Well that didn't last long...

The last 10 days was a whirlwind with the Pisces guy I have been posting about. I got home last night from a long business trip and he and I set a date for today at noon to meet for coffee before I boarded the plane.

I landed in Houston and got a phone call from a girlfriend whom I hadn't seen in a long time and she invited me to dinner. I went. Fast forward to about 11pm last night. I text him a quick message to say hi. He replies around 11:30 and said "sorry, I was asleep". Well I was pretty tired too and I fell asleep quick. I woke up to a text message from him that said "can't wait to see you tomorrow". I didn't reply to him until this morning when I woke up.

Fast forward some more, about 10:30, I get a message from him that said that "something doesn't add up. i'm thinking we don't need to meet today". I was shocked.

I called him and he proceded to tell me that we moved too fast and the fact that he was feeling paranoid over the fact that I didn't respond to his message proved to him that he wasn't ready to date someone again.

We ended the conversation with he wasn't sure if we should continue this "relationship". I'm confused a little mad at this because all week, he was the one pursuing me and it was me that was worried we were moving too fast. Now I get this handed to me?

Sounds a bit par for the course... fishes are flaky and when you didn't respond that put his as $ on freak out mode and he's safe guarding his heart by stepping back because he thinks/feels that he's emotional invested more than you are.

Before I proceed... I have to ask this... do you want him back?

Posted by tbird
Sounds a bit par for the course... fishes are flaky and when you didn't respond that put his as $ on freak out mode and he's safe guarding his heart by stepping back because he thinks/feels that he's emotional invested more than you are.

Before I proceed... I have to ask this... do you want him back?

Yes, I would like to get this back on track. He's a great guy and I'm definitely (or was) investe as much as he was. When I asked him earlier today over the phone "are you sure this is the end?" he replied "I think so. I feel like I got too paranoid with you not responding to me".

He may be safeguarding his heart, but he hurt me in the process!

I sent him a very lengthy email around 3pm. It's 6 hours later and no reply. I'm willing to fight for this, but I think it's over. 😢

Oh the email stated how much I was starting to really get into him and that I did not think we were moving to fast, especially since we were comfortable with one another. It also stated a few personal things I liked about him and the fact that he is protecting his daughter, which I adored and respected - there's a story I'm not sharing on here out of respect for his daughter.

When I explained to him why I didn't respond and my reasoning to wait until we met for coffee to tell him (I was exhausted), he said he trusted and believed me but that he felt paranoid over the phone thing. He also said if we (HE) decided to meet for coffee today, he would feel awkward because he'd feel I was mad at him for overreacting. I told him that I would rather meet him today than to let the days go by because that would create more awkwardness than if we got it out of the way today and cleared the air. He wouldn't budge.

Keep sending them even though he told me that he thinks we should end this? I don't want to come off as a stalker.I sent him something 6 hours ago. We knew each other 10 days - is it really worth it or should I just let this go?

Posted by intriguedbypiscesman

Posted by tbird
Sounds a bit par for the course... fishes are flaky and when you didn't respond that put his as $ on freak out mode and he's safe guarding his heart by stepping back because he thinks/feels that he's emotional invested more than you are.

Before I proceed... I have to ask this... do you want him back?

I agree, I think he wants you to be as intense as he has been and when you wait to reply, you just aren't as invested as he is, is his way of thinking. If you want him you can contact him and tell him that you aren't used to guys caring like this and you didn't know how to treat it, but you do like him and want him to know you aren't going to take advantage of his interest in you. Ask if you can give it another chance since now you are back in town and you aren't jet lagged anymore, you can concentrate on getting to know each other. This is if you can trust his motives and you can give him your attention. Provided you do like him. I think at this point he wants you to step up and show some interest and fight for him a bit.

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Agreed!

Posted by Nights22
I'd have to say you get what you put in.

I think while you were being cautious about you two moving too fast, he was too but he was still doing the 'wooing.' I think after the incident with the texting he thought to himself that he was perhaps going overboard and felt like while he was doing that you were to reluctant to put your feet in the water. He was overreacting and realized that eventually when actually talking to you about it. So now he is where you were at in the cautious level and you seem to be where he was at in the pursue this strongly. You've switched places. Life is strange.

There you go again nights being extremely insightful

Night, I couldn't woo him as much as I'd have like to...I was traveling. I shared a lot of personal information with him that only my closest friends know. I opened up to him very early, so I'm just confused why he pedaled backwards all of a sudden. Part of me wonders if he used the excuse of me not responding to him until this morning as a reason to use against me so he could flake out on me.

Alright hun... I just thought of something. He sacrificed his sleep for you but when it was your turn to do so you chose sleep over him... which to him shows your not at the level of commitment that he is/was. Pisces give everything and if you don't reciprocate we call pull the brakes very quickly. That is what happened he's pulling back and reevaluating everything.

Posted by houstonpeach74
Night, I couldn't woo him as much as I'd have like to...I was traveling. I shared a lot of personal information with him that only my closest friends know. I opened up to him very early, so I'm just confused why he pedaled backwards all of a sudden. Part of me wonders if he used the excuse of me not responding to him until this morning as a reason to use against me so he could flake out on me.

Nope we don't need a reason to flake... if he was going to he would of never contact you... no drama for fishes you would be like what the hell happened? Did you die? Your completely gone! NO contact usually once we are done we are done in every since of the word. He talked to you afterward... good sign.

Posted by tbird
Alright hun... I just thought of something. He sacrificed his sleep for you but when it was your turn to do so you chose sleep over him... which to him shows your not at the level of commitment that he is/was. Pisces give everything and if you don't reciprocate we call pull the brakes very quickly. That is what happened he's pulling back and reevaluating everything.

He knew I was tired. I told him that earlier in the day and told him how nice it would be to sleep in my own bed after a week. He can reevaluate, but I am hurt at how he abruptly changed his mind with meeting for coffee with lessthan 2 hours notice. And to add insult to injury, tell me that he "thinks" we should end things.

Posted by houstonpeach74

Posted by tbird
Alright hun... I just thought of something. He sacrificed his sleep for you but when it was your turn to do so you chose sleep over him... which to him shows your not at the level of commitment that he is/was. Pisces give everything and if you don't reciprocate we call pull the brakes very quickly. That is what happened he's pulling back and reevaluating everything.

He knew I was tired. I told him that earlier in the day and told him how nice it would be to sleep in my own bed after a week. He can reevaluate, but I am hurt at how he abruptly changed his mind with meeting for coffee with lessthan 2 hours notice. And to add insult to injury, tell me that he "thinks" we should end things.

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Well think of it this way... he could of stood you up... I had a virgo do this... no contact afterward that sucked.


I'm sure he did know...but like I said he sacrificed sleep for you... you saw the text you could of just easily replied and said going to bed and be done with it. but atlas you didn't. Doesn't mean your wrong but probably in his eyes it shows your level of commitment to him.

Actually he handled the situation very well through the eyes of a pisces he was up front and honest with you which is hard for us...we LOVE to be ambiguous... we surround ourselves with mystery. He probably didn't want to meet because he would feel uncomfortable and needs to again reevaluate to see if your worth all the work. Not to be mean but that is how we operate. I think he's into you but he's playing it safe... Give him time, show him you understand and that you want to make it work. Be up front and honest about everything cause like Aqua's we can tell when you lie and that's an instant pink slip.

Here's the text part that he apparently is hung up on:

Me at 9:34pm: G'Nite!
Him at 10:30pm: Sorry Fell Asleep
Me at 10:40pm: No problem. I did, too. (I could barely keep my eyes open at this point)
Him at 10:40pm: I'l see you tomorrow!
Me at 10:41pm: You will? 😉
Him at 10:47pm: Why did you type "you will?"?

At that point, I was asleep or so close to it that I didn't hear my phone vibrate. So when I woke up this morning, I sent him a message that said "Good morning. I fell asleep early last night". I didn't see his question until he pointed it out this morning.

The next message I from him is "Things are not adding up. Something was going on last night that I wasn't supposed to know about. Getting together today is not a good idea".

Seriously? Seriously!?

To tell you guys about why I typed "You will?". Earlier in the day, he called me while I was waiting for my flight and I told him how insecure I can be with meeting new people, especially people I'm attracted to. I told him that I am scared he'll back out of meeting for coffee (ironic, huh). He assured me that he couldn't wait to see me. So when I typed "you will?", it was meant to be an excited "you will?!!?!!!?"

I sent him one more email just a few minutes ago. It was heartfelt. I'm done with emails until he either tells me to get lost or he replies. Man, this sucks!

Intrigued, he didn't set an alarm last night. He was watching a movie with his daughter. They started the movie around 8 and he fell asleep. My text woke him up.

Intrigued, no it wasn't meant to be sarcastic. It was more like "awwww, you will?"

Posted by Nights22

Posted by houstonpeach74
Intrigued, no it wasn't meant to be sarcastic. It was more like "awwww, you will?"

See its hard to convey this stuff over text. Especially if one falls asleep before explaining. I would have took that as sarcastic before I would have as awww.

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THIS!! Oh man if I saw that "you will?" I would of been like wtf does that mean AND instant freak out mode! That guy is a true fish! I'm sorry but I can't help but to laugh because he played it just as I would of!

Nights is right you left him in a weird spot with that one and NO reply all night long...that guy was picking apart that email forever I guarantee you!

My question is have you been with a pisces before? I don't think you have correct me if I'm wrong... if I am correct go online and search pisces guys traits the more websites the better. You need to have a clear understand of how we work...that message would of drove my as $ crazy you thought it was endearing I consider it cryptic like you think your gonna see me tomorrow but muwahaha you won't! Despite your earlier conversation.

I'm sure you didn't mean it that way but a pisces mind is very active, creative, and imaginative... we can create a big illusion for the good and bad things. So yeah do some research so that way you know how to flirt with a fish and not put us on freak out mode.

Posted by PunkyBruiser
Is calling him out of the question or have you already tried that and he didn't answer?

I have only called him once because he prefers that. He has a daughter and he doesn't want to know that her dad is thinking about dating someone. He doesn't want to answer those questions until he knows he is with someone long-term. I respect that, but he definitely has the upper hand.

We talked once today after we went back and forth on text. I asked him to call me because text has no emotion and the more I text, the more likely I'm going to stick my foot inmy mouth. So he called and we talked for about 30 minutes.

No, I havent dated a pisces before but my venus is in pisces.
Here's part of my last email to him:

Thinking more about it, I see how it would concern you. We spent all week talking, getting to know one another, and the moment I'm back in Houston, I "disappear". Analyzing it from this perspective, I can see how you would think something didn't add up. We set a precedent with how quick we reply to each other. Had you done this to me, I would have wondered "where did he go?", "why isn't he responding?", "what is going on?". I can see how I wasn't fair to you to not address your question as soon as I could this morning and I'm sorry.

I am willing to jump in head first - I am willing to prove to you that I have nothing to hide - Unless you tell me to leave you alone, I will be ready to meet you and you will get a huge hug from me. This is me - wearing my heart on my sleeve.

Yes, Intrigued, he called me after I asked him to so I could clarify verbally instead of through text. It took 2 times to ask him to call before he did. Sorry, I thought I mentioned that earlier that we talked on the phone - that was when he said he thought we should end things.

Peaches..don't let Taurean pride stand in the way of being truly happy. That may not be a concern at this point, just something to be aware of. We have a very real tendency to wall up and away with slight. Perceived or real. If that goes up it's not a good thing. Open up to every possibility imaginable. Where your heart lies. If his makes your beat, let him hold it.

Why Bruiser? Was it too much?

haha yeah we freak out a tad too much sometimes!

I probably would not have freaked out at first and though at as sarcasm. But ten minutes with no response my mind would have been off to many scenarios. Like is this sarcasm? Does see think she cannot trust me to meet her? Then after an hour. forgetaboutit. haha

THIS Nights!!! OMG this is so classic fish!!!

if you would of DROPPED the question mark you would of been completely golden!!!! With the question mark... well it leaves questions... many of them! lol

Matter of fact only use periods for punctuations or maybe exclamation points...just to be on the safe side lmfao

Yes H you belong to the understanding pisces club...welcome we have a fin for you to try on in the back..mind your shell

Update. I just got a response from him. It simply says "I'm not ignoring you. I will reply in full tomorrow".

Posted by venusianbull
If his makes your beat, let him hold it.

Awww, this is beautiful. It gave me goose bumps. I'm going to borrow that line - if I ever get the chance to use it!

IDK, Intrigued. My venus is in Pisces, so my emotions are all over the place with such a vague response. YES, he replied, yes, I'm happy about that. But to leave me hanging. HA! Is he doing to me what I did to him last night?

Posted by Nights22
See I dont know why we fish get tagged with mind games. We will pursue like theres no tomorrow unless we get a reason not too. We like straight forward communication. Nothing wishy washy. nothing cryptic. It will just make us mirror you the same. Once again you get what you put in. We may not like talking on the phone haha but we like clear communication so we can get our feelings and your feelings to be past the surface. Thats why idk how tbird is going to be with an aqua because they are as wishy washy as they come! May god have mercy on her soul. lolz.

*gigglesnort* because he's not wishy washy dear! He straights up tell me I'm going to class or I'm studying and always follows up with I'll text you tomorrow with a smiley face! Plus I did my homework on Aqua's. I don't have too much pisces in my chart so yeah last night was rare. H can vouch that I can handle him being an Aqua...my fault lies is that he is a man! lol I've been married straight out of high school with the first guy I was ever with and separated in the early spring.

So my fault lies in how to properly deal with a guy... I hope that makes sense. But we are mirror images of each other, both smart as $ es like to be alone and a lot of interests are the same... I'll be golden! But thank you for the concern luv! That was so freaking sweet!

PPrincess, no he couldn't explain that. I asked him twice.

Oh plus he's 37's he's not a young Aqua... he's ready to settle down... he put that out there within a day of us talking and I was like meh I dunno... I more the flaky one in this situation... go figure! A fish flakier than an Aqua.

Plus, now I'll be wondering what part of tomorrow will he reply - morning, afternoon, evening, 11:59pm?

His moon is in Aries.

Posted by intriguedbypiscesman
He'll probably put you through a lot more of these so remember to handle them like this. Even playful sarcasm can hurt them too so just be very tactful when you speak or even tease.

Depends on his chart... I LOVE playful sarcasm...well you know all about that H! 😉

By the way lovely email... he's not done with you!

Posted by houstonpeach74

Posted by venusianbull
If his makes your beat, let him hold it.

Awww, this is beautiful. It gave me goose bumps. I'm going to borrow that line - if I ever get the chance to use it!

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Oh I think you shall. Breathe.

Posted by houstonpeach74
IDK, Intrigued. My venus is in Pisces, so my emotions are all over the place with such a vague response. YES, he replied, yes, I'm happy about that. But to leave me hanging. HA! Is he doing to me what I did to him last night?

Ahem Fuc* yes!! We will mirror you!

So question, do I respond to his "I'll respond in full tomorrow" email with a simple OK or just leave it?

Venus is right you will be able to use that line!

Nights your freaking adorable!

APP is most likely right... fishes tend to think the worst when it comes to loosing our mates... we are insecure that way.

Houston - why would he think of such a thing? I missed something

Peaches..from one woman of Earth with Pisces Venus to another..this:

Water

I slip a white hand reverently over the calm glass of the water
Palm out my fingers gently stroke the surface, breaking tension
I place my hand softly down, resting it there
Letting skin meld with warm liquid
To letting one finger
Then the next..
And the next..
Slide down.
Feeling it cling to me
Lazily I fan out making ripples
Smelling the verdant wet
Frogs song..
The splash of something greedily making a meal
The low hum of dragonfly
Becoming One with Water
Opening up wide to feel life thrum along
Diving down deep
Deeper
Deeper..
Deeper yet..
Down to where sunlight fades to velvety darkness
Two atoms colliding making magic
Clinging to me
Caressing me
Calling me down..
Down..
Further down
I shed my human skin to be free
Osmosis
Completion
Fusion
Slippery, slick
Gliding over topography
Straight down to the Cradle
Of Earth.

😉 You'll be fine. Let yourself sing with clear voice. Honesty. Sincerity. Believe in him, believe in you.

Posted by houstonpeach74
So question, do I respond to his "I'll respond in full tomorrow" email with a simple OK or just leave it?

reply definitely reply.. keep it simple. Like I'll be waiting for your text or something to that effect. Smiley face!!! NO question marks! lol

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Posted by tbird

Posted by intriguedbypiscesman
He'll probably put you through a lot more of these so remember to handle them like this. Even playful sarcasm can hurt them too so just be very tactful when you speak or even tease.

Depends on his chart... I LOVE playful sarcasm...well you know all about that H! 😉

By the way lovely email... he's not done with you!

Yes playful sarcasm....here's ours:

I'm sorry, but I have fallen in love with another. His name is Heath. I found him last night while my kids were trick or treating, He's full of complexity, yet so simple, he's covered with a chocolaty outer shell with such sweet toffee hidden on the inside. Nahh, I changed my mind....I have a bigger sweet tooth for you.

I heard about Heath, congratulations. I've met someone too, her name is Ruth ...she's very young, she likes peanuts, she smells like chocolate and tastes like caramel.


Well as far as this Ruth is concerned....I don't like the thought of you eating other people. She's no good for you anyway, she'll just make you fat and leave you feeling bad about yourself.

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THIS! This is proper sarcastic flirting with fishes.

lol the fishes has spoken so let it be!

Venus I love your writings!!

pff I dunno... I don't cry.. so if I look over and my guy is blubbering I would be like really?!

Okay for instance I went out on a date with a Gemini to see a scary movie he was balled up and freaking out I was dying laughing and saying this is awesome. I'm sorry but I need a man to protect me...if I'm okay and if he's scared... pff no way not for me. I need a rock not a rocking chair.

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Posted by intriguedbypiscesman
Nights are we twins?

idk are you a sexy beast?! hehe 😄

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I totally choked on my food when I read that... If I die nights... its your fault and I'm haunting you. Just putting that out there.

Ok the fishies have spoken. I replied with "I'm happy to hear that. Sleep tight."

Oh no nights... I'm haunting you! With chains and everything. Maybe the BOC cowbell... I might sing don't fear the reaper! That would be kind of awesome!

See now that's cute if your like excuse me... and leave and handle your business that's cool.

Don't get me wrong I don't want a closed off douche has some feelings! If not I'll think your an android or the body snatcher scenario has started to take place.

I dunno.... I'm strange about crying... I did enough of that and I'm used to my ex using tears as a manipulation tactic so if it's genuine I would be receptive but if I see tears from a man I instantly start to become weary of his intentions.

I didn't cry on Marley and me... I thought that dog was annoying.. I was told I was heartless... meh

"Haha! Well everything is better with more cowbell!"

Freaking Saturday Night Live!!

"But I hate crying in front of a lot of people and I hate crying because of movies. I even hate crying at funerals! I just hate crying I think. haha."

Me too, me too!

"I think you're doing everything right Houston and I think the one slip up was accidental, that's all. Now you know how easily he can look into things though so tread lightly."

Exactly do your research BEFORE you meet in person...or the insert foot in mouth will most likely happen

"I just picked my nose....check your finger."

H I freaking love you!

"See I prolly would have made you choke on ur food...on purpose! "

And this is WHY I will haunt you!

This board is awesome I always end up dying laughing!

How can anyone hate fishes... crabs yeah I can understand that (except for you H!) lol

Posted by PunkyBruiser
Maybe I shouldn't have shared that.... Teehe. 😈

uh oh! Now you have to share 😉

so where are some good articles to read up on pisces men and their emotions?