So confused

I been seeing this pisces guy for 5 years in December..we use to have sex all the time now he hardly wants to..and when I ask him he always not now...and when we do he doesn't participate he just lay there and looks at tv and ask my have I come yet...I love him allot and I think he loves me..He I'd a widower since 1987 with no children...He says want to have a kid before he dies and I can't give him one because my tubes tired...I stay with him every night and go to work in the morning and he comes to get me in the evening....I just dint know what to do...there are skit of guys that would love to be with me but I don't want then I want him...I never told him that other guys r interested in me cause I don't rent to seem as though I threatening him to be with me what I'd the problem....I think his marriage ducked him up cause she got deoressed and killed herself while she add pregnant with there child...He had several relationship since then long term but had never made a commit to them..I recently divorced and really not l looking to marry again but if he ask I world say yes...what an I to do and why if he acting this way

wtf is this?


You want to marry a guy to whom doesn't make you happy enough?


how fucked up

Posted by nanmar68

I been seeing this pisces guy for 5 years in December..we use to have sex all the time ....

I recently divorced .....

So, you were cheating on your husband to be with him?

No me and my husband had been seperated I wad just able recently to get the divorce

If a person isn't a child, then they should have enough mental fortitude, enough maturity, enough life experiences .... to make good decisions for themselves.

If you cannot figure out what is in your best interest ... then you're going to be treated irrelevant by other people.

Case in point .... you're still there, even though you're not being treated the way you feel is right .... so lay in the bed you make for yourself and stfu about it.

If you want better ... then do better. don't go crying about it, as if it's not your fault

look u aint got to be talking to me like u r doing u don't know me....and if you got to talk like that to me that what I am saying is bothering you then just don't say anything...all that stfu stff is uncalled for...

I just asking the opinion of other people who may be going thru the same or similar situations....I don't need to be chastised...my parents and grand-parents are dead so u have no right to respond back to me that way....

No I really don't but I have a lot of feelings for him....I don't want to just leave him....and I don't want to cheat.

Posted by nanmar68

look u aint got to be talking to me like u r doing u don't know me...

...all that stfu stff is uncalled for...

A person doesn't have to know another person to counsel them in pointing out to them that they are the directors of their own life.

What is uncalled for is you crying about the choices you make for yourself. Every person makes their own bed, in which they have to lay in.

All people should actually stfu, rather than bitch about the choices they've made .. when it's in their power to change it.

What the fuck does your dead family have to do with you getting a reality check?

Are you sure you're older? ... because you seem very gullible and naïve. You don't appear to actually be aware of your reality, even as you say it.

I just can't even imagine a person so stuck within themselves, that they sit in inertia for 5 years.

mars in Pisces?

no he really doesny have a lot of money I make more money than he does by myself....I really don't know what keeps me sticking with him that's whats so confusing to me. I no he's been though a lot with his wife killing herself and all....but I don't no what keeps me there....probably stupidity.

Posted by nanmar68

I been seeing this pisces guy for 5 years in December..we use to have sex all the time now he hardly wants to..and when I ask him he always not now...and when we do he doesn't participate he just lay there and looks at tv and ask my have I come yet...I love him allot and I think he loves me.

This ^^^^ is the Opening Thought. After this initial description, you go on to talk about life details of kids, death, work, etc. So, that means that the above is the point of this topic in which is confounding you. The rest of what you said isn't a part of the point, as I interpret it.

So, the logical conclusion then becomes ....... you were keeping your man by using sex. You talk of sex and reference love behind it. You say, "I think" when stating whether he loves you, which means you don't know if he loves you, even after 5 years.

So, that means - he's a fwb ... the heart is not involved. If the heart was involved, then you would know whether he loves you or not.

AND, you would be describing love lost .... not sex lost.

How thick is a person to go 5 years in this kind of a delusion, in where you think that sex = emotions? You even further clarify that your measurement of feelings is determined by sex when you make statements like, "...I stay with him every night and go to work in the morning and he comes to get me in the evening" and "..there are skit of guys that would love to be with me".

wtf? got to be earth, nobody else gets mudded in to that extent

no that is not it I not holding him by using sex.....he doesn't want to have sex and when we do he doesn't participate..and he says he loves me but I not sure that's what I saying...I don't know how you interpret what u talking about.....I don't need to hold on to him with sex cause apparently he not into it like that to try to hold on to him with sex.

and by me saying I stay with him every night....I was just giving insight in to the relationship.....not that I trying to F*** him every night...your sick

Why do you people even bother coming to this forum? I mean seriously why?

You lay your fucked up stories out on the world wide web then get butthurt if anyone has advice or an opinion that doesn't match what you think.

yes I dated other people be4 him.....but no I haven't spent time alone