What are the chances of my Pisces Man coming back?

Thx for taking time to read my Post!!! Pls no sarcastic comments!
I know that zodiac signs aren't everything but I also wanted input from those who are into Astrology!
My guy friend and I immediately clicked, vibed, etc. We were vibing on a level that was a bit scary for me.... meaning numerous coincidences, many things in common, etc. On the third day of speaking with me we were vibing so deep he even swore I was the one for him and in a good year and half we would be married! And even asked me if we could be official! But of course I brushed that off! Except he continuously talked about long-term!!!
***Let me first add that right before we met his house had been broken into had been robbed which will come into effect later!!!
Moving on...
We went on our first date the 3rd or 4th day!!! It was awesome! He was the perfect gentleman and did all the things I was raised a man should do i.e. open all doors, extend hands to pray over meal, and when I offered to leave tip he said NO! All MAJOR PLUS!! Just to name a few...
***Also let me add that he informed me on our way to date that someone stole approx $ 4000 not relevant to robbery... totally separate!
Well I really tried hard not to... and before anyone post I know it was a major mistake! But he broke me down and got the goodies! And it was Awesome for us both! Although I did sort of go crazy in bedroom b/c it had been a while for me!
Well, he started wanting to be around me like every other day! He even planned the next couple to weekends! One event being very pricy... over $ 200! And I warned him that I didn't want him to start to feel smothered! He said okay! I also noticed that he went from saying 'I'm the One" to "In due time everything will come together for us." the last time I spent the night we had a really great night! We sexed like 3 times and I gave him a body massage which he was really into!
My Weird Moment: And when we were laying down cuddling out of the blue I asked, "You don't want to be with me anymore?"
Okay I know this totally fu&k% the mood!!! He was like what?? Where did that come from? And I tried to explain but I don't think it registered! He wrapped his arms around me and we fell asleep and thru the night I felt him hold me like 4 times in my sleep!
He brought it up the next morning and said I was tripping night before! We briefly talked about it b/c cable guy was there. Then he started stressing really hard over money because bank was on his azz and he found

Then he started stressing really hard over money because bank was on his azz and he found out almost $ 5000 was gone instead of $ 4000. He cancelled our plans for next couple weeks saying that the only thing on his mind was money situation and person that did it! He was still a gentleman grabbed my bags, took a couple of pics w my camera and we left apt separately!
We talked briefly later that day. But he didn't call to make sure I made it home safely like he usually does! [I live 1hr half away]
He originally wanted me to stay the night that night but was like I may get in late (I knew he had to work late that night) so he told me to just drive up next morning so we could go to church! Next morn he said, we'll go another Sunday! He said I??ll call you when I settle in tomorrow!
No Call for 2 days!!! From someone who texts and calls on all breaks at work, when he gets off work and through the day!!!
I drove to his house and waited hours for him to come home b/c I felt bad about my comment and really wanted to talk and fix things b/c I could sense something was wrong! Long story short at first he was like we don't have to talk every day and his time is limited b/c he has to fix bank and money situation! he said he had to step back b/c I said I couldn't wait to make love to him and the you don't want me comment also he was pissed I popped up b/c he's paranoid after robbery and he says I'm the only one who knows where he lives! He asked why didn't I call and I told him I took his num out of my phone. His eyes got big and he asked why! And later said I know you don't want me to think you are crazy but this is crazy! I apologized and told him this would never happen again! I told him I would like to be his friend b/c it's hard to meet genuine ppl He said yes we could be friends. He said "don't let this make you think I'm not still going to be calling you!" and I just turned my head and grabbed my purse and keys and he jumped up and headed towards door and I mentioned his things I had but stopped and said 'whatever' and left. He stood in the doorway and watched me walk away!!! That was 3 weeks ago!

I miss him so much! In my heart I feel that I did turn him off with my comment but I also feel that he's stressed over finances because he always says his main down fall is too much pride!
Oh well,
Thx so much guys and gals :-) for taking time to read this!!! I do realize many mistakes! I just want to know it you all think there's still a

Okay thx for insight...

No he didnt tell me upfront that he needed space! Had he told me that I would have respected that! I didnt put everything in post b/c its already super long! before he "disappeared" for 2 days he cancelled our Sunday engagement that he kept talking about at the last min after I had already gotten dressed and said he would call the next day and didnt for 2 days!
And he has made plenty of off the wall insecure comments that I have over looked!
My intentions were not to come off clingy or insecure. I just wanted to fix our problem before it escalated! Also, I didnt ask if he didnt want to be with me because of distance, it was another comment he had made that isnt included in story!
I just want to know if anyone thinks there's still a chance after his finances are straight and maybe he's not so stressed or if he may still miss me!
Because he did say "dont let this make you think Im not going to still call you" but he hasnt and I think its because I didnt respond to him!

Also, how am I coming off clingy and needy when he's the one who's always calling me multiple times a day except for me calling once that Sunday And him wanting to be up under me and stay the night every other day. the only thing I did was call Sunday night to check up on him and he said I'll call you tomorrow and I said okay! And I popped up which was so not cool but I did want to fix things b/c I knew it was the comment!
Also, if he meant everything he said and did how could one freakin comment just make you disappear! You cant go from 100 to 0 in a relationship! You have to communicate! I would have preferred him to say I need a little space to sort things out instead of planning and cancelling at last min then disappear, and Im the drama queen—

I really appreciate your comment tho

okayyy I understand all that, totally understand the stress I know he shouldnt be happy go lucky, believe me I heard about it every day since it happened! Im not asking opinions about his stress level about the money!

blame him, I would be too! $ 5000 went missing from his bank! He was basically tell yThat sounds pretty clear to me... He was stressed out and I dont ou that he needed time to sort his butter out...

And no that isnt a clear way of telling someone you need space when you are still insisting on initiating plans with that person and not keeping your word but wasting their time!
And I know it was Rude and a mistake Ive already stated that in original thread/post!
My question is does anyone think he still misses me b/c other than this we had awesome awesome times! And I feel that he is just super duper stressed and needs to focus on these personal issues and not a new relationship! So do you all think there is a chance he will eventually call back and/or want us to slowly work on a relationship once his money is straight considering he has always told me that his major downfall is too much pride?thx

Posted by TasteOfChaos
If you thought it was the comment you made that upset him, then you should have waited for a more appropriate time to ask him.

Put yourself in HIS shoes. Wouldnt you be stressed the fuck out if $ 5000 went missing from your bank account? I know I would! I wouldnt be organising dates and social events while that was going on... the ONLY phone calls Id be making would be to the bank to sort my shit out!! You wouldnt even CROSS my mind!!!!

You should have been a lil more understanding... but instead you took it personal and made HIS situation about you...

Im not sure you understood my post! HE WASSSS ORGANIZING DATES AND SOCIAL EVENTS ALL THE TIME AFTER THAT HAPPENED!!! HE INSISTED ON ME COMING BACK IN THE MORNING AND CANCELLED @ LAST MIN ONCE I WOKE UP FREAKIN EARLY WITH ONLY COUPLE OF HOURS OF SLEEP!!! HE INSISTED ON CALLING ME BACK AND THEN WENT QUIET FOR 2 DAYS!!! I NEVER HAD TO ORGANIZE ANYTHING SINCE I HAVE MET HIM!!! MY TIME IS VERY MUCH VALUABLE AND I DONT APPRECIATE IT BEING WASTED! THAT IS WHY I STATED EARLIER I WOULD HAVE RATHER HIM JUST TELL ME HE NEEDED SPACE INSTEAD OF WASTING MY TIME! ESP. AFTER HE HAS BEEN ON ME ABOUT TRUSTING HIM TO BE A "MAN OF HIS WORD"

THANKYOU

I AM VERRRYYY UNDERSTANDING AND NO I DIDNT MAKE HIS SITUATION ABOUT ME I MADE HIS DISTANCE ABOUT MY COMMENT AND CHOSE TO CLARIFY THINGS TO HIM!!!

To TASTEOFCHAOS

I do appreciate you taking time out to give your input!thx

My Weird Moment: And when we were laying down cuddling out of the blue I asked, "You don't want to be with me anymore?"

Sometimes we have little insecurities but these thoughts should be left in our heads...seen this many of times with ladies here and they desparately try and fix the mistake, which makes them do crazy things and they appear insecure and desparate.

My advice would be to think first and if you do have a slip up then Stop think and let it go, most of the time it will go unnoticed...guys dont generally sweat the small stuff unless it is made a big deal about. If he wanted answers let him ask and then you can clear it up, if not let it go!

So let him go, he'll sort out his probs and when he has time he'll address you. In the meantime go on with your life and be confident that he will wake up and realise how good it was with you...providing there isn't or hasnt been too much drama!

To: Sweethearts
THANKYOU!!! I Really feel what you are saying!

Hey here's a better idea, how about...we stop using these forums for emotional support and learn to use real life approaches!! Thing is, being a pisces or a capricorn or a libra wont give you any clues into someone else life...why you might ask?? Because every situation is different and everyone is different in soooo many ways...to predict a persons thoughts or actions based on a sun sign is pretty delusional...the fact of the matter is, real life consists of many different situations, personalities etc...besides if you we're rly dead set on basing your next actions off a sun sign or other ppls perceptions on that particular sign lol...it would be good to know that pisces is probably the most unpredictable sign.

Having said that, good luck

yea i get what you're saying. Thing is, I like astrology, but to predict peoples actions based off a sun sign is kind of extreme from my point of view...besides isn't it also kind of weird that a capricorn is giving advice in a pisces forum 😄 lol

Posted by kstarks12
Kstebens, PLEASE IGNORE TASTEOFCHAOS. She's a Libra who doesn't even LIKE capricorns so please ignore the bitch.

Now let me chime in here and offer you my answer to your ACTUAL question that is relevant. cause what i see from other posters (ehem TOC) they are attacking you about something that isn't what you came in here for...

Yes, I believe there is still a chance. You just need to ease up and give him the time and space.

That comment you made about while in bed with him was definitely lame, however that's a capricorn thing, you need reassurance. constantly. but with a pisces, if they are with you, then trust that they WANT to be. And when they don't, you will KNOW by his actions not his words.

He'll be back. I promise you. And if he doesn't, well there's plenty of other fish in the sea...

THANKYOU SOO MUCH BABE!!! I REALLY APPRECIATE YOUR POINT OF VIEW!!

Posted by hybred27
Hey here's a better idea, how about...we stop using these forums for emotional support and learn to use real life approaches!! Thing is, being a pisces or a capricorn or a libra wont give you any clues into someone else life...why you might ask?? Because every situation is different and everyone is different in soooo many ways...to predict a persons thoughts or actions based on a sun sign is pretty delusional...the fact of the matter is, real life consists of many different situations, personalities etc...besides if you we're rly dead set on basing your next actions off a sun sign or other ppls perceptions on that particular sign lol...it would be good to know that pisces is probably the most unpredictable sign.

Having said that, good luck

Hey here's an even better idea!!! Stop being an Ass! I dont need emotional support! Not that I owe you an explanation... but I would like different points of views because people are obviously thinking more clearly while on the outside looking in vs. being emotionally involved in the situation!
What you are stating is fundamental common sense! Im not asking these people what he thinks, clearly they dont know him but they are able to give me their sound opinion

Also, ANY other sign is able to respond on this Pisces forum b/c they may have gone thru similar experiences!!! And since you are so smart, wouldn't you realize that a Capricorn woman is obviously very necessary on this particular thread considering I AM A Capricorn Woman!!!

But thankyou soo kindly for sharing your thoughts!

Having stated that, good luck to you too

Posted by TasteOfChaos
I wasnt attacking you either Kstebens... I was simply pointing out that he might be going thru some stressful shit at the moemnt and he probably needs some time to sort it out...

You know what guys are like, they are SHIT when it comes to communication!

I agree with what Sweethearts said... your comment may not have really bothered him, but the way you reacted after MAY have drove him away... but he said he would still call you, so just be patient and let him come back to you...

THX A LOT
This Response is more of what I was asking for!! I really appreciate it! :-)

You don't get what he is doing because you don't know him.

This is why you take things slow in the beginning. Build a friendship, get to know each other so when you have sex it doesn't fuck with your head. Everything now is based on how close you got physically in a superficial sense. Every action he makes affects your sense of security because you are on shaky ground since you didn't bother to build a foundation with him. Physical intimacy is not the same as emotional intimacy. You're still on square 1, sex doesn't change that. Do the work to get to know him if you want something real.

Posted by Mistery
You don't get what he is doing because you don't know him.

This is why you take things slow in the beginning. Build a friendship, get to know each other so when you have sex it doesn't treetrunk with your head. Everything now is based on how close you got physically in a superficial sense. Every action he makes affects your sense of security because you are on shaky ground since you didn't bother to build a foundation with him. Physical intimacy is not the same as emotional intimacy. You're still on square 1, sex doesn't change that. Do the work to get to know him if you want something real.

thx girlie
I totally agree and slightly disagree at the same time!

"dont get what he's doing...don't know him"

true I dont know him but even without the sex in place no one can go from 100 to 0 in communication in a relationship! Even if we hadnt had sex I would wonder why the sudden distance with no explanation! Once again you cant go from calling 24/7 and getting excited about your own plans and wait til that person is on their way to cancel. that's just inconsiderate whether sex is involved or not! Once again I dont live around the corner, I live 1hr 30 min away, what if I had driven all the way there? thats just inconsiderate with or without sex

"Every action... security"

We were in the process of building and in that process he asked for communication and loyalty from me (which isnt stated in post) so he should give me the same! With or without sex if you are used to certain attention (spoiled) lol and someone says Im gonna call you back, if its abnormal to go 2 days and you know they've been robbed or they were thrown off with your weird comment or whatever a part of being loyal is to check on them (I know u didnt touch on that, Im just stating)

"Physical... Emotional Intimacy"

I dont know about you and your experiences but for me sex is beyond physical which is why you are so right in saying you should wait and take things slow in beginning! And believe me, every other time I have waited a hott minute b/c it usually takes a while to bring down my guard! But I am soooo feeling this dude like non other and he knew how to get these goodies LOL!

"..Square 1, sex doesnt change.."

You are so right which brings me a knotch down to reality!!

thx so much for your insight

Posted by kstebens

Posted by hybred27
Hey here's a better idea, how about...we stop using these forums for emotional support and learn to use real life approaches!! Thing is, being a pisces or a capricorn or a libra wont give you any clues into someone else life...why you might ask?? Because every situation is different and everyone is different in soooo many ways...to predict a persons thoughts or actions based on a sun sign is pretty delusional...the fact of the matter is, real life consists of many different situations, personalities etc...besides if you we're rly dead set on basing your next actions off a sun sign or other ppls perceptions on that particular sign lol...it would be good to know that pisces is probably the most unpredictable sign.

Having said that, good luck

Hey here's an even better idea!!! Stop being an Ass! I dont need emotional support! Not that I owe you an explanation... but I would like different points of views because people are obviously thinking more clearly while on the outside looking in vs. being emotionally involved in the situation!
What you are stating is fundamental common sense! Im not asking these people what he thinks, clearly they dont know him but they are able to give me their sound opinion

Also, ANY other sign is able to respond on this Pisces forum b/c they may have gone thru similar experiences!!! And since you are so smart, wouldn't you realize that a Capricorn woman is obviously very necessary on this particular thread considering I AM A Capricorn Woman!!!

But thankyou soo kindly for sharing your thoughts!

Having stated that, good luck to you too

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So if you're a capricorn woman, then why aren't you posting in the capricorn forum....Because your man is a pisces right? if you were simply looking for objective answers, then why would you post in a pisces forum? Hmmm? maybe because part of you believes that other pisces can help you solve your piscean's problem...?

But I guess I am being kind of an ass, I came out here because my force thread wasn't catching on 😢

^^ I know a lot of offbeat Libras, though... Libras STRIVE for balance.. they certainly don't ACHIEVE it most of the time.. they are always BALANCING, not BALANCED.

But then again.. the Libras that pop readily to mind.. they've got some Fire influences too.. not your Grand Trine, TOC.. sheesh.. but enough to affect them. Hmm.. curiouser and curiouser.

TOC has the devil whispering in one ear and the angel in the other, she just chooses to play on the dark side....we all like the dark side but keep it hidden from view!!!

I love her her fearlessness and wish I could be more like that!!!

How do you work out decans? Is it the week you were born in as per your sign— which would make me either 2nd or 3rd?

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