts and things I have read. And, this is primarily due in part because I do not completely step away from love ones.....I may alot when you call or talk alot when I am in the company of others but I will not completely disconnect with no form of contact of any kind as a Virgo.

Do you believe it's true that your Pisces/Virgo relationship works because you as a woman are much stronger, giving and not afraid of what you want than the Male Pisces? I also gathered that Pisces men will tend to keep dreaming versus taking action as a Pisces female will.

Piranahaparidiise, both of us had friends that really wanted us to meet because I just moved here and he was moving here in 5 months, so together they were matching making us between them and decided to approach him about meeting me. He was excited and didn't want to wait until he moved here next year with his new business to meet me. I finally agreed to talk and we did, he seemed fun. Several days went by and my girlfriend finally asked why I didn't like him and I was confused; it was finally worked out that from this that he got the wrong impression, so we had another conversation. From there we talked for hours on a daily basis, he came here and we had the best of time over dinner. He has pushed on several occasions to find out if I was 'feeling him' because he does not have a great deal of time outside of his children (he is widowed; his wife passed away young and he was left with a 1 and 3 yr old). Just after he left here, he decided he wanted to move in 3 weeks...not the 5 months that was originally planned to spend more time getting to know me before the business start up began.

For 5 weeks, we have talked several times a day, especially before bed (2 hours or more). The conversations are ongoing, we never run out of anything to talk about. I love his vulnerability and strength, he has been hurt from relationships since a teen despite his strong demeanor. He wanted to make plans for Halloween, Thanksgiving and talking about what "I" would like for "us" to do for Xmas. He is not into astrology and naturally I am and should have researched more into the Pisces male so I could understand his transitions while they were unfolding in front of me as he seems to be more of the third Decan and yet some of the second in which his birthdate falls in. It feels like he has had a "meltdown" of some sort...the pressures associated with the move and possibly stepping back from the realization of finally getting here and scared he may get hurt. IDK

The calls, text and skyping continued a great deal and we appeared to be emotionally inseparable til now. Our kids were included with skyping and talking with both of us,we were hitting it off well. The closer he got to moving here, the more challenges he was having with getting the car moved, the right school for the children, family, etc. For the most part, I was under the impression that he was handling things well because he was a REALLY strong man, especially having been a VP for several years with a few companies. One of the children got sick with scarlett fever and it cancelled our trip there because of obvious reasons and then he was sick (w/strep)the week of the move. I started feeling helpless and worried about him and that's when I suggested he just come in and get settled because of all of the challenges.

He insisted he would be at the party and we had a great time, even my mom (she was in town too)liked him which is unusual. He is very independent, filled with pride so I am concerned that he is moving here in a temporary corporate apartment that he feels is not acceptable by his standards but will make do until he relocates everything in January with the new firm. I personally felt as a single parent he has way too many things he is trying to do at one time but I kept that too myself.

Piran, so you are right, we have only know each other for 6 weeks and still trying to learn each other. So, I was wondering if he is "swimming away" [thanks to P-Angel, I now know the difference] or is he trying to pull himself together from this move with the kids. I mentioned to P-Angel above that I am wondering if your thoughts of not "pushing a love one aside" has to do with you being the female stronger side of Pisces. The female seems to act differently than the male side. I would think because he is 41 and appears intuitively as typical of a pisces, he is needing the space legitimately and not "swimming a way". And, I agree with you....he moved here sooner for me and now he is "overwhelmed" as a result of the move or something else? We had one afternoon together over a 7 yr old birthday party....Only time will tell what his thoughts are.

I am a Pisces female married to a Virgo male. Although it may take some time to find the balance in your relationship, with time and patience...it can be the most remarkable union! The key to this relationship is being firm as a Pisces and standing your ground...if you waiver to their manipulative tactics to gain control, you will lose and become frustrated...in turn they will respect you and treat you with love. These two signs truly do bring balance to one another 🙂

Do not contact the Pisces...when Pisces think they have you, they tend to take advantage and will take their sweet time. I don't know about anyone else, but nothing gets me better than a little challenge...it will speed up the amount of time they need for "space"...

Angel1177, thank you for the kind guidance.....I think it will be helpful.

That is true! Virgie take that advice!! No contact will fuel his need to be with you and he will stop the cooling down process and he will contact you. We Pieces do seem to take our sweet time if we think your not going anywhere. It's not to be rude again we are just processing. We will come back and once everything that needs to be said is communicated it will be grand again. But if you don't speak to him it will freak him out he will be scared of loosing you and will shorten his alone time. If the alone time is shortened no need to worry Virgo he will not come back broken.

Does Virgos have a standard taking a break time? I am curious because I'm in a "break" no contact moment now with a Virgo I just started to talk to.

Ok, "Tbird"....I have not made any contact, although it was killing me today because he had a big presentation for his new business opportunity in January and I didn't want his feelings to be hurt thinking that I forgot how important today was. But, I truly believe Pisces know Pisces better than I do and it appears that he is taking his "sweet little time" AND as you say, no amount of contact is going to "shorten his alone time." I do have one question....when you say "If you don't speak to him it will freak him out"....does that mean, I should ignore his calls on the initial contacts from him? Won't he suspect I am upset or isn't Pisces intuitive enough to figure this holding out game? And, you also said, "once everything that needs to be said is communicated"....and, when does that occur, in Pisces' mind or when he/she decides it's time to come back?

Now on to your question.....I typically do not have a standard of taking a break time. Will I need to step back and analyze the situation yes, but I usually will not be absent in that process. Meaning, if you call me; I will talk, maybe not get lost into the fun of the conversation but I am there. My break may consist of, you may do the calling first, if you will until I get it figured out. I wont' make the leaps and bounds initially, is what I mean. Kinda of like being in a paralyzed state of existence....going to work, coming home; doing life as normal but I will have deep thoughts going on simultaneously while doing so that are totally focused on whatever I am analyzing for clarity and security. Does that make sense? I know other Virgos who may not answer the phone when they are taking a break but they are males. Are we talking about a female or male Virgo?

Oh, I forgot to ask you about him being broken....what does that mean? This break time takes so much out of Pisces that they will need to energize with me? Help me with that statement.

Posted by Virgie042250


I have read he "swims away" because he is overwhelmed, hurt, sorting through things, etc. And, if he likes you he will surely return. What I haven't seen as consistent is what is the standard time frame for a "temporary" break, "I have changed my mind" break or "I have given all of me to you, along side of lots of things going on and I need to recharge" break?

Any thoughts?

I am a Virgo woman and I have been dating in a Pisces man for a few months. He pulled this stunt on me, but after a couple days he came back because when he initially started talking his blah blah (after that he withdrew), I basically opened the door for him to leave and I did not contact him. He quickly learned that if he operated like that, he would be looking at my back because I would be walking away. It's not a woman's job to coddle a grown man whenever he whines, makes excuses, cries, bitches or withdraws. Let him be!

GeorgiaPeach, I wish I would have not let my thoughts of the out of state move and the kids in an unfamiliar place cloud my judgment.....Had this been a normal, we met in town and this started.....I too would have stood my ground. Ironically, I think I have lost ground because I called and left a message and text to say, "I was here if he needed me" after his I needed to get settled text. Ugh!

GP, when you say you opened the door for him to leave, as a Virgo does (hehe)....Did you say it or was it in your actions of not calling him?

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Posted by Virgie042250
Ok, "Tbird"....I have not made any contact, although it was killing me today because he had a big presentation for his new business opportunity in January and I didn't want his feelings to be hurt thinking that I forgot how important today was. But, I truly believe Pisces know Pisces better than I do and it appears that he is taking his "sweet little time" AND as you say, no amount of contact is going to "shorten his alone time." I do have one question....when you say "If you don't speak to him it will freak him out"....does that mean, I should ignore his calls on the initial contacts from him? Won't he suspect I am upset or isn't Pisces intuitive enough to figure this holding out game? And, you also said, "once everything that needs to be said is communicated"....and, when does that occur, in Pisces' mind or when he/she decides it's time to come back?

Hello Virgie! It would be perfectly alright to contact him about that. That will show him that you listened to what's going on in his life and he would care and appreicate that. Pieces are suckers for kindness my dear! But if he doesn't contact you to let you know what happened then... I'm sorry to say he has swam away. I hope this isn't the case my dear I really do.

If he contacts you call him back immediately, cause if not we will pick apart the situation and ourselves and drive ourselves crazy about it. We can get depressed semi easily. Especially when someone we like turned away from us. We feel inferior. That is the worst thing a Pieces can feel.

What I mean by don't speak to him is that he probably wants his alone time. If you guys talk all the time he will snap out of his processing and will ask himself where did Virgie go? Is she ok, has she moved on? That will bug him and he will reach out at the very least to connect and see what's going on in your life. He is doesn't he's gone. For Pieces we love to be stimulated and our needs meet. Once we have that we seek solitude in our dreamy world. Any and everything can force us into our dreamy world. It's our comfort and we feel refueled after this. So it's best to leave him to his process time as such as it would be for a Virgo or a Libra. We all can be flaky. Let's be honest.

Sometimes that can be in the Pieces mind sometimes it can be an actual conversation between the two. It depends on the situation honestly. Just make sure when

Posted by Virgie042250
Oh, I forgot to ask you about him being broken....what does that mean? This break time takes so much out of Pisces that they will need to energize with me? Help me with that statement.

By broken I meant mentally and emotionally unstable. The break time is his time to analyze... it should energize him after he is done and he should be his usually loving caring self. It can take a lot of a Pieces which makes us go further into our dream world. If it's a HUGE issue we can be in that dream world for a while and let the real world pass us by. Everything fades away, EVERYTHING! I cannot stress that enough my darling! He could live with you but when we are in our dream world we are dead to everything and everyone even if your talking to us. We just aren't there. We will come back stronger than ever.

But there is nothing absolutely nothing wrong with giving him lovings when he does come back! ;D That would show him how much you missed him.