Should I give this Cancer The Silent Treatment?

I've asked questions regarding this cancer . When we meet he was so nice / great sense of humor / flirty and caring . Over the years he expressed on two occasions how he wanted to be with me however at the time we were young and I thought about how things could make our bond go sour . However through out the years I've grown an connection with him , idk if I'm in love but it's really hard to explain . Only problem is we argue Now , recently we were arguing and he said I don't want you , and he told me I just fell like I need to reassure you 😢. During agruements he'll say " you're not my girl ". Yet he comes as controlling " always calling me and first off asking " What I'm doing ? Who I'm with ? If I say I'm in the car hell say " is someone in the car with you?" . With thought I decided a few days ago I can't do this anymore I'm holding on to something that isn't there , as far as him NOT having feelings I suppose anymore or maybe He never did. I've stop answering all calls yet he continues to call me . What should I do ? I don't want to speak to him because I feel he will play the victim and I don't want to fight anymore 😢

I agree, state your case and if he doesnt change leave immediately.

Ive had some cancer placements say some jacked uo stuff to me. Hammer back and tell them they will loose you forever if they dont shape up.

Posted by WomenFromVenus


With thought I decided a few days ago I can't do this anymore I'm holding on to something that isn't there

Every morning when you wake up and each night before you go to the bed...look into a mirror and repeat ^^^^^that outloud to yourself until it's fully received and removes doubt.

However, not blocking him so he can't call or blocking any contact might jam you up as shown here in this thread to us.

Perhaps that's what you should do, don't you think?

I've decided to leave him alone . I kind of feel used /resentful . So having an conversation now about the mishaps at hand would not be a smart move . I also feel like having a conversation would mean I want to solve things which I don't feel like is necessary .

Kodak not to single you out but I do like a man to take a little control . ( I'm a Pisces) but I don't like a man to be possessive . I play a part in things going sour , I had chances to let go but I thought he would go back to how he was/ or better yet things would change after discussion. Even if you all said it was his passive aggressive . I couldn't this to be an unrequited love situation . I grew to have feelings for him , but those feelings were based what he projected out in the beginning .

I'll know better next time

Kodak I hear your perspective however it hasn't been so many multiple occasions. Lately he's been on and off with communication. Just weeks ago we were having a deep conversation and he began talking about his life , he's had a hard life. I started to cry a little after that he said" see this conversation is the reason why people wonder why we are so close". After saying that he went missing on me for five days. These types of things the push and pull/ disappearing, the extreme behavior/subtle behavior is what put a strain on this so called friendship. I will come clean and say I should have admitted I had feelings for him HOWEVER when someone tells me " they don't want me" in this case some things are better left unsaid . Im allowed to walk away gracefully .

If you can...Can you elaborate what you meant by"How much control must he have, you never set boundaries. Listen, i'm just saying theres more to it. "

Posted by WomenFromVenus

Over the years he expressed on two occasions how he wanted to be with me ....

You clung to that like gum on the bottom of a shoe, obviously, since now you're in here whining about it.

Years !!!!!!

Posted by WomenFromVenus

I'm holding on to something that isn't there ...

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It was never there, you're just desperate and so attempting to place unrealistic expectations on a person with intentions of trying to get him to carry your emotional baggage for you.

What other reason could there possibly be for a female to take a crumb thrown at her and she puts it on a pedestal?


:::: shakes head ::::

Sorry you're going through this..cancers are tough...it really seems like they're confused a lot and don't know what they want and drag others into their garbage..i think you should just let it go and focus on you..enjoy doing what you love and be happy and let him be his confused self..its his mess he needs to sort out. Not yr problem.

Kodak I understand what you're saying these last few days I've made some decisions one being I changed my #. I know for sure if he had he would begin the stalking and having other people call me , sort of playing on my phone as he has done such before. The reasoning for me giving so much energy to this is I've grown to have feelings for him and I NEVER said anything when e asked me to tell my truth and the reasoning being for me not being vocal is because his wushu washy behavior .

Yourfavoritedxpmember: I believe he is insecure , I'll admit I was while being in that situation as well . Thank you for the advice I plan on doing so . I'll be vacationing next weekend as well, and it's the Cancer Birthday

Lastly P-Angel you have a nasty disposition . I'm all for public opinion but have some respect for others and most importantly yourself . Something tells me if I was to search your name I'm sure other forum users have stated the above ... Do you ask questions or just judge all day LMAO. Consist yourself BLOCKED_ '?

Haha. Awesome response Venus.