Cancer problem or personal flaw?

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lexie
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So I'm a Cancer sun, Gemini moon(maybe it's that??) And I have this problem with staying with one guy for too long.. I hate myself for it really. I'll fall in love and it will be perfect.. I'm entirely focused on only him... Then a few months go by and I'll meet another guy (no intentions other than friendship).. The new guy just seems better in everyway.. And I'll fall for him.
Then my current relationship will seem boring and stupid.. I just don't want to be with him anymore..

I really want to be the faithful type.. And I've never actually cheated on any of my boyfriends.. But I lose interest and start dreaming about the new guy.. I guess it's emotional cheating??

Anyway.. Can someone help me out or give their opinions?
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TaurusinTexas
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Posted by lexie
Posted by TaurusinTexas
How old are you?
A girl never revels her age..
I'm pretty young lol
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You know, maybe you just aren't ready for that kind of relationship - maybe this is your time to play the field and see what you like in a man and what you don't like in a man - as long as you aren't cheating or stringing them along, I really don't see the problem - just make sure you're always being open and honest.
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lexie
@lexie
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Posted by TaurusinTexas
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Posted by TaurusinTexas
How old are you?
A girl never revels her age..
I'm pretty young lol
You know, maybe you just aren't ready for that kind of relationship - maybe this is your time to play the field and see what you like in a man and what you don't like in a man - as long as you aren't cheating or stringing them along, I really don't see the problem - just make sure you're always being open and honest.
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Makes sense.. But the guys that I end up with really fall hard.. And I really don't like hurting people. How can I go through this process of finding out what I want.. Without leaving a trail of broken hearts?
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Posted by Arielle83
I was like that but I had a break of solitude after I got bored. Then is date again.

Jumping from guy to guy gets you lost in a pattern and your identity always will need to be coupled. Unless, of course, you're already independently minded.
Could you explain that more?
Jumping from guy to guy doesn't make you look strong or independent. It looks like you need someone to feel good about yourself.

Only learning to exist as yourself can you gain real confidence and be able to know yourself.
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This 100%

From what it sounds like you're bored with your life and yourself not with the guys. And I mean this in the nicest way possible you need a new guy but what you really need is a new personality. If you're young it good you date around. That's how you also get to know yourself is by putting yourself in new situation with new people. But you should take time to know yourself outside of a relationship so you know what's really you and what you're just picking up along the way.