Another cap/aries relationship problem

So i'm a cap male dating a female aries on and off for almost a year. We love each other but have a really hard time communicating. Every time i try to express my feelings to her she gets upset or offended. Lots of miscommunication even though i try to be as clear as possible. here's our charts if anyone wants to take a look and help out. should i run and not look back?

Mine
Sun Capricorn 20.41
Ascendant Gemini 16.14
Moon Pisces 2.22
Mercury Aquarius 9.37
Venus Capricorn 0.14
Mars Aries 25.25
Jupiter Taurus 26.14 R
Saturn Capricorn 6.46
Uranus Capricorn 2.21
Neptune Capricorn 10.19
Pluto Scorpio 14.48
Lilith Virgo 26.54
Asc node Pisces 5.45

Houses
II Cancer 8.57
III Leo 1.03
IV Leo 26.17
V Virgo 28.13
VI Scorpio 7.20
VII Sagittarius 16.14
VIII Capricorn 8.57
IX Aquarius 1.03
Midheaven Aquarius 26.17
XI Pisces 28.13
XII Taurus 7.20

Sun in VIII
Moon in Midheaven
Mercury in IX
Venus in VII
Mars in XI
Jupiter in XII
Saturn in VII
Uranus in VII
Neptune in VIII
Pluto in VI
Lilith in IV
Asc node in Midheaven


Hers
Sun Aries 14.01
Ascendant Aries 11.19
Moon Libra 27.27
Mercury Pisces 27.38
Venus Taurus 29.51
Mars Capricorn 27.45
Jupiter Taurus 5.44
Saturn Capricorn 2.30
Uranus Capricorn 1.03
Neptune Capricorn 10.11
Pluto Scorpio 11.56 R
Lilith Leo 25.26
Asc node Pisces 23.11

Houses
II Taurus 17.51
III Gemini 14.07
IV Cancer 6.46
V Leo 0.24
VI Virgo 0.01
VII Libra 11.19
VIII Scorpio 17.51
IX Sagittarius 14.07
Midheaven Capricorn 6.46
XI Aquarius 0.24
XII Pisces 0.01

Sun in Ascendant
Moon in VII
Mercury in XII
Venus in II
Mars in Midheaven
Jupiter in Ascendant
Saturn in IX
Uranus in IX
Neptune in Midheaven
Pluto in VII
Lilith in V
Asc node in XII

Hers Mine

Moon Opposition Mars 2.01 -102
Mercury Square Venus 2.36 -130
Mercury Sextile Jupiter 1.24 69
Venus Square Moon 2.31 -155
Venus Conjunction Jupiter 3.37 102
Mars Square Mars 2.20 -98
Mars Trine Jupiter 1.31 65
Jupiter Trine Saturn 1.02 61
Saturn Sextile Moon 0.09 103
Saturn Conjunction Venus 2.17 112
Saturn Conjunction Saturn 4.15 66
Saturn Conjunction Uranus 0.10 105
Uranus Sextile Moon 1.19 64
Uranus Conjunction Venus 0.49 123
Uranus Conjunction Uranus 1.18 87
Neptune Conjunction Saturn 3.25 66
Neptune Conjunction Neptune 0.07 88
Pluto Square Mercury 2.19 -76
Pluto Sextile Neptune 1.38 30
Pluto Conjunction Pluto 2.52 57
Ascendant Se

I like this cap dude right now but he is slow or maybe not that into me. But what exactly are you telling her that makes her mad?

im a Aries with a Pisces moon and merc in Pisces

I have PiscMerc as well - tell us what you are telling her.....I can't see how talking about how you feel would bother her. We love that stuff. We like to know where we stand.
We NEED to know where we stand, otherwise problems may ensue.


The thing that concerned me a little was your first sentence ".....dating a female aries on and off for almost a year..."

Nothing "on and off" about dating an Aries.
As a rule you are either dating us or you don't exist.

Posted by ReallyNiceAriesPerson



The thing that concerned me a little was your first sentence ".....dating a female aries on and off for almost a year..."

Nothing "on and off" about dating an Aries.
As a rule you are either dating us or you don't exist.

^This

we dated for 8 months, then separated for 3 months, and now were back together. It's been about a month or two since we got back together.

she gets upset when i want to spend time by myself. i disappear for a few days at a time, i let her know that that's just the way i am. I feel like it makes her insecure.

Posted by MaaT
she gets upset when i want to spend time by myself. i disappear for a few days at a time, i let her know that that's just the way i am. I feel like it makes her insecure.

Disappear as in no contact at all? If so that would make any woman insecure....and how many days are we talking

My dad and son are Aries. I am a cap. I love them dearly and see their good side, generosity, love, actions, etc. HOWEVER! They are WAY too pushy and bossy for me. And WAY too hot headed! I control my emotions and they let theirs fly off the handle. We jive, but we don't. Its tumultuous sometimes - and this is only my family! I CAN'T imagine dating an Aries! Whew! I bet it'd be exciting, but probably not meant to be for long term.

Posted by Flavia

Posted by ReallyNiceAriesPerson



The thing that concerned me a little was your first sentence ".....dating a female aries on and off for almost a year..."

Nothing "on and off" about dating an Aries.
As a rule you are either dating us or you don't exist.

^This

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YES YES YES!!!!

Posted by Nicrobliz

Posted by truecap
My dad and son are Aries. I am a cap. I love them dearly and see their good side, generosity, love, actions, etc. HOWEVER! They are WAY too pushy and bossy for me. And WAY too hot headed! I control my emotions and they let theirs fly off the handle. We jive, but we don't. Its tumultuous sometimes - and this is only my family! I CAN'T imagine dating an Aries! Whew! I bet it'd be exciting, but probably not meant to be for long term.

One of the few star signs I don't recall ever dating but wouldn't dare. From previous experiences, they are a complete nightmare for a Cappy to deal with.

My twin sister and I have been polar opposites for as long as I can remember - she's hot headed, egotistical, mouthy, bossy, materialistic, a pathological liar, intrusive and a control freak. After discovering I had a Pisces moon, a few weeks ago, I thought about hers but didn't know what time she was born. However, I had a sneaking suspicion that she was an Aries moon. Last week, I found out her TOB — she's a bloody Aries moon alright!

So, I??ve lived with one for most of my life and saying it's been hell would be an understatement. From what I can remember, many Aries i've encountered either need a good slap or to have their lights punched out.

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hahaha..yep. I was with an Aries for 10 years and we have a child together. One day he walked without working on us as I had asked, and its been a year since he saw his child..his choice.

Posted by Nicrobliz

Posted by truecap
My dad and son are Aries. I am a cap. I love them dearly and see their good side, generosity, love, actions, etc. HOWEVER! They are WAY too pushy and bossy for me. And WAY too hot headed! I control my emotions and they let theirs fly off the handle. We jive, but we don't. Its tumultuous sometimes - and this is only my family! I CAN'T imagine dating an Aries! Whew! I bet it'd be exciting, but probably not meant to be for long term.

One of the few star signs I don't recall ever dating but wouldn't dare. From previous experiences, they are a complete nightmare for a Cappy to deal with.

My twin sister and I have been polar opposites for as long as I can remember - she's hot headed, egotistical, mouthy, bossy, materialistic, a pathological liar, intrusive and a control freak. After discovering I had a Pisces moon, a few weeks ago, I thought about hers but didn't know what time she was born. However, I had a sneaking suspicion that she was an Aries moon. Last week, I found out her TOB — she's a bloody Aries moon alright!

So, I??ve lived with one for most of my life and saying it's been hell would be an understatement. From what I can remember, many Aries i've encountered either need a good slap or to have their lights punched out.

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And my first bf ever was a Cap and he was abusive, pathalogical liar, cheater, controlling also effed my head up for a long time so you see these traits arent exclusive to Aries. Lets not turn this into a Aries bashing session. Also my cap was super insecure which led to a very explosive temper at the slighest imagined insult. Seriously this dude was paranoid and always thought someone was trying to play him or talk about him. He cursed out my friends and family on diff occasions because he didnt hear them correctly.

Posted by Nicrobliz
It's not a bashing session - I'm just letting the OP know how much (as a Cappy) I dislike Aries. You can't cope with that? Not my problem...

Anyway, how do I know you're not lying because your huge ego has been deflated? 😛

Awww, u mad huh? and why you hiding your post pussy?

Aries....not known for being patient in a relationship.
Capricorns...probably the coolest & laid back sign when it comes to relationships....right there with Taurus & Aquas.

I think these 2 signs should only get together for explosive sex and nothing more. Caps have a hidden deep side. Aries lay everything out for all to see ( unintentionally, of course). Like Oil & Water, this one.

Sorry but....
Astrological Hell.....everything you say about mis-communication is true, been there, done that, eventually it just wears you down....

Posted by BeoWulf

Aries....not known for being patient in a relationship.
Capricorns...probably the coolest & laid back sign when it comes to relationships....right there with Taurus & Aquas.

I think these 2 signs should only get together for explosive sex and nothing more. Caps have a hidden deep side. Aries lay everything out for all to see ( unintentionally, of course). Like Oil & Water, this one.

Yes...and Caps. lie a lot and Aries get fired up. So no to this pairing for me but I do have a whole lot of Cap. friends and my brother is a.Cap. Mom has a Cap. Moon ex of 13 years has a Cap. moon....hand full.

Horrible signs to be in a relationship I've had several caps. I'm an Aries woman. Aries is emotional cap is emotionally distant bad combination!