Treating Your Fish With Care - how to?

I'm an Aries girl who has secretly been pining after a Pisces male for 3 years (aka too long!) 😉 although I have dated in the interim, he's the one who has always done it or me. I feel it in my gut that we have a special understanding of one another, one that's mutual and respectful. My Pisces and I have always stayed in touch but we lived in separate cities so it was very upstream/downstream (understandable). however, Lately he has all of sudden begun to swim upstream towards me, and says the loveliest things to me...I'm feeling a shift in our relationship. He is going to be moving back to L.A. In the next few months. He is calling a lot more, (which is a new thing); texting me; initiating all contact...tells me I'm great; special; awesome; the best...etc. He makes my heart sing, & as an Aries, i work very hard at restraining my straight forward tendencies and to stay cool and patient. Basically I'm letting him swim whichever way he wants to...no judgment no pressure. And im displaying this by being the one to not initiate the contact.

Is this the right thing to do? I feel like the less I give, the more I get back... ? But I don't want to seem disinterested, or not give him confidence in what he is doing. When he compliments me, I just sincerely say, "thanks so much that means a lot to me. So are you." but I won't compliment first. In the past when I did that he would get uncomfortable and retreat. I have learned better.

Some guidance would be so wonderful, as I find the Pisces boards so educational! Thanks to all of you beautiful fishes!

hmmm, tell me more about pisces with venus in aqua. please!

Lena828-

I think I'm with you on this one. As much as "WasteofTime" has the right idea (why wouldn't ANYONE enjoy hearing a sincere compliment!), I think that my potential fish is awkward and shy. He knows i mean what i say, but he just cant take my sweet words with confidence. It makes it difficult to navigate my way around his swimming style , but I guess that's also what endears him to me.

Thanks to all of you who responded, I really appreciate it!

You want the secret? Its so very easy its called pushing and pulling. Which as it would seem you are becoming quite good at. Let him pine for you and chase you. Maybe even catch you. Then sprint away and make him do it all over again. We like women who seem aloof maybe even unattainable. If we like you we probably have a relationship with you in or minds. If a girl comes on too strong i slink away. She has to be sexy but doing a little come hither and ill lick you but possibly kick you in the nuts act.

I like the crazy girls. My pisces was razed by a pisces and shes nuts but you know what theres something about someone with endless imagination that attracts me. My venus is aqua and my moon is virgo its served me well. But i can be very straight forward. Advice? }If you want him as bad as you do slap him around a bit. Make him feel as though he has to work a little. But throw in a few comments about how you want to ravish him. Answer his praise with similar response but dont initiate that praise. Use his insecurity as it was designed. Hes interested but you need to trap us. Set up the aquarium before you catch the fish other wise we will just jump out of the net and swim away.

LOL ^

Lena828,
You hit the nail on the head when you described some of the sign/ planet placements. I have Moon in Pisces and I'm usually quiet, however my Mercury in Aquarius makes me very opinionated when I do speak.

TheOhSoStellarOne

SensitiveAries,
I read your post and you sound like a sweetheart. 🙂This Piscean dude is beginning to take initative with you because he feels comfortable with you and he trusts you. I say this, because I know for a fact (with all my Piscean placements) that I would never, EVER make the first move to initiate contact with someone whom I'm not totally sure of. I think its awesome how you're trying not to let your Ram energy overwhelm this guy, but I think you should give alittle. I think he'll find some delight in knowing for sure that this isn't a relationship where he's doing all the giving, you know? I think when you find that balance of giving and taking with that love & affection, you're both happy and things are beautiful. I have a few friends who are Aries and they're the sensitve breed with Moon in Virgo, Mercury in Pisces and Venus in Pisces. I love them to death, but yeah, I'm rootin' for you and your guy. Take care.

TheOhSoStellarOne

lena828,
It's good to know that someone understands that emotional nature of the Pisces Moon.

TheOhSoStellarOne

thefish...thanks for your feedback. I found it really enlightening. I think some of what you mention correlates perfectly to my future fish. (i hope!)

Im just taking it day by day...being open and warm when he should need it. He doesnt live here in L.A. as of yet...so I dont feel the need to come on strong or push things in a way that would make our ebb and flow seem unnatural. He told me last week on the phone that he is definitely moving back from Chicago. So we shall see. Ive waited this long. I can wait a little longer (but in a mysterious way!)

Oh! and your setting up "the aquarium before [I] can catch the fish" is an amazing analogy. Ill keep that in mind as I proceed with his swimming moves! 😉