Aquarian Partner Taking Space

A couple weeks out of the blue my long distance Aquarius romantic interest of about 3 months told me (a Libra) he needed space and time to “process” because he was feeling overwhelmed and pressured in our relationship. He mentioned this is a hard time of year for him and he was taking space from everyone. At first I was very confused because the day before he had literally been saying how much he missed me, I was his best friend, I was the best thing that ever happened to him and he was grateful to have me in his life. We’ve talked wanting about a future together many times but mostly in a theoretical way. When I asked him when he asked for space how he felt overwhelmed he just said he wasn’t ready to be official “partners” and he felt pressure from me and from himself. He said he wanted to be with me but he just wasn’t ready to be so serious yet. Which is how I feel too. I’ve never asked or indicated I wanted that from him, however we’ve had some issues with me being jealous about his interactions with women so after some reflection I realized that must have been where he felt the pressure and I can took responsibility for that.

In the last coupes weeks I have given him a lot of space, checking in about twice a week but keeping things short. A couple days ago with his willingness to receive it, I sent him an apology message for making him feel pressured and clarifying how I felt about our relationship status, wanting to take things slow like we have been. He said he needed to process what I said and then went silent again.



I care very much for this man. He really has become my best friend and I’ve been devastated to lose his daily presence in my life. I feel abandoned and cast aside and forgotten. i’m trying to deal with all these emotions on my own in a healthy way and convince myself the space is good for us in the long run. I’ve done a lot of research on Aquarius men and he is textbook. But I have no one to talk to about any of this and the fear that I’ve lost him completely overwhelms me on a daily basis. I keep busy with my hobbies and friendships but the waiting and not knowing is killing me.

Has anyone ever been in a similar situation with an Aquarius? Do I have any chance he will come back to me it should I just move on? How long do I wait? Should I offer to just be friends so I can still have my friend? Any insight or advice would be greatly appreciated.

Probably wants the cake and eat it too. Let him go. If he really wants to be with you, he will lock you down. He won't be confused, he won't be "processing" things between the two of you.

I’ve seen him do this same processing thing with other areas in his life. Usually he would tell me he was having a bad mental health day and needed to process and I would just stop contacting for the rest of the day/night and usually within a couple days everything was okay. But those times didn’t directly involve me. I’m also not ready for a serious commitment, we are long distance and haven’t known each other very long, the pressure he felt wasn’t a request from me, more like... I think it was just pressure building in a lot of areas and things were intense between us especially the week leading up to the request for space. I’m going to stop contacting him tho based on yours and others advice. Let him reach out when he’s ready and just focus on me. Thank you for your input!

.I disagree. It can and does work as long as they are on the same page which I don’t think OP and her guy are. I’ve seen it work with a Libra acquaintance of mine whose Aqua husband loves and spoils her to death...

We are actually on the same page. We want the same things, we’ve talked about it before. when he asked for space he even said he wanted to be with me he just wasn’t ready for it to be serious, and I made it clear I’m not ready for that step yet either. I think there was just a lot of building intensity between us, we can both be very clingy, sometimes even him moreso than me but not in a bad way.We are extremely close, know all of each others darkest secrets, and I wonder if maybe we got too close too fast. I do agree with everyone that more space and time is the right thing to do. And I’ll wait for him to reach out. thank you for the input!

Gees Men are pussys either you know your in or not. Special if dating has been 6 months plus

Posted by Lunamara

Gees Men are pussys either you know your in or not. Special if dating has been 6 months plus

well it hasn’t been six months yet, it’s been almost 4 and I think he’s reached the cusp of deciding whether he’s in or not. But you’re right, by 6 months he should know for sure.

Every individual is different but I was dating an Aqua a few years ago. I found he wasn't really passionate about anything, didn't argue, didn't have an opinion and didn't express any feelings verbally. But he was consistent. Called me every night like clockwork. I only saw him once a week or so because he was a workaholic and I felt like I was coming 2nd place to everything else in his life. Anyway, doesn't matter what the astrology is, if someone wants you in their life, they won't leave you second guessing where you stand in the relationship. Aquarius is unlikely to straight out make declarations of love but you'll know where you sit on their priority list from their availability and actions. If you're insecure or unsure about how important you are, you're with the wrong person. My advice is, set a standard for how you wish to be treated and decide if that person is meeting that standard. Focus less on if they like you, and more on if you like them and how they treat you and make you feel xo

Posted by sammy78

A couple weeks out of the blue my long distance Aquarius romantic interest of about 3 months told me (a Libra) he needed space and time to “process” because he was feeling overwhelmed and pressured in our relationship.

This is so baffling to me. Why would you need space from a long distance relationship? There is literal physical space.

Call time of death already, the body is already cold.

I disagree.

I know aqua very very well, and that you are so close and that you know all his secrets it’s a huge thing for aqua. If he has opened to you it means that he really likes you.

Aquarius get scared when they feel too much.

I think the relationship is going too fast for him because he is falling for you and it was not part of his plan.

He doesn’t want to belong to anyone.

If he is having lots of trouble in his life, that will make him separate because he needs to find himself. That is very important for aqua. They need to feel as a individual.

If you are serious about him just reach lightly every now and then, always being positive about it. He needs lots of space, but to know that you are there without giving him any pressure. He just needs time. Be a friend to him.

Once he realizes that he is better off with you, he will totally change and love you like no other.