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Why do Pisces ask indirectly for what they want?
Posted by djbuck1
Possibly to cushion a possible rejection.
I used to do that. I don't anymore and haven't in years.
Hmmm, would be refusing to come over on a particular day be seen as a rejection by him? Or is he just doing it to be cool and pretend to be not as interested?
Ive seen sun/neptune do that 2. Fucking annoying but eh, what u gonna do. This guy woukd ask me the same passive questions over and over again.
He's not the only Pisces I know, dears. I have five Pisces in my family and I've noticed the same thing.
Also, some people like to analyse a lot more than others. You don't have to answer my questions if you don't want to do so.
Also, some people like to analyse a lot more than others. You don't have to answer my questions if you don't want to do so.
You'd think with all those fish around you.... you'd understand them more by now.....
Posted by deezie
You'd think with all those fish around you.... you'd understand them more by now.....
Well, if I did, I would be asking questions, would I?
Thanks tiz 🙂
- Why do Pisces ask indirectly for what they want?
- Do Pisceans come back?
*****Psychic Dreams anyone ?
- Ignoring a Pisces man = more interest?
- Pisces rarely initiates but always replies
- Dealing with tearful women
- From no cuddlingto lots of cuddlin = is this love?
- Do Pisces males like being told what to do?
- Pisces and near silence during lovemaking
- Why Pisces men disappear and what do they do
- Pisces sun with Aqua Venus and Aries Mars.....
- Does prolonged eye contact = love for Pisces
- Double Pisces and mimicing
- Do Pisces men get attached after sex?
- Pisces men and fetishwear
*****Pisces Man!! Virgo Woman... Dating Games!!!
- DoublePisces male: desire to be dominated in bed?
*Pisces: do you prefer vanilla or lavender scent?
- Telling Pisces guy that he is wonderful
*Which scents turn you on?
- Pisces/Pisces personality
- Can you pick up attraction vibes from others?
- Pisces + Libra = compatible?
Of these.... 4 potentially (2 for sure) don't have to do with this elusive Pisces guy you are obsessed with figuring out.
My point in this? Don't act like you are pulling the wool over everyone's eyes here.
The fact of the matter is, you ask so many questions because you:
a) think cracking the code of banal things will help you get closer to this guy, and
b) are afraid to face the facts of the situation
You will continue to ask questions (presumably) until you do get the answers you like and figure out how to make this man "fall in love" with you, your way. To your specifications of how that should be.
Secondarily, my point is: I have no problems with questions, and seeking information, IF you are willing to face reality within it. To blindly just string yourself along is quite sad. Just recently you have let it out that this is an "on again, off again" thing (which truly makes me wonder if this isn't just a 'we're fucking' situation to begin with). The instability as such leads me to believe you're chasing a unicorn here and would be better off putting ALL of the devotion and dedication you offer into someone that deserves it. Someone that wants you to know how they tick.
- Why do Pisces ask indirectly for what they want?
- Do Pisceans come back?
*****Psychic Dreams anyone ?
- Ignoring a Pisces man = more interest?
- Pisces rarely initiates but always replies
- Dealing with tearful women
- From no cuddlingto lots of cuddlin = is this love?
- Do Pisces males like being told what to do?
- Pisces and near silence during lovemaking
- Why Pisces men disappear and what do they do
- Pisces sun with Aqua Venus and Aries Mars.....
- Does prolonged eye contact = love for Pisces
- Double Pisces and mimicing
- Do Pisces men get attached after sex?
- Pisces men and fetishwear
*****Pisces Man!! Virgo Woman... Dating Games!!!
- DoublePisces male: desire to be dominated in bed?
*Pisces: do you prefer vanilla or lavender scent?
- Telling Pisces guy that he is wonderful
*Which scents turn you on?
- Pisces/Pisces personality
- Can you pick up attraction vibes from others?
- Pisces + Libra = compatible?
Of these.... 4 potentially (2 for sure) don't have to do with this elusive Pisces guy you are obsessed with figuring out.
My point in this? Don't act like you are pulling the wool over everyone's eyes here.
The fact of the matter is, you ask so many questions because you:
a) think cracking the code of banal things will help you get closer to this guy, and
b) are afraid to face the facts of the situation
You will continue to ask questions (presumably) until you do get the answers you like and figure out how to make this man "fall in love" with you, your way. To your specifications of how that should be.
Secondarily, my point is: I have no problems with questions, and seeking information, IF you are willing to face reality within it. To blindly just string yourself along is quite sad. Just recently you have let it out that this is an "on again, off again" thing (which truly makes me wonder if this isn't just a 'we're fucking' situation to begin with). The instability as such leads me to believe you're chasing a unicorn here and would be better off putting ALL of the devotion and dedication you offer into someone that deserves it. Someone that wants you to know how they tick.
Nothing wrong with it. Wish the guy I'm dating would spend more time analysing our relationship (with or without help), instead of asking me questions like "what am I doing now" or "what did I have for lunch".
When do I give an indirect answer? When the question is part of the small talk and the answer does not even matter (example above). When I abhor the banality of a straight answer, leaving too little room for imagination, freedom of choice, introspection and confusion. When I want to see if you could follow me when "talking in riddles". When I like you and want to hear some more questions.
When do I give an indirect answer? When the question is part of the small talk and the answer does not even matter (example above). When I abhor the banality of a straight answer, leaving too little room for imagination, freedom of choice, introspection and confusion. When I want to see if you could follow me when "talking in riddles". When I like you and want to hear some more questions.
Posted by Undine
When do I give an indirect answer? When the question is part of the small talk and the answer does not even matter (example above). When I abhor the banality of a straight answer, leaving too little room for imagination, freedom of choice, introspection and confusion. When I want to see if you could follow me when "talking in riddles". When I like you and want to hear some more questions.
this
Posted by Undine
When I like you and want to hear some more questions.
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THIS
Sometimes, the pisces just likes to see you be curious and step into their world
Posted by deezie
You'd think with all those fish around you.... you'd understand them more by now.....
love it
--Jack
Posted by lotusPosted by deezie
You'd think with all those fish around you.... you'd understand them more by now.....
Well, if I did, I would be asking questions, would I?click to expand
It is fair to say that Lotus asked only about 20 questions over the past 24 months. By dxpnet standards, this is way below average.
Indeed, the majority of them were about the same man. Isn't that admirable, for a single woman?
Moreover, she appears to ask focused, polite and sensible questions. Whether or not she should dump her lover was none of them.
That is not what she asked in this thread either. So why can't anyone give her a direct answer to her question 🙂?
He is her boss.
.......and he probably does not have the answers yet.
LOL Ninja...you not sleeping yet?
I'm giving her MY direct answer to her situation. I don't care for the bullshit questions, and that is how I choose to answer. How I interpret the situation.
Makes me a bitch? So be it.
I'm not buying it. And to be fair... everyone is allowed to respond however they choose. Supportive, unsupportive. It's hypocritical to say that she (or any OP for that matter) is "just looking for help" blah blah freaking blah, and they should be able to speak their minds. But any responses must fall within status quo of coddling and enabling, because... someone else deems it necessary.
But come on.... if someone is going to post for 24 months, trivial questions... clearly the "relationship" hasn't moved much, and the back story becomes important to the responses.
Whether some of you who wish to be that empathetic standard - go to town. I don't say what I say to wish badness at her. I say what I say to wish better for her.
Just because my method isn't as flowery as some.... I'm supposed to feel evil? Fuck that.
Makes me a bitch? So be it.
I'm not buying it. And to be fair... everyone is allowed to respond however they choose. Supportive, unsupportive. It's hypocritical to say that she (or any OP for that matter) is "just looking for help" blah blah freaking blah, and they should be able to speak their minds. But any responses must fall within status quo of coddling and enabling, because... someone else deems it necessary.
But come on.... if someone is going to post for 24 months, trivial questions... clearly the "relationship" hasn't moved much, and the back story becomes important to the responses.
Whether some of you who wish to be that empathetic standard - go to town. I don't say what I say to wish badness at her. I say what I say to wish better for her.
Just because my method isn't as flowery as some.... I'm supposed to feel evil? Fuck that.
Hot fire trumps cold fire. In my experience...
Posted by ninjutsuPosted by Undine
LOL Ninja...you not sleeping yet?
I just woke up about half an hour ago actually 😄 I'm in the kitchen baking and looking at dxp as I follow my recipes 😛click to expand
That sounds lovely. I should be going to sleep, but the "Minority report" hasn't finished yet.
To Deezie: I don't mind what you said and think you are quite funny, but I like Lotus too ...... and don't want her to stop posting.
Fair enough Undine.
Lotus... I really hope that you can take anything that I say (outside of the jokes - because truly... I can't help myself), from a place of thinking you deserve more than what I see with this guy.
Sometimes the fiery moon takes over, and my true intentions get lost in the passion of my convictions. I will fully admit to that.
@ jukebox - thank you sir, for your blessing on the hot fire.
Lotus... I really hope that you can take anything that I say (outside of the jokes - because truly... I can't help myself), from a place of thinking you deserve more than what I see with this guy.
Sometimes the fiery moon takes over, and my true intentions get lost in the passion of my convictions. I will fully admit to that.
@ jukebox - thank you sir, for your blessing on the hot fire.
Posted by tiziani
I don't see anyone wanting her to stop posting, just wanting her moreso to move on with the next phase of her life/this relationship so she can get to posting about new things. Possibly Pisces related things like "what does it mean when a Pisces says 'so I bought an engagement ring.... just saying'"
Stuff like that
🙂 🙂 And then the real trouble is about to start!
Oh Tiz, I can't stop laughing at what you said.
Night, night!
Night, night!
Posted by UndinePosted by lotusPosted by deezie
You'd think with all those fish around you.... you'd understand them more by now.....
Well, if I did, I would be asking questions, would I?
It is fair to say that Lotus asked only about 20 questions over the past 24 months. By dxpnet standards, this is way below average.
Indeed, the majority of them were about the same man. Isn't that admirable, for a single woman?
Moreover, she appears to ask focused, polite and sensible questions. Whether or not she should dump her lover was none of them.
That is not what she asked in this thread either. So why can't anyone give her a direct answer to her question 🙂?click to expand
+1
It is truly mind boggling, but they only seem to do it when they arent sure of the answer which probably is due to the other person not being direct themselves. This is tough especially with a male fish. As a woman id want a man to be more direct since men are the drivers of the relationship.
Posted by PoissonPosted by DMV
It is truly mind boggling, but they only seem to do it when they arent sure of the answer which probably is due to the other person not being direct themselves. This is tough especially with a male fish. As a woman id want a man to be more direct since men are the drivers of the relationship.
Bolded the key point. Water signs mirror and reflect... Pisces are especially good at this. If the OP wants direct answer from this guy, she needs to start being direct herself. This man is obviously not taking a lead in this relationship. But someone needs to start steering it in right direction. From what I've seen so far from this and her other posts, I have a strong feeling it wont be him. She needs to either put her foot down or let him go... or they can continue moving in circles.click to expand
Good advice to the OP. Doesnt sound like he has many masculine and direct placements. Moreso, he is has a passive and feminine chart.
You have to take the wheel, but let him think he is in charge. Now, if your a passive person yourself....like P said above, circles all day.
He is indirect even when I try to be direct. What is odd is that he is very direct in his profession but very indirect in his relationships. If Pisces mirror others, you'd think he'd be direct when I am. He isn't. He seems lost most of the time.
Posted by lotus
He is indirect even when I try to be direct. What is odd is that he is very direct in his profession but very indirect in his relationships. If Pisces mirror others, you'd think he'd be direct when I am. He isn't. He seems lost most of the time.
Not unusual. Learn how to speak fish. 🙂
Maybe you have not showed him your firm interest in him? It does not matter what sign you are and this includes Pisces; No Matter how indirect they are they will eventually be comfortable enough with you to be up front with in anything. When Pisces start to get to know somebody or do not want to share personal information, they will be indirect and aloof. But at this point, their is something your doing that is causing him to worry about rejection. Life's too short to play around, be real with him and how you feel and show him what you feel. Somethings wrong in a relationship when you have to play 21 questions.
The relationship is fairly new.....about five months.
Posted by lotus
The relationship is fairly new.....about five months.
Five months? Please, thats more than enough time to be comfortable and trust your partner. If not, then your wasting your precious time on this earth.
Hi PiscesScorp,
I feel more like a mix of both signs.
I feel more like a mix of both signs.
Why do you guys do this?
Because life is no fun without the air of mystery and some creative thinking.
In providing subtle clues as to what we want, it provides your imagination with something to go on.
Because life is no fun without the air of mystery and some creative thinking.
In providing subtle clues as to what we want, it provides your imagination with something to go on.
Being indirect is also being indecisive. On one hand it can reflect some level of interest but on the other hand there's an element of hedging your bets by holding back. You don't put anything out there then you're not committed to anything either. Pisces men can be very indirect because they are indecisive about what they want until they think they've found it. Then they move heaven and earth to win the lady whose inspired them and entered their dreams. Bottom line: if a man is interested enough, he puts his cards on the table and asks you out. He probably already knows you dig him and yet he's not making a move. That's a bad sign and it suggests to me either he's not that into you or he's got someone in his life and may or may not be looking for a side dish.
If a woman wants a real committed relationship with a man, she should pick the right man. And that man is the man whose hot to trot for her. Good luck and don't settle for half or worse yet a phantom banana. Been there, done that, cried myself to sleep many nights. What is yours will come to you. Be patient and wait for it.
If a woman wants a real committed relationship with a man, she should pick the right man. And that man is the man whose hot to trot for her. Good luck and don't settle for half or worse yet a phantom banana. Been there, done that, cried myself to sleep many nights. What is yours will come to you. Be patient and wait for it.
Hun please don't take this as a general rule!!!
Some pisces prefer to leave some space to the other person so that they are not forced in taking their decisions. He does not want the other person to go out with him because the other person has no other choice, but because the other person really desires his company! It is just a tool for making sure of the other person's intention: "If you really desire him just play along." (some people are less tactful than others).
If he's giving you a simple choice (between fixing his laptop and his gorgeous company) and you like him, then after you get to know him better you can discuss his approach with him. Forums will give you an idea, but the truth is only in his mind. He can be doing that unconsciously and in this case you can't blame him... Remember not all pisces are the same, especially when you're talking about something that specific.
Anyways, hope you found something useful in this 😉
Some pisces prefer to leave some space to the other person so that they are not forced in taking their decisions. He does not want the other person to go out with him because the other person has no other choice, but because the other person really desires his company! It is just a tool for making sure of the other person's intention: "If you really desire him just play along." (some people are less tactful than others).
If he's giving you a simple choice (between fixing his laptop and his gorgeous company) and you like him, then after you get to know him better you can discuss his approach with him. Forums will give you an idea, but the truth is only in his mind. He can be doing that unconsciously and in this case you can't blame him... Remember not all pisces are the same, especially when you're talking about something that specific.
Anyways, hope you found something useful in this 😉
I really don't see the problem here.
Whenever I'm being indirect like so many people have stated examples of here, it's just my way of not wanting to bother you.. but I do want to hang out. Only 4 days ago I did it again, I wanted to see someone I fancy so I said "If you want I can come over for this or that". I didn't want to go all out and put it out there that I want to see them, it's a sideways approach I know. A build in escape, that's all it is to protect from rejection. He said no thanks cause he was busy, so if I had asked him directly I would have gotten a rejection. See how it works?
With friends I don't do this, it's just straight forward there. Just with people I fancy and where I'm unsure of where I stand, I catch myself going the indirect approach.
SOMETIMES I do this just to see if they have the guts to go for it. Grow a pair, be the man and charge through it all. Show me you want to see me too! Again this comes from uncertainty of where I stand with you. Once I know you like me, it all fades to the background.
Like 88 said, I want you to show me you want to see me too.
Whenever I'm being indirect like so many people have stated examples of here, it's just my way of not wanting to bother you.. but I do want to hang out. Only 4 days ago I did it again, I wanted to see someone I fancy so I said "If you want I can come over for this or that". I didn't want to go all out and put it out there that I want to see them, it's a sideways approach I know. A build in escape, that's all it is to protect from rejection. He said no thanks cause he was busy, so if I had asked him directly I would have gotten a rejection. See how it works?
With friends I don't do this, it's just straight forward there. Just with people I fancy and where I'm unsure of where I stand, I catch myself going the indirect approach.
SOMETIMES I do this just to see if they have the guts to go for it. Grow a pair, be the man and charge through it all. Show me you want to see me too! Again this comes from uncertainty of where I stand with you. Once I know you like me, it all fades to the background.
Like 88 said, I want you to show me you want to see me too.
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Why do you guys do this?